Ngaba uhlala uziva udiniwe kwaye uphelelwe ngamandla xa ukwindawo yokuzonwabisa okanye xa uthetha nabanye abantu? Ngamanye amaxesha usenokucinga, "Ndinje nje" okanye "Ndahlukile kancinci kwabanye." Usenokuzibeka ityala ngale mahluko kunye nobunzima onabo ekujongeni uluntu. Kodwa ngasemva kwezi zinto, kusenokuba kukho isizathu sezonyango ongacingi ngaso, oko kukuthi, isifo se-autism spectrum disorder , esifunyanwa xa umntu emdala.
Kutheni ndingazange ndikwazi ukuyiqonda le nto ndide ndibe ngumntu omdala?
Abantu abaninzi banokuzibuza, "I-Autism yinto eqatshelwayo ebuntwaneni, akunjalo? Ingaphoswa njani de ibe ngumntu omdala?" Enyanisweni, i-autism ayisiyomeko eneempawu ezininzi. Ifana kakhulu ne-spectrum. Abanye abantu baxilongwa besebancinci kakhulu kuba iimpawu zinzima kangangokuba ziqatshelwa besebancinci. Kodwa kwabanye, ezi mpawu azicacanga kakhulu. Zisebenza kakuhle kwimisebenzi yemihla ngemihla, ekufundeni nasemsebenzini. Ke ngoko, ezi mpawu zinokuphazamaniswa nokuba yinxalenye yobuntu babo okanye esinye isifo, umzekelo, i-attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) okanye i-anxiety.
Khawucinge ngomama owaziyo ukuba abantwana bakhe bane-autism, kodwa akakaze acinge ukuba usenokuba nale meko. Kangangeminyaka, wayecinga ukuba umntwana wakhe uyoyika ukunxibelelana nabantu, okanye ukuba imikhwa efana nokuluma iinzipho kunye nokujika iinwele yayizizinto nje 'ezingaqhelekanga' zakhe. Kodwa ezi zinokuba ziimpawu ze-autism.
Ukuxilongwa akuthethi ukuba ubizwa ngokuba ungumntu onesifo esithile. Kufana nesitshixo sokuziqonda.
Yintoni 'i-Autistic Burnout'?
Oku kudinwa kakhulu nokudinwa yingxaki enkulu abantu abaninzi abafunyaniswe bene-autism abajongana nayo xa bebadala. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi -'autism burnout' .
Ngamafutshane, nantsi into eyenzekayo: Njengomntu one-autism, iimpawu zakho zentlalo kunye nokuziphatha kwakho kwahlukile kancinci. Kodwa ukususela ebuntwaneni, uzama ukufana nabanye abantu. Uzama ngamandla "ukugquma" ubuntu bakho bokwenyani, ukulingana, ukuhleka nokuthetha nabo bonke abantu, kunye nokuzibandakanya kwiihlaya zabo.
Cinga ngokudlala umlinganiswa ongawuthandiyo imini yonke. Xa uphila ngolu hlobo, ufihla ubuwena bakho kangangeminyaka, ingqondo nomzimba wakho uziva uxinezelekile. Yiloo nto siyibiza ngokuba yi- 'autism burnout'.
Yingakho kufuneka uhlale usenza oku:
- Usenokuziva udiniwe kakhulu kwaye ungenawo amandla .
- Iimpawu zokudakumba zinokubonakala.
- Ixhala lisenokukhula.
- Ngamanye amaxesha ungaziva ngathi ukruqukile bubomi.
Abantu abaninzi bafuna iingcebiso zonyango ngenxa yokudinwa. Bafuna uncedo emva kwesiganeko, njengaxa bezibuza, "Kutheni ndingenawo amandla njengabanye abantu?" okanye xa bekhalinyelwa ngumphathi ngokuphoswa yimpawu yokunxibelelana nabantu emsebenzini.
Ziziphi iimpawu ezinokuthi zingabonwa kwi-autism yabantu abadala?
