Xa sigula okanye sisezintlungwini, sibalekela kugqirha okanye kumongikazi. Bayasinyamekela ngobubele obukhulu, basinike amayeza, baze basenze siphilise. Kodwa ngaba sakha sacinga kancinci ngokuba ngubani onyamekela aba gqirha nabahlengikazi abanyamekela abanye imini yonke? Ngaba siyazazi iingcinezelo noxinzelelo abazivayo? Yiloo nto siza kuthetha ngayo namhlanje.
Umzekelo omhle wale bali yifoto esanda kusasazeka. Le yeyomongikazi oneminyaka engama-29 ubudala ogama linguCaitlin Nixon waseTexas, e-USA. Wayesebenze iintsuku ezine zilandelelana, ngaphezulu kweeyure ezingama-53, kwaye xa efika ekhaya, udadewabo wathabatha le foto. Kuyo, uCaitlin udiniwe kakhulu, eneenyembezi emehlweni akhe. Udadewabo wathumela oku kwi-social media, esithi, "Uyalibala ukuzinyamekela ngelixa enyamekela abanye."
UCaitlin usebenza kwicandelo lokubeleka kunye ne-gynecology. Kulapho oomama abasandula ukuzala bakhathalelwa khona. Akuzange nje kuphela ukuba asebenze iiyure ezingaphezu kwama-50 ngaloo mini, kodwa kwakufuneka anyamekele umama owayenomntwana ozelwe eswelekile. Ngenxa yentlungu yonke, kunye nokudinwa konke, wayedandathekile ngokupheleleyo. UCaitlin kamva wathi, "Ndaziva ndingenakunceda ngaloo mzuzu. Zonke iimvakalelo endandizibambe entliziyweni yam imini yonke zaphuma."
Yintoni kanye kanye le ngxaki yokudinwa kwengqondo, okanye ukudinwa?
Ngamafutshane, asikokuziva udiniwe nje kuphela. Ukudinwa kukudinwa okukhulu ngokomzimba, ngokwengqondo nangokweemvakalelo okubangelwa kuxinzelelo lomsebenzi olugqithisileyo. Kufana nebhetri ephelayo. Uphelelwa ngumdla, uyadinwa yinto yonke, kwaye uzive udanile ngumsebenzi wakho.
Oku akuyonto ifanele ithathwe lula. Uphando lufumanise ukuba eMelika kuphela, malunga nesithathu sabahlengikazi kunye nesiqingatha soogqirha banengxaki 'yokudinwa'. Imeko kwilizwe lethu ayifani.
Le meko ingachaphazela ngqo kungekuphela nje abasebenzi bezonyango, kodwa nathi njengezigulane. Makhe sibone ukuba njani.
Le meko ibachaphazela njani abasebenzi bezonyango kunye nezigulane?
Khawucinge ngogqirha okanye umongikazi odiniweyo emva kokusebenza imini yonke, engenalo nexesha lokutya okanye lokusela, ephulaphula imibuzo yesigulana ngasinye, kwaye ephila nentlungu yaso.
- Impembelelo kubo:
- Ukuncipha kovelwano: Basenokulahlekelwa luvelwano nobubele babo kwizigulana kuba iintliziyo zabo nazo zidiniwe.
- Ukuthatha izigqibo ngokukhawuleza: Xa ingqondo idiniwe, amandla okwenza izigqibo ngokukhawuleza nangokuchanekileyo ayancipha. Oku kunokuba yingozi xa kukho imeko engxamisekileyo .
- Amathuba eempazamo: Ukudinwa kakhulu kunokukhokelela ekulahlekelweni kukugxila, okwandisa amathuba eempazamo ekunikezeni amayeza okanye unyango.
- Uxinzelelo olukhulayo: Ukuhlala phantsi koxinzelelo kuchaphazela nobomi babo.
- Impembelelo kuthi njengezigulane:
- Umgangatho wenkonzo esiyifumanayo unokwehla.
- Ukumamela imibuzo yethu ngononophelo kusenokungabi nanto.
- Sisenokungafumani bubele nenkathalo esiyifaneleyo.
Oku kubonisa indlela impilo-ntle yabo yengqondo enxulumene ngayo nempilo-ntle yethu.
Ziziphi izizathu eziphambili zokuba oku kwenzeke koogqirha nabahlengikazi?
