Ngaba abantwana bayazoyika izivuthuvuthu? (Uxinzelelo lweSiphepho) Masibancede!

Imozulu kwihlabathi liphela iyamangalisa ngokwenene kule mihla, akunjalo? Kukho iindudumo ezikhawulezileyo, ' iinkanyamba ' ezinkulu, kunye 'neenkanyamba' ezingaphezu kwesiqhelo. Ngoko ke ngexesha elinje, xa sibona iindaba kwiTV, kwirediyo, 'kwiindaba zoluntu', kwaye xa isivuthuvuthu sifika ngokwenene, kunokuba nzima kancinci kubantwana bethu ukuba bajamelane nazo. Basenokuba noloyiko kwaye baxhalabile. Ngoko ke namhlanje, masithethe ngento esinokuyenza ukunciphisa uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo kwiingqondo zabantwana bethu kwaye sibagcine bezolile ngexesha elinje.

Ungayilungisa njani intwana yakho ngaphambi kokuba kubekho isivunguvungu?

Ukuba indawo okuyo ithanda ukuba neemvula ezinkulu ngamaxesha athile onyaka, njengeemvula ezinkulu zasehlotyeni okanye iinkanyamba, kubalulekile ukuthetha nabantwana bakho ngazo kwangaphambili. Cacisa ukuba yintoni isiphango kwaye yintoni esinokuyenza ngendlela efanelekileyo ngokweminyaka neqondakala lula. Kulungile, masibone ukuba singayenza njani loo nto.

Umzekelo, cinga ngoku:

• Ngokuphathelele iinkanyamba: Yintoni umahluko phakathi 'kokuphuma' (oko kuthetha ukushiya ikhaya lakho xa isivuthuvuthu sifika uye kwindawo ekhuselekileyo, mhlawumbi indawo yokukhusela isivuthuvuthu elawulwa ngurhulumente) kunye 'nokuhlala kwindawo ekhuselekileyo' (oko kuthetha ukuhlala ukhuselekile ekhaya ngexesha lesivuthuvuthu).
• Ngokuphathelele iinkanyamba: Cacisa umahluko phakathi kokubukela inkanyamba (oko kuthetha ukuba inkanyamba isenokuba iza kwindawo okuyo) kunye nesilumkiso senkanyamba (oko kuthetha ukuba inkanyamba sele ikhona kwindawo okuyo).
• Malunga neeNkanyamba: Njengakwiinkanyamba, chaza umahluko phakathi kokubukela iindudumo ezinkulu kunye nesilumkiso seendudumo ezinkulu. Abantwana banokoyikiswa yimbane kunye neendudumo, ingakumbi ukuba baziva kufutshane. Kodwa baxelele ukuba banokuhlala bekhuselekile ngokuhlala ngaphakathi endlwini. Ukuba isichotho kunye nomoya onamandla kunokwenzeka, baxelele kwangaphambili ukuba ibukeka njani kwaye ivakala njani.

Xa uthetha nabantwana abancinci, cinga ngale ndlela. Ukuhlala endlwini ngexesha lesiphango kufana nendlela izilwanyana zasendle ezifana neenkonjane neentaka ezihlala ngayo emingxunyeni nasezindlwaneni zazo. Ungathi into efana nale, "Khangela, nyana, masihlale sikhuselekile endlwini yethu kanye njengokuba loo nkonjane incinci ihlala endlwini yayo." Kanye njengokuba ezo zilwanyana ziqokelela ukutya ngamaxesha anje, umntwana wakho angakhetha ukutya akuthandayo okanye ithoyizi ayithandayo yokudlala ngayo ngexesha lesiphango.

Xelela abantwana bakho into oyenzayo ukuze uhlale ukhuselekile. Cacisa, "Xa singaphakathi ngexesha lesiphango, asisondeli kufutshane neengcango, iifestile, okanye ii-skylights, kuba zinokuphula umoya." Ukuba ikhaya lakho line "gumbi elikhuselekileyo" onokuya kulo ngexesha lesiphango, njengegumbi elingaphantsi okanye igumbi elingenazo iifestile, bonisa umntwana wakho uze uthi, "Apha kulapho siza kuba khona ngexesha lesiphango. Kukhuselekile kakhulu apha."

