Xa sicinga nge-ADHD ( Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder ), uninzi lwethu lucinga ngokuziphatha kakubi kwabantwana abancinci, ukungakwazi kwabo ukuhlala phantsi, okanye ubunzima babo bokunikel’ ingqalelo kumsebenzi wesikolo. Kodwa ubusazi na ukuba i-ADHD inokuba nefuthe elikhulu kulwalamano lomntu omdala, ingakumbi ubomi babo besondo? Nangona le yingongoma enzima ukuthetha ngayo, kubalulekile ukuba wena neqabane lakho niyazi ngale nto. Masithethe ngayo ngokukhululekileyo namhlanje.
Yintoni edibanisa i-ADHD neengxaki zesondo?
Uphando lubonisa ukuba malunga nama-40% abafazi namadoda ane-ADHD bafumana uhlobo oluthile lokungasebenzi kakuhle ngokwesondo. Zininzi izizathu ezinokubangela oku. Iimpawu eziphambili ze-ADHD nazo zinegalelo koku.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba, oku akulona ityala lakho. Yinxalenye yesi sifo ngokwaso. Kwaye, zininzi izinto onokuzenza ukuze uhlangabezane naso.
Makhe sijonge ukuba zeziphi iingxaki eziqhelekileyo ezinokubangela i-ADHD kubomi besondo.
| Ingxaki enokwenzeka kubomi besondo | Kwenzeka njani oko? Kulula. |
|---|---|
| Ukulahlekelwa kukugxila ngexesha lomsebenzi wesondo | Uphawu oluphambili lwe-ADHD kubunzima bokugcina ingqalelo. Ngoko ke, ngexesha lesondo, ukugona, okanye ukudlala kwangaphambili, ingqondo yakho ingabhadula ngequbuliso iye kwezinye izinto (umz., emsebenzini eofisini, into ekufuneka uyenze ngomso). Oku kunokwenza iqabane lakho lizive ngathi awukhathali ngalo okanye awunamdla. Ngamanye amaxesha, oku kulahlekelwa yingqalelo kunokwenza kube nzima ukufikelela kwi-orgasm. |
| Ukwanda okanye ukuncipha ngequbuliso komnqweno wesondo (i-libido) | Abanye abantu abane-ADHD banokuba nomdla wokwenza isondo ophezulu. Oku kubonakala ngokucinga ngesondo ngalo lonke ixesha nokuzama ukwenza isondo ngalo lonke ixesha. Kwakhona, amanye amayeza e-ADHD, ingakumbi lawo asetyenziselwa ukudakumba, anokunciphisa umdla wokwenza isondo. |
| Utshintsho olukhawulezileyo kwiimvakalelo nakwiminqweno | Abantu abane-ADHD badla ngokuba notshintsho kwimo yengqondo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuchukumisa okuqhelekileyo kumntu one-ADHD kunokuba nzima kumntu one-ADHD. Ngenxa yoko, into oyithandayo ngolunye usuku isenokungabi yeyona uyithandayo ngolunye usuku. Oko unokukonwabela ukuguqana nawe namhlanje kunokuvakala ngathi yingxaki ngosuku olulandelayo. Oku kunokuba nzima ukuba iqabane lakho likuqonde. |
| Ukukhuthazwa kokuziphatha ngokwesondo okuyingozi | Abantu abane-ADHD banotshintsho kumanqanaba eekhemikhali ezibizwa ngokuba zii-neurotransmitters ebuchotsheni babo. Ezi ziikhemikhali ezilawula iimvakalelo zethu kunye nezenzo zethu. Amanqanaba aphantsi ezi khemikhali anokubangela ukuziphatha okungxamisekileyo. Oku kunokwenza abanye abantu bafikelele ekuziphatheni okuyingozi, njengokulala ngesondo okungakhuselekanga (umz., ukungasebenzisi ikhondom). |
| Ukuphepha isondo ngenxa yomsindo kunye nesizungu | I-ADHD inokubangela iimvakalelo zoxinzelelo, umsindo, kunye nokuba wedwa, nto leyo enokudinisa emzimbeni nasengqondweni. Oku kunokubangela ukuba ulahlekelwe ngumdla ngokupheleleyo kwisondo. Kwakhona, izinto ezinjengokuziphazamisa ngexesha lencoko okanye ukungamameli ngexesha lempikiswano zingabangela iingxaki zobudlelwane, nto leyo enokuchaphazela nobomi bakho besondo. |
Kulungile, ngoko ke wenza ntoni ngale nto?
