Kunzima ukuthola umuntu ongakaze abe nobuhlungu bomhlane esikhathini esithile empilweni yakhe, akunjalo? Kwabanye, kuyisicefe esincane nje esiphela ezinsukwini ezimbalwa. Kodwa kwabanye, kuba isicefe esihlala njalo, esihlala usuku lonke. Ngakho-ke uma lobu buhlungu buqhubeka, abugcini nje emzimbeni wakho, buqala ukukukhathaza nasengqondweni yakho.
Kuyini lokhu kuxhumana phakathi kobuhlungu nengqondo?
Uma ubuhlungu bomhlane buqhubeka, okungukuthi, buba ubuhlungu obungapheli , budlula kakhulu umuzwa ongokwenyama. Bungathinta imizwa yakho, konke empilweni yakho yansuku zonke. Cabanga nje, lobu buhlungu bungaba njengomgodi omnyama lapho zonke izinkinga empilweni yakho ziqongelela khona. Ungase ucabange, "Ukube ubuhlungu bomhlane bungaba ngcono, konke okunye bekuzolunga."
Ukuphila nalolu hlobo lobuhlungu obungapheli kungenza kube nzima ukugxila emisebenzini yansuku zonke, ube nenkinga yokukhumbula izinto, ulahlekelwe yisifiso sokudla, futhi ube nenkinga yokulala. Ngakho konke lokhu, kufanele uhlale ukhathazeka ngezinto ezinjengokuthi, "Ngizokwazi yini ukusebenza manje?", "Ngizokwazi yini ukwenza imisebenzi yami yasekhaya?" Ngakho-ke kuvamile kakhulu ukuthi abantu bathukuthele, babe nokukhathazeka, futhi baze babe nokucindezeleka ngezikhathi ezinjengalezi.
Ubuhlungu abuyona nje into engathandeki ehamba ohlelweni lwethu lwezinzwa . Buhlobene nemizwa yakho, imicabango, nendlela oyibona ngayo. Kalula nje, lapho ucabanga ukuthi ubuhlungu buzoba khona, kulapho uzozwa khona ubuhlungu obukhulu.
Abanye abantu bacabanga kakhulu ngobuhlungu babo bomhlane bese bebenza bubonakale bukhulu futhi bubi kakhulu kunalokho obuyikho ngempela. Lokhu sikubiza ngokuthi 'inhlekelele'. Cabanga udokotela wakho ekutshela ukuthi ama-disc akho aphakathi kwamathambo akho agugile, okusho ukuthi unesifo se-disc esiwohlokayo. Bese ucabanga ukuthi, 'O, manje angisakwazi ukusebenza, kuzodingeka ngihlale ekhaya, futhi ngingase ngigcine ngisebenzisa isihlalo sabakhubazekile ngolunye usuku.' Ukukhathazeka ngento encane njengale kuzokwenza ubuhlungu bube bubi kakhulu.
Lokhu kucindezeleka ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo kungaholela ekucindezelekeni kwengqondo cishe engxenyeni yesithathu yabantu abanobuhlungu obungapheli. Ngokufanayo, cishe abantu abangama-75% abafuna ukwelashwa kokucindezeleka bakhononda ngezimpawu zomzimba, ikakhulukazi ubuhlungu. Ngakho-ke kuyindlela ebanzi.
Umjikelezo omubi wobuhlungu nokucindezeleka
Lokhu kufana nomjikelezo ongeke ukwazi ukuphuma kuwo.
1. Usezinhlungwini.
2. Lokhu kukwenza uzizwe ucindezelekile futhi ukhathazekile.
3. Lokho kucindezela kwenza imisipha yakho iqine nakakhulu.
4. Imisipha eqinile yenza ubuhlungu bube bubi nakakhulu.
Lo mjikelezo ungaqala ngomunye umjikelezo. Lowo umjikelezo wokwesaba nokugwema . Abantu baqala ukugwema imisebenzi ethile ngoba besaba ukwandisa ubuhlungu noma ukulimala futhi. Isibonelo, bagwema izinto ezifana nokuhamba noma ukuphakamisa izinsimbi. Uma uqhubeka nokugwema imisebenzi yomzimba efana nale, umzimba wakho uba buthakathaka futhi ungase ungabi namandla okwenza okuthile kamuva, noma ngabe ufuna ngempela.
Ungayelapha kanjani le nkinga yomzimba nengqondo?
Imithi noma ukuhlinzwa kungaxazulula inkinga engokomzimba ebangela ubuhlungu bakho. Kodwa uma uhlushwa ukukhathazeka noma ukucindezeleka, ngeke kuxazulule yonke inkinga.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi kokubili inkinga emzimbeni kanye nenkinga engqondweni kumele iphathwe ngesikhathi esisodwa .