Akukho sizathu sinye soku, kodwa zininzi izinto. Le meko yenziwe mandundu, ingakumbi ngenxa yokusilela okuthile kwinkqubo yezempilo yelizwe lethu.
| Unobangela | Ingcaciso elula |
|---|---|
| Iiyure Ezinde | Rhoqo, kufuneka usebenze iiyure ezili-12, ezili-16, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ezingama-24. Oku akuwushiyi umzimba okanye ingqondo iphumle. |
| Uxinzelelo Oluphezulu | Kufuneka wenze izigqibo phakathi kobomi nokufa. Kufuneka uthwale usizi, ingqumbo, kunye nentlungu yezigulana kunye neentsapho zazo. Lo ngumthwalo onzima engqondweni. |
| Ukusebenza ngaphandle kokuphumla | Ngenxa yokuba zininzi izigulane, kufuneka sisebenze nangexesha lekhefu xa sinokusela ikomityi yeti okanye ukutya kancinci. Ngezinye iintsuku asinalo nexesha lokusela amanzi amancinci. |
| Ukunqongophala kwabasebenzi | Ekubeni oogqirha nabahlengikazi abaneleyo kwizibhedlele ngenani lezigulana, abambalwa abaseleyo kufuneka bathwale umthwalo onzima. |
| Uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo | Xa isigulana ababesinyamekela sisweleka, okanye xa benyanga umntu obe nengozi enkulu, nabo baziva benomthwalo weemvakalelo. Kodwa kufuneka balawule ezo mvakalelo baze bakhonze. |
Ngaba akukho zisombululo koku? Simele senze ntoni?
Zikhona ngokwenene izisombululo . Le ayingongxaki umntu anokuyisombulula eyedwa. Oku kufuna ukungenelela okucwangcisiweyo.
1. Ukunciphisa ixesha lomsebenzi: Kubalulekile ukususa ixesha elongezelelweyo eliyimfuneko kunye nokubonelela ngexesha elaneleyo lokuphumla.
2. Ukuqinisekisa ixesha lokuphumla: Nokuba umsebenzi uxakeke kangakanani na, abaphathi besibhedlele kufuneka baqinisekise ukuba kukho ixesha lokutya nokuphumla.
3. Ukucela izimvo zabasebenzi: Xa kusenziwa izigqibo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukumamela izimvo kungekuphela nje zamagosa aphezulu, kodwa noogqirha kunye nabongikazi abajongana nezigulane. Bayazi kakuhle imiba esebenzayo.
4. Inkxaso yempilo yengqondo: Yila inkqubo esibhedlele yokuthetha ngoxinzelelo lwengqondo abalufumanayo kunye nokufuna iingcebiso.
5. Uxanduva lwethu njengezigulane: Xa sisiya esibhedlele, kufuneka sibe nomonde de kufike ithuba lethu, size sithethe nabo ngobubele nangentlonelo. Sifanele siqonde ukuba bangabantu njengathi. Ukuncuma kancinci, igama elifana nelithi "enkosi kakhulu" linokuba lukhuthazo olukhulu kubo.
Kwanakule mihla inzima, abahlengikazi abanjengoCaitlin banethemba ngomsebenzi wabo. Uthi, "Ndixelela abanye abahlengikazi, eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka bayikhumbule kukuba novelwano. Kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba nangona sineengxaki eziliwaka ebomini bethu, sinethuba lokuba sisibane ebumnyameni bokugula."
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukudinwa okwenziwa ngoogqirha nabahlengikazi akupheleli nje ekudinweni, kodwa yimeko embi kakhulu echaphazela kakhulu impilo yabo yengqondo neyomzwelo.
- Imisebenzi emide, uxinzelelo oluphezulu, ukungaphumli, kunye nomthwalo weemvakalelo zomsebenzi zezona zizathu ziphambili zoku.
- Le meko ayichaphazeli impilo yabo ngokuthe ngqo kuphela, kodwa ikwachaphazela nomgangatho wonyango esilufumanayo thina, izigulane.
- Njengezigulane, ukuphatha oogqirha bethu nabahlengikazi ngentlonelo nangomonde kunokuba luncedo kakhulu emsebenzini wabo.
- Ukuba ungumsebenzi wezempilo kwaye uhlangabezana nale meko, ungoyiki ukuthetha ngayo uze ucele uncedo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubandezeleke wedwa.
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