Loaʻa i kou makuahine a makuakāne paha kahi maʻi hoʻohana ʻona? ʻAʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi, e kamaʻilio kāua!

Manaʻo ʻoe ua lilo kou makua i mea ʻona a i ʻole nā ​​lāʻau lapaʻau ʻē aʻe? ʻO ka noho ʻana me kēia hiki ke manaʻo e like me ʻoe mehameha. Akā, ʻaʻole ʻoe mehameha. ʻO kēia mau pilikia i hoʻokumu ʻia e ka waiʻona a me ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau (e like me nā opioids) ua kapa ʻia ma ke ʻano lapaʻau he mau maʻi hoʻohana waiwai , a i ʻole ma ka ʻōlelo Pelekania, nā maʻi hoʻohana waiwai .

ʻO kēia kūlana i kapa ʻia ʻo `(Substance Use Disorder)` ʻaʻole wale ia e hoʻopilikia i ke olakino o ke kanaka, akā, i ke ʻano o kā lākou hana. He kumu nō hoʻi ia no nā pilikia ma ka home a ma ka hana. No laila, ʻo ka noho ʻana me kahi mea nona kēia pilikia, ʻoiai inā ʻo kou makua ponoʻī ia, ʻaʻole ia he mea maʻalahi. Inā ʻoe e hele nei i kēia ʻike, he mea nui loa ia e kamaʻilio me kekahi e pili ana i kou manaʻo. E kiʻi i ke kākoʻo āu e pono ai a kūpono hoʻi.

He aha ke ʻano o ka noho ʻana me kahi makua i loaʻa i ka maʻi hoʻohana ʻona?

Hiki ke paʻakikī loa ka noho ʻana me kahi makua e hoʻohana ana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau. Hiki iā ia ke loaʻa ka hopena nui i kou manaʻo, pehea ʻoe e hana ai, a me kou ola ʻohana. ʻAʻole like ka manaʻo no kēlā me kēia kanaka, he ʻokoʻa no kēlā me kēia kanaka. E nānā inā pili kekahi o nā mea ma lalo nei iā ʻoe.

Pehea kou manaʻo?

Ua ʻike kekahi mau keiki i nā manaʻo e like me kēia:

• Ke hilahila nei, ka huhū, a i ʻole ke kaumaha nui no ka hoʻohana ʻana o ko lākou mau mākua i ka lāʻau lapaʻau.
• Hopohopo mau lākou no ke olakino a me ka palekana o ko lākou makuahine a makuakāne paha.
• Hopohopo lākou iā lākou iho, i ko lākou mau kaikaina, a i ʻole ko lākou mau mākua ʻē aʻe.
• Ke noho ʻoe ma ka home, manaʻo ʻoe i ka makaʻu, ka mehameha, a me ka palekana ʻole . Me he mea lā he mau pilikia a puni ka hale.
• He mea hoʻonāukiuki ka manaʻo ʻaʻole e uhaki nā mākua i kēia ʻano maʻamau.
• Eia nō naʻe, he mea hōʻoluʻolu nui ka wā e hana ai nā mākua i kekahi mau hana e lanakila ai i kēia.
• He mea paʻakikī ke hilinaʻi i kekahi, a ke manaʻo nei au ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke noho mālie.
• Manaʻo wau e pono iaʻu e lilo i kanaka makua ma mua o koʻu hiki ʻana i ka makahiki kūpono. Pono wau e lawe i nā kuleana ma ka home.
• I kekahi manawa ua kaumaha loa wau i nā nīnau a hiki ʻole iaʻu ke hāpai i kuʻu poʻo .
• Hiki i kekahi mau keiki ke loaʻa i nā kūlana e like me ke kaumaha a me ka hopohopo paha .

Pehea lā ʻoe e hana ai?

I loko o ia ʻano kūlana, hana kekahi mau keiki i nā ʻano penei:

