Sithatha izigqibo ebomini bethu. Ezinye zazo zilula kakhulu. Ukwenza izigqibo ezifana nokuba siza kunxiba ntoni namhlanje okanye ukuba siza kuthenga bhisikithi evenkileni akunzima kangako. Kodwa, isigqibo esithi "Ngaba kufuneka sibe nomntwana ngoku?" sinzulu kakhulu, sikhulu kakhulu, akunjalo? Olu luxanduva olukhulu abantu ababini ekufuneka baluthathe kunye. Akulunganga ukungxama ukwenza esi sigqibo. Yiyo loo nto ndibhala eli nqaku ukuze ndikuncede ufumane ukuba ukulungele ngokwenene na olu hambo lukhulu.
"Xa mna nomyeni wam saqala ukucinga ngokuba nomntwana, sasiseColombo. Abazali bethu bobabini babehlala elalini. Ndandizibuza ukuba kuya kuba kulungele na ukuba nomntwana kude kangaka nabo. Ndiyakuthanda nokuhamba kakhulu ndize ndiphume nabahlobo. Ndandisoyika nokuba xa umntwana efika, loo ndlela yokuphila iya kulahleka. Ingxaki enkulu yayiyimali. Ngaba siya kukwazi na ukuzihlawulela ezi ndleko?" Lo ngumbuzo obuzwa zizibini eziselula ezininzi kwilizwe lethu. Kukho izibini ebezisoloko zicinga ngale nto kangangeenyanga, mhlawumbi iminyaka, zinemibuzo emininzi efana nale. Ngoko ke wazi njani ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ukulungele ngoku? Ukuba nobabini ningaphendula "ewe" kwimibuzo emine engezantsi, nisenokuba nikulungele ngaphezu kokuba nicinga.
1. Ingaba ubudlelwane bakho buqinile?
Ukuba namandla akuthethi ukuba nolwalamano olugqibeleleyo, olungenazo iingxaki . Akukho budlelwane bunjalo. Kodwa, ngaba nobabini ninganxibelelana kakuhle nize nisombulule iingxaki? Ngaba niyahloniphana? Ngaba niyabelana ngemisebenzi yasekhaya kunye neembopheleleko? Ezi zizinto ezibalulekileyo.
Usana alusosisombululo kwiingxaki eziphakathi kwabantu ababini, endaweni yoko, luyintsikelelo eqinisa ubudlelwane obuqinileyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha izibini zineengxaki ezincinci malunga nemali, isondo, kunye nemiba yokukhulisa abantwana. Kubalulekile ukusombulula le micimbi kangangoko kunokwenzeka ngaphambi kokuba nomntwana. Kuba le micimbi incinci inokuba nkulu ngakumbi ngenxa yoxinzelelo kunye nokuxakeka okuza nomntwana. Ngoko ke, qala ngokuqinisa isiseko sobudlelwane bakho. Ukuba uceba ukuba nomntwana wedwa, cinga ngokuba nenkxaso enamandla yosapho okanye abahlobo abanokukunceda.
2. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba wenze isigqibo sobomi obungaphaya komsebenzi wakho?
Nangona uxanduva lukatata lusanda emva kokuzalwa komntwana, imingeni umama ajongene nayo ingaphezulu nangakumbi. Oku kuquka ukudinwa emzimbeni kunye nokungonwabi kokukhulelwa, kunye noxinzelelo lwengqondo oluza nesigqibo sokuba abuyele emsebenzini okanye angabuyeli na emva kokuba nomntwana. Oomama abaninzi baziva benetyala, bezibuza, "Ngaba ndiza kuba ndingamlungelanga umntwana wam ukuba ndibuyela emsebenzini?"
Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuba ukhulelweNobabini kufuneka nihlale phantsi kunye nithethe ngale nto.
- Ngaba kukho umntu oyeka umsebenzi wakhe emva kokuba nomntwana ?
- Okanye nobabini niya emsebenzini?
- Ukuba kunjalo, ngubani oza kunyamekela umntwana? (Ngaba baza kufumana uncedo kubazali babo? Okanye baza kuqesha umntu? Ngaba baza kumfaka kwikhaya lokugcina abantwana?)
