Akukho mava othando namnandi ngaphezu kokulalisa umntwana wakho ngelixa uncancisa. Ukudibana kwesikhumba nolusu phakathi komama nomntwana kuqinisa ulwalamano phakathi kwabo babini. Iihomoni eziphilileyo ezikhutshwa ngelo xesha zikwanceda umntwana ukuba alale kakuhle. Kodwa njengoko umntwana ekhula, lo mkhwa ngamanye amaxesha unokubangela iingxaki ezincinci. Ngoko ke namhlanje, masithethe ngale nto, iziphumo ezinokubakho zale nto kunye nendlela esinokuyisingatha ngayo le meko ngothando.
Yintoni impembelelo yokwenyani yokulalisa umntwana ngobisi lwebele?
Ngamafutshane, iintsana, njengathi sonke, zikhulisa imikhwa ngezinto ezithile. Cinga ngayo, nokuba sesikhulile, sinemikhwa efana nokufunda incwadi okanye ukumamela ingoma ngaphambi kokuba silale ebusuku, akunjalo? Yiyo loo nto ke iintsana. Ziqala ukunxulumanisa ukulala nenye into.
Ukumunca umntwana wakho ukuze alale akuyongozi, kodwa xa oku kuba ngumkhwa, umntwana uqala ukudibanisa ukulala nokuncancisa njengento enye. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi-"Suck-to-sleep association". Oku kunokubangela ukuba umntwana angakwazi ukulala yedwa, oko kukuthi, ngaphandle kokuncancisa.
Nazi ezinye zeengxaki ezinokubangela lo mkhwa kwixesha elizayo:
- Ukufuna ubisi lwebele ukuze ulale: Xa umntwana eqala ukuthembela kubisi lwebele ukuze alale, usenokuvuka phakathi kobusuku aze afune ukubuyela ebuthongweni. Oku kunokuthintela umama ekufumaneni ubuthongo obuhle ebusuku. Kwakhona, ukuyekisa umntwana ubisi lwebele kunokuba nzima kakhulu xa umntwana ekhulile kancinci.
- Ubunzima bokunyamekela umntwana: Khawuthelekelele ukuba kufuneka ubuyele emsebenzini, okanye ukuba kufuneka uhambe uhambo olufutshane nomyeni wakho. Ukuba umntwana ulala emva kokuba encanciswe nguwe, kuya kuba nzima kakhulu komnye umntu, njengotata okanye umakhulu, ukulalisa umntwana.
- Impembelelo kwimpilo yengqondo neyomzimba kamama: Ukulala yeyona nto ixhalabisa kakhulu oomama emva kokuzalwa komntwana. Ngaphezu koko, xa umama enoxanduva lokubeka umntwana ebuthongweni, kunokuba nempembelelo enkulu kwimpilo yakhe yengqondo neyomzimba. Ukwabelana ngolu xanduva phakathi kwenu nobabini kunokunciphisa uxinzelelo kumama kwaye kuzise isiqabu esikhulu kusapho lonke.
Uyazi njani ukuba lixesha lokuyeka lo mkhwa?
Njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula, kukho iimpawu ezimbalwa onokuzijonga ukuze zikuncede uqonde ukuba lixesha lokutshintsha indlela yokuncancisa ngaphambi kokuba ulale. Makhe sijonge ukuba ziintoni ezo.
| Uphawu olubonayo | Ithetha ntoni le nto? |
|---|---|
| Unyango lweNtlalontle | Ngamanye amaxesha iintsana ziyancanca kungengenxa yokuba zilambile, kodwa ngenxa nje yokuthuthuzela. Oku sikubiza ngokuba yi-"Comfort nursing". Kulungile ukwenza oku xa ugula okanye ukhupha amazinyo. Kodwa ukuba ukwenza oku kube ngumkhwa qho ebusuku ngaphambi kokuba ulale, luphawu lokuba lixesha lokukutshintsha. |
| Ukuncancisa kakhulu ukuze ulale | Ukuba akukho ndlela isebenzayo yokulalisa umntwana wakho, kwaye ulala kuphela xa umncancisa, oko kuthetha ukuba uxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kuloo nto. Ukuba uvuka ebusuku aze angakwazi ukumenza alale ngaphandle kokumncancisa kwakhona, oko kukwaluphawu lokuba lixesha lokutshintsha umkhwa. |
| Ukuvuka rhoqo ebusuku | Iintsana zinemijikelo yokulala emifutshane kunabantu abadala. Yiyo loo nto zivuka rhoqo. Kodwa ukuba azikwazi ukubuyela ebuthongweni zodwa zize zivuke rhoqo emva kwemizuzu engama-45 ukuze zincancise, yingxaki enkulu kumama. Ngamaxesha anje, ukwazisa umntwana imikhwa emihle yokulala (uqeqesho lokulala) kunokuba luncedo kakhulu. |
Khumbula, umntwana ngamnye wahlukile. Kuya kuthatha ixesha ukufumana indlela esebenza kakuhle kuwe nakumntwana wakho. Ungakhathazeki ngayo. Zama oku ngomonde nangothando.