• Hoʻāʻo wau i kaʻu mea maikaʻi loa e pale aku i ka huhū o kahi makua e hoʻohana ana i ka waiʻona a i ʻole nā ​​​​lāʻau lapaʻau.
• Ke hoʻāʻo nei au e noho mamao loa aku mai kēlā mau mākua mai .
• ʻAʻole lākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kā lākou makemake a i ʻole e noi aku no ia mea .
• E mālama lākou i ko lākou mau manaʻo iā lākou iho .
• Hoʻāʻo nā mākua e hūnā i kēia pilikia mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe .
• Hūnā lākou i ke kūlana maoli ma ka home mai nā poʻe ʻē aʻe .
• Makaʻu wau e noi aku i koʻu mau hoaaloha e hoʻi mai i ka home no ka mea ʻaʻole maopopo iaʻu pehea e pane mai ai koʻu mau mākua .
• E emi ana ka hele ʻana i ke kula, a i ʻole e paʻakikī ke hoʻopau i nā hana kula .
• Lawe nā mākua i nā hana e pono ai lākou e hana . Eia kekahi laʻana, ka mālama ʻana i ko lākou mau kaikaina, ka kuke ʻana ma ka home, a pēlā aku.
• He pinepine nā hakakā me nā mākua.
• I kekahi manawa ua hoʻowalewale ʻia lākou e hōʻeha iā lākou iho .
• ʻOiai lākou e ʻeha nui nei i loko, me he mea lā ʻaʻohe o lākou manaʻo i waho.

Pehea lā e hiki ai iā ia ke hoʻopilikia i ke ola ʻohana?

I loko o nā ʻohana kahi pilikia o ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā mea ʻona, hiki ke hana ʻia nā mea e like me kēia:

• He mea paʻakikī i ka makua ke paʻa i kahi hana a uku i nā bila ma ka home .
• ʻAʻole paha lawa ka meaʻai a me ka mea inu ma ka home, a me ke kālā ma ka lima .
• Pono nā kaikuaʻana o ka ʻohana e mālama i ko lākou mau kaikaina .
• Hiki i nā mākua ke hana ʻino, hoʻomāinoino, a hoʻowahāwahā paha i kā lākou mau keiki .
• Hiki i kahi makua ke hoʻokele i ka wā ʻona. Inā hana ʻia kēlā , hiki iā lākou ke pilikia, ʻeha , a hōʻeha paha i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe .
• I kekahi manawa, no ka palekana o nā keiki a i ʻole no ka mālama ʻana iā lākou, pono paha ʻoe e neʻe i kahi ʻē e noho ai .
• Hiki i nā mākua ke hoʻokaʻawale a hemo paha .
• Eia nō naʻe, i kekahi manawa hāʻawi nā ʻohana a i ʻole nā ​​hoaaloha e kōkua .
• Loaʻa i kekahi mau mākua ke kōkua a ho'ōla mai kēia kūlana . ʻO ia ka mea maikaʻi loa e hiki ke hana.

ʻO ka mea nui e hoʻomaopopo he aha kēia, ʻaʻole na ʻoe ia hewa.

He aha kaʻu e hiki ai ke hana?

Inā ʻoe e noho me kahi makua e like me kēia, ke hele nei paha ʻoe i kahi manawa paʻakikī loa. Akā aia kekahi poʻe ma waho e kōkua iā ʻoe, e pale iā ʻoe, e kākoʻo iā ʻoe. Eia kekahi mau mea hiki iā ʻoe ke hana:

E kamaʻilio ākea me kekahi.

E kamaʻilio me kāu hoaaloha maikaʻi loa a i ʻole kekahi kanaka makua āu e hilinaʻi nei. Hiki i kēia ke lilo i kāu kākāʻōlelo kula, he kumu, he kauka, he mea hoʻoponopono, a i ʻole he hoahānau.E haʻi iā lākou i kāu mea e ʻike nei. ʻO ka haʻi ʻana i kou mau manaʻo e kōkua iā ʻoe e ʻoluʻolu, a hiki paha iā lākou ke kōkua iā ʻoe ma nā ʻano ʻē aʻe.

E hoʻomaopopo ʻaʻole kēia kou hewa.

Manaʻo kekahi mau keiki he kuleana ko lākou no ka hoʻohana ʻana o ko lākou mau mākua i ka lāʻau lapaʻau. Malia paha e hoʻāhewa lākou iā ʻoe ke huhū ko lākou mau mākua. "Noʻu anei ka inu ʻana o Māmā?" a i ʻole "No kekahi mea aʻu i hana ai i lawe ai ʻo Pāpā i nā lāʻau lapaʻau?" E noʻonoʻo paha ʻoe. Akā e akāka kākou, ʻaʻole hiki i ke keiki ke hoʻopilikia i ka pilikia lāʻau lapaʻau o ka makua. ʻO ia ko lākou pilikia.

E hoʻomaopopo i kou mau manaʻo a hāʻawi iā lākou i kahi inoa.

