Ingabe ingane yakho izobona udokotela wezokwelapha? Ake sixoxe ngalokhu!

Ngezinye izikhathi izingane zethu ziba nezinkinga okunzima ukuzixazulula zodwa, akunjalo? Ngezikhathi ezinjalo, ukukhuluma nabazali bazo kuvame ukuzizwa kukhululeka kakhulu. Kodwa kunezinto ezithile, ngisho noma abazali besiza, ezidinga usizo oluthe xaxa lochwepheshe. Yilapho-ke sidinga khona usizo lochwepheshe. Abanye abazali bangase bakwesabe lokhu ngoba abazi okuningi ngakho. Kodwa empeleni lokhu kuwusizo olukhulu enganeni.

Kungani ingane iya kudokotela wezifo zengqondo?

Kulungile, manje ake sibheke ukuthi kungani ingane ingaya kudokotela wezokwelapha, noma njengoba ngezinye izikhathi sikubiza kanjalo, umeluleki. Kalula nje, laba ngabantu abathole ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile kwezempilo yengqondo . Bayazi ukuthi yiziphi izinkinga izingane ezincane nabantu abadala abasebasha abanazo nokuthi bangazisiza kanjani.

Cabanga nje, uma ingane inomkhuhlane, siyiyisa kudokotela wezingane , akunjalo? Ngendlela efanayo, uma ingane ibhekene nohlobo oluthile lokucindezeleka kwengqondo, ukucindezeleka, noma ukushintsha kokuziphatha, laba belaphi bangochwepheshe abangasiza.

Ngezinye izikhathi sicabanga ukuthi, 'O, ingabe le yinkinga kuphela ingane yami enayo?' Akunjalo. Izingane eziningi zidinga usizo lochwepheshe ngezizathu ezahlukene. Akuyona into okufanele ibe namahloni noma ifihlwe. Eqinisweni, into ehlakaniphe kakhulu okufanele uyenze ukuqaphela ukuthi kunenkinga bese ucela usizo. Umeluleki wezokwelapha ufana nomuntu onikeza imithi nesiqondiso sezinkinga zempilo yengqondo . Bayazi ukuthi abazali bangasiza kanjani ingane yabo kulolu hambo.

Yiziphi izinkinga abelaphi abasiza ngazo?

Manje ungase uzibuze, 'Luhlobo luni lwezinkinga abasiza ngazo laba belaphi?' Empeleni kunezinto eziningi abangasiza ngazo. Ake sibheke izibonelo ezimbalwa:

• Ukwesaba ukulala, ukucindezeleka ngomsebenzi wesikole, noma ubunzima bokuhlala nabangani: Abanye abantwana bayesaba ukulala ebusuku, baba namaphupho amabi , noma bazizwe bekhungathekile futhi becindezelekile ngomsebenzi wesikole. Abanye abantwana abafuni ukujoyina ezinye izingane noma ukudlala, bakhetha ukuba bodwa. Udokotela wezokwelapha angasiza ingane ukubhekana nalezi zinkinga ngokuhlonza izimbangela eziyisisekelo.

• Ubunzima bokunaka, ukuhlala ugxile, nokuhlala endaweni eyodwa ekilasini: Kungenzeka ukuthi uke waphawula ukuthi ezinye izingane azihlaliseki, zihlala zigijima, zigxumagxuma. Azinaki lokho okushiwo uthisha ekilasini, futhi ziyavilapha ukwenza umsebenzi wazo wesikole. Lokhu kungaba yisimo esihlobene nokunaka, njenge -ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder).Udokotela wezifo zengqondo angakubona lokhu futhi anikeze ingane, abazali, kanye nothisha iseluleko esidingekayo sokubhekana nakho.

• Uvame ukulwa, uthukuthela ngokushesha, akanaso isineke: Abanye abantwana bathukuthela ngezinto ezincane, bathethise, futhi balwe nabanye ngaso sonke isikhathi. Banobunzima bokulawula imizwa yabo . Ezimweni ezinjalo, udokotela wezokwelapha angabasiza ukuthi babone leyo mizwa futhi ayilawule ngendlela efanele.

• Kukhona izingane ezihlala zikhathazekile ngempilo noma ukuphepha kwazo: 'Ingabe ngizoyithola lesifo?', 'Ingabe kukhona okuzokwenzeka kumama?', 'Kuzokwenzekani uma lokho kwenzeka?' Kukhona izingane ezihlala zesaba futhi zikhathazekile ngezinto ezinjalo ngokungadingekile. Uma lokhu kungaphezu nje kokukhathazeka okuvamile, kungaba 'Ukukhathazeka.''

