Njengoko iiholide zesikolo zisondela, abanye abazali baceba ukuthumela abantwana babo kwinkampu yobunkokeli, kwinkampu ye-scout, okanye kwenye inkqubo yokuhlala. Yinto entle kakhulu ekuphuhliseni ubuntu bomntwana kunye nekamva lakhe. Kodwa... xa ucinga ngokuthumela umntwana wakho kude kangangeentsuku ezimbalwa, uziva usoyika kwaye ukhathazekile, akunjalo? "Ngaba umntwana wam uza kuba yedwa apho? Ngaba uza kungena engxakini? Ngaba uza kukhumbula ikhaya aze akhale?" Imibuzo efana nale mhlawumbi idlula engqondweni yakho. Oku kuyinto abazali abaninzi abayivayo.
Olu loyiko luqhelekile kungekuphela kuwe, kodwa nakumntwana!
Ngamafutshane, ixhala limeko yengqondo eqhelekileyo kubazali nakubantwana xa kufuneka bahlukane nabantwana babo ngale ndlela. Kodwa eli xhala linokuvela ngeendlela ezininzi. Makhe sijonge iintlobo eziphambili.
| Uhlobo lwexhala | Kalula nje... |
|---|---|
| Ukukhathazeka Ngokwahlukana | Le yeyona nto ixhaphakileyo. Uloyiko kunye nosizi oluviwa ngumntwana kunye nabazali malunga nokuba kude nabazali babo abanothando nabakhuselayo kunye nekhaya labo. |
| Ixhala leNtlalo | Uloyiko olugqithisileyo lokujongana nendawo entsha yoluntu, njengokuthi "Ngaba abanye abantwana baya kundilahla?", "Baza kucinga ntoni abanye xa bendibona?", "Ngaba andizukukwazi ukwenza abahlobo abatsha?" |
| Ukuxhalaba Okuqhelekileyo | Kulapho uloyiko olungeyomfuneko ngayo yonke into ngokubanzi, ingakumbi ukuba kungenzeka into embi. Uxhalabile, ucinga ngezinto ezinje "Ngaba ndiza kwenzakala enkampini?", "Ngaba kuza kwenzeka into enkulu?" |
Indlela uloyiko lwakho oluchaphazela ngayo umntwana wakho
Enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo apha kukuba ixhala linokuqhubeka kwiintsapho. Oko kukuthi, ukuba abazali baxhalabile, nabantwana baya kuvakalelwa njalo . Abantwana bayakwazi kakhulu ukuxelisa iindlela zokuziphatha zabazali babo, imbonakalo yobuso, kunye neendlela zokuthetha.
Khawucinge nje, ukuba uya kushiya umntwana wakho ekhempini, uzele iinyembezi emehlweni akho, uthi, "Lumka nyana/ntombi... Ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo, nditsalele umnxeba ngoko nangoko...", loluphi uhlobo lovakalelo oluya kuba nalo loo mntwana? Uya kuqala ukucinga, "Ukuba umama/tata uyoyika kangaka, le yindawo eyingozi." Ngoko ke, uloyiko lwakho ludluliselwa emntwaneni ngaphandle kokuba wena uqonde. Ngamanye amaxesha, abazali baxhalaba ngaphezu komntwana.
Enyanisweni, eyona ngxaki inkulu apha kukulawula ixhala labazali kunokulawula elomntwana.
Ngoko ke niyenza njani le ndlela ibe mnandi kuni nobabini?
Kulungile, makhe sibone ukuba ungenza ntoni ukuze uhlangabezane nale meko. Ezi zinto ziya kukunceda wena nomntwana wakho.
1. Thetha ngezisombululo, hayi uloyiko
Xa uthetha nomntwana wakho, endaweni yokumsongela ngokuthi, "Lumka, uza kutshiswa lilanga," zama ukusombulula ingxaki ngendlela eyakhayo. Buza umntwana wakho, "Ilanga linokuba bukhali kancinci enkampini. Ngoko ke singazikhusela njani kulo?" Emva koko baya kuthi, "Ndiza kunxiba umnqwazi," okanye "Andizukuba selangeni ixesha elide." Ungathi ke, "Ezo ziingcinga ezilungileyo. Kodwa kukwangumbono olungileyo ukusebenzisa i-sunscreen . Ngoku ekubeni ukhulile, ungakhumbula ukuyisebenzisa yonke imihla." Oku kuya kwakha ukuzithemba komntwana wakho.