Kubantu abanobuhlungu bomhlane obuncane kuya kobuphakathi, uhlelo lokuzivocavoca oluqondiswa ngochwepheshe lunganele ukusiza ngezimpawu zomzimba nezengqondo. Umgomo wezinhlelo ezinjalo ukuqinisa imisipha yomhlane neyesisu esekela umgogodla, nokukufundisa ukuthi ungenza kanjani imisebenzi yansuku zonke njengokuphakamisa nokugoba ngaphandle kokucindezela umhlane wakho.
Uma unezinhlungu zomhlane ezingapheli nezinzima, ngokuvamile kungcono ukufuna usizo lwethimba lochwepheshe kunokuba udokotela oyedwa nje. Leli qembu lingafaka udokotela womndeni wakho, udokotela wamathambo, udokotela womzimba, uchwepheshe wezinhlungu ezingapheli, uchwepheshe wezokwelapha ngokomzimba, kanye nodokotela wezengqondo. Into ebalulekile ukuthi bonke laba bantu banokuhlangenwe nakho kokwelapha ubuhlungu obungapheli.
| Indlela yokwelapha | Kwenzekani ngalokhu? |
|---|---|
| Ukugcina idayari yobuhlungu | Uma ubuhlungu bukhula, ungakwazi ukubona izinto ezibangela lokhu. Lokhu kuwusizo olukhulu uma uxoxa ngakho nodokotela wakho. |
| Ukwelashwa kokuziphatha | Kukusiza ukuthi ufunde ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nobuhlungu, ukulinganiselwa okubangelwa yibo, nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nezimo ezifana nokucindezeleka. |
| Amasu okuphumula | Izinto ezinjengokuphefumula okujulile kanye nokuphumula kwemisipha okuqhubekayo kungasiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka kwemisipha okubangela ubuhlungu. |
| Imithi | Udokotela angase anikeze imithi yokunciphisa ubuhlungu, izinsiza zokulala, noma imithi yokunciphisa ukucindezeleka/ukukhathazeka. |
Ukulawula imisebenzi kanye neziphazamiso
Kubalulekile ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho bese unquma izinga lomsebenzi womzimba ongawenza. Kunezinhlobo ezimbili zeziguli ezinezinhlungu zomhlane.
1. Abantu abahlala kusofa: Abantu abangavuki ngisho embhedeni noma kusofa, becabanga ukuthi, " Umhlane wami ubuhlungu , ngakho angikwazi ukwenza lutho."
2. Abantu abasebenza ngokungayeki: Labo abasebenza kanzima kakhulu kunabangakwazi ukukuthwala, kodwa bandisa ubuhlungu.
Azikho kulezi zindlela ezizokusiza ngalutho. Ngakho-ke, ungasebenzi ngaphezu kwamandla akho, futhi ungahlali nje ungenzi lutho . Indlela elinganiselayo ibalulekile.
Okubalulekile: Uma unezinhlungu ezingapheli emhlane, qiniseka ukuthi uthintana nodokotela wakho ngaphambi kokuqala uhlelo lokuzivocavoca, njengoba ezinye izivivinyo zingase zibe yingozi kuye ngesimo sakho sempilo kanye nembangela yobuhlungu bakho.
Kubalulekile ukugcina ingqondo yakho isebenza, njengomzimba wakho. Siyazi ukuthi ukuphazamiseka kungakusiza ukuthi ubhekane nobuhlungu. Uma uvaleleke ekamelweni wedwa nobuhlungu bakho, kungakwenza uzizwe kabi kakhulu. Ngakho-ke gcina ingqondo yakho imatasa. Hlala nabangani, bukela i-movie, hamba uyohamba. Lezi zinto zingakusiza ukuthi ukhiphe ingqondo yakho ebuhlungwini.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ubuhlungu obungapheli bomhlane abuyona nje ubuhlungu obungokomzimba, bungathinta imizwa yakho, isimo sengqondo, nakho konke okusempilweni yakho.
- Uma welapha ubuhlungu, udinga ukucabanga ngomzimba kanye nengqondo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthola izixazululo zazo zombili lezi zinkinga ngesikhathi esisodwa.
- Ukungenzi lutho nokusebenza kanzima kakhulu kokubili akulungile. Khuluma nodokotela wakho ukuze uthole izinga elilinganiselayo lomsebenzi elikusebenzelayo.
- Qiniseka ukuthi uthintana nodokotela wakho ngaphambi kokuqala noma yikuphi ukuvivinya umzimba.
- Gcina ingqondo yakho isebenza. Ukuzihlukanisa nobuhlungu ngezinto ezifana nezinto zokuzilibazisa kanye nokuchitha isikhathi nabangani kungasiza ekulawuleni ubuhlungu.
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