• Ubuhlungu bomzimba ngaphandle kokugula okuthile: Ngezinye izikhathi, noma odokotela bethi, "Lo mntwana akaguli," ingane ingase iqhubeke nokukhononda ngekhanda elibuhlungu, ubuhlungu besisu, noma ubuhlungu besifuba. Imbangela yalokhu kungaba ukucindezeleka noma inkinga yengqondo.

• Izingane zingase zibhekane nenkinga yomndeni, ukugula, noma isikhathi esinzima: Udlame lwasekhaya, isehlukaniso sabazali, ukufa komuntu omthandayo, ukugula okungathi sína, noma ushintsho olukhulu (njengokuqala isikole esisha noma ukuthuthela kwenye indawo) kungaba nzima ukubhekana nazo. Ngezikhathi ezinjengalezi, zidinga induduzo nesiqondiso.

• Imizwa yokucindezeleka okukhulu, ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba, intukuthelo, ukudabuka, ukucindezeleka, noma usizi: Kunomehluko omkhulu phakathi kwale mizwa eyenzeka ngokujwayelekile kanye nokuba ngumuntu ophikelelayo. Uma ingane ihlala idabukile, yesaba, noma ingenasithakazelo kunoma yini, akuwona umqondo omuhle ukuyishaya indiva. Kungaba futhi uphawu `(Ukucindezeleka)` .

Kwenzekani uma uthola umelaphi?

Kulungile, ake sithi uya kudokotela wezokwelapha nengane yakho. Kwenzekani-ke? Akukho okufanele ukwesabe.

Okokuqala, bakwamukela wena nengane yakho ngothando olukhulu nothando. Bakhuluma nawe nengane yakho. Babuza imibuzo, futhi balalele ngokucophelela lokho okushoyo. Kufana nendaba. Lena yindlela abaqonda ngayo ingane ngempela, inkinga ingane ebhekene nayo, kanye nesizinda somndeni. Ingane iqala nokuzwa ukuthi kukhona umuntu oyiqondayo.

Bese bebuza imibuzo ukuze babone ukuthi ingane inazo yini izinkinga ezifana nokuthi "Ukukhathazeka" , "Ukucindezeleka " , "Ukucindezeleka ", noma izinkinga zokunaka, futhi mhlawumbe basebenzise imisebenzi emincane, ukudweba, noma imibuzo ukuze bathole impendulo. Konke lokhu kwenzelwa ukuthola inkinga eqondile.

Ngemva kokuqonda inkinga eqondile, umelaphi uzokutshela ukuthi ungabasiza kanjani nokuthi hlobo luni lwendlela yokwelapha okufanele uyisebenzise.

Ngokuvamile, ingane icelwa ukuba ize kwezinye izikhathi ezimbalwa ukuze ithole usizo eludingayo. Lezi zikhathi yilokho esikubiza ngokuthi "Ukwelashwa" . Ingane kungase kudingeke ukuthi iye kulezi zikhathi "Zokwelashwa" kanye ngesonto, izinyanga eziningana. Kuya ngezidingo zengane kanye nohlobo lwenkinga.

Kwenzekani ngempela ngesikhathi seseshini yokwelapha?

Manje ake sibheke ukuthi kwenzekani ngempela ngesikhathi seseshini ethi "Therapy" , noma uma unodokotela wezokwelapha. Lokhu kufana nendawo lapho ingane ingabelana khona ngalokho okusengqondweni yayo, ifunde izinto ezintsha, futhi iziqonde yona .

Umelaphi ubuza imibuzo, alalele ngokucophelela lokho okushiwo yingane, bese ekhuluma ngaleyo mibuzo. Bafundisa ingane ngendlela eqondakalayo nefanele iminyaka yayo, futhi bayayenza imisebenzi eyahlukahlukene. Le misebenzi ingafaka ukudweba, ukufaka imibala, ukudlala ngamathoyizi (ukwelapha ngokudlala), ukuxoxa izindaba, ukudlala indima, kanye nokuzivocavoca ngokuphefumula . Konke lokhu kuzama ukufundisa ingane ukuqonda imizwa yayo, ukuyilawula, ukubhekana nezinkinga kahle, nokuthuthukisa amakhono okuxhumana.

Ngokufanayo, abelaphi bafundisa abazali indlela yokusiza ingane yabo. Bayabeluleka ngendlela yokusebenza nengane yabo ekhaya nokuthi bayisekele kanjani ingane yabo. Ngoba ukwesekwa kwabazali kubalulekile enhlalakahleni yengqondo yengane. Ngezinye izikhathi abazali bangaba nezikhathi ezihlukene.

