Te kare ā-roto o te noho hei whaea mō te tuatoru o ngā wā - me kōrero tātou mō tēnei! (Te Hapūtanga me te Whānautanga)

E mōhio ana pea koe ki a Melissa Joan Hart, he kaiwhakaari rongonui o Hollywood. Ehara i te mea he kaiwhakaari pūkenga noa iho ia, engari he whaea aroha hoki mō ngā tamariki tokorua. Nō nā tata nei i tukuna mai e ia te rongo harikoa e hapu ana ia i tana tamaiti tuatoru. Nō reira, he aha te āhua o te tangata kua whaea kē ki te tūtaki ki tēnei wheako mō te wā tuatoru? He rerekē tēnei haerenga i te wā tuatahi me te wā tuarua? Me kōrero tātou mō te haputanga, inā koa te āhua o te noho hei whaea anō.

He rerekē te tuatoru o ngā wā i te tuatahi?

"I tino mataku ahau i taku wā e hapu ana i aku tamariki tuatahi tokorua. Engari i tēnei wā kāore au i te mataku, he tino whakamarie tēnei. Nui atu tōku harikoa. E whakapono ana ahau ka taea e tāua te whakahaere i tēnei mea," te kī a Melissa.

He mea tino noa tēnei. Ina riro koe hei whaea mō te wā tuatahi, he mea hou ngā mea katoa. Tērā pea ka mataku koe, ka ruarua hoki mō te tiaki i tētahi pēpi, me pēhea te whakahaere i te whānautanga, me pēhea te whakahaere i ngā huringa homoni. Engari i te wā tuarua, tuatoru rānei, kua pai tō wheako. E mōhio ana koe ki ngā mea hei tumanako atu me ngā mea hei whakarite māu. Nō reira, kaua e mataku, ka nui tō māia me tō marino . Ehara i te mea he rite ki te taraiwa waka mō te wā tuatahi, engari he rite ki te māia ka whiwhi koe i muri i tō taraiwa pai.

Te mamae me ngā huringa tinana i te wā e hapu ana

E ai ki a Melissa, kua ahua pōuri ake ia i tēnei hapūtanga. "Kāore au i te tino mate, nā te mea he hauora ahau i aku hapūtanga katoa. Engari kei te tino pōuri ahau. Te āhua nei kua kaha ake ngā homoni i tēnei wā. He nui taku whakapairuaki i te tīmatanga. I tere hoki te tipu o taku puku. I te toru o ngā marama, i rite ki te iwa marama."

He wheako noa anō hoki tēnei mō te tini o ngā whaea.

• Te tere o te tipu o te puku: Nā te mea kua totoro haere ngā uaua o te puku me te kōpū i muri i te haputanga tuatahi, ka tere ake te puta o te puku i te haputanga tuarua, tuatoru rānei i te tipu o te pēpi. He mea noa tēnei.
• Te nui haere o te mamae: Nā te mea kua rua ngā hāputanga o te tinana, tera pea ka nui ake te mamae o te tuara me te ngenge i te tuatoru o ngā hāputanga.
• Ngā pānga homoni: Tērā pea ka pāngia ētahi tāngata e te whakapairuaki, te ruaki, me te rerekētanga o te wairua i tēnei wā, ā, nā ngā huringa homoni ēnei i hua ake ai.

Kei te hiahia koe ki te mōhio ki te ira tangata o te pēpi i mua i te wā?

"Kāo, i tēnei wā i whakatau mātou kia huna. He hiahia tonu tāku ki te mahi i tēnā," te kī a Melissa.

He whakatau whaiaro mā ngā mātua te whakatau mēnā me mōhio te ira tangata o te pēpi i mua i te wā mā te matawai ultrasound. He painga, he ngoikoretanga hoki tōna.

• Ngā painga o te mōhio i mua: Mā tēnei ka āwhina i a koe ki te whakarite i te rūma, ki te hoko kākahu, me te whiriwhiri i tētahi ingoa mō te pēpi. Ka taea hoki e ia te āwhina i ētahi atu tamariki o te whare ki te whakarite mō te taenga mai o tētahi "tuahine hou" "tungāne hou" rānei.
• Ngā painga o te pupuri i te mea ngaro: He mea utu nui te ohorere me te harikoa o te whānautanga o tētahi pēpi. Ka āwhina hoki i a koe ki te arotahi ki ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e tō pēpi, kaua e herea e te ira tangata o te pēpi.