Ngoko ke, umqhela njani umntwana wakho ukulala yedwa?
Kulungile, masithethe ngeendlela zokutshintsha lo mkhwa kwaye uncede umntwana wakho alale ngoxolo eyedwa.
1. Yenza indawo ezolileyo
Gqibezela umsebenzi wakho wosuku kwangethuba. Kubalulekile ukuba wena nomntwana wakho niphumle ngaphambi kokuba nilale ebusuku. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, thatha umntwana wakho nihambe kancinci ebaleni ebusuku, okanye ume kufutshane nomnyango niphefumle nzulu. Loo moya mtsha uya kunizolisa nobabini. Gcinani imeko yasekhaya ithule ebusuku. Kodwa musa ukuyenza ithule ngokupheleleyo. Incoko eqhelekileyo kunye nezandi eziqhelekileyo ezivela ekhaya zinokunceda umntwana wakho alale .
2. Yenza umntwana wakho aqonde ukuba ukuncancisa kukutya.
Ngethuba uncancisa, kwangoko nje ukuba uzive ukuba umntwana wakho usele ngokwaneleyo (ngezinto ezinje ngokunciphisa isantya sokumunca, ukukhanya kwamalungu, njl.njl.), mkhuphe umntwana kancinci. Emva koko mjike umntwana emqolo umgone. Lo ngumyalezo othambileyo kumntwana wakho, othi, "Umama ulapha, kodwa ngoku lixesha lokumtyisa."
3. Gcina inkqubo ethile yokulala
Qala ukwenza izinto ezithile ngexesha elinye nangendlela efanayo ubusuku ngabunye. Oku sikubiza ngokuba "yinkqubo yokulala".
- Ukucoca amazinyo okanye iintsini zomntwana ngelaphu elifumileyo.
- Nobabini nijonga incwadi kunye (nokuba inemifanekiso).
- Ukucula ingoma okanye ingoma ayithandayo umntwana.
- Bamba umntwana wakho kufutshane nesifuba sakho. Oku kukhupha iihomoni ezizolisayo emizimbeni yakho yomibini.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukwenza ezi zinto ngokulandelelana okufanayo nangendlela efanayo yonke imihla. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, bandakanya utata kule nto. Emva koko kungekuphela nje umama, kodwa notata uya kukwazi ukulalisa umntwana.
4. Thetha nomntwana wakho uze wenze oku.
Ukuba umntwana wakho umdala ngokwaneleyo ukuba aqonde, ungathetha naye ngento oyenzayo. Mphe ukutya okwethutyana, uthi, "Mama, ndiza kuyifumana loo nto," uze umshiye yedwa. Kodwa ungaze uphule isithembiso sakho sokubuya. Yandisa kancinci kancinci ixesha ongekho ngalo. Oku kuya kunceda umntwana wakho afumane ukuthenjwa, kwaye uya kuba nethuba lokulala yedwa ngelixa umlindile.
Chazela umntwana wakho izinto ngendlela yothando, njengokuthi, "Sele kusebusuku ngoku, kwaye ukuncancisa kuphelile. Uza kumnika ukutya kube kanye kuphela ebusuku." Ezi zinto azizukusebenza ngobusuku obunye, kodwa ukuba uzama ngomonde, ngokuqinisekileyo uza kufumana iziphumo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Nangona ukulalisa umntwana wakho ngelixa uncancisa kuyinto enothando kakhulu, ukuba iba ngumkhwa, umntwana wakho usenokuxhomekeka kuye ukuze alale.
- Ukuba umntwana wakho uncanca nje ngaphandle kokuginya ubisi (ukuncancisa ngokukhululeka) okanye uvuka rhoqo ebusuku, oko kusenokuba luphawu lokuba lixesha lokutshintsha loo mkhwa.
- Misela inkqubo yokulala ezolileyo (umz., ukufunda incwadi, ukucula ingoma) oyenza ngexesha elifanayo yonke imihla ebusuku.
- Yabelana ngoxanduva lokulalisa umntwana noyise. Kuya kuba luncedo kakhulu kuwe.
- Usana ngalunye lwahlukile. Yiba nomonde nothando. Ukuba enye indlela ayisebenzi, zama enye.
- Ukuba unemibuzo okanye unenkxalabo malunga noku, ungaze ungathandabuzi ukuthetha nombelethisi wakho okanye ugqirha wakho ngako.
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