Xa ugqirha ekuxelela ukuba umntwana wakho une-ADHD, okanye i-Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder , ngaba wakha wacinga, "Ngaba le yimpazamo yam? Ingaba kungenxa yokuba andimkhulisanga umntwana wam ngendlela efanelekileyo?" Ukuba uvakalelwa ngaloo ndlela, awuwedwa. Njengabantu abaninzi kuluntu, abazali abaninzi bacinga ukuba le yimpazamo yabo. Kodwa mandikuxelele, ungazibeki tyala. Asikuko ityala lakho.
Yintoni kanye kanye i-ADHD?
Ngamafutshane, i-ADHD yimeko ebangelwa lutshintsho oluthile ekusebenzeni nasekuphuhlisweni kwengqondo. Nangona izazinzulu zingekaqiniseki ngokupheleleyo ukuba kutheni oku kusenzeka, ziyazi izinto ezininzi ezinokubangela oku. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba uninzi lwezi zinto lungaphaya kwamandla abazali.
Umzekelo:
- Impembelelo yemfuza (ii-genes): Ukuba kukho umntu kusapho one-ADHD, kukho ithuba elikhulu lokuba nomntwana uya kuba nayo.
- Ulwakhiwo lobuchopho kunye neekhemikhali: Ulwakhiwo lwezinye iindawo zobuchopho babantwana abane-ADHD kunye nokusebenza kweekhemikhali (ii-neurotransmitters) ezithwala imiyalezo phakathi kwemithambo-luvo zahlukile kancinci kwezo zomntwana oqhelekileyo.
- Iziphumo ngexesha lokukhulelwa: Ukusetyenziswa kotywala ngumama, ukutshaya, okanye ukuchanabeka kwiityhefu ezithile ngexesha lokukhulelwa.
- Ubunzima bokuzalwa obuphantsi : Iintsana ezizelwe ngaphambi kwexesha okanye ezinobunzima obuphantsi kakhulu zisengozini.
Ngoku usenokuba ucinga, "Ngaba imeko yasekhaya ayibalulekanga?" Injalo ngokwenene. Ukuba imeko yasekhaya ayibalulekanga kwaye ixinezelekile, inokunyusa iimpawu zomntwana wakho. Kwakhona, ukuba imeko yasekhaya izolile kwaye icwangcisiwe, inokuba luncedo olukhulu kumntwana ukulawula imeko yakhe. Kodwa khumbula, nokuba imeko yasekhaya ichaphazela iimpawu, ayibangeli i-ADHD. Le meko ayizange ivele kuba uvumele umntwana wakho abukele iTV, adlale imidlalo yevidiyo, abe ngqongqo ngakumbi, okanye angabi nambeko kangako.
Njengokuba umntu onesifo seswekile esitya iswekile eninzi, esi sifo siya kuba sibi kakhulu, kodwa ukutya iswekile akusibangeli isifo seswekile. Kuyafana nakule nto. Indawo yasekhaya iluncedo ekulawuleni iimpawu, hayi unobangela wesifo.
Kutheni ke abazali beva ityala elingaka?
Kukho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zoku. Esinye kukuba sele kuqhelekile kuluntu lwethu ukuba abanye bagxeke indlela esikhulisa ngayo abantwana bethu. Umama ongafumani ngcebiso efana nokuthi "Hayi, musa ukuba ngqwabalala," "Yiba ngqongqo kancinci," "Nantsi into omele uyimondle," "Nantsi indlela omele umlalise ngayo,"Kunzima ukufumana utata . Ngoko ke xa ufumanisa ukuba umntwana unemeko efana ne-ADHD, olu gxeko lukhula nangakumbi.
Enye into kukuba, ngamanye amaxesha kukho izinto eziphuma njengeengxelo zophando. Uzibonile kumaphephandaba nakwiiwebhusayithi, kwaye zichaza ngokweenkcukacha, zithi, "Uphando lwakutshanje lufumanise ukuba ukungaqeqesheki kwabazali yimbangela ye-ADHD." Kodwa xa ujonga olo phando, kukho ubuthathaka obuninzi kulo. Mhlawumbi olo phando lwenziwe ngokubuza abazali malunga nokuziphatha kwabo. Ngoko ke akunakwenzeka ukutsho ukuba ezo mpendulo zichane kangakanani na. Kodwa izihloko ezinje ngale zisasaza ingcamango ephosakeleyo kuluntu.
Ujongana njani nokugxekwa kunye neengcebiso ongazifuniyo?
Xa unomntwana oneemfuno ezikhethekileyo ezifana ne-ADHD, usenokujongana neengcebiso ezingafunwayo kunye nokugxekwa okuvela kwizalamane, abahlobo, kwanabantu ongabaziyo. Nazi ezinye izinto ezinokukunceda ujongane noku:
- Lumka ukuba wabelana nabani na ngeemvakalelo zakho: Musa ukwabelana ngezinto ezikuxhalabisayo neengxaki zakho nabo bonke abantu. Ukuba wenza njalo, unokufumana "ukugxekwa okwakhayo" kubo endaweni yokuthuthuzelwa. Thetha ngezi zinto nomntu omthembayo ukuba uyakuqonda ngokwenene.
