Mhlawumbi akukho ntlungu ingaphezulu kokulahlekelwa ngumntwana obumlindele ngexesha lokukhulelwa . Emva kwelo xesha limnyama nelibuhlungu, kunzima ukuchaza iimvakalelo ozivayo xa unomntwana omtsha ebomini bakho unethemba kwakhona. Yimvakalelo entsonkothileyo yovuyo, uloyiko, usizi, kunye nolindelo. Yiyo loo nto umntwana ozelwe emva kwamava anzima kangaka ebizwa ngothando ngokuthi "uMntwana woMbondo."
Kutheni le nto ezi mveku zibizwa ngokuba "ziintsana zoMbobo"?
Ngamafutshane, esi sisifaniso esihle. Khawucinge nje, emva kwesaqhwithi esikhulu, imvula enkulu, isibhakabhaka siyacaca kwaye kuvela umnyama omhle, akunjalo? Yiyo loo nto kunjalo. Aba bantwana babizwa ngokuba "ziintsana zomnyama" kuba bazisa ukukhanya, ulonwabo, kunye nethemba kubomi babazali emva kwesaqhwithi esibuhlungu njengokuphuphuma kwesisu, ukuzalwa komntwana oswelekileyo, okanye ukukhulelwa okuphuma ebaleni okanye emhlane.
Hayi nje kuphela kwilizwe lethu, kodwa abazali abaninzi kwihlabathi liphela bajongene nale meko. Ngokwezifundo, malunga nokukhulelwa omnye kwabane kunokuphelisa ukuphuphuma kwesisu. Ngoko ke ukuba ukhe wadibana namava anjalo, khumbula kuqala ukuba awuwedwa.
Intlungu nethemba elitsha lomntwana olahlekileyo
Kuqhelekile ukuziva wonwabile ngokuba nomntwana omtsha, kodwa uzive ulusizi ngokulahlekelwa ngumntwana. Oko akuphosakelanga. Ungaba neemvakalelo zombini ngaxeshanye. Ukujongana nolo sizi yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yolu hambo.
Ukukhulelwa okutsha akuthethi ukuba ulibele ngomntwana olahlekelwe nguye. Uthando onalo ngaloo mntwana aluyi kuphela.
Kukho izinto ezininzi ezinokukunceda uhlangabezane nale ntlungu:
- Shiya isikhumbuzo saloo mntwana : Mhlawumbi ungatyala umthi waloo mntwana. Okanye ungenza isenzo esibalulekileyo, unikele izipho, kwaye ubonise umbulelo wakho kuloo mntwana. Ezinye izibhedlele zithatha isandla somntwana kunye neenyawo zakhe zinike abazali. Into enjalo iya kuba namandla amakhulu kuwe.
- Thetha nomntu omthembayo: Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Thetha ngokukhululekileyo nomyeni/umfazi wakho malunga nendlela oziva ngayo. Umntu ngamnye unokuva intlungu ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo, ngoko ke kubalulekile ukumamelana. Kwakhona, ukuba unomhlobo okanye isalamane esiye sadlula kolu daba, ukuthetha nabo kunokuba luncedo kakhulu.
- Funa ingcebiso yobungcali: Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukujongana nezi mvakalelo wedwa. Ngamaxesha anjalo, licebo elihle ukufuna uncedo lomcebisi. Kungakhuthaza kakhulu impilo yakho yengqondo.
Xa ulindele umntwana we-rainbow...
Ukukhulelwa kwakhona kukudibana kweemvakalelo. Kwelinye icala, luvuyo olukhulu, kwelinye icala, luloyiko olukhulu. Kuqhelekile ukuba noloyiko olungapheliyo lokuba "Ngaba kuza kwenzeka kwakhona?" Kwaye kunokuba kukuziva unetyala, "Ngaba kulungile ukuba ndonwabe ngolu hlobo?" Qonda ukuba zonke ezi mvakalelo ziqhelekile.
Ngeli xesha, eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuzinyamekela kakuhle wena nomntwana wakho omtsha.
Nyamekela impilo yakho yomzimba.
- Iivithamini kunye nesondlo: Thatha iivithamini ezicetyiswa ngugqirha wakho, ingakumbi i-folic acid. I-folic acid ibalulekile ekukhuleni kweeseli zomntwana. Ukutya ukutya okunesondlo nako kubaluleke kakhulu.