Usenokucinga ukuba ezi mpawu ziyinxalenye yobuntu bakho. Jonga ukuba uqhelene nazo na.
| Uphawu/Ingxaki | Ingcaciso elula |
|---|---|
| Ubunzima kubudlelwane boluntu | Kunzima ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabanye abantu, imbonakalo yobuso, kunye namahlaya. Kunzima ukuqala nokuqhubeka nencoko. Incoko encinci iyadinisa kakhulu. |
| Iingxaki zeemvakalelo | Ingxolo enkulu, izibane ezikhanyayo, ivumba elinamandla, kunye neentlobo ezithile zeempahla zisenokunganyamezeleki. Ivenkile enkulu okanye indawo enabantu abaninzi inokuba yingxaki enkulu kuwe. |
| Ukuziphatha Okuphindaphindwayo (Ukushukumisa) | Izinto ozenzayo ukuze uzole. Umzekelo, ukuluma iinzipho zakho, ukujika iinwele zakho, ukwenza ingxolo ngeminwe yakho, ukushukuma usiya phambili nangasemva. |
| Ukuthanda izinto ezithile | Uthetha nzulu kakhulu kwaye enomdla ngesihloko esithile (umz. oololiwe, imbali, iikhompyutha). Uthanda ukuthetha ngaloo nto kuphela. |
| Ukungafuni ukutshintsha | Ndiyithanda kakhulu imisebenzi yam yemihla ngemihla kunye nezinto endiziqhelileyo. Ukuba kukho utshintsho olukhawulezileyo, ndiziva ndingakhululekanga kwaye ndixhalabile. |
Kutheni abafazi bengaziboni iimpawu?
Kuphela nje kuluntu lwethu, kodwa kwihlabathi liphela, i-autism ayifumaneki kangako kubafazi nakumantombazana. Isizathu esiphambili soku kukuba abafazi bangcono ekufihleni/ekufihleni iimpawu zabo kunamadoda. Bajonga indlela abantu abaziphatha ngayo kuluntu kwaye bazama ukuziphatha ngendlela efanayo. Ngoko ke ngaphandle babonakala beqhelekile. Kodwa ngaphakathi bayabandezeleka. Ngenxa yoku, umfazi unokufuneka alwe nzima ukuze afumane ukuxilongwa ngokufanelekileyo.
Uxilongo kunye nento omawuyenze emva koko?
Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba unale mpawu, eyona nto ilungileyo onokuyenza kukuthetha nogqirha wakho omthembileyo ngayo. Angakuthumela kumcebisi wezempilo yengqondo, njengogqirha wengqondo okanye ingcali yezengqondo.
Oogqirha basebenzisa izikhokelo ze-American Psychiatric Association's DSM-V (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, 5th Edition) ukuze baxilonge i-autism spectrum disorder (ASD). Oku kubandakanya ingxoxo enzulu ngeempawu zakho, iindlela zokuziphatha, kunye namava obuntwana bakho.
Musa ukoyika emva kokuba uxilongiwe. Akusosiphelo sobomi bakho; sisiqalo esitsha.
1. Ziqonde: Uza kufumana impendulo yombuzo othi, "Kutheni ndinje ixesha elide kangaka?" Uza kulahlekelwa ngumsindo wakho kunye nokukhungatheka kwakho, kwaye uza kuba novelwano nokuqonda.
2. Uncedo olusebenzayo: Kukho izinto ezilula onokuzenza ukunceda iimvakalelo zakho. Umzekelo, ukusebenzisa ii-headphones ezicima ingxolo xa usiya kwiindawo ezinabantu abaninzi. Ukunxiba iiglasi zelanga ukuze uzikhusele ekukhanyeni okuqaqambileyo.
3. Chonga amandla: Abantu abane-autism banokusebenzisa ingqalelo yabo enamandla kunye nomdla kwizinto ezithile njengamandla.
4. Ukufumana uluntu: Kule mihla, nge-intanethi, ungafumana abanye abantu abanamava afana nawe. Ukuthetha nabo kuya kukwenza uzive unesizungu kakhulu.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuzamkela ukuba ungubani, ungabi neentloni zokuba ngowahlukileyo. Emva koko ungaphila ubomi obonwabisayo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- I-Autism Spectrum Disorder inokufunyanwa xa umntu emdala, nokuba ayikhange ibonwe ngexesha lobuntwana.
- Ukudinwa rhoqo, ukungathandi ukunxibelelana nabantu, kunye neengxaki zeemvakalelo (ingxolo, ukukhanya) zinokuba ziimpawu ze-autism yabantu abadala.
- Ezi asizobuthathaka kubuntu bakho. Zizinto ezibangelwa kukutshintsha kwenkqubo yemithambo-luvo.
- Ukufumana uxilongo oluchanekileyo kunokukunceda uziqonde ngcono, wenze ubomi bube lula, kwaye ufumane uxolo lwengqondo.
- Ukuba unamathandabuzo ngale nto, ungoyiki ukuthetha nogqirha wakho. Uza kukunika isikhokelo esifanelekileyo.
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