Iingcinga ezintle kunye neemvakalelo ezilungileyo zingakunceda njani?
Sonke siyazi ukuba iingcinga neemvakalelo ezakhayo zisizisa ulonwabo noxolo. Yinyani leyo. Xa sicinga ngento elungileyo, sinephupha elimnandi, okanye sithetha nomntu esimthandayo, siziva sonwabile nje. Kodwa ubusazi na ukuba ngaphaya kolo lonwabo, ezi ngcinga zakhayo zineengenelo ezininzi ezimangalisayo? Zicinge njengamandla amakhulu ezingqondweni zethu. Ukuba siwasebenzisa ngokufanelekileyo la mandla, singenza izinto ezimangalisayo ebomini bethu. Ngoku makhe sibone ukuba ezi ngcinga zakhayo zisinceda njani... Zifana nezipho esizifumanayo.- Iphucula inkumbulo yakho kunye nengqalelo: Xa uneengcinga ezilungileyo engqondweni yakho, ingqondo yakho isebenza njengonomathotholo ovunyiweyo. Kulula ukukhumbula izinto ezintsha kwaye unokuyiqonda ngokukhawuleza into oyifundayo. Xa iingcinga zakho zicacile, njengokucocwa kwenkungu, unokubona indlela, kwaye ukhumbule izinto ngokucacileyo. Kulula nokugxila kwinto ethile. Ingqondo yakho ayinakuzulazula. Umzekelo, xa umamele isifundo eklasini, ukuba uneengcinga ezilungileyo engqondweni yakho, ungasinika eso sifundo ingqalelo yakho epheleleyo. Emva koko siya kutshona ngcono.
- Ikunceda ukhumbule ulwazi oluthe kratya ngaxeshanye: Njengokwandisa i-'RAM' yekhompyutha, ingqondo yakho inokugcina nokucinga ngolwazi oluthe kratya ngaxeshanye. Umzekelo, xa usombulula ingxaki enzima, ungasebenza kuyo ngokugcina iinyani ezininzi ezifanelekileyo engqondweni ngaxeshanye. Khawuthelekelele udlala ichess. Kuya kufuneka ukhumbule izinto ezininzi ngaxeshanye, njengeentshukumo zeepawns ezininzi, intshukumo elandelayo yomchasi wakho. Oku kulula xa ingqondo yakho icacile.
- Kuba lula ukuqonda unxibelelwano phakathi kweengcinga ezahlukeneyo: Xa sikwimo entle, siyakwazi ukubona unxibelelwano olufihlakeleyo phakathi kwezinto ezibonakala zahlukile. Indlela esijonga ngayo iingxaki iyakhula. Kulula ukucinga ukuba, 'Oku nokuya kudibene njani?' Kufana nokuhlanganisa iziqwenga 'zephazili' ukwenza umfanekiso omkhulu.
- Kufuna isibindi ukujongana neemeko ezinzima:Ubomi abusoloko buyibhedi yentyatyambo. Iingxaki, imiqobo, kunye neengxaki ziyafika. Kuqhelekile kuwo wonke umntu. Kodwa umntu oneengcinga ezilungileyo entliziyweni yakhe ufumana amandla amakhulu okujongana nemingeni enjalo . Akajongi iingxaki ngokwembono ethi 'Owu, kuphelile, andinakukwenza oku', kodwa ngokwembono ethi 'Kulungile, ndingayisombulula njani le nto? Ndingenza ntoni?' Khawuthelekelele, uneprojekthi yesikolo ekufuneka uyenze, kwaye inzima kancinci. Ukuba uneengcinga ezinje 'Owu, andinakukwenza oku, oku kunzima kakhulu' engqondweni yakho, kuba nzima nangakumbi kuwe. Awuziva ngathi ufuna ukuqala umsebenzi. Kodwa, ukuba ucinga 'Kulungile, oku kuyingxaki encinci, kodwa ndiza kuzama konke okusemandleni am, ukuba ndifuna uncedo, ndingacela', uya kufumana amandla amakhulu okujongana nalo msebenzi. Uloyiko lwengxaki luyehla, kwaye uba nomdla wokuyisombulula.
- Ikuvulela amathuba amatsha: Iingcinga ezimbi zifana nokuvala iingcango. Ngeengcinga ezinje 'Andikwazi, andikwazi, azizukusebenza', silahlekelwa lithuba lokuzama izinto ezintsha nokuthatha amathuba amatsha. Kodwa ngeengcinga ezakhayo, ingqondo yakho ivulekela izinto ezintsha kunye neengcinga ezintsha . 'Owu, ungazama oku!' 'Kutheni kungenjalo, ndiza kuzama' kwaye izinto ezintsha ziqala ukubonakala. Kufana nokuvula ifestile kwaye ungenise ukukhanya nomoya omtsha.