Ukuba abantwana bakho babonakala besoyika, babuze ngaloo nto kwaye ubakhuthaze ukuba bathethe ngezinto abazicingayo. Ukwabelana nawe ngoloyiko lwabo kunokuba luncedo kakhulu kubo. Ukuthi nje uyabaphulaphula kuthumela umyalezo omkhulu. Uyaqonda?

Ungenza njani ukuze abantwana bazole ngexesha lesiphango?

Iindudumo kunye neenkanyamba zinokuhlala ixesha elide. Ngoko ke ezi zinto zinokunceda abantwana bakho bahlale bezolile de yonke into ithomalale. Ngoku jonga ezi:

• Zama ukunciphisa oko abantwana bakho bakubonayo nabakuvayo ngesiphango. Amabali nemifanekiso ngesiphango kwiiwebhusayithi, kwimidiya yoluntu, kwiTV, nakwirediyo inokubangela ukuba boyike nangakumbi. Ukuba ubona abantwana bakho besibukela, sibukele kunye kwaye ubavumele babuze imibuzo. Kodwa ukuba iindaba ziyoyikisa kakhulu, ungagxila kuzo kwaye uqondise abantwana bakho kwenye into. Ungatsho into efana nale, " Hee nyana, singabukela ikhathuni ngoku?"
• Zithathele ingqalelo izinto ezixhalabisa umntwana wakho. Iingcinga zabantwana zinokwenza uloyiko lwabo lube lubi ngakumbi. Bazise ukuba uyaziqonda iimvakalelo zabo. Kwangaxeshanye, thetha ngento enokwenzeka ngokwenene nendlela usapho lwakho olulungele ngayo ukugcina wonke umntu ekhuselekile. Thetha izinto ezinje, "Ewe, nyana, ndiyaqonda ukuba uyoyika. Kodwa sonke sikunye koku, ngoko akukho nto yokoyika."
• Kwakhona, jonga indlela oziphatha ngayo. Abantwana bayabahlonipha abazali babo, bayayibona indlela ovakalelwa ngayo, nendlela osabela ngayo. Ngoko ke yiba ngumzekelo omhle, zama ukuhlala uzolile. Ukuba uxhalabile, abantwana baya koyika nangakumbi.
• Banike umsebenzi omncinci. Fumana imisebenzi emincinci elungele umntwana wakho ukuba ayenze ukuze alungiselele isivuthuvuthu. Oku kungaba yinto efana nokugcina ithotshi kwindawo elula ukuyifumana kwigumbi lakhe, ukugcwalisa ibhafu ngamanzi (chaza ukuba la manzi angasetyenziselwa izinto ezifana nokuhlamba indlu yangasese ukuba kuyimfuneko), okanye ukugcina isilwanyana sasekhaya sizolile. Umntwana angabeka izinto zakhe zokudlala okanye anyamekele umchamo wekati . Xa ephethe umsebenzi, abantwana baziva ngathi balawula.
• Cebisa imisebenzi ezolisa ingqondo.Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakala exhalabile, mbambele kufutshane nawe okanye nesilwanyana sasekhaya. Ungamcebisa nokuba abhale ngeemvakalelo zakhe, azobe imifanekiso, okanye amamele iingoma. Gcina ithotshi ilungile ukuze akwazi ukufunda iincwadi, ukudlala imidlalo, ukwenza iiphazili, okanye ukwenza imisebenzi yezandla ukuba izibane ziyacima.
• Zama imithambo yokuphefumla. Fundisa abantwana bakho indlela yokuphefumla 'ngesisu': Phefumla ngempumlo yakho, uvumele isisu sakho sande njengebhaluni xa sigcwele. Emva koko phefumlela ngaphandle ngempumlo yakho, uvumele isisu sakho siphinde sithambe. Ukwenza oku izihlandlo ezimbalwa kunokukunceda uzole.

Ungayithuthuzela njani umntwana emva kwesiphango?

