Xav txog seb koj tus ntxhais mam li pib hnav cov pob ntseg zoo nkauj thiab cov hlua tes uas koj yeej tsis tau yuav rau nws. Los yog koj tus tub muaj cov CDs thiab cov khoom siv hluav taws xob tshiab hauv nws chav uas koj tsis paub txog. Qhov phem dua, muaj ib hnub tub ceev xwm hu rau koj thiab hais tias koj tus menyuam raug ntes thaum nyiag khoom hauv khw. Qhov no yog ib yam dab tsi uas tsis muaj niam txiv xav ntsib. Tab sis qhov no puas txhais tau tias koj tus menyuam yuav dhau los ua neeg ua txhaum cai? Tej zaum, tab sis tej zaum tsis yog.
Qhov no yeej tshwm sim ntau dua li koj xav. Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog cov ntxhais thiab cov tub hluas uas muaj hnub nyoog 12, 13, 14 xyoos, thiab tej zaum tseem hluas dua, tab tom koom nrog rau hauv cov yam no. Ua ib tug kws kho mob, thaum kuv hnov ib tug menyuam yaus raug ntes nyiag khoom hauv khw, kuv tsis xav tam sim ntawd, 'Auj, qhov no yog qhov mob hlwb loj tshaj plaws.' Tab sis, nws yuav yog.
Vim li cas cov menyuam yaus thiaj li raug ntxias kom ua tej yam zoo li no?
Yog koj nug ntau tus menyuam uas raug ntes li no, "Ua cas koj thiaj ua li ntawd?" lawv cov lus teb yuav yog, "Kuv tsis paub." Tab sis yeej muaj ntau yam ua rau qhov no. Cia peb saib cov laj thawj tseem ceeb.
- Kev ntshaw tej yam zoo nkauj: Lub siab xav tau tej yam uas ib tug neeg tsis muaj peev xwm them taus lossis tsis muaj peev xwm them taus hauv tsev (piv txwv li, cov khaub ncaws zam tshiab, cov tshuaj pleev ib ce, cov khoom siv xov tooj).
- Kev Nyuaj Siab Los Ntawm Cov Phooj Ywg: Ua ib yam dab tsi vim cov phooj ywg ua rau ib qho "kev sib tw". Cov menyuam yaus kuj ua cov no vim yog cov phooj ywg hais tias "Yog tias koj ua tau, nyiag nws thiab ua dua." Thaum muaj hnub nyoog li no, kev nyuaj siab los ntawm cov phooj ywg muaj zog heev.
- Ua si lom zem los yog ua kom zoo siab: Muaj cov menyuam yaus ua qhov no yam tsis muaj laj thawj, kom paub seb lawv puas yuav raug ntes lossis tsis raug, lossis ua kom zoo siab.
- Qhia koj lub hwj chim: Thaum cov menyuam loj hlob tuaj , lawv xav qhia lawv lub hwj chim thiab kev ywj pheej. Lawv xav tias lawv muaj hwj chim los ntawm kev ua qee yam "tsis raug" lossis "phem."
- Tej teeb meem kev puas siab puas ntsws: Qee zaum qhov no tsis yog kev lom zem xwb. Cov menyuam yaus kuj tuaj yeem ua yeeb yam vim muaj teeb meem hauv tsev, kev ntxhov siab, kev xav tias raug tsis quav ntsej, qias neeg, lossis xav tias tsis muaj nqis . Qhov no tuaj yeem yog qhov quaj thov kev pab.
Qhov tseem ceeb yog, muaj qhov sib txawv loj ntawm tus menyuam hnub nyoog 12-13 xyoos ua qhov no thiab tus menyuam hnub nyoog 15-16 xyoos txuas ntxiv ua qhov ntawd. Thaum lawv loj hlob tuaj, cov menyuam kawm xav txog qhov tshwm sim ntawm lawv qhov kev ua.
Txawm li cas los xij, yog tias tus cwj pwm no txuas ntxiv mus tom qab hnub nyoog 15 xyoos, nws yuav yog teeb meem nrog ' Kev Mob Hlwb' .Los yog nws yuav yog ib qho tsos mob ntawm tus mob zoo li kleptomania, uas yog ib qho mob hlwb uas kev nyiag khoom tsis tuaj yeem tswj tau.
Ua ib tug niam txiv, koj yuav tsum ua li cas?
