Ngaba umntwana wakho naye uyalala ebusuku? (Uhamba elele) – Ungakhathazeki, masithethe ngale nto!

Ngaba wakha wambona umntwana wakho evuka ebhedini ebusuku aze ajikeleze indlu ngokungathi uvukile? Okanye ngaba oku kwenzeka kuwe usengumntwana? Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-sleepwalking, okanye ngokwezonyango ``Sleepwalking``. Abazali abaninzi bayoyika kwaye baxhalabe xa bebona oku. Kodwa namhlanje siza kuthetha ngokuba yintoni kanye kanye, kutheni kusenzeka, kwaye yintoni enokwenziwa ngako.

Yintoni kanye kanye ukuhambahamba ngeenyawo? (Kuthetha ukuthini ukuhambahamba ngeenyawo?)

Ngamafutshane, ukuhambahamba ebuthongweni yinto eyenzekayo xa silele ubuthongo obunzulu kakhulu. Uyazi, kukho amanqanaba ahlukeneyo okulala kwethu. Oku kwenzeka ngexesha lobuthongo obunzulu (`(Deep Sleep)`) , ngokuqhelekileyo kwiiyure zokuqala zokulala. Emva koko, nangona ezinye iindawo zengqondo zilele, iindawo ezilawula intshukumo zisenokwenziwa zisebenze ngandlela thile.

Ayingabo bonke abantu abalalayo ‘abahamba’ ngokwenene. Abanye abantwana bahlala ebhedini, bame, okanye benze ngathi bavukile (kodwa balele ngokwenene!), mhlawumbi behambahamba egumbini, bezama ukunxiba, okanye bethetha, kodwa oko bakuthethayo kusenokungacaci. Kodwa uninzi lwexesha, banokuvuka ebhedini bahambe imizuzu embalwa, ngamanye amaxesha ukuya kuthi ga kwimizuzu engamashumi amathathu.

Usenokuba uqaphele ukuba nangona amehlo omntu ohambahambayo evulekile, akaziboni izinto ngendlela esizibona ngayo xa sivukile. Amehlo akhe asenokubonakala engenanto, engenantsingiselo. Banokucinga ukuba bakwelinye igumbi ekhaya, okanye bakwenye indawo ngokupheleleyo. Into emangalisayo kukuba abantu abahambahambayo badla ngokubuyela ebhedini baze balale bodwa, kwaye xa bevuka kusasa, abakhumbuli nto yenzekileyo ngobusuku bangaphambili! Khawuthelekelele, kungathi eso siganeko asizange sibhalwe entlokweni yabo.

Kutheni le nto isenzeka le nto yokuhamba ulele? Zithini izizathu?

Ngoku usenokuba uzibuza, ‘Kutheni oku kwenzeka kumntwana wam kuphela?’ Okanye ‘Ngaba kukho isizathu esithile sale nto?’ Enyanisweni, ukuhamba ulele akuyonto eyenzeka ngesizathu esinye kuphela. Kunokubangelwa zizinto ezahlukeneyo.