2. Yiba nengqondo.
Njengomzali, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukoyika ukhuseleko lomntwana wakho. Kodwa kufuneka siqonde inyani. Kwinkampu ecwangcisiweyo kakuhle, amathuba okuba umntwana angene kwingozi enkulu aphantsi kakhulu . Ewe, imikrwelo emincinci kunye nokwenzakala kunokwenzeka. Kodwa izinto ezinjalo ziyenzeka nakubomi obuqhelekileyo. Musa ukoyika ngokungeyomfuneko ngokucinga ngezinto ezimbi ezifana nokuthi "Ngaba kukho umntu oza kuthatha umntwana wam?". Chazela umntwana wakho le nyaniso. Phantse wonke umntwana ubuya ekhaya emva kwale mava onwabile kwaye enento entsha ebomini bakhe.
3. Gcina ukuvalelisa kukufutshane kwaye kumnandi.
Xa usiya kushiya umntwana wakho ekhempini, gcina incoko imfutshane kangangoko. Ukuba uyamanga umntwana wakho, ukhale, kwaye uthi ndlela-ntle ngendlela ebuhlungu, kuya kumenza umntwana azive ebuhlungu nangakumbi. Usenokuziva ngathi wenze impazamo enkulu ngokukushiya. Ngoko ke, ncuma, mkhuthaze umntwana wakho, kwaye uhambe ngokukhawuleza, uthi, "Hamba uyonwaba!" Emva kokuba umkile , umntwana wakho uza kujoyina abanye abantwana kwimizuzu embalwa, alibale yonke into, aze aqale ukudlala.
4. Ngaba unika izinto ezikukhumbuza ikhaya? Cinga kabini.
Kwabanye abantwana, ukuphatha into yokubakhumbuza ekhaya, njengefoto yosapho okanye inqaku elincinci olibhalileyo, kunokubanceda bazive bengcono. Nangona kunjalo, kwabanye abantwana, ezi zinto zinokubabangela bakhumbule ekhaya kwaye babe lusizi ngakumbi. Ngoko ke, le yinto ekufuneka uyikhethele umntwana wakho. Umazi kakuhle umntwana wakho. Ukuba ucinga ukuba into enjalo iya kumkhuthaza, mnike yona. Kodwa ukuba ucinga ukuba iya kumenza azive elusizi ngakumbi, kungcono ukuba ungabaniki izinto ezinjalo.
Eli thuba liluncedo kakhulu ebomini bomntwana wakho lokwakha ukuzimela, ukuzithemba, kunye nokukwazi ukujongana nemingeni. Musa ukumvimba umntwana wakho elo thuba ngenxa yoloyiko lwakho kunye nokuxhalaba kwakho.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Kuqhelekile ukuba abazali nabantwana bazive besoyika kwaye bexhalabile xa bethumela umntwana wabo ekhempini. Oku sikubiza ngokuba luloyiko lokuhlukana .
- Musa ukubonisa umntwana wakho uloyiko lwakho, hlala unethemba. Umntwana wakho uya kuhlala ekujonga njengomzekelo.
- Thetha nomntwana wakho ngezisombululo, hayi iingxaki. Mnike uxanduva kwaye umthembe.
- Gcina ukuvalelisa kube mfutshane kangangoko. Ukuvalelisa okude nokubuhlungu kwandisa usizi noloyiko lomntwana.
- Eli thuba lihle kakhulu lokwakha ukuzithemba komntwana wakho kunye nokuzimela. Vumela oko kwaye ukukhuthaze.
- Ukuba olu xhala lukuchaphazela wena okanye umntwana wakho ngendlela engaphaya kwamandla akho, musa ukuba neentloni uze uthethe nogqirha wakho ukuze akunike icebiso.
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