Txawm hais tias qhov no feem ntau tshwm sim thaum tseem hluas los xij, nws tsis yog ib yam dab tsi uas yuav tsum tsis txhob saib yooj yim. Yog tias koj xav tias lossis muaj pov thawj tias koj tus menyuam tab tom nyiag khoom, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum tham nrog lawv txog qhov no tiag tiag. Nov yog qee cov kauj ruam uas koj tuaj yeem ua tau.
| Kev nqis tes ua | Yuav ua li cas? |
|---|---|
| 1. Hais lus kom maj mam. | Kev cem lossis ntaus koj tus menyuam yuav tsis pab. Ua ntej, ua siab ntev thiab tham nrog koj tus menyuam ib leeg xwb. Nug nws nrog kev hlub, "Vim li cas koj tus tub/ntxhais thiaj ua li ntawd?" Mloog seb nws hais li cas. |
| 2. Piav qhia txog qhov tshwm sim | Piav qhia seb qhov no loj npaum li cas. "Qhia rau nws tias tej yam phem dua li kev rau txim hauv tsev npaum li cas. Piav qhia seb yog tub ceev xwm ntes nws, yog tias nws yuav tsum mus rau tsev hais plaub rau cov menyuam yaus, nws yuav ua rau nws lub neej yav tom ntej puas tsuaj." |
| 3. Pab kho qhov yuam kev | Txhawb koj tus menyuam kom xa cov khoom uas raug nyiag rov qab mus rau lub khw. Mus nrog nws. Mus thov txim rau tus tswv khw. Yog tias nws yog thawj zaug, lawv yuav zam txim rau koj yam tsis tau foob. Qhov no yuav yog ib zaj lus qhia zoo rau tus menyuam. |
| 4. Qhia txog tej yam txaus ntshai ntawm lub ntiaj teb sab nraum tsev neeg | Muab cov lus no rau tus menyuam: "Tam sim no koj tab tom ntsib teeb meem sab nraum lub voj voog tiv thaiv ntawm tsev neeg. Lub sijhawm zoo li no, peb tsis tuaj yeem tiv thaiv koj txhua lub sijhawm. Koj tab tom muab koj tus kheej tso rau hauv kev pheej hmoo." Muaj ntau tus menyuam yaus hnov cov lus no muaj zog heev. |
Thaum twg koj yuav tsum nrhiav kev pab los ntawm cov kws tshaj lij?
Feem ntau, qhov kev ntshai thiab kev txaj muag uas los ntawm kev raug ntes ib zaug yog ib zaj lus qhia zoo rau tus menyuam. Txawm li cas los xij, yog tias tus cwj pwm no txuas ntxiv mus , lossis yog tias nws qhia lwm yam tsos mob txaus ntshai ntxiv rau qhov no, koj yuav tsum nrhiav kev pab los ntawm cov kws tshaj lij.
Muaj lwm yam ntxwv dab tsi ntxiv?
- Yog koj ua tsis taus pa thiab ua phem ntau dua li yav dhau los.
- Yog tias cov haujlwm hauv tsev kawm ntawv raug cuam tshuam tag nrho thiab cov qib tau poob qis.
- Yog tias muaj kev xav tias siv tshuaj yeeb los yog cawv .
- Yog tias koj chim siab rau txhua yam thiab qhia cov tsos mob ntawm kev nyuaj siab .
Yog tias muaj teeb meem zoo li no, mus ntsib koj tus kws kho mob hauv tsev neeg (kws kho mob) thiab tham txog qhov no. Nws yuav pab koj soj ntsuam tus menyuam tus mob kom meej thiab xa koj mus rau kws kho mob hlwb lossis kws pab tswv yim yog tias tsim nyog.
Nco ntsoov tias, ib tug me nyuam uas nyiag khoom tsis tau txhais hais tias nws yog ib tug "me nyuam phem." Nws tuaj yeem yog ib qho kev qhia tawm sab nraud ntawm qhov teeb meem lossis kev nyuaj siab uas nyob tob hauv nws. Yog li ntawd, nws yog peb lub luag haujlwm ua niam txiv kom nkag siab txog nws thiab coj nws mus rau txoj kev zoo.
Cov Lus Qhia Txog Kev Coj Mus Tsev
- Kev nyiag khoom hauv khw muag khoom feem ntau tshwm sim ntau dua li koj xav thaum koj tseem hluas, tab sis yuav tsum tsis txhob xav tias qhov no yog qhov yooj yim.
- Qhov ua rau qhov no yuav yog ib yam dab tsi yooj yim xws li kev cuam tshuam ntawm cov phooj ywg lossis kev lom zem, lossis nws yuav yog qhov teeb meem tob dua xws li kev ntxhov siab lossis kev nyuaj siab.
- Es tsis txhob rau txim rau koj tus menyuam, nrog nws tham kom nws lub siab tus thiab piav qhia seb qhov ua yuam kev ntawd loj npaum li cas thiab yuav muaj li cas.
- Pab koj tus menyuam kho qhov yuam kev (piv txwv li, xa rov qab cov khoom). Qhov no yuav yog ib zaj lus qhia zoo heev.
- Yog tias tus cwj pwm no tseem muaj lossis qhia lwm yam tsos mob uas ua rau muaj teeb meem (kev ua phem, tsis mus kawm ntawv), nrhiav kev qhia los ntawm koj tus kws kho mob lossis kws kho mob sai li sai tau.
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