Unqobe impi enkulu nomdlavuza. Ubekezelele ukwelashwa okunzima okuningi njenge-chemo kanye ne-radiation, futhi wanqoba leyo nselele ngenhliziyo eqinile. Wonke umuntu uyakuhalalisela. Kodwa ngemva kokwelashwa sekuphelile, noma ngabe ucabanga ukuthi konke sekuphelile, ingabe isizungu, ukwesaba, nokukhathazeka okuzwayo akukukhathazi? Eqinisweni, noma ngabe impi nomdlavuza isiphelile ngokomzimba, impi yengqondo ingase isaqala. Lokhu akuyona into ozizwa uwedwa, abantu abaningi abalulama emdlavuza emhlabeni wonke banalolu lwazi.
Kungani impilo yengqondo ibalulekile ngemva kokwelashwa komdlavuza?
Kalula nje, umdlavuza uyinto eshintsha impilo yomzimba nengqondo. Kuvamile ukuzwa le mizwa ngemva kokwelashwa:
- Ukwesaba ukuphinda kwenzeke: Ukwesaba ukuthi "Ingabe umdlavuza uzobuya?" kungaba ukukhathazeka okuqhubekayo. Ngisho nobuhlungu obuncane bomzimba bungabangela ukwesaba okukhulu.
- Izinguquko zomzimba : Kungaba nzima ukwamukela izinguquko emzimbeni wakho ezibangelwa ukuhlinzwa noma ukwelashwa. Lokhu kungaholela ekunciphiseni ukuzethemba.
- Isizungu kanye nokuzihlukanisa: Ungase uzizwe uhlukanisiwe kancane nomphakathi, unemizwa efana nokuthi "Yimi kuphela lo" nokuthi "Abanye abangiqondi." Ngisho noma umndeni nabangane benawe, ungase uzizwe unesizungu, njengokungathi akekho omunye ongakuqonda ngempela lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho.
- Ukukhathala Okungapheli: Ngemva kokwelashwa, ungase uzizwe ukhathele kakhulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ulala kangakanani. Lokhu kungathinta nempilo yakho yengqondo.
Akudingeki ulwe nale mizwa wedwa. Ukucela usizo nokukhuluma ngalo kuyingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu yohambo lwakho lokuphulukiswa.
"Ukusekelwa Kontanga" kanye nenani laso
Kuyini "ukusekelwa kontanga"? Ukusekelwa nokuqonda okutholayo kumuntu oye wadlula kokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo futhi ongaqonda ubuhlungu nezinselele zakho. Ukuze siqonde ukubaluleka kwalokhu, ake sibheke ucwaningo esilwenzile emhlabeni wonke.
E-United States, kwenziwa ucwaningo kusetshenziswa abesifazane abangu-168 bomdabu waseShayina abalulame emdlavuza webele. Abazange bathole nokusekelwa kwengqondo okudingekayo ngenxa yezithiyo zolimi namasiko.
Kulolu cwaningo, bahlukaniswe ngamaqembu amabili:
1. Iqembu lokuqala: Laba besifazane abanikwanga nje ulwazi lwemfundo mayelana nomdlavuza, kodwa futhi nethuba lokuhlangana nabanye besifazane abalulame kumdlavuza njengabo amahora angu-3.5 ngesonto amasonto ayi-7 ukuze baxoxe futhi babelane ngolwazi (ukwelulekwa ontanga).
2.Iqembu lesibili (Iqembu Lokulawula): Laba bantu abazange bahlanganyele eqenjini lokusekelana kontanga futhi banikwa ulwazi lwezemfundo kuphela.
Ngemuva kwalokho, izinguquko empilweni yengqondo neyomzimba kuzo zombili lezi zinhlobo zalinganiswa izikhathi eziningana.
Lolu cwaningo lubheke ini?
