Yintoni iNkathalo eSekelwe kwiXabiso? Ingakunceda njani kwimpilo-ntle yakho?

Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha uvakalelwa kukuba inkqubo yethu yezempilo kufuneka ibe ngcono kancinci? Ngamanye amaxesha xa ugula, kuyadinisa ukuya kugqirha omnye emva komnye uze wenze uvavanyo olunye emva kolunye, akunjalo? Namhlanje siza kuthetha ngenkqubo yonyango etshintsha izinto ezinjalo kwaye inike impilo yakho ixabiso ngokwenene . Oku sikubiza ngokuba yi-'(Ukhathalelo oluSekelwe kwiXabiso)' okanye unyango olusekelwe kwixabiso.

Yintoni kanye kanye le 'Nkathalo Esekelwe Kwixabiso'?

Ngamafutshane, oku kumalunga nokuphucula umgangatho wokhathalelo olufunyanwa zizigulane, oko kukuthi, wena, kwaye ufumane iziphumo ezilungileyo kuloo nyango. Kule nto, sijonge ekuhleleni ukhathalelo lwempilo ngendlela ethintela ukugula ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke, endaweni yokulunyanga emva kokuba lwenzekile . Ngamanye amazwi, kumalunga 'nokukuthintela ngaphambi kokuba kwenzeke, endaweni yokuzabalaza emva kokuba kwenzeke.' Ngoko ke, impilo-ntle yakho iyonke, umgangatho wonyango, kunye nokuhlolwa kokuthintela kubaluleke kakhulu kule nkqubo. Konke oku kwenzelwa ukukunika iziphumo zempilo ezilungileyo. Eyona nto iphambili apha kukuzama ukukugcina usempilweni, endaweni yokunyanga isifo nje.

Ngoko ke yintoni eza kutshintsha kwizigulane ngenxa yale nkqubo (yoNonophelo oluSekelwe kwiXabiso)?

Injongo ephambili yale nkqubo "yoNonophelo oluSekelwe kwiXabiso" kukwenza kube lula iinkqubo zokhathalelo lwempilo . Njengokuqhuba ishishini elihle, ukwenza izinto ngendlela ehlelekileyo usebenzisa "iindlela ezilungileyo". Cinga ngayo, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka uxelele oogqirha abaninzi ulwazi olufanayo, akunjalo? Kukho amaxesha apho kufuneka wenze uvavanyo olufanayo kabini okanye kathathu, akunjalo? Olu hlobo lwento luyancitshiswa phantsi kwale nkqubo. Kuba, lonke ulwazi kunye nobungqina buyahlalutywa ukuze kubonwe ukuba loluphi unyango olusebenzayo nolungasebenziyo. Ngale ndlela, kwenziwa "indlela yokhathalelo" esisiseko enokunika iziphumo ezilungileyo kwizigulana. Oko kuthetha ukuba, ukuba unesifo esithile, kukho isicwangciso sonyango esilungileyo, esamkelekileyo sokusinika sona. Ezi zinto azifani kuye wonke umntu, kodwa zilungiswa ukuze zihambelane nemeko yakho.

Enye into ebalulekileyo koku kukunika ingqalelo engakumbi kwimpilo-ntle kunye nokuthintela . Cinga ngako, ukuyeka ukutshaya , ukwenza utshintsho oluhle kwindlela otya ngayo nendlela ophila ngayo, kunye nokuzilolonga kuya kunciphisa amathuba akho okugula. Emva koko akuyi kufuneka uchithe imali kwiimvavanyo, iinkqubo ezintsonkothileyo, kunye namayeza , akunjalo? Oku kufana ' nokuthintela'.Kufana nokuthi, "Ukuthintela kungcono kunokunyanga." Sisoloko sithi, "Ukuthintela kungcono kunokunyanga," kwaye yiyo loo nto.

Ukuhlala usempilweni kunciphisa iindleko zonyango kuye wonke umntu. Oko akukuhle kuwe kuphela, kulungile nakuluntu luphela.

Umzekelo, masithi unesifo esinganyangekiyo esifana nesifo seswekile . Yintoni edla ngokwenzeka? Ungaya kugqirha wamehlo, omnye ukuya kubona izintso zakho, omnye ukuya kubona ingxaki yolusu. Kuya kufuneka uchaze iinkcukacha ezintsha kuyo yonke indawo, kwaye kuya kufuneka uphinde ujonge ingxelo efanayo. Phantsi kwale nkqubo "yoKhathalelo oluSekelwe kwiXabiso", unokuthintela iingxaki zeso sifo kakhulu. Endaweni yokubaleka uye kwizibhedlele ezahlukeneyo nakoogqirha, ungasebenza "neqela elidibeneyo" elikwaziyo kakuhle wena nesifo sakho. Eli qela lifana nosapho olunyamekela impilo yakho. Liquka ugqirha wakho wosapho "ugqirha oyintloko", iingcali, abahlengikazi, iingcali zonyango lomzimba, kunye neengcali zesondlo ezikuncedayo:

• Gcina amanqanaba eswekile egazini lakho ephantsi kolawulo.
• Bafundise ukuba ukutya okunempilo kubonakala njani kwaye ubancede bakugcine kunjalo.
• Yenza inkqubo yokuzilolonga efanelekileyo ngokweminyaka yakho nempilo yakho yomzimba.
• Qonda iinkalo zeemvakalelo nezengqondo zesi sifo, ezinje ngoxinzelelo kunye nosizi, kwaye uzixhase ekuziphatheni.

Eli qela liyathetha, labelana ngolwazi lwakho, kwaye lisebenzisana ukukunika unyango olungcono. Oko kukwenza uzive ukhululekile, akunjalo?