Nāu anō tēnei whiringa me tō hoa rangatira. Ahakoa he aha tāu e whakatau ai, kāore he aha.

Me pēhea te whānautanga o tāu pēpi?

E kī ana a Melissa mō āna wheako e rua: "I tino āwhinahia te whānautanga tuatahi e te rata. I homai he rongoā hei whakaoho i te whānautanga (Pitocin) me te epidural hei whakaiti i te mamae. Engari he tino taiao te tuarua. Kāore au i honoa ki tētahi mīhini. I noho ahau ki te kāinga mō te 10 hāora pea, ā, i haere ahau ki te hōhipera. Ko taku tumanako ka pērā anō ahau i tēnei wā."

Mai i ēnei wheako e rua, ka taea e tātou te ako mō ngā tikanga whānau matua e rua. Me titiro matatau tātou ki a rāua.

He mea nui: Ahakoa te tikanga e whiriwhiria e koe, me whakaaro nui ki tō haumaru me tō pēpi . I ētahi wā, ahakoa kei te tumanako koe kia whānau māori, tera pea ka hiahiatia he wawaotanga hauora i roto i tētahi āhuatanga ohorere. Nō reira, he mea whakaaro nui kia kōrerohia tēnei ki tō tākuta , kia whakatauhia ai te tikanga e pai ana mōu me tō pēpi.

Kua rite ngā tamariki kē atu mō te pēpi hou?

"Tino harikoa ā māua tama tokorua. I te tuatahi i kī mai rāua he tuahine tā rāua e hiahia ana, ināianei kei te kī mai rāua he tuakana tāne tā rāua e hiahia ana," te kī a Melissa me te menemene.

Ina uru mai he mema hou ki te whānau, he mea tino nui kia rite ngā tamariki katoa o te whare mōna.

• Kōrero wawe ki āu tamariki: Kōrero atu ki a rātou kei te hapu koe. Whakaakona rātou mō te tipu o te puku me ngā mahi a te pēpi i roto i te kōpū.
• Whakauruhia rātou ki te mahi whakarite: āwhina i a rātou ki te whiriwhiri i ngā kākahu mō te pēpi me te whakarite i ngā taonga tākaro. Mā tēnei ka rongo rātou kei te mahi anō hoki rātou i tā rātou mahi.
• Hoatu te māia: Kia mōhio āu tamariki kāore tō rātou aroha ki a koe e memeha i muri i te whānautanga o te pēpi hou. Whakaritea he wā mo rātou anake i muri i te whānautanga o te pēpi.

He mea noa ki ngā tamariki te rerekētanga o ō rātou whakaaro. Ko te mea nui ko te whakauru i a rātou me te aroha ki tēnei haerenga hou.

Ā, me pēhea rā ngā hiahia kai tauhou i te wā e hapū ana?

I te wā e hapu ana, ka puta he hiahia kai tauhou ki ētahi tāngata. Ka kiia hoki tēnei he "hiakai". E kī ana ētahi he tohu tēnei mai i te tinana kia whiwhi i te matūkai e hiahiatia ana.

Engari e ai ki ngā tohunga, "Kāore anō kia mōhiotia te take pūtaiao mō ēnei hiahia kai." Tērā pea nā ngā huringa o te reka me te kakara i puta mai i ngā huringa homoni.

Nō reira, ki te hiahia koe ki tētahi mea pēnei i te māngo, te pīkara, te aihikirīmi rānei, he pai ki te kai i roto i te rahinga iti . Heoi, he mea nui kia kai tahi i tētahi kai taurite, kai totika hoki. Heoi, ki te hiahia koe ki ngā mea kāore e taea te kai, pēnei i te paru, te tioka, te hopi rānei (he mate e kiia nei ko te Pica), ka kino pea. Mēnā kei te pērā, rapua tonutia he tohutohu hauora .