Ubuhlungu , ukudabuka, kanye nesizungu esizizwayo lapho silahlekelwa othile noma into eyigugu kakhulu empilweni yethu kunzima ukukusho ngamazwi. Kunjengokungathi kwakheka isikhala esikhulu ngaphakathi kithi. Lokhu yilokho esikubiza ngokuthi 'Usizi'. Lokhu kuyimpendulo yemvelo kakhulu. Sonke sibhekana nalokhu okuhlangenwe nakho ngezindlela ezahlukene. Kodwa uma uqonda imizwa yakho, uzinakekele, futhi ucele usizo lapho kudingeka khona, ungakunqoba lokhu buhlungu.
Ziyini izimbangela zosizi?
Usizi yindlela esibhekana ngayo nokulahlekelwa empilweni. Ngokuvamile, lokhu kuhlobene nokufa komuntu oseduze, kodwa usizi lungabangelwa yinoma yini eyenza umehluko omkhulu empilweni yethu. Cabanga ngakho, izinto ezinjengalezi zingakwenza uzizwe udangele futhi ukhungathekile:
- Ukushona komngane wakho, ilungu lomndeni, umlingani wakho, noma isilwane sakho sasekhaya.
- Ukuhlukana komshado noma ubungane obuseduze.
- Ukuvalelisa ikhaya, isifundazwe, noma umphakathi lapho umuntu ehlala khona.
- Ukuphela komsebenzi noma umsebenzi.
- Ukulahlekelwa ukuzinza kwezezimali.
- Ukungakwazi ukufeza iphupho noma umgomo empilweni.
- Ukulahlekelwa yimpilo noma ukukhula kwesifo esingamahlalakhona.
- Ukuphela kobusha babo.
- Ukungakwazi ukuba nezingane.
- Ukulahlekelwa yimpilo ngaphambi kokukhubazeka noma ukugula.
- Usizi oluvela empilweni yomuntu njengoba elungiselela ukufa kwakhe.
Ingabe kunezinhlobo ezahlukene zosizi?
Yebo, usizi lungahlukaniswa ngezinhlobo ezahlukene kuye ngokuthi sibhekana kanjani nalo. Ukwazi lokhu kuzokusiza uqonde imizwa yakho.
| Uhlobo Losizi | Incazelo elula |
|---|---|
| Usizi Olulula | Lolu uhlobo oluvame kakhulu. Izimpawu zosizi zinamandla kakhulu ezinyangeni zokuqala eziyisithupha ngemva kokulahlekelwa, kodwa kancane kancane ziyaphela ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. |
| Usizi Olulindelekile | Usizi luqala ukuvela ngaphambi kokuba ukulahlekelwa kwenzeke. Isibonelo, lokhu kungenzeka lapho umuntu oseduze nawe ezwa ukuthi unesifo esibulalayo. |
| Usizi Oluvinjelwe | Lesi simo senzeka uma ucindezela imizwa efana nokudabuka nobuhlungu bese uzama ukungacabangi ngakho. Lokhu kungaholela ezinkingeni zomzimba ezifana nokungalali kahle kanye nobunzima bokuphefumula (ukuhlaselwa uvalo). |
| Usizi Oluyinkimbinkimbi | Ngezinye izikhathi usizi alubi ngcono ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Uyaqhubeka nokulila futhi awukwazi ukwamukela ukulahlekelwa. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi usizi oluyinkimbinkimbi. Uma unezinye zalezi zimpawu, qiniseka ukuthi ubona udokotela wakho: - Ukungakwazi ukwenza imisebenzi evamile yansuku zonke. - Imizwa yokucindezeleka okukhulu. - Ukuzwa sengathi impilo ayinayo injongo. - Ukucabanga ngokuzilimaza. - Ukuzisola njalo. |
| Usizi Olubambezelekile | Angizizwa ngidabukile ngokulahlekelwa ngesikhathi kwenzeka, kodwa ngiqala ukuzwa leyo mizwa amasonto, izinyanga, mhlawumbe ngisho neminyaka kamuva. |
| Usizi Oluqongelelayo | Lesi simo senzeka lapho kufanele ubhekane nokulahlekelwa okuningi ngesikhathi esisodwa. Isibonelo, ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi ngenkathi umshado wakho uchitheka. Lokhu kwenza inqubo yokulila ibe nzima nakakhulu. |
| Isifo Sosizi Oluhlala Isikhathi Eside | Lokhu kufana nosizi oluyinkimbinkimbi. Usizi lunamandla kangangokuthi luphazamisa impilo yansuku zonke. Usizi alupheli ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Lokhu kudinga usizo lochwepheshe nakanjani. |
Yiziphi izigaba ezi-5 eziyinhloko zosizi?
Udokotela Wezifo Zengqondo u-Elisabeth Kubler-Ross ( ELISA)Ngokusho kukaDkt. beth Kubler-Ross, sidlula ezigabeni ezi-5 eziyinhloko lapho sibhekana nokulahlekelwa. Kodwa khumbula, akuwona wonke umuntu odlula kuzo zonke lezi zigaba ngokulandelana. Abanye abantu bangase beqe ezinye izigaba, noma bangase babuyele emuva naphambili. Lokho kuvamile kakhulu.
- 1. Ukuphika: Lapho siqala ukuzwa ngokulahlekelwa, kuvamile ukucabanga ukuthi, "Lokhu akunakwenzeka," "Lokhu akulona iqiniso." Lena indlela yokuzivikela yesikhashana esetshenziswa yingqondo yethu ngoba ayikwazi ukubhekana nobuhlungu obungazelelwe.
