Kungani kuhle ukuthi umama omusha nomntwana bahlale ndawonye (behlala ndawonye)? Ake sixoxe ngalokhu ngokuningiliziwe!

Ngemva kokubeletha umntwana, umama uzizwa ejabule futhi ekhathele kakhulu, akunjalo? Ngempela yisikhathi esihle nesikhathi esiza nezinselele eziningi ezintsha. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi uthole ukuphumula okuningi ngangokunokwenzeka, wakhe ubuhlobo obuhle nomntwana wakho, futhi ujwayele ukunakekela umntwana wakho ngaphambi kokuya ekhaya. Namuhla, sizokhuluma ngendlela enhle esiza kakhulu ngalokho, futhi manje elandelwa ezibhedlela eziningi. Leyo yi -Rooming-In .

Kuyini i-Rooming-In? Kalula nje...

Kalula nje, indawo yokuhlala yilapho umntwana osanda kuzalwa ehlala ekamelweni elifanayo nonina amahora angama-24 ngosuku ngesikhathi esesibhedlela. Lokhu kuhilela ukugcina umntwana embhedeni omncane eduze kombhede kamama, noma endaweni ekhululekile kamama, kunokuthumela umntwana endaweni yokunakekela izingane ehlukile.

Abanye omama bangase bacabange, "O, ngemva kokubeletha, kungaba kuhle ukufaka umntwana egumbini lokubeletha ukuze alale kancane, yize ekhathele." Lowo ngumcabango onengqondo. Kodwa, bewazi, izifundo zithole ukuthi inani lokulala umama alitholayo lifana kakhulu kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umntwana usegumbini noma usegumbini lokubeletha? Futhi bathole nokuthi ukuba nengane yakho nawe kusukela ngesikhathi izalwa kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuthi wena nengane yakho niphumule futhi nibe nemikhuba emihle.

Lesi yisikhathi esiyigugu kakhulu sokwazi ingane yakho encane nokwakha ubuhlobo obuqinile nayo. Izingane ziyalazi kahle izwi likanina, iphunga layo, kanye nokushaya kwenhliziyo yayo . Ngakho-ke uma unomntwana wakho, uzizwa ekhululekile futhi ephephile. Indlela Yokuhlala Ekhaya ikunikeza amathuba engeziwe okuqonda izindlela zakhe zokuziphatha kanye nalokho akushoyo (ngolimi lwakhe!) ngaphambi kokuba umyise ekhaya.

Yiziphi izinzuzo zokuhlala umama eyedwa?

Kunezinzuzo eziningi kulokhu kuwe njengomama omusha. Ake sibone ukuthi ziyini.

• Ukulala okungcono: Cabanga nje, uma ingane isenkulisa, kufanele ulinde uze uyilethe ukuze uyiphe ukudla, futhi ungase ulale ngisho nangaleso sikhathi. Kodwa uma ingane iseduze, ungayipha ukudla noma nini lapho ifuna, bese nobabili ningaphindela nilale ndawonye. Lokhu kuzonciphisa ukuphazamiseka ekulaleni kwenu.
• Ukuzethemba okwengeziwe ekuphatheni nasekunakekeleni umntwana: Uma unomntwana eduze, kancane kancane ujwayela ukubamba umntwana, ukushintsha inabukeni lakhe, ukumgeza (mhlawumbe uzothola usizo ngalokhu esibhedlela ), nokunakekela izinto zakhe ezincane. Uma usuya ekhaya, ungasebenza ngokuzethemba okukhulu. Ukube ubusenkulisa, lolu lwazi beluyontuleka, akunjalo?
• Ungaqonda izinkomba zengane yakho:Izingane zisebenzisa izinkomba ukukutshela ukuthi zilele, zikhathele, zidinga ukuthula, noma zilambile. Ukuba seduze nengane yakho kukusiza ukuthi uzibone lezi zinkomba ngokushesha. Cabanga ngengane yakho ivula amehlo ayo kancane, inyakazisa umlomo wayo... futhi uma iseduze nawe, usheshe uqaphele, "O, ingane yami idinga ubisi manje."
• Izimpawu zokuncelisa zakuqala kulula ukuzibona: Uma izingane zilambile, ziveza izimpawu ezincane ngaphambi kokuba zikhale. Isibonelo, zivula imilomo yazo, zikhiphe ulimi lwazo, zimunce izindebe zazo, zimunce izandla zazo, bese zinikina amakhanda azo kusukela kolunye uhlangothi kuya kolunye ukuze zithole ubisi (izimpande). Uma usubona lezi zimpawu, ungaqala ukuncelisa ngaphandle kokulinda ukuthi ingane yakho ikhale. Lokhu kwenza nokuncelisa kube lula.
• Ulwazi lokuncelisa luphumelela: Ukukwazi ukuncelisa ingane yakho noma nini lapho ifuna, uma ifuna, kuwusizo olukhulu ekwenzeni ukuncelisa kube yimpumelelo. Lokhu kusiza ekutholeni ubisi oluhle.
• Ingane ayikhali futhi ayicasuki kakhulu: Izingane zithanda ukuba seduze nonina. Iphunga likanina, ukufudumala, kanye nokushaya kwenhliziyo kuzenza zibe nomuzwa omkhulu wokulondeka. Ngakho-ke, ziyakhala futhi azicasuki kakhulu.
• "Ukucindezeleka kwengane" kanye nokucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha akuvamile: Ngemva kokubeletha umntwana, abanye omama bangase bazizwe bedabukile, bekhathazekile, futhi becasukile. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi 'ukucindezeleka kwengane'. Kutholakale ukuthi ukuba seduze nomntwana nokuxhumana naye kunganciphisa lezi zimo. Ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kungadlulela ekucindezelekeni kwangemva kokubeletha . Ngakho-ke, kuhle ukuqaphela lokhu futhi.
• Ekupheleni kwesonto lokuqala besekhaya, abazali bazizwa bephumule kahle futhi bekhululekile: njengoba bebe nengane yabo kusukela befika esibhedlela futhi sebejwayele isimiso sabo, bazizwa becindezelekile kancane ngemva kokubuyela ekhaya.
• Ukuthintana okwengeziwe kwesikhumba nesikhumba: Lokhu kusho ukubamba ingane yakho esifubeni sakho, kungaba nqunu noma ingagqokile kakhulu. Lokhu kudala isibopho esihle phakathi kukamama nomntwana, kwenza ingane izizwe iphephile, futhi kukhuthaza ukugeleza kobisi lukamama.