Khumbula, ukwelashwa akusona isijeziso, futhi akuyona into eyenziwa yingane ngoba "imbi." Kuwusizo oluwusizo olusiza ingane ukuba ibhekane nezinselele zokuphila kwayo, ijabule , futhi isebenzise amakhono ayo ngokugcwele.

Ukuya ekwelashweni ngale ndlela kunikeza izingane amandla amaningi okubhekana kangcono nezinkinga zazo, zizizwe zingcono, futhi zenze kangcono emisebenzini yazo yansuku zonke , emsebenzini wezemfundo, kanye nobudlelwano bezenhlalo .

Izinto ongazenza njengomzali

Manje ake sixoxe ngalokho ongakwenza njengomzali uma ingane yakho izobona udokotela wezokwelapha. Ukusekela kwakho kubaluleke kakhulu enganeni yakho kulolu hambo.

• Khuluma ngokukhululekile nangendlela eyakhayo: Ukwelashwa nengane yakhoKhuluma ngakho. Kwenze kucace ukuthi akuyona into okufanele ube namahloni ngayo, kodwa into okufanele ube namandla ngayo, into okufanele uthole usizo ngayo. Nika ingane yakho umuzwa wokuthi 'sizoyixazulula ndawonye le nto', 'lokhu kuzokwenza uzizwe ungcono'.
• Themba futhi usebenzisane nomelaphi: Lalela lokho okushiwo umelaphi bese ulandela iseluleko sakhe. Bangochwepheshe kulo mkhakha. Khuluma nabo ngezinkinga zakho kanye nokwesaba kwakho.
• Bekezela: Kungathatha isikhathi ukubona ushintsho. Akuzona zonke izinto ezizokwenzeka ngobusuku obubodwa. Nika ingane yakho isikhathi esisidingayo. Mncome futhi umkhuthaze ngisho nangentuthuko encane.
• Sekela ingane yakho: Khuluma kahle ngokubamba iqhaza kwengane yakho ezifundweni zokwelapha . Zithathe ngesikhathi, futhi usize ingane yakho yenze izinto nemisebenzi efundiswa yi-therapist ekhaya.
• Cabanga nangempilo yakho yengqondo: Abazali bangazizwa becindezelekile, bedabukile, futhi bekhathazekile lapho bebhekene nenkinga yengane. Cabanga nangokuthula kwakho kwengqondo. Thola usizo uma uludinga. Ungasiza ingane yakho kuphela uma uphilile.
• Hlonipha imfihlo: Ezinye zezinto umelaphi azixoxa nengane ziyimfihlo. Lokhu kubalulekile ukuze ingane ikwethembe. Uma umelaphi efunda okuthile okungalimaza ingane, uzokwazisa nakanjani.

Njengoba nje siyisa ingane kudokotela uma inomkhuhlane, siya nakudokotela wezifo zengqondo uma sinenkinga yempilo yengqondo. Lokhu kuzosiza ingane ukuthi izizwe ingcono futhi izizwa ingcono.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyikhumbule (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Kulungile, ngakho-ke nazi ezinye zezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu okudingeka uzikhumbule kulokho esikhulume ngakho:

• Kujwayelekile ukuthi ingane ibe nenkinga yempilo yengqondo. Akuyona iphutha lengane noma elakho. Kungaba nezizathu eziningi zalokho.
• Ukuya kudokotela wezokwelapha akulona ihlazo noma ubuthakathaka. Kufana nokuya kudokotela ngenxa yokugula. Kunika ingane usizo namandla.
• "(Ukwelashwa)" inqubo efundisa futhi iqondise ingane ukuthi ibhekane ngempumelelo nemizwa yayo, izinkinga, kanye nezinselele zokuphila. Kuyitshalomali elikhulu ekusaseni lengane.
• Ukusekela kwabazali, uthando, ukuqonda, kanye nokubekezela kubaluleke kakhulu enganeni kulolu hambo. Ngaphandle kokubamba kwakho iqhaza, kuzoba nzima ukwenza lokhu kuphumelele.
• Ungalokothi ungayinaki inkinga, ungalokothi ucabange ukuthi, "Izophela nje." Ukusiza ingane isencane kungasiza ekuvimbeleni izinkinga ezinkulu futhi kusize ingane yakho iphile impilo ejabulisayo necacile.

Uma ucabanga ukuthi ingane yakho idinga lolu hlobo losizo, sicela ungangabazi ukubona udokotela wezifo zengqondo oqeqeshiwe, udokotela wezifo zengqondo, noma uchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo . Kuyinto engcono kakhulu ongayenzela ingane yakho.

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