• Imbali yosapho: Ngamanye amaxesha oku kunokuba yimfuza. Oko kukuthi, ukuba wena, iqabane lakho, okanye umntu kusapho lwakho wayenomkhwa wokuhambahamba ebuthongweni esengumntwana, umntwana wakho unokuba nawo. Kuthiwa unefuthe kwimfuza.
• Ukugula okanye umkhuhlane: Umntwana unokuba nethuba elikhulu lokuhamba ebuthongweni xa egula, ingakumbi xa enomkhuhlane . Oku kusenokuba kungenxa yokuba ukungakhululeki kunye nokuphazanyiswa ngumkhuhlane kunokuphazamisa ubuthongo.
• Ukungalali ngokwaneleyo: Ukungalali ngokwaneleyo nako kukwangunobangela omkhulu woku. Ukuba umntwana akalali ngokwaneleyo ngosuku, iindlela zakhe zokulala zinokuphazamiseka, kwaye oku kulandelayo kunokwenzeka: Ukudinwa kakhulu (`(Ukudinwa)`) nako kunokuchaphazela oku.
• Uxinzelelo:Abantwana abancinci nabo banokufumana uxinzelelo ngenxa yezinto ezahlukeneyo. Izinto ezifana nomsebenzi wesikolo, iimviwo, iingxaki nabahlobo, utshintsho kwimeko yasekhaya, kunye neengxaki zosapho zonke zinokuchaphazela indlela abavakalelwa ngayo kwaye zichaphazele nokulala kwabo.
• Amayeza athile: Amaxesha amaninzi, amanye amayeza (umz., amanye amayeza okuthomalalisa, ii-antihistamines) anokubangela ukuba umntu angakwazi ukuhambahamba elele.
• Isinyi esipheleleyo: Ukungasikhuphi isinyi sakho ngaphambi kokuba ulale ebusuku kufunyenwe ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kunegalelo ekuhambeni ubuthongo. Oku kunokuphazamisa ubuthongo bakho kwaye kukwenze uvuke ebuthongweni obunzulu.
• Ezinye iingxaki zokulala: Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana abanezinye iingxaki zokulala, ezifana ne-Obstructive Sleep Apnea, banokufumana ukwanda kokulala.

Ukuhambahamba ulele kudla ngokubangelwa yenye okanye ngaphezulu kwezi zizathu.

Ingaba le yimeko enzima? Ngaba kufuneka ndiyoyike?

Le yingxaki ekhathaza abazali abaninzi. 'Owu, umntwana wam uhamba elele, ngaba esi sisifo esibi? Ndingenza ntoni ngale nto?'

Inyaniso kukuba, ukuba umntwana ulala ngamanye amaxesha, ayisiyonto inkulu. Uninzi lwabantwana luyayeka lo mkhwa njengoko bekhula, ingakumbi ngexesha lokufikisa. Oku kungenxa yokuba iindlela zokulala ziyazinza njengoko ingqondo ikhula.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho uhambahamba elele rhoqo, njengakubusuku ngabunye, okanye ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho usemngciphekweni wokuzenzakalisa xa ehambahamba elele (umz., ukuwa phantsi kwezinyuko, ukuzama ukunyuka ngefestile), ngokuqinisekileyo kungcono ukubona ugqirha ukuze akunike icebiso. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuhambahamba elele kunokubangelwa kukozela kakhulu emini.

Kwabo babona umntu elele, ngamanye amaxesha kunokubonakala ngathi kuyinto ehlekisayo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kunokoyikisa. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukukhusela umntu olele. Kuba akaqapheli. Ngoko ke angawa, angqubeke kwinto ethile, alimale yinto ebukhali, okanye aphume endlwini engaqondanga.

Kubalulekile: Kubalulekile ukukhathalela ukhuseleko lomntwana ohamba elele. Banamathuba amaninzi okufumana ingozi bengaqondanga. Ngoko ke musa ukuyithatha lula le nto.

Ngoko ke ugqirha angenza ntoni?

Xa usisa umntwana wakho kugqirha, ugqirha uza kuqala akubuze, kwaye ukuba kunokwenzeka, nomntwana wakho ngale nto. Baza kukubuza ukuba oku kwenzeke ixesha elingakanani, kangaphi ngeveki, wenza ntoni xa ulala, ixesha elingakanani uhamba, nokuba kukho nabani na kusapho lwakho okhe waba nale meko, ezinye izifo umntwana wakho anazo, amayeza owaselayo, kunye neendlela zakho zokulala emini. Ngamanye amaxesha, banokukucela ukuba ugcine idayari yokulala.

Nangona kungekho 'nyango' luthile lokuhamba ulele,Ugqirha angakunceda ufumane unobangela wale meko aze akuncede ulale ngcono. Kwiimeko ezininzi, akukho nyango lukhethekileyo olufunekayo, njengoko uninzi lwabantwana luya kudlula kule meko ngokuhamba kwexesha.

Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntwana wakho uhambahamba rhoqo kwaye oko kuphazamisana nobomi bakhe bemihla ngemihla, oogqirha ngamanye amaxesha banokucebisa unyango olubizwa ngokuba yi- "Scheduled Awakening" . Oku kubandakanya ukuvusa umntwana kancinci, kungekhona ngokupheleleyo, malunga nemizuzu eli-15-30 ngaphambi kokuba umntwana ahambehambahamba rhoqo. Emva koko bayamvumela ukuba abuyele ebuthongweni. Emva kweeveki ezimbalwa zokwenza oku, unokukwazi ukuyeka ukuhambahambahambahamba. Kufana nokutshintsha indlela yakho yokulala kancinci kwaye uphephe loo maxesha angathandekiyo ebuthongweni obunzulu.

Kunqabile kakhulu, ukuba akukho nto inokuyilawula kwaye umntwana efumana iingozi rhoqo, ugqirha unokumnika amayeza okwethutyana ukunceda ukwenza ubuthongo bube mnandi okanye ukunciphisa ixesha lokulala nzulu. Kodwa oku kudla ngokwenziwa njengesisombululo sokugqibela, ingakumbi kubantwana abancinci.

Zama ezi zinto ukuthintela okanye ukunciphisa ukuhambahamba

Nangona kungenakwenzeka ukuyeka ngokupheleleyo ukuhambahamba komntwana wakho, kukho izinto ezimbalwa ezilula onokuzenza ukunceda ukunciphisa oku. Ungazizama ekhaya:

• Phumla ngaphambi kokulala: Yeka ukusebenzisa izinto ezifana neTV, ikhompyutha, kwaye utsalele umnxeba malunga neyure ngaphambi kokulala. Endaweni yoko, mamela ingoma ethambileyo, mamela umculo ophumzayo, funda incwadi, okanye uziqhelanise nomthambo wokuphefumla nomntwana wakho. Ukuhlamba ngamanzi afudumeleyo nako kunokunceda. Oku kunokunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo kwaye kukuncede ulale ngcono.
• Misela ishedyuli yokulala rhoqo: Yenza umntwana wakho aqhele ukulala nokuvuka ngexesha elifanayo yonke imihla. Zama ukugcina oku kusenzeka rhoqo, nokuba kungeeholide. Oku kuya kunceda iwotshi yomzimba isebenze kakuhle kwaye kuphucule iindlela zokulala.
• Yenza indawo yokulala ibe yindawo ethuleyo: Igumbi lokulala lomntwana kufuneka lithule, likhanyise kancinci, kwaye libe nobushushu obufanelekileyo . Ezi zinto zibalulekile ukuze alale kakuhle ebusuku.
• Kuphephe ukusela ulwelo oluninzi ebusuku: Nciphisa ukusela amanzi okanye ubisi oluninzi malunga neeyure ezimbini ngaphambi kokulala. Qiniseka ukuba umsa umntwana wakho kwindlu yangasese ngaphambi kokulala ukuze amncede achame. Isinyi esipheleleyo sinokuphazamisa ubuthongo.
• Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ulala ngokwaneleyo: Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ulala ngokwaneleyo ngokweminyaka yakhe (umz., iiyure ezili-10-13 kumntwana okwisikolo samabanga aphantsi, iiyure ezili-9-11 kumntwana okwiminyaka yesikolo). Ukungalali kakuhle yimbangela yeengxaki ezininzi zokulala.
• Nciphisa uxinezeleko:Thetha nomntwana wakho ngento eyenzekileyo emini, mbuze ngemibuzo yakhe kunye noloyiko lwakhe. Menze azive ethuthuzelekile kwaye ethandwa. Ngamanye amaxesha nokuba yingcebiso encinci inokunceda. Kwakhona, jonga ukuba imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla yomntwana inzima kakhulu na ukuba angakwazi ukuyisingatha.

Umnceda njani umntu ohamba elele? Uqinisekisa njani ukhuseleko?

Nangona uzama ukunciphisa ukuhambahamba, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqinisekisa ukhuseleko lomntwana wakho xa ehambahamba, kuba akazi ukuba wenza ntoni.