Le ndlela (yoNonophelo oluSekelwe kwiXabiso) izinciphisa njani iindleko?

Kulungile, ngoku makhe sibone indlela le ndlela `(Ukhathalelo Olusekelwe Kwixabiso)` enciphisa ngayo iindleko. Usenokukhumbula, ngaphambili, xa ubusiya kugqirha okanye esibhedlele, ngamanye amaxesha ubufumana ibhili eyahlukileyo ngento nganye. Kwakufuneka uhlawule inani lovavanyo olwenziweyo, inani lamayeza anikiweyo, inani leenkqubo ezenziweyo. Oko kukuthi, ukuba wenza izinto ezininzi, ufumana imali engaphezulu . Le yindlela ebizwa ngokuba yi-`(Intlawulo-yeNkonzo)` okanye `intlawulo yenkonzo``. Kule meko, ngamanye amaxesha, iimvavanyo ezazingadingeki ngokwenene zinokwenziwa, kuba ukuba unikezela ngeenkonzo ezingaphezulu, ufumana ingeniso engaphezulu.

Kodwa kule ngcamango "yoNyango oluSekelwe kwiXabiso", oogqirha nezibhedlele abahlawulwa ngokusekwe kwinani lezigulana abazibonayo, ukuba benza utyando olungakanani, okanye ukuba bahlawulisa malini . Endaweni yoko, bahlawulwa ngokusekwe kwi "ziphumo" ezifunyanwa zizigulana .Oko kukuthi, ukuba isigulana siyaphila ngokukhawuleza, ukuba iingxaki ziyancitshiswa, ukuba akufuneki siphinde silaliswe esibhedlele, ezo ke ziziphumo ezilungileyo ezikhuthazwayo. Khawuthelekelele, endaweni yokuhlawulisa ngokwahlukeneyo uvavanyo ngalunye kunye nenkonzo yesifo ngasinye, bahlanganisa iintlawulo kunye baze benze "iintlawulo ezihlanganisiweyo". Oku kuluncedo ngakumbi kwiimeko ezinzima ezifana nokufakelwa amalungu endaweni yawo. Emva koko, isilingo sokwenza izinto ezingeyomfuneko nokufumana imali siyancitshiswa . Kuba, oogqirha kunye nezibhedlele banomdla wokukunceda uphile ngokukhawuleza kwaye bakugcine usempilweni entle, kungekuphela nje ukwenza uvavanyo oluninzi.

Enye into kukuba ekubeni ulwazi lwezonyango lwesigulana ngasinye luhlelwe kwiRekhodi yezonyango ye-elektroniki , akukho mfuneko yokuphinda uvavanyo olufanayo kunye nonyango olungeyomfuneko . Ungayibona lula ingxelo yovavanyo olwenziwe ngugqirha omnye nomnye ugqirha . Oogqirha kunye nabanye abasebenzi bezempilo, njengeqela, banxibelelana ngoncedo lwabaququzeleli beenkonzo zokhathalelo, kwaye banyanga izigulana ngokufanelekileyo, ngaphandle kokuchitha ixesha nomzamo . Ngale ndlela, izigulana zinokufumana inkonzo eziyidingayo ngokukhawuleza ngale nkqubo idibeneyo.

Eyona njongo ilungileyo kukunciphisa ukwamkelwa kwakhona esibhedlele, ukulaliswa esibhedlele, kunye nokutyelela amagumbi ongxamiseko. Ukhathalelo olusekelwe kwixabiso luyinjongo yexesha elide . Yindlela yokuthatha amanyathelo afanelekileyo enciphisa iindleko zonyango, ifezekisa iziphumo ezingcono zempilo, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, iphucula impilo yakho iyonke kunye nokuphila kakuhle .

Ngoko ke, yintoni umyalezo oza kubuya nawo ekhaya kuyo yonke le nto?

Kulungile, ngoko ke ngokwento esithethe ngayo , mhlawumbi ungayiqonda indlela ebaluleke ngayo le ngcamango. Ayikuko nje ukunyanga isifo, ikukucinga ngempilo-ntle yakho iyonke. Ngamafutshane, imalunga:

• Umgangatho wonyango olufumanayo uyaphucuka kuba ingqwalasela ikwiziphumo.
• Ukuthintela yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokuthintela izifo ngaphambi kokuba zenzeke. Ingcamango esisiseko kukuba "kungcono ukuba sempilweni kunokubandezeleka sisifo."
• Sigxila kakhulu kwimpilo-ntle yakho iyonke. Impilo yengqondo ibaluleke njengempilo yomzimba.
• Oku kunceda ekunciphiseni uvavanyo nonyango olungeyomfuneko, kwaye kunciphisa iindleko zonyango. Oku kukwanceda kakhulu epokothweni yakho.
• Oogqirha, abahlengikazi, kunye nabanye abasebenzi bezempilo basebenzisana njengeqela ukuze bakunike unyango olungcono kakhulu. Oku kukwenza uzive ngathi awuwedwa.

Oku kufana nokubeka intetho ethi 'Kungcono ukuhlala usempilweni kunokunyanga isifo'. Ikwakunceda ufumane eyona nkonzo ilungileyo oyifunayo ngexabiso eliphantsi.

Ngoko ke, ukongeza le nkqubo "yoNonophelo oluSekelwe kwiXabiso" kwinkqubo yethu yokhathalelo lwempilo kuya kuba luncedo olukhulu kwixesha elizayo kuwe, kum, nakuthi sonke ukuze sifumane iinkonzo zempilo ezingcono, ezisebenzayo nezixabisekileyo ngokwenene . Ke ngoko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqaphela oku! Kuba, impilo yethu yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kuthi.

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