Kodi tiyenera kuyamikira kuti tiwonjezere chimwemwe m'miyoyo yathu?

Masiku ano tonsefe tili otanganidwa, sichoncho? Kuyambira nthawi yomwe timadzuka m'mawa mpaka tikagona usiku, timagwira ntchito mosalekeza. Pakadali pano, nthawi zina timasowa zinthu zosangalatsa komanso zabwino m'moyo. Zikatero, ndi zachilendo kumva chisoni komanso kukhumudwa. Koma kodi mukudziwa kuti pali njira yosavuta koma yamphamvu kwambiri yowonjezera chisangalalo ndi kupepuka pang'ono pa moyo wotanganidwawu? Ndicho chimene tikambirana lero. Tiyeni titchule izi kuti "kuyamikira". Zili ngati mankhwala, koma mankhwala omwe alibe zotsatirapo zoyipa ndipo amabweretsa mtendere m'maganizo!

Kodi “chidziwitso cha khalidwe labwino” chimenechi n’chiyani? Mwachidule...

Mwachidule, "Kuyamikira" ndi kuzindikira ndi kuyamikira zinthu zabwino m'miyoyo yathu, thandizo lomwe timalandira, zinthu zazing'ono zomwe zimatipangitsa kukhala osangalala. Izi zikutanthauza kuganizira zinthu zomwe talandira, anthu omwe amatithandiza, ndipo nthawi zina ngakhale zinthu zazing'ono zomwe sitisamala nazo kwenikweni. Izi sizikutanthauza kungonena kuti "Zikomo." Ndi kumverera kwakukulu. Tangoganizirani, mukadzuka m'mawa ndikuwona dzuwa likutuluka bwino. Ngakhale kuti zikuwoneka ngati chinthu chaching'ono, ngati panthawiyo mukumva kusangalala pang'ono ndi kuyamikira, ndicho chimene kuyamikira kumatanthauza. Kapena, ngati wina akukuthandizani pang'ono, ngati mukumbukira ndi kumuthokoza munthuyo kuchokera pansi pa mtima wanu, ndiko kuyamikiranso. Kodi mumadziwa kuti chizolowezichi ndi chabwino kwambiri pa thanzi lathu la maganizo ndi thupi? Tidzakambirana za zimenezo mtsogolo.

Gawo 1: Tiyeni tiyambe kuona, kufunafuna, ndi kuyamikira zinthu zabwino m'moyo!

Gawo lathu loyamba ndi ili. Monga wofufuza milandu, timayamba kufunafuna zinthu zabwino zobisika mkati mwa tsiku lathu, m'miyoyo yathu. Nthawi zina izi zimakhala zazing'ono kwambiri. Koma zinthu zazing'ono zimenezo ndi zomwe zimapangitsa moyo kukhala wokongola.

Kodi mumapeza bwanji zinthu zabwino izi?

• Ganizirani zinthu zitatu zomwe mumayamikira tsiku lililonse: zingakhale thanzi lanu. Zingakhale bwenzi lanu lapamtima, wachibale wanu. Chakudya chokoma chomwe munadya, nyumba yabwino yomwe mumakhalamo, duwa lokongola lomwe limaphuka, mlendo amene anakuthandizani... Mukaganizira motere, mudzadabwa ndi zinthu zambiri zomwe mungayamikire nazo patsiku limodzi! Zili ngati kutsegula maso anu kachiwiri.
• Yambani " Chidule cha Kuyamikira": Pezani kabuku kakang'ono ndipo usiku uliwonse musanagone, lembani zinthu zitatu kapena zinayi zomwe mumayamikira tsiku limenelo. Zinthu monga, "Ndili wokondwa chifukwa cha chakudya chokoma chomwe amayi anga anandipangira lero," "Ndikuyamikira kuti mnzanga anandiimbira foni lero," ndi zina zotero. Mukalemba izi, zinthu zabwino zimenezo zimakhala zozama kwambiri m'maganizo mwanu. Pakatha masiku angapo, mudzazindikira momwe mtima wanu umamvera wopepuka.
• Khalani ndi zizolowezi zokumbukira makhalidwe abwino:Anthu ena amayamika Mulungu asanadye. Siziyenera kukhala nkhani yachipembedzo. Chakudya chikafika patsogolo pawo, ndi bwino kuganiza kaye kuti, "Ndibwino kwambiri kuti ndili ndi chakudya ichi lero." Mwanjira imeneyi, timamvetsetsa kufunika kwa chakudya. Komanso, ndi chizolowezi chabwino kuganiza kuti, "Lero ndili ndi tsiku lino, ndili ndi thanzi labwino."

Taganizirani kuchuluka kwa zinthu zomwe timaona tsiku lililonse, koma osaganizira. Kukhala ndi mphamvu yopuma bwino, kukhala ndi madzi oyera, kukhala ndi anthu otikonda pafupi nafe... izi ndi chuma chenicheni.

Gawo 2: Sangalalani ndi chiyamiko ndi chimwemwe chimenecho.

Pambuyo poona zinthu zabwino, chinthu chotsatira chofunika kwambiri ndikukhala ndi chisangalalo chonsecho, kumverera koyamikira. Izi sizikutanthauza kungoganizira za izo ndikuiwala. Tangoganizirani, mwabwera kunyumba kuchokera kuntchito yovuta. Kenako mwana wanu akuthamangirani nanu ndikukukumbatirani. Panthawiyo, mukumva kusangalala kwambiri komanso kukondedwa, eti? Panthawiyo, imani kaye kaye ndikunena kuti, "Ah, ichi ndi chomwe chisangalalo chili!" ndikumva kumverera kumeneko. Lolani chisangalalocho chifalikire m'thupi lanu lonse. Zili ngati kudya pang'onopang'ono chakudya chokoma. Izi zikugwirizananso ndi zomwe timatcha "Kusamala". Izi zikutanthauza kusamala kwambiri zomwe zikuchitika komanso zomwe zikumveka panthawiyi. Pokhapokha mutha kuwona zinthu zazing'ono komanso zosangalatsa izi.

Gawo 3: Onetsani kuyamikira kwanu ndi kuyamikira kwa wina, ndipo sonyezani izi kudzera mu zochita!

Tinaona zinthu zabwino, tinasangalala nazo. Tsopano ndi nthawi yoti tigawane chimwemwe chimenecho, chidziwitso chimenecho cha makhalidwe amenewo ndi wina. Izi si ulemu wokha kapena chizolowezi chabwino. Ndi kuyamikira kochokera pansi pa mtima komwe kumachokera mumtima mwanu. Mukayamikira munthu, mukuchitadi zinthu ziwiri zoyambirira: mwawona chinthu chabwino, ndipo mwachiyamikiradi.

Kodi mumachita bwanji izi?

• Uzani munthu amene wakuthandizani kapena wachita chinthu chabwino kuti: "Zinali zabwino kwambiri kuti mundithandize tsiku limenelo...", "Ndikuyamikira kwambiri pamