Ngamanye amaxesha, xa izinto zisenzeka ebomini bethu, ingakumbi xa zenzeka kumntu esimthembayo, asikwazi nokuzibuza, ‘Ngaba oku kwenzekile ngokwenene?’ Nangona siziva singakhululekanga kwaye sisoyika, sizama ukuziqinisekisa, ‘Hayi, ndicinga ukuba kunokwenzeka.’ Eli nqaku lenzelwe wonke umntu, emva kwamava abuhlungu nangathandekiyo, ofumana isibindi sokuthetha aze afune ubulungisa.
Kutheni kuthatha ixesha elide kangaka ukuthetha emva kokuhlaselwa?
Abantu abaninzi bayazibuza ukuba kutheni bengathethi ngayo okanye bakhalaze ngayo kwangoko xa kwenzeka into efana nohlaselo ngokwesondo. Kodwa akulula kangako. Khawuthelekelele umntu eqhekeza indlu aze abe iTV okanye imali. Yinto eyenzeka ngaphandle kwethu. Kodwa kuhlaselo ngokwesondo,
indawo yolwaphulo-mthetho ngumzimba wethu. Le yintlungu enzima kakhulu nenzulu ukuyinyamezela. Xa kwenzeka
ingozi enzima kangaka, indlela esebenza ngayo ingqondo yethu nayo iyatshintsha. Njengeglasi ewela phantsi ize yaphuke ibe ziingceba, iinkumbulo ezinxulumene neso siganeko zisasazeka ngaphakathi kwengqondo. Ingqondo izama ukusikhusela kuloo ntlungu imbi. Ngoko ngamanye amaxesha eso siganeko sinokulibaleka ngokupheleleyo. Okanye sikhumbula kuphela zibe ziingceba.
"Umntu othinjiweyo unokukhumbula kuphela isandi asivileyo okanye ivumba alivayo ngelo xesha. Umzimba uyaziva ezo zinto, kodwa ulandelelwano lweziganeko lunokulahleka."
Le yenye yeempawu zePost
-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) . Yiyo loo nto kwabanye abantu, nokuba sekudlule iminyaka, ezo nkumbulo ziqala ukubuya ngamaxesha angalindelekanga nangendlela engalindelekanga.
| Uhlobo lwempembelelo | Iimpawu ezinokwenzeka |
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| Iziphumo zengqondo | Uloyiko olunzulu, ukudakumba , ixhala , i-PTSD, ubunzima bokuthemba abanye, ukubuya kwezinto ebezingalindelekanga. |
| Iziphumo zomzimba | Ukungalali, ukwanda komngcipheko wesifo sentliziyo, utshintsho kwindlela yokutya, iintlungu zomzimba, uloyiko lokubona oogqirha. |
Imiqobo emthethweni kunye nethemba elitsha
Kumazwe amaninzi, kukho umda wexesha elithile lokufaka ityala emva kokuba ulwaphulo-mthetho lwenziwe. Oku sikubiza
ngokuba ngumthetho wemida . Kunzima kakhulu ukuthatha amanyathelo asemthethweni emva kokuba eli xesha lidlulile. Kwiimeko ezifana nokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo, ngenxa yokwenzakala kunye nemiphumo yengqondo esithethe ngayo ngaphambili, abantu abaninzi abakwazi ukuthetha okanye ukukhalaza ngeli xesha. Kodwa iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba amazwe amaninzi ehlabathini ayayiqonda le meko kwaye atshintsha iinkqubo zawo zomthetho. Amanye amazwe angenise ingcamango
"yokujonga emva" . Ngamafutshane, kuthetha ukuba abo baxhatshazwe kwixesha elidlulileyo banikwa ixesha elikhethekileyo lonyaka omnye okanye emibini lokufaka ityala, nokuba umthetho wemida uphelelwe lixesha. Elona thuba libalulekileyo elibonelelwa yimithetho enjalo kukukwazi ukuthatha amanyathelo asemthethweni kungekuphela nje nxamnye nomenzi wobubi, kodwa
nakwiindawo ezivumele ulwaphulo-mthetho ukuba lwenzeke kwaye zanceda ekusifihleni . Umzekelo, ukuba isibhedlele, isikolo, icawa okanye elinye iziko belazi ukuba umntu osebenza phantsi kwabo wenza ulwaphulo-mthetho olunjalo kodwa akazange athathe manyathelo nxamnye nabo, ezo ziko nazo zinoxanduva.
Kanye njengokuba umenzi wobubi esohlwaywa, amaziko avumele ukuba ulwaphulo-mthetho lwenzeke aze angakwazi ukukhusela amaxhoba nawo kufuneka athwaliswe uxanduva. Le yinxalenye ebaluleke kakhulu yobulungisa.
Amandla elizwi lakho okuvusa nokuphilisa
Ukufaka ityala okanye ukuya enkundleni kusenokungabi yinto wonke umntu anokuyenza okanye ayifunayo. Kodwa
ukuphilisa yinto yobuqu kakhulu . Akukho ndlela ifanelekileyo kubo bonke. Kwabanye, ukufuna ubulungisa ngomthetho kunokuba yinxalenye yokuphiliswa kwabo. Kwabanye, ukwabelana ngebali labo nomntu abamthembayo kunokuba luncedo olukhulu. Khumbula, ukubalisa ibali lakho, ukuphakamisa ilizwi lakho, akupheleli nje ekuziphiliseni. Kungenza oku:
- Ukuxabisa intlungu yakho: Amava akho ayinyani kwaye umonakalo owabangele wona uyaqatshelwa.
- Ukutshintsha uxanduva: Umthwalo wetyala ususwa kwixhoba uye kumenzi wobubi nakwiziko elinoxanduva.
- Ukunika amandla abanye: Thetha namawakawaka abanye ababandezeleka buthule, ibali lakho liya kukunika isibindi sokuza ngaphambili.
- Ukwenza umahluko: Ilizwi lakho linokunceda ekudaleni utshintsho lwentlalo nolwezomthetho olufunekayo ukuthintela izinto ezinje ukuba zingenzeki kwixesha elizayo.
Uhambo oluya ekuchacheni lunokuba lude. Kodwa awuwedwa kolo hambo. Kukho abantu abanokukunceda.
Thetha nogqirha wakho, okanye ucele uncedo kumcebisi wezempilo yengqondo.Kuza kuba linyathelo elibaluleke kakhulu nelinesibindi kuwe ukuba ulithabathe.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukuhlaselwa ngokwesondo akulotyala lakho. Kusoloko kutyala lomntu owenze oku.
- Kuqhelekile ukungakwazi ukuthetha kwangoko emva kwesiganeko. Ukulimala okukhulu kunokubangela ukuba inkumbulo iphazamiseke kwaye icinezelwe.
- Ukuchacha luhambo olukhethekileyo nolomntu ngamnye, kwaye akukho xesha okanye indlela ebekiweyo.
- Ukuthetha nomhlobo othembekileyo, ilungu losapho, umcebisi, okanye ugqirha wakho kunokuba linyathelo lokuqala elibalulekileyo kwindlela eya ekuchacheni.
- Ngokufuna ubulungisa nokubalisa ibali lakho, awuniki amandla wena wedwa, kodwa nabanye abaninzi ababandezeleka buthule.
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