- Ukuhlolwa rhoqo: Hlala unxibelelana nogqirha wakho rhoqo. Yiya kwiikliniki ngemihla emiselweyo. Xa ufumana iskeni uze uve ukubetha kwentliziyo yomntwana, uloyiko lwakho luya kuncipha kancinci kancinci.
- Gcina ubunzima obusempilweni: Thetha nogqirha wakho malunga nokugcina ubunzima obusempilweni ngexesha lokukhulelwa. Ukwenza umthambo olula, njengokuhamba, kulungile emzimbeni nasengqondweni yakho.
- Kuphephe ukutshaya neziyobisi ngokupheleleyo: Ezi zinto ziyingozi kakhulu ebantwaneni. Ukuba ufuna uncedo lokuyeka le mikhwa, thetha nogqirha wakho ngokukhululekileyo ngayo.
Indlela yokulawula ixhala ngexesha lokukhulelwa?
Oomama abakhe baphunyelwa sisisu ngaphambili basengozini enkulu yokudandatheka nokuxhalaba emva kokubeletha, ngoko ke kubalulekile ukuba ukhathalele impilo yakho yengqondo ngeli xesha.
- Qonda ukuba oku kukhulelwa kwahlukile: Musa ukucinga ukuba okwenzekileyo kwixesha elidlulileyo kuza kwenzeka ngeli xesha. Ukukhulelwa ngakunye kwahlukile, luhambo olutsha.
- Nciphisa uxinezeleko: Susa izinto ezininzi kangangoko ebomini bakho ezikwenza uzive uxinezelekile. Jonga ukuba ungakwazi na ukunciphisa uxanduva lwakho emsebenzini.
- Ziqhelise ukucamngca: Ukuchitha imizuzu embalwa ngosuku ugxile kwinto enye kwaye uphefumle nzulu kunokunciphisa kakhulu uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo lwakho.
- Ukuziqhelanisa nokubulela: Cinga ngezinto ezilungileyo ebomini bakho. Uza kuziva uvuyo nokukhululeka xa ucinga ngeli themba litsha, ngabantu abakuthandayo, nezinto onazo.
| Ingcamango | Ingcaciso elula |
|---|---|
| Umntwana we-Rainbow | Umntwana ozelwe emva kwesiganeko esibuhlungu, njengokuphuphuma kwesisu okanye ukuzalwa eswelekile. |
| Usana lweLanga | Umkhuluwa okanye udadewenu omdala owazalwa ngaphambi komntwana owalahleka ngexesha lokukhulelwa. |
| Umntwana we-Double Rainbow | Umntwana ozelwe emva kokulahlekelwa ziimkhulo ezingaphezu kwesinye (ezimbini okanye ngaphezulu). |
Xa uxelela abanye ngomntwana omtsha
Abo babekunye nawe ngexesha lokulila kwakho baya kukuvuyela ukuva iindaba zomntwana wakho omtsha. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba baneenjongo ezintle, imibuzo kunye nezimvo ezenziwa ngabantu zinokukulimaza. Kunokuba nzima ukuva izinto ezinje, "Owu, kungcono ulumke ungakwenzi ngendlela owenze ngayo okokugqibela." Abayiqondi into ojongene nayo kuba abazange badlule kwinto ojongene nayo.
Ngoko ke, xelela abantu oziva ukhululekile ukuthetha nabo ngale nto, abo ubathembayo ukuba bayakuqonda kuqala (umyeni, umama, umhlobo osenyongweni). Emva koko ungaxelela abanye kamva. Ukuba uyafuna, unelungelo lokugcina oku kuyimfihlo de umntwana azalwe. Akukho nto imbi ngaloo nto.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Kuqhelekile ukuba neemvakalelo ezixubeneyo ezifana novuyo, uloyiko, kunye nosizi xa ukhulelwa kwakhona emva kokuphuphuma kwesisu.
- Nangona usenokuba ulila ngenxa yokulahlekelwa ngumntwana wakho, unelungelo lokonwaba ngomntwana omtsha. Oko akuphosakelanga.
- Awuwedwa kolu hambo. Nxibelelana neqabane lakho, usapho, abahlobo obathembayo, kwaye, ukuba kuyimfuneko, nomcebisi oqeqeshiweyo ukuze akuxhase.
- Lumka kakhulu impilo yakho yomzimba kunye nempilo yakho yengqondo. Hlala unxibelelana nogqirha wakho rhoqo.
- Thatha olu hambo usuku ngalunye, inyathelo elinye ngexesha. Jongana nale meko ngendlela yakho eyahlukileyo. Unamandla. Ungakwenza oku.
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