- Yima incoko ngoko nangoko: Ukuba umntu uqala ukukugxeka ngendlela okhulisa ngayo umntwana wakho, yithi ngokuzolileyo kodwa ngokuqinileyo, " Siyavuya yindlela esenza ngayo izinto, kwaye enkosi ngegalelo lakho. " Oko kudla ngokuphelisa incoko.
- Khusela umntwana wakho: Ungaze uthethe nge-ADHD yomntwana wakho okanye imingeni ephambi kwakhe. Kwakhona, ukuba ukuya endlwini okanye kwitheko apho uhlala ugxekwa kuya kumlimaza umntwana wakho, ziphephe ezo ndawo kangangoko unako.
- Thetha ngesayensi: Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukufundisa umntu, mxelele ukuba i-ADHD yimeko enobungqina besayensi obuqinisekisiweyo kwaye ibangelwa lutshintsho olusengqondweni.
Njengomzali ungamnceda njani umntwana wakho?
Nokuba i-ADHD yomntwana wakho ayibangelwa yindlela yakho yokukhulisa umntwana, indima yakho ekuncedeni umntwana wakho aphumelele kubomi bakhe bemihla ngemihla ibalulekile. Ungabuza iqela lokhathalelo lomntwana wakho okanye imibutho enxulumene ne-ADHD malunga neenkqubo zoqeqesho ezilungiselelwe abazali ngokukodwa. Kwangaxeshanye, kubalulekile ukudala imeko-bume yekhaya exhasa umntwana wakho.
Makhe sibone kwitheyibhile engezantsi ukuba zeziphi izinto ezinokwenziwa ngaloo nto.
| Isenzo | Inkcazo kunye nokubaluleka |
|---|---|
| Yenza inkqubo ehambelanayo | Misela amaxesha amiselweyo kunye nemigaqo yesiqhelo yezinto ezifana nexesha lokutya, ixesha lomsebenzi wesikolo, ixesha lokudlala, kunye nexesha lokulala. Oku kunika umntwana umbono ocacileyo wento eza kwenzeka, kwaye kulula ukuhlala egxile. |
| Misela imithetho ecacileyo kunye nemida | Cacisela umntwana wakho imithetho yendlu ngendlela elula necacileyo. Soloko unyanzelisa loo mithetho ngendlela efanayo. Musa ukuba ngenye indlela namhlanje uze ube ngenye ngomso. Ukungaguquguquki kubaluleke kakhulu. |
| Sebenzisa isibali-xesha. | Misela ixesha lezinto ezifana nomsebenzi wesikolo, ukugqiba imidlalo, ukulungiselela, njl. Le yindlela entle yokulawula ixesha lakho. Ikwakunceda ukuba utshintshele komnye umsebenzi uye komnye. |
| Yenza indawo ezolileyo | Yenza indawo ezolileyo ekhaya apho umntwana wakho anokuzola aze aphumle khona. Le ayifanele ibe yindawo yakhe yokulala okanye indawo yokuphumla. Yenza indawo eyahlukileyo enento efana nesitulo esincinci okanye ibhegi yeembotyi. |
| Gcina indlu icocekile. | Gcina ikhaya lakho licocekile kangangoko unako. Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uneendawo zakhe zokudlala neencwadi, kwaye uzibuyisele kwiindawo zazo ezifanelekileyo emva kokuba zisetyenzisiwe. Indawo exineneyo inokuphazamisa umntwana wakho nangakumbi. |
Okokugqibela, khumbula, ungumzekelo obalaseleyo womntwana wakho. Okukhona uzama ukuhlala uzolile kwaye unethemba, kokukhona kuya kuba lula ngani nobabini ukujongana nemingeni ehambisana ne-ADHD kunye.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- I-ADHD ayisosifo esibangelwa ziimpazamo zabazali, yimeko ebangelwa kukutshintsha kwendlela esebenza ngayo ingqondo.
- Indawo ohlala kuyo inokuba nefuthe kwiimpawu zomntwana wakho, kodwa ayingonobangela wesifo.
- Musa ukwenzakaliswa kukugxekwa nokucetyiswa ngokungeyomfuneko. Kuxhomekeke kuwe nakugqirha wakho ukwenza okulungileyo kumntwana wakho.
- Ukudala inkqubo eqhelekileyo, imithetho ecacileyo, kunye nendawo ehlelekileyo kunokunceda kakhulu ekuncedeni umntwana one-ADHD ukuba aphumelele.
- Ukuba unemibuzo engaphezulu malunga noku, ungabi nantloni kwaye uthethe ngokukhululekileyo nogqirha womntwana wakho.
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