Yiziphi izinzuzo zokuhlala endlini yezingane?

Izinzuzo zalokhu kumama kanye nomntwana zinkulu kakhulu.

• Ukulala okungcono: Ingane izizwa iphephile uma inonina. Ngakho-ke, ilala kahle. Umjikelezo wokulala nokuvuka kwengane (umjikelezo wokulala nokuvuka) usheshe uzinze ngendlela ethile. Lokhu futhi kuyayisiza iqonde umehluko phakathi kwemini nobusuku.
• Izinga lokushisa lomzimba lihlala lizinzile: Kulula ngengane ukugcina izinga lokushisa lomzimba lingaguquguquki uma izungezwe ukufudumala kukanina. Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu ezinganeni ezincane.
• Ngokuvamile ujabule futhi ukhala kancane: Umntwana akazizwa enesizungu noma esaba ngoba unina unaye. Ngakho-ke, ujabule futhi ukhala kancane.
• Amazinga kashukela egazini ahlala eqinile: Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu ezinganeni ezizalwa zinesisindo esiphansi, noma ezinganeni zomama abanesifo sikashukela.
• Uncelisa ngokushesha, isikhathi eside, futhi kalula: Ngenxa yokuthi ubisi lutholakala ngokushesha uma elambile, umntwana uncelisa kahle.
• Amazinga aphansi ama-hormone okucindezeleka: Njengoba uphephile kumama, umzimba womntwana unezinga eliphansi lama-hormone okucindezeleka.
• Ukuchayeka kumagciwane avamile esikhumbeni sikamama: Lokhu kunganikeza ingane amandla okuzivikela ekulweni namagciwane ayingozi.

Amathiphu ambalwa okwenza lokhu kube yimpumelelo

Iseluleko esingcono kakhulu esingasinika abazali abasha ukuthi bajwayeze ukulala nengane yakho ezinsukwini ezimbalwa zokuqala. Akunandaba ukuthi kusemini noma kusebusuku, vele ugoqe ingane yakho noma nini lapho ilala. Izinsana zincela njalo, futhi zizizwa zikhululekile futhi ziphephile uma zinawe.

Ukufunda indlela yokuncelisa ingane yakho kuzoba lula uma uqonda izimpawu zayo zendlala zisencane kanye nezimo zokulala/ukuvuka. Ngokugcina ingane yakho iseduze nawe, ungafunda indlela yokuyondla nokuyinakekela ngosizo lwabasebenzi abanolwazi esibhedlela.

Khumbula: Abahlengikazi nodokotela esibhedlela bakhona ukukusiza. Uma unemibuzo noma ukukhathazeka, ungesabi ukubuza.

Enye into ukuqaphela ukuthi obani abazokuvakashela uma uthola umntwana wakho. Ukuze kuhlangatshezwane nezidingo zawo wonke umuntu, ezinye izibhedlela zivumela izivakashi amahora angama-24 ngosuku. Kodwa kuwumqondo omuhle ukucabanga ngezintandokazi zakho ngesikhathi uhlala esibhedlela. Ingabe ufuna izivakashi ngaso sonke isikhathi, noma ufuna zikhawulelwe kumalungu omndeni aseduze ngezikhathi ezithile zosuku?

Sihlala silapha ukukusiza uphumule futhi ululame. Abanye abazali babeka inothi elincane emnyango wekamelo labo lokulala elithi, "Ngicela ungivumele ngiphumule futhi ngichithe isikhathi nomntwana wami." Abanye omama, uma bezizwa bekhathele, basebenzisa "igama lekhodi" abalinika abalingani babo ukuze batshele izivakashi ukuthi zihambe... futhi kuyasebenza futhi!

Umyalezo obaluleke kakhulu okufanele uwuthathe uye nawo ekhaya

Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhetha ini, umgomo wethu ukukunikeza ukunakekelwa okungcono kakhulu, ngenkathi sikulungiselela ukuya ekhaya unakekele ingane yakho entsha. Ukuhlala endlini eyodwa akukhona nje ukugcina ingane yakho iseduze. Kumayelana nokuqinisa isibopho esihle phakathi kukamama nomntwana, ukunisiza nobabili niqondane, nokubeka isisekelo esihle sesikhathi esizayo.

Ngakho-ke, uma ungumama okhulelwe, khuluma nodokotela wakho kanye nesibhedlela mayelana nokuthola indawo yokuhlala. Cabanga ngezinzuzo okuzoziletha kuwe kanye nomntwana wakho omncane.Lesi yisikhathi esiyigugu kakhulu kuwe nakumntanakho. Sisebenzise kahle.

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