• Gcina amagumbi neendlela zokuhamba zicocekile: Susa imiqobo efana namathoyizi, iincwadi, izitulo, neetafile phantsi kwiindawo ezifana negumbi lokulala lomntwana nakwiipaseji apho ahamba khona. Qinisekisa ukuba iintambo zombane azikho phantsi. Oku kuya kunciphisa amathuba okuba akhubeke kuzo.
• Lumka kwiindawo ezinobungozi: Ukuba kukho izinyuko endlwini, beka isango lokhuseleko phezulu nasezantsi. Gcina iifestile neengcango zivaliwe kwaye zitshixiwe ngokufanelekileyo. Ingakumbi ukuba kukho iibalcony okanye iindawo eziphakamileyo, kufuneka uzinike ingqalelo engakumbi. Zitshixe ngendlela umntwana angenakukwazi ukuyivula lula.
• Susa izixhobo ezibukhali nezinto eziyingozi: Gcina izinto ezibukhali ezifana neemela, izikere, iiglasi, imatshisi kunye nezikhanyisi ekhitshini kwindawo etshixiweyo apho abantwana bangenakukwazi ukufikelela khona.
• Musa ukuvusa umntu ohambahambayo ngequbuliso: Mhlawumbi ukhe weva ukuba ukuba uvusa umntu ohambahambayo ngequbuliso ngokumkhwaza, ngokumngqongqoza, okanye ngokumshukumisa, unokoyika, aphazamiseke, adideke, aze abe ndlongondlongo. Yiyo loo nto. Kufana nokuba ukwihlabathi lamaphupha. Xa umvusa ngequbuliso, akakhumbuli ukuba kwenzeke ntoni.
• Ngoko ke wenza ntoni?: Ukuba ubona umntu ehamba elele, musa ukoyika, thetha naye kancinci kwaye uzolile, bamba isandla sakhe ngothando uze umbuyisele ebhedini. Thetha into efana nale, "Nanku ke nyana/ntombi, ngale ndlela." Uninzi lwexesha, baya kukuphulaphula baze babuyele ebuthongweni. Kungcono ukuthetha nomntu omdala, ingakumbi ukuba umntwana ukhathazekile.
• Yenza umntwana wakho alale phantsi: Ukuba kunokwenzeka, kuphephe ukwenza umntwana wakho alale kumgangatho ophezulu webhedi ebhedini.
• Intsimbi emnyango wegumbi lomntwana: Ungaxhoma into efana nentsimbi encinci emnyango ukuze wazi xa umntwana ephuma egumbini.

Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya

Kulungile, ngoko ke ngokwezinto esizithethileyo, ndiyathemba ukuba unolwazi oluhle ngokuhambahamba ulele. Ixesha elininzi ayisiyongxaki inkulu, kodwa kukho izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka uzazi.

• Ukuhambahamba ebuthongweni yimeko eyenzeka xa ulele ubuthongo obunzulu. Ihlala ibonwa kubantwana abancinci, kodwa inokwenzeka nakubantu abadala.
• Ukuba kuyenzeka ngamanye amaxesha, musa ukwenza into enkulu ngayo. Uninzi lwabantwana luyayeka ukukhula njengoko bekhula.
• Ukuba oku kwenzeka rhoqo, ukuba ukhathazekile kukuba umntwana wakho usenokuba sengozini, okanye ukuba umntwana wakho ulele kakhulu emini, bona ugqirha.
• Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukhuseleko lomntwana wakho. Luxanduva lwakho ukugcina imeko-bume yekhaya lakho ikhuselekile.
• Zimisele imikhwa emihle yokulala. Ukulala ngexesha elimiselweyo, ukuphumla ngaphambi kokulala, kunye nokulala ngokwaneleyo kunokunceda ekulawuleni le meko.
• Ukuba ubona umntwana ohamba elele, musa ukoyika, mbuyisele ebhedini ngokuzolileyo nangokucothayo. Musa ukuzama ukumvusa ngequbuliso.

Khumbula, awuwedwa ojongene nale ngxaki. Olu hlobo lwento lwenzeka kwabanye abantwana abaninzi. Funa ingcebiso kagqirha ukuba kuyimfuneko, kwaye ujongane nale meko ngomonde nokuqonda. Umntwana wakho uza kukwazi ukuphelisa le meko aze alale kamnandi kwaye ekhuselekile!

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