- Ikunceda ufunde kwaye uphuhlise izakhono zakho: Xa ukwimeko entle, umdla wakho kunye nomnqweno wokufunda into entsha uyakhula. Uziva ukhuthazekile ukuphucula izakhono zakho kancinci kancinci . Uziva ufuna ukusebenza ngaphandle kokudinwa okanye ukungafuni. Uziva ngathi 'Ndingangcono ukuba ndingafunda oku.'
- Ivula indlela yokuba wenze kakuhle emsebenzini nakwiimviwo: Ngenxa yako konke oku, amathuba okufumana iziphumo ezilungileyo kumsebenzi owenzayo, kwizinto ozifundayo, nakwiimviwo ayanda . Kuba ingqondo yakho ikulungele oko. Ingqondo yakho icacile, unokuzithemba, kwaye usebenza ngokuzimisela. Emva koko, amathuba okufumana iziphumo ezilungileyo ayanda.
Ngoko ke, singaba njani nethemba ngakumbi?
Kulungile, ngoku siyazi ukuba zingaphi iingenelo ezivela kwiingcinga ezintle. Ziyintsikelelo ngokwenene ebomini bethu. Emva koko umbuzo olandelayo obalulekileyo ngulo, 'Ndingazisondeza njani ezi ngcinga zilungileyo ebomini bam? Ndingaba njani nazingcinga ezintle ngakumbi?' Oku kufana nomkhwa olungileyo ekufuneka uphuhliswe kancinci kancinci. Kunzima ukutshintsha ngobusuku obunye. Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba uzama. Ingakumbi ukuba sele usoyika, ulusizi, unomsindo, ukhathazekile, uxinezelekile.Ukuba ulwa kakhulu neemvakalelo ezimbi, kufanelekile ukuba uphuhlise lo mkhwa. Kuqhelekile ukuba wonke umntu abe neengcinga ezimbi kunye neemvakalelo ezimbi ngamanye amaxesha. Singabantu. Kodwa into ebalulekileyo kukuzama ukubona icala eliqaqambileyo lezinto kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Kufana nokukhanyisa ikhandlela elincinci kwigumbi elimnyama kwaye kuzisa ukukhanya. Nazi ezinye iindlela ezilula onokuzama ngazo. Xa uziqhelisa ezi, uya kubona umahluko omkhulu kwimo yakho.- Chonga kwaye ubize iimvakalelo ezintle ozivayo imini yonke: Nika ingqalelo kwiimvakalelo ezintle ozivayo imini yonke. Oku kufana nokukhangela 'iintyatyambo ezonwabileyo' engqondweni yakho. Ngamanye amaxesha sonwabile, kodwa asizinikeli ngqalelo ingako. Kodwa ezi zinto zincinci zonwabileyo zezona zenza imini ibe ntle. Ukuva intaka entle icula kusasa, isitya isidlo esimnandi esilungiselelwe ngumama wakho, ihleka kwaye ithetha nomhlobo... zonke ezi zinto zikuzisela uvakalelo oluhle. Zichonge, uzixelele, 'Owu, oku kundenza ndonwabe'. Ungazibhala phantsi kuluhlu. Emva koko uya kuqonda ngamaxesha kwaye ngenxa yeziphi izinto oziva ndonwabile ngazo. Umzekelo, unokuzingca xa uphendula umbuzo ngokuchanekileyo eklasini, unokuziva ndonwabile xa injana yakho okanye ikati yenza into ehlekisayo, okanye unokuziva uthandwa xa umama okanye utata wakho efika ezokubukela umdlalo wakho wezemidlalo. Ezi zinokubonakala ngathi zizinto ezincinci, kodwa zezona zisenza sonwabe.
- Ekupheleni kosuku ngalunye, fumana ubuncinane izinto ezintathu ezilungileyo ezikwehleleyo: Lo ngumkhwa obaluleke kakhulu. Ngaphambi kokuba ulale ekupheleni kosuku, cinga okomzuzwana, 'Zeziphi izinto ezintle ezenzeke kum namhlanje?' Zama ukufumana ubuncinane izinto ezintathu ezilungileyo . Kungcono nangakumbi ukuba ubhale oku kwidayari. Nokuba zizinto ezincinci ezifana nokuthi 'Ndifunde into entsha namhlanje', 'Ndincede umntu namhlanje', 'Ndihleke kamnandi namhlanje' azinamsebenzi. Into ebalulekileyo kukuqeqesha ingqondo yakho ukuba ibone icala elihle losuku. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, uya kuqala ukubona izinto ezilungileyo kuphela. Kufana nokunxiba iiglasi uze ubone ngokucacileyo. Lo mkhwa awuyi kwandisa ulonwabo lwakho kuphela, kodwa uya kwenza kube lula kuwe ukulala.