Ezi zizigqibo ezibucayi kakhulu, ngoko ke ukucwangcisa kwangaphambili kunokukusindisa kuxinzelelo olukhulu kamva.
3. Ngaba uyazi ngekhefu lokubeleka/lokuba ngutata emsebenzini wakho?
Ayizizo zonke imibutho eSri Lanka ezinemigaqo-nkqubo efanayo yekhefu lokubeleka/lokuba nguyise. Imithetho karhulumente kunye neyabucala yahlukile. Kukwakho umahluko phakathi kwemibutho ekwicandelo elinye labucala. Ke ngoko, nobabini kufuneka nihlole isebe le-HR lemibutho yenu ukuze nifumane ulwazi oluthe kratya malunga noku.
- Zingaphi iintsuku zekhefu lokubeleka ozifumanayo? (zihlawulwe/zingahlawulwanga)
- Zingaphi iintsuku zekhefu lobuzali elifunyanwa liqabane lakho?
- Ukuba eli xesha leeholide alanelanga, ungalifaka kwikhefu lakho lonyaka?
- Ngaba zikho ezinye iindlela zeholide zexesha elifutshane?
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukukwazi oku kwangaphambili nokwenza isicwangciso, njengokugcina imali ethile ukuze ujongane nayo ukuba kuyimfuneko. Iinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala emva kokuba nomntwana zixabiseke kakhulu. Izicwangciso ezinjalo ziya kukunceda uchithe elo xesha uzolile kwaye wonwabile nomntwana wakho.
4. Ingaba ukulungele ngokwezimali?
Ungoyiki ukubuza lo mbuzo. "Ukulungela imali" akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ube nendlu enemigangatho emibini, iimoto ezimbini, kwaye onke amakhadi akho etyala ahlawulwe. Ukuba ulinda de kwenzeke oko, akusayi kufuneka ube nomntwana.
Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka ukwazi ukonga imali eyaneleyo kwingeniso yakho yenyanga ukuze uhlangabezane neemfuno ezisisiseko zomntwana. Ngamafutshane, kufuneka ube nombono ocacileyo weendleko zemihla ngemihla zomntwana (amanapkeni, ifomyula, impahla), iindleko zonyango, kunye neendleko zokunyamekela umntwana.
| Uhlobo lweendleko | Izinto omele uzicinge |
|---|---|
| Iindleko zexesha elinye (Iindleko zexesha elinye) | Iindleko ezisisiseko ezifana nombhede womntwana, impahla, izixhobo zokuhlamba, kunye ne-stroller. |
| Iindleko zenyanga (Iindleko zeNyanga) | Iinabukeni, ubisi/ukutya, iindleko zikagqirha, amayeza, iintlawulo zomgcini/indawo yomntwana. |
| Iindleko zexesha likaxakeka (Iindleko zeNgxamiseko) | Ukuba nemali encinci oyigcinele izinto ezingalindelekanga, xa kufuneka ulaliswe esibhedlele ngenxa yemeko engxamisekileyo. |
Kuqhelekile ukuba noyike kancinci xa ucinga ngako konke oku. Kodwa khumbula, lo ngumceli mngeni ojongene nawo wonke umzali emhlabeni. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba nithethe ngawo kunye kwaye nisebenzisane ukuze nifumane icebo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukuba nomntwana sisigqibo somntu ngamnye. Musa ukwenza esi sigqibo ngokusekelwe kwinto ethethwa ngabanye abantu okanye ngenxa yoxinzelelo loluntu. Yenza esi sigqibo xa sivakala sifanelekile kuni nobabini.
- Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe uxanduva lomntwana, yomeleza ubudlelwane bakho. Mamelanani nize niqondane.
- Thetha ngokukhululekileyo ngomsebenzi, indlela yokuphila, kunye nemali. Yabelana ngamathemba kunye noloyiko.
- Akufuneki yonke into igqibelele ngokupheleleyo, kodwa ngesicwangciso esihle kunye nenkxaso eqinileyo omnye komnye, unokujongana nayo nayiphi na ingxaki.
- Ukuba usenamathandabuzo okanye imibuzo malunga noku, thetha nelungu losapho olithembileyo, umhlobo, okanye ugqirha wakho.
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