Ukuba kuza isiphepho kwindawo okuyo, ukuthetha nabantwana bakho ngaso kunokuba nzima kancinci. Zama la macebiso:

• Xela inyani. Xela inyani ngento eyenzekileyo, kodwa ungangeni kwiinkcukacha umntwana wakho angayi kuba nomdla kuzo. Namathela kwiziseko. Cacisa izinto ngokweminyaka yakhe kunye nokukhula kwakhe. Ngamafutshane, thetha ngolwimi aluqondayo.
• Buza imibuzo. Ukuba abantwana abathethi ngesivuthuvuthu, ukubuza imibuzo kunokubanceda babandakanyeke. Ungabuza imibuzo efana nale, "Ubuziva njani xa kufika isivuthuvuthu?" Kunokubathatha ixesha ukuveza oko bakucingayo, ngoko ke yiba nomonde kwaye umamele.
• Xhasa iimvakalelo zomntwana wakho. Musa ukuyithatha lula indlela abantwana abavakalelwa ngayo. Ukuba bakuxelela ukuba bakhathazekile okanye bayoyika, phinda oko bakuthethileyo: “Ewe, ndiyaqonda ukuba ukhathazekile kakhulu ngale nto.” Oku kuya kumenza azi ukuba uyammamela kwaye uyamqonda. Mqinisekise ukuba isivuthuvuthu siphelile kwaye bakhuselekile ngoku.
• Yenza oku kube lithuba lokufunda. Ukuba abantwana bakho bakhulile kancinci, bancede baqonde isayensi engasemva kwesivuthuvuthu. Emva koko banokuyibona njengento enentsingiselo. Oku kunokunceda ekunciphiseni uloyiko lwabo lwezivuthuvuthu ezizayo. Yiyani kwi-intanethi kunye nifunde ngezivuthuvuthu, okanye nifumane iincwadi zemozulu kwithala leencwadi. Abantwana banokuthetha ngale nto notitshala wabo wesayensi.

Ubuyela njani kubomi obuqhelekileyo emva kwesiphango?

Kungathatha ixesha ukuba umntu aphinde aphile emva kwesiphango, ingakumbi ukuba ikhaya lakho okanye indawo ohlala kuyo yonakele. Nazi ezinye zezinto ezinokunceda:

• Buyela kwimisebenzi yesiqhelo. Ukugcina imisebenzi yesiqhelo, efana namaxesha okutya kunye namaxesha okulala, kunceda abantwana bazive beqhelekile. Oku kubanika ukuzithemba.
• Bonisa abantwana abancedayo.Khomba abantu abakuluntu lwakho abancedayo, njengamapolisa, abacimi-mlilo, abasebenzi beenkonzo zikagesi, abamelwane, kwanabantu ongabaziyo. Thetha izinto ezinje, "Khangela indlela abasebenza nzima ngayo abo bantu ukuze basibuyisele ezinyaweni zethu."
• Nceda abanye. Ukuba kukhuselekile, fumana iindlela wena nomntwana wakho eninokunceda ngazo abanye kuluntu lwenu emva kwesiphango. Oku kungabaqinisa abantwana kwaye kubagcine bexakekile. Umzekelo, into encinci njengokunceda ummelwane ukucoca igadi yakhe inokwenza umahluko omkhulu.

Yintoni enye ekufuneka siyazi?

Ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakalisa utshintsho kwindlela aziphethe ngayo ( njengokungalali kakuhle okanye ukutya kakuhle, ukungafuni ukuba phakathi kwabantu, okanye ukuba nexhala ngalo lonke ixesha), fowunela ugqirha wakhe okanye umboneleli wezempilo oziphatha kakuhle. Banokunceda ekulawuleni ixhala lomntwana wakho baze bamncede azive ngcono ngaye.

Akukho nto imbi ngokucela uncedo ngexesha elinje. Kubonisa ukuba umkhathalele kangakanani umntwana wakho.

Ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki yokufunda okanye yokugxila emva kwesaqhwithi, ungathetha nabacebisi besikolo, abasebenzi, kunye nootitshala . Banokuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho ufumana inkxaso ayidingayo esikolweni.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka siyikhumbule

Khawucinge nje, isaqhwithi esikhulu asingomthwalo kubantwana abancinci kuphela, kodwa nakuthi. Kodwa ngothando lwethu, ingqalelo, kunye nokulungiselela okulula, sinokuthomalalisa uloyiko ebantwaneni bethu. Ukumamela iimvakalelo zabo, ukubaqonda, nokuba nabo yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Khumbula, izivunguvungu ziyafika zidlule, kodwa amandla kunye nobunye bentsapho yethu buxabiseke ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na enye into. Ukuba unemibuzo engaphezulu malunga noku, ungoyiki ukubuza ugqirha okanye ingcali kule ndawo. Awuwedwa!

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