Yonke le mibuzo isenokubonakala inzima. Kodwa iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba unokukwazi ukujongana nezi ngxaki ngempumelelo ngokulawula iimpawu zakho ze-ADHD. Nazi ezinye zezinto onokuzenza.
1. Sela amayeza kanye njengoko ugqirha ewayalele.
Amayeza amaninzi e-ADHD awayonakalisi inkanuko yakho yesondo. Enyanisweni, enza okwahlukileyo koko. Aphucula ixesha lakho lokunikel’ ingqalelo.Oku kuya kukunceda ukonwabele isondo ngakumbi. Kunokukunceda nokulawula ukuziphatha okubi ngokwesondo. Abanye abantu bathi ukuthatha amayeza ngaphambi nje kwesondo kwenza kube lula ukugxila. Thetha nogqirha wakho ngale nto.
2. Ukuba unemibuzo malunga namayeza akho, thetha nogqirha wakho.
Ukuba uneengxaki zesondo kwaye ucinga ukuba unobangela liyeza olisebenzisayo, qiniseka ukuba uxelela ugqirha wakho. Ungaze uyeke ukuthatha amayeza akho okanye utshintshe umthamo ngokwakho. Ugqirha wakho unokucebisa ukuba utshintshele kwelinye iyeza okanye acebise isisombululo esahlukileyo.
3. Ukuzilolonga
Ukuhlala usebenza, oko kuthetha ukuzilolonga imihla ngemihla, akupheleli nje ekuphuculeni ukugxila kwakho, kodwa kukwanceda ekwandiseni amanqanaba ee-neurotransmitters engqondweni esithethe ngazo ngaphambili. Oku akupheleli nje ekukuncedeni ukonwabela ubomi bakho besondo, kodwa kukwanceda ekunciphiseni iindlela zokuziphatha ezinobungozi.
4. Yazisa iqabane lakho.
Le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Thetha neqabane lakho ngale nto ngokukhululekileyo. Cacisa ukuba ukuba uyaphazamiseka ngexesha lesondo, akungenxa yokuba ukruqukile yilo, kodwa kungenxa yokuba luphawu lwe-ADHD. Xa ninolu lwazi phakathi kwenu, iingxaki ezininzi zinokusonjululwa.
5. Fumana i-Talk Therapy
Uphando lubonise ukuba unyango lokuthetha, okanye unyango lwengqondo , lunokunceda ukunciphisa impembelelo ye-ADHD kubomi bakho besondo. Ingcali yezonyango eqeqeshiweyo inokukunceda ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ikufundise indlela yokunxibelelana ngcono neqabane lakho, ebhedini nangaphandle.
6. Veza iimvakalelo zakho ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo.
Thetha ngqo ngendlela ofuna ukuchukunyiswa ngayo nendlela ovakalelwa ngayo. Ukuthi izinto ezinje, "Ndingathanda ukuchukunyiswa ngaloo ndlela kunale," kunokunceda ukuthintela ukungaqondani kunye neengxabano. Kwakhona, ukuba awukakulungeli ukulala ngesondo ngelo xesha, chaza oko ngendlela yothando.
7. Nciphisa iziphazamiso
Ukuba udla ngokuphazamiseka lula, yiba nesondo kwindawo engenaziphazamiso zingako. Umzekelo, cima izibane egumbini kwaye ucime iTV kunye nefowuni. Oku kuya kukunceda ugxile kwiqabane lakho ngelo xesha.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- I-ADHD yimeko yokwenyani yezonyango enokuchaphazela ubomi bakho besondo. Asikuko ityala lakho, kwaye asikuko neleqabane lakho.
- Kubalulekile ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo nangokunyanisekileyo ngale nto neqabane lakho. Ukujongana nale nto kunye kunokwenza ubudlelwane benu buqine.
- Ukuba unemibuzo malunga namayeza akho, ungaze uyeke ukuwasela wedwa. Qiniseka ukuba uthetha nogqirha wakho ukuze akunike iingcebiso.
- Unokufumana isiqabu esikhulu ngokuzilolonga, unyango, kunye nokutshintsha indlela yokuphila elula.
- Awuwedwa. Baninzi abantu abajongene neengxaki ezinjalo. Musa ukoyika ukucela uncedo.
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