Ngezinye izikhathi, ngisho noma sizungezwe abantu abaningi futhi sihlala nomndeni omkhulu, sisazizwa sinesizungu kakhulu, akunjalo? Noma lapho sithuthela edolobheni elisha ngenxa yomsebenzi, noma lapho silahlekelwa othandekayo, isizungu nesizungu esizizwayo... Lokhu akuyona nje umuzwa wokudabuka. Lesi sizungu sijule kakhulu kunalokho esikucabangayo, futhi sithinta ngisho nempilo yethu engokomzimba. Ngakho ake sixoxe ngalokhu namuhla.
Iyini ngempela le nto yokuba nesizungu?
Okokuqala, sidinga ukuqonda lokhu. Ukuba wedwa nokuzizwa unesizungu kuyizinto ezimbili ezahlukene. Ungase ufune ukuba wedwa ukuze ufunde incwadi noma ubukele i-movie wedwa. Akukho lutho olungalungile ngalokho. Kodwa isizungu sihlukile.
Kalula nje, isizungu umuzwa wokungaxhumani nabanye. Zicabange usephathini lasehhovisi, uzungezwe abantu, wonke umuntu uyahleka futhi uyakhuluma, kodwa uzizwa uwedwa. Uzizwa sengathi akekho ongabelana naye imizwa yakho, akekho okuqonda ngempela. Yilokho isizungu esiyikho.
"Nguwe onqumayo ukuthi isizungu sisho ukuthini kuwe," kusho uLouise Hockley, usosayensi omkhulu ocwaningayo eNyuvesi yaseChicago. "Akekho omunye ongakutshela ukuthi, 'Awukwazi ukuba nesizungu.'"
Lokho kusho ukuthi lokhu kuyimizwa yomuntu siqu kakhulu. Kuvamile ukuzizwa ngale ndlela uma uhlukana nomuntu obekade unaye iminyaka eminingi, noma uma uthuthela edolobheni elisha. Kodwa ungazizwa lo mzwangedwa ngisho nangaphandle kwezinguquko ezinkulu.
Isizungu siyithinta kanjani imizimba yethu?
Lokhu kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu. Isizungu asigcini nje ngokuba buhlungu emphefumulweni, kodwa futhi sithinta ngqo impilo yethu engokwenyama. Eqinisweni, isizungu siyisici esiyingozi sezifo eziningana.
Ucwaningo luthole ukuthi isizungu sinciphisa ikhono lemizimba yethu lokubhekana nokucindezeleka kwansuku zonke. Siphinde sinciphise ikhono lomzimba lokulawula ukuvuvukala . Lokhu kungaholela ezinkingeni ezahlukene zempilo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
| Umthelela | Izinkinga zempilo ezingaba khona |
|---|---|
| Ukushaya kwegazi | Ingozi eyengeziwe yomfutho wegazi ophakeme. |
| Ukulala | Izinkinga zokulala ezifana nokungalali kahle kanye nekhwalithi yokulala engeyinhle. |
| Ukuvuvukala | Ukuvuvukala okwandisiwe emzimbeni kwandisa ingozi yokuthola izimo ezifana ne -atherosclerosis , i-rheumatoid arthritis , kanye ne -tendinitis . |
| Isimiso somzimba sokuzivikela | Ingozi eyengeziwe yezifo ezivame ukwenzeka ngenxa yobuthakathaka besimiso somzimba sokuzivikela. |
Nakuba eziningi zalezi zifo zivela eminyakeni ephakathi, umonakalo eziwubangela emzimbeni uqala kusenesikhathi. Okwenzekayo ukuthi, kanye nokucindezeleka okubangelwa isizungu, amakhemikhali athile akhishwa yimizimba yethu (amakhemikhali okucindezeleka) kancane kancane aqala ukulimaza imithambo yegazi yethu.
Kodwa futhi ngifuna ukusho lokhu. Kuvamile ukuzizwa unesizungu ngezinye izikhathi empilweni. Asikho isidingo sokukwesaba. Kufana nokuthi sinxanela amanzi. Ukomela amanzi kusitshela ukuthi umzimba wethu udinga amanzi. Ngokufanayo, umuzwa wokuba nesizungu usikhumbuze ukuthi sidinga ukuxhumana nabantu, ukuba nabantu.
Kulungile, pho uphuma kanjani kulesi sizungu?
Nakuba kungekho ikhambi lesizungu, kunezinto esingazenza ukuze silawule umuzwa futhi siwunqobe. Cabanga ngesizungu njengento engapheli, kodwa into esishukumisela ukuba sithathe isinyathelo.
1. Phuma uyozihlanganisa nabantu.
Akudingeki ube umngane omkhulu nabantu abakuzungezile. Qala ngezinto ezincane.
- Mamatheka uma ubona omunye womakhelwane bakho.
- Uma uya esitolo ekuseni , khuluma nomgcini wemali.
- Hambahambahamba endaweni yakini. Uzohlangana nabantu abasha.
Ngisho nokuxhumana okuncane okufana nalokhu kuzokwenza umehluko omkhulu. Kancane kancane, uzobona ukuthi uyingxenye yalo mphakathi.
2. Qaphela lapho ukhetha abangane.
Uma sizizwa sinesizungu, singase sicabange, "O, ngifisa sengathi benginomuntu engingakhuluma naye." Kodwa ngezikhathi ezinjengalezi, kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi siphuthume empilweni futhi silethe abantu abangasifanele futhi abasibangela izinkinga . Ngakho-ke,
- Iba nesineke.
- Zama ukuthola umngane omuhle ofanelana nawe ngempela, ohlonipha imibono yakho, futhi ongadlali kakhulu.
3. Cabanga ngendlela eyakhayo.
Abantu abahlushwa isizungu bavame ukucabanga kabi. Bavame ukucabanga izinto ezinjengokuthi, "Akekho ongithandayo," "Uma ngikhuluma nabo, bazongilahla." Uma ucabanga kanje, cishe uzokwenza lokho ngempela.
Kunezindlela zokwelapha ezingasiza ekushintsheni lezi zindlela zokucabanga. Isibonelo, i-Social Cognitive Therapy uhlobo lokwelulekwa olungasiza kakhulu kulezi zimo. Lusisiza ukuthi sibone futhi sishintshe imicabango emibi esinayo ngendlela abanye abasibheka ngayo.
Uma ulwa nale micabango, ungahlupheki wedwa. Khuluma nodokotela womndeni wakho ngakho. Angakunikeza isiqondiso osidingayo.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Isizungu asiyona nje ubuhlungu bengqondo, kodwa singaba imbangela yezifo eziningi zomzimba, njengomfutho wegazi ophakeme kanye nokungalali kahle.
- Ukuba wedwa nokuzizwa unesizungu kuyizinto ezimbili ezahlukene. Ungazizwa unesizungu ngisho noma uzungezwe abantu abaningi.
- Ungesabi ukuzizwa unesizungu. Kufana nokoma, uphawu lomzimba wakho lokuthi udinga ukuxhumana nabantu.
- Qala ngezinto ezincane. Izinto ezinjengokumomotheka kumakhelwane noma ukuqala ingxoxo encane zingakusiza ukunqoba isizungu.
- Uma uzizwa sengathi imicabango yakho inzima ohlangothini olubi, okusho ukuthi uvame ukucabanga izinto ezinjengokuthi 'akekho ongithandayo,' khuluma nodokotela ngakho bese ucela iseluleko uma kudingeka.
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