Mai hūnā i kou mau manaʻo a hoʻohālike ua maikaʻi nā mea a pau. E hoʻomaopopo i kou manaʻo no ka pilikia lāʻau lapaʻau o kou makua. He mea maʻamau ke kaumaha, ka huhū, a me ka makaʻu. E ʻae iā ʻoe iho e manaʻo i kou manaʻo. E hoʻohana i nā huaʻōlelo e hōʻike i kēlā mau manaʻo, ʻaʻole i nā hana maikaʻi ʻole. E hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "Ke manaʻo nei au pēlā ma muli o kēia."

E huli i kahi hui kākoʻo

Aia nā hui kākoʻo no ka poʻe e hele nei i kēia. No ka laʻana, aia nā hui e like me Al-Anon/Alateen ma ka honua holoʻokoʻa. Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻimi i kahi hui e like me ia, a i ʻole e loaʻa ke kōkua ma ka pūnaewele. ʻO ke kamaʻilio ʻana me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i hele i nā mea like me ʻoe e hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomanawanui. Hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau i kāu kākāʻōlelo kula a kauka paha e pili ana i kēia mau wahi.

E huli i kahi palekana.

Ke pale aku nei ʻoe i ka noho ʻana ma ka home i ka hiki? A i ʻole he mau manaʻo kou e holo aku mai ka home aku? Inā manaʻo ʻoe ua palekana ʻole ʻoe ma ka home, a inā manaʻo ʻoe aia paha ʻoe a i ʻole kekahi o kou ʻohana i ka pōʻino, e kelepona koke i kahi helu ulia pōpilikia e like me 119. A i ʻole aia nā keʻena e like me ka National Child Protection Authority (NCPA) (ʻo kā lākou helu kelepona ʻo 1929), hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomaopopo iā lākou. He mea nui loa hoʻi e haʻi aku i kahi pākeke āu e hilinaʻi nei e pili ana i kēia.

E kūkulu i nā ʻano noʻonoʻo maikaʻi

Aʻo kekahi mau keiki e noho mālie a ʻaʻole e hōʻike i ko lākou mau manaʻo ma muli o nā pilikia ma ka home. Manaʻo lākou ma ka hana ʻana pēlā, hiki iā lākou ke pale i ko lākou mau mākua mai ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā lāʻau lapaʻau. ʻOiai e kōkua kēia mau ʻano iā ʻoe e noho palekana ma ka home, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻopilikia i nā wahi ʻē aʻe o kou ola, me nā hoaaloha, a me nā pilina e hiki mai ana. ʻO ke aʻo ʻana e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kou manaʻo, e hōʻike i kou mau manaʻo, a e hōʻike i kou mau manaʻo he mea nui loa ia no ke kūkulu ʻana i nā pilina maikaʻi. I kekahi manawa, hiki i ka psychotherapy ke kōkua iā ʻoe e kūkulu i nā ʻano maikaʻi e like me kēia.

E ho'ōki i kēia pōʻaiapuni ʻino.

ʻO ka mea kaumaha, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka pilikia o nā keiki a nā mākua me nā maʻi hoʻohana ʻona i ka loaʻa ʻana o nā pilikia like i ka wā e hiki mai ana. Akā, ʻaʻole kēia he mea hiki ʻole ke pale ʻia.Hiki iā ʻoe ke aʻo pehea e pale aku ai i kēia pilikia ma ka hele ʻana i kahi hui kākoʻo a i ʻole ka loaʻa ʻana o ke aʻo ʻana .

ʻO ka mea e pono ai kākou e aʻo mai kēia

Inā ʻike ʻoe iā ʻoe iho i kahi kūlana paʻakikī e like me kēia, aia kekahi mau mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo ai:

• ʻAʻole ʻoe hoʻokahi. Aia kekahi poʻe i loaʻa nā ʻike like me ʻoe a ua mākaukau e kōkua iā ʻoe.
• ʻAʻole loa kēia he hewa nou. ʻAʻole ʻoe ke kuleana no nā hoʻoholo a kou mau mākua.
• Aia ke kōkua i loaʻa. Aia nā ala e kamaʻilio ai me ʻoe, kākoʻo iā ʻoe, a pale iā ʻoe.
• E kamaʻilio me kahi mea āu e hilinaʻi ai. Hiki i ka haʻi ʻana i kou mau kaumaha ke lilo i mea hōʻoluʻolu nui.
• E noʻonoʻo hoʻi iā ʻoe iho. He mea nui loa ka mālama ʻana i kou olakino noʻonoʻo a me ke kino.
• Mai hoʻopau i ka manaʻolana. Hiki i nā kānaka ke loli a ho'ōla.

E hoʻomanaʻo, ma hope o kēlā me kēia ʻino, he uliuli ka lani. He ikaika ʻoe. Hiki iā ʻoe ke lanakila ma luna o kēia.

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