- 2. Intukuthelo: Njengoba ujwayelana kancane kancane neqiniso, uqala ukuzwa ubuhlungu bokulahlekelwa. Lokhu kuholela emizweni yokukhungatheka nokungabi namandla. Kamuva, le mizwa iphenduka intukuthelo. Le ntukuthelo ingaqondiswa kwabanye abantu, kuNkulunkulu, noma empilweni jikelele. Kungokwemvelo futhi ukucasuka ngomuntu okushiyile.
- 3. Ukuxoxisana: Phakathi nalesi sigaba, abantu bahlala becabanga ngalokho ababengakwenza ukuze bagweme ukulahlekelwa. Imicabango efana nokuthi "Ukube nje bengikwenzile lokho..." "Kungani lokhu kwenzeke?" ivame ukufika engqondweni. Abanye baze bazame ukwenza izivumelwano noNkulunkulu.
- 4. Ukucindezeleka: Lapho ukulahlekelwa kanye nomthelela wako empilweni yakho kuqala ukucwila, uzizwa udabukile kakhulu. Izimpawu ezifana nokukhala ngokweqile, izinkinga zokulala, kanye nokulahlekelwa yisifiso sokudla zingabonakala phakathi nalesi sigaba. Ungase uzizwe unenhliziyo esindayo, isizungu, kanye nokuzisola.
- 5. Ukwamukela: Lesi yisigaba sokugcina sosizi. Lapha, wamukela iqiniso lokulahlekelwa. Uyaqaphela ukuthi akunakushintshwa. Ngisho noma ubuhlungu busekhona, uyakwazi ukuqhubeka nempilo yakho.
Usizi luthinta kanjani umzimba nengqondo yakho?
Ukulahlekelwa kuyisihluthulelo esikhulu sengqondo nomzimba. Lokhu kungaholela ezimpawini ezahlukene zomzimba nezengqondo.
| Izimpawu Zomzimba | Izimpawu Zemizwelo |
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Kuyini 'Isisusa Sokuhlunguphazwa'?
Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu. 'I-trigger' yinto ekukhumbuza ngokushesha umuntu noma isenzakalo osilahlekile. Kungaba yinoma yini, njengengoma, iphunga, indawo, ukudla, usuku olukhethekile. Ngezikhathi ezinjengalezi, ungazizwa ngokuzumayo imizwa enamandla kakhulu njengokudabuka noma intukuthelo. Lokhu kuvamile.
Yini engenziwa ukuze kuphume kulesi simo?
Ukubhekana nosizi kuyinselele. Kodwa kunezindlela ongasiza ngazo. Khumbula, izidakamizwa, utshwala, ukudla ngokweqile, noma ukulutheka emsebenzini akuzona izindlela zokubalekela ubuhlungu. Kumane kuyindlela yokuphunyuka yesikhashana. Kunalokho, zama lezi zinto:
- Zinike isikhathi: Usizi luyinqubo. Kuthatha isikhathi ukuluqeda. Yamukela imizwa yakho.
- Khuluma nabanye: Chitha isikhathi nabangani nomndeni. Ungabi wedwa. Yabelana ngalokho okusengqondweni yakho.
- Zinakekele: vivinya umzimba kahle, udle ukudla okunomsoco, futhi ulale ngokwanele.
- Buyela ezintweni ozithandayo: Thola kabusha izinto ozithandayo ezikulethele injabulo.
- Joyina iqembu lokusekelana: Ukukhuluma nabanye abasosizini ngendlela efanayo nawe kungakusiza uzizwe ungedwa.
Uma ukudabuka kwakho kuphazamisa imisebenzi yakho yansuku zonke futhi ungakathuthuki ngemva kwezinyanga eziyisithupha, kubalulekile ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe. Ukukhuluma nomeluleki/uchwepheshe wezokwelapha kungakusiza ukuthi ulawule imizwa yakho. Khuluma nodokotela wakho ngalokhu bese uthola iseluleko.
Ungamsiza kanjani umuntu ososizini?
Uma umngane noma isihlobo sakho sibhekene nalolu hlobo losizi, ungabasiza.
- Yiba nabo: Babuze ukuthi yini abayidingayo. Ingabe ukukhuluma, ukuhamba ngezinyawo, noma olunye usizo? Basekele nganoma iyiphi indlela abayidingayo.
- Siza ngendlela engokoqobo: Ngisho nosizo oluncane, njengokuya esitolo nokuletha okuthile, ukupheka ukudla, noma ukuyolanda izingane esikoleni, kungenza umehluko omkhulu ngezinye izikhathi.
- Yiba isilaleli esihle: Bavumele bakhulume. Lalela ngaphezu kokukhuluma kwakho.
- Ungakunciphisi ukulahlekelwa kwabo: Ungalokothi usho izinto ezinjengokuthi, "Akuyona into enkulu kangako," noma "Khohlwa manje bese uqhubeka."
- Ungahambi usho izinto ezinhle: "Kuhamba kahle," "Usesendaweni engcono manje," njll. kungaba ukungayihloniphi imizwa yabo. Bavumele bakhale ngobuqotho. Kuyingxenye ebalulekile yenqubo yokuphulukiswa.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Usizi luyindlela yemvelo yokusabela kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lokulahlekelwa. Akuyona ubuthakathaka.
- Wonke umuntu ubhekana nosizi ngendlela ehlukile. Ayikho indlela efanele noma engalungile yokwenza lokho.
- Kunezinhlobo nezigaba ezahlukene zosizi. Ukuqonda lokhu kungakusiza uqonde imizwa yakho.
- Usizi lungathinta umzimba wakho kanye nengqondo yakho.
- Awuwedwa ekunqobeni lobu buhlungu. Unganqikazi ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe kanye nokusekelwa kwabathandekayo.
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