Odokotela nabacwaningi abazange babuze nje ukuthi, "Ingabe kube ngcono?" Balinganise inhlalakahle yalaba bantu besebenzisa izindlela eziningana ezifakazelwe ngokwesayensi. Nakhu abakutholile.
| Isici Esilinganisiwe | Incazelo Elula |
|---|---|
| Ikhwalithi Yokuphila | Ikhono lokwenza imisebenzi yansuku zonke nokujabulela umndeni kanye nomphakathi. Lokhu kuhlanganisa zonke izici: ngokomzimba, ngokwengqondo, kanye nangokwenhlalo. |
| Izimpawu Zokucindezeleka | Ngabheka izinga lemizwa efana nokudabuka, ukulahlekelwa yisithakazelo kunoma yini, kanye nokuphelelwa yithemba. |
| Ukukhathala okungapheli | Ngibheke ukuthi ukukhathala ngokweqile okungapheli ngisho nangemva kokuphumula kuthinte kangakanani impilo yami. |
| Ukucindezeleka Okubonwayo | Ngalinganisa ukuthi izingcindezi empilweni zizwakala njengomthwalo ongabekezeleleki noma cha. |
| Amazinga e-hormone e-Cortisol | Lena "i-hormone yokucindezeleka" emizimbeni yethu. Lapho ukucindezeleka kukhuphuka, le hormone iyanda emzimbeni. Ukulinganisa lokhu kunganikeza umbono wenhlalakahle yengqondo. |
Ucwaningo bekulindeleke ukuthi luthuthukise ikhwalithi yokuphila futhi lunciphise ukucindezeleka, ukucindezeleka, kanye nokukhathala kulabo abathola ukwesekwa kontanga. Okusho ukuthi, belufuna ukuthola ukuthi kunamandla kangakanani ukukhuluma nomuntu onjengawe, kunokunikeza imfundo.
Ukubaluleka kokuthola ukwesekwa okuhambisana nesiko lethu
Lolo cwaningo lwaluqondiswe kwabesifazane baseShayina. Kungani? Ngoba babeqonda ukubaluleka kokuthola ukwesekwa okuhambisana namasiko nolimi lwabo.
Cabanga nje, akunjalo yini eSri Lanka? Asihlanganyeli imizwa yethu nawo wonke umuntu. Asifuni ukuba umthwalo emndenini wethu nasezinganeni zethu. Abanye abantu abafuni ngisho nokuthi, "Nganginomdlavuza." Ngakho-ke endaweni efana nale, yeka ukuthi kusinika amandla kangakanani ukukwazi ukukhuluma nomuntu ngokuzethemba ongaqonda izinkinga zethu, ngendlela yethu? Yingakho ukwesekwa okufanele ngokwesiko kubaluleke kangaka.
Ungazisiza kanjani wena noma umuntu oseduze nawe?
ESri Lanka, mhlawumbe lezo zinhlelo ezinkulu zeqembu lokubambisana zinganyamalala yonke indawo. Kodwa akudingeki uhlupheke wedwa.
1. Khuluma nodokotela wakho: Udokotela okuphathe kahle uyazi kangcono isimo sakho. Khuluma naye ngobunzima bengqondo obhekene nabo. Angakudlulisela kumeluleki ofanelekayo uma kudingeka.
2. Khuluma nomuntu omethembayo: Kungaba umyeni wakho, umkakho, umngane wakho omkhulu, udadewethu. Kungaba impumuzo enkulu ukwabelana ngomthwalo wakho nomunye umuntu.
3. Thola abantu abanokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo: Ezinye izibhedlela noma izinhlangano zomdlavuza zingakusiza uhlangane nabantu abake baba nokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo. Ukukhuluma nomuntu onjalo kungakusiza uzizwe sengathi awuwedwa.
4. Ukwelulekwa akulona ubuthakathaka: Akukho namahloni ekufuneni iseluleko mayelana nempilo yengqondo, noma ukubona umeluleki. Kufana nokuya kudokotela uma uphuka umlenze. Uma uzizwa uphansi, kunezindlela zokwelapha lokho futhi.
Ungumuntu onamandla owalwa futhi wanqoba umdlavuza. Ngalawo mandla, cabanga nangenhlalakahle yakho yengqondo. Unganqikazi ukuthola ukwesekwa okudingayo kulolo hambo.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukululama ngokomzimba ngemva kokwelashwa komdlavuza kubaluleke njengokululama kwengqondo. Kuwuhambo oluhambisanayo.
- Ungesabi ukukhuluma ngemizwa yakho, ukwesaba kwakho, kanye nokukhathazeka kwakho nomuntu omethembayo, noma ngisho nodokotela wakho.
- Ukukhuluma nomuntu oke waba nokuhlangenwe nakho okufanayo nawe (ukusekelwa kontanga) kungaba umthombo omkhulu wamandla engqondo.
- Ukufuna ukwesekwa ngokomzwelo akulona uphawu lobuthakathaka, kuyisinyathelo esinamandla nesibalulekile ongasithatha ukuze ululame ngokugcwele.
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