- Khetha imvakalelo entle uze uyiqinise: Khawuthelekelele ukhetha imvakalelo yokuzithemba . Yintoni ekunceda uzive uqinisekile? Mhlawumbi kukunxiba kakuhle, ukufunda into entsha, ukunceda umntu. Ungayifumana njani loo mvakalelo? Mhlawumbi ngaphambi kovavanyo, ungazixelela ukuba, 'Ndingakwenza oku! Ndilungiselele kakuhle oku!' (Pep Talk)Mhlawumbi. Okanye, ungazama ukuma uthe nkqo uze uhambe epasejini yesikolo ngokuzithemba, ucinga, "Ndinamandla, ndingakwenza." Iimvakalelo ezintle zifana nezihlunu , kufuneka uzisebenzise, uzilolonge. Ungaziqinisa ezi mvakalelo ngendlela ojonga ngayo izinto, ngezinto ozenzayo.
- Yiba Nombulelo: Zama ukuziqhelisa ukubulela yonke imihla. Oku kuthetha ukucinga ngezinto onazo ezenzelwe wena kuphela kwaye wonwabe. Ukuba nombulelo kuthetha ukucinga, 'Hayi indlela entle ngayo ukuba ndinazo ezi zinto.' Ngamanye amaxesha sicinga ngezinto esingenazo kuphela. Siziva sibuhlungu, 'Owu, andinazo ezi, andinazo ezi.' Kodwa kuthekani ukuba sicinga ngezinto esinazo? Unentsapho ekuthandayo, unootitshala abakufundisayo, unabahlobo odlala nabo, unebhedi yokulala, ukutya nempahla, amanzi acocekileyo, kwanokufikelela kwi-intanethi. Xa ucinga ukuba ayinguye wonke umntu onazo ezi zinto, uyaqonda ukuba unethamsanqa kangakanani. Xa kwenzeka into entle kuwe, nokuba yinto encinci okanye enkulu, thatha ixesha lokucinga ngayo kwaye wonwabe. Mhlawumbi uvukile kusasa wacinga, 'Enkosi ngokundenza ndiphile namhlanje.' Ikunika uxolo olukhulu lwengqondo.
- Qokelela izinto ezikukhumbuza ngamava amnandi: Ungenza 'Ibhokisi Elungileyo' okanye ifayile. Faka kuyo iifoto zamaxesha akho amnandi, amakhadi owafumene kubantu abakhethekileyo, amazwi eengoma ozithandayo, izipho ezincinci owazifumanayo, izatifikethi zempumelelo yakho, njl. Ngamanye amaxesha, xa kunzima ukwenza isigqibo, xa ungonwabanga, xa ukhathazekile, xa uvula le bhokisi, ezo nkumbulo ziya kukubuyisela kwindawo eyonwabisayo. Ezo nkumbulo zakudala zolonwabo ziya kuzisa ithemba elitsha kunye namandla amatsha entliziyweni yakho. Kufana ' noNcedo Lokuqala ' lwentliziyo.
Ngoko ke, yintoni eyona nto ibalulekileyo esiyifundileyo namhlanje? (Umyalezo oya ekhaya)
Ngamafutshane, iingcinga ezintle kunye neemvakalelo zezinye zezona zinto zibalulekileyo esinokuba nazo ebomini bethu. Azizisi nje kuphela ulonwabo, kodwa zikwaphucula inkumbulo yethu, ingqalelo, izakhono zokusombulula iingxaki, ukuzimisela ukufunda izinto ezintsha , kwaye zikwaluncedo kwimpilo yethu yomzimba.Zenzele umkhwa wokuba nobubele. Kufana nokunkcenkceshela nokukhulisa isityalo yonke imihla ukuze sikhule. Iziphumo ziza kancinci, kodwa zifanelekile. Kuya kwenza ubomi bakho bonke bube buhle.Ngoko ke, ngaphakathi kosuku lwakhoUngalibali ukwenza indawo yolonwabo, ulonwabo, ubuhlobo, ukuphumla, ububele, kunye nombulelo. Qala kancinci. Musa ukuzama ukwenza utshintsho olukhulu ngaxeshanye, kancinci kancinci yongeza le mikhwa ilungileyo ebomini bakho. Ungakwenza! Sebenzisa eli gunya linamandla engqondweni yakho kwaye uthabathe ubomi bakho uye kwindawo entle, eyonwabisayo, nephumelelayo. Khumbula, ulonwabo olusentliziyweni yakho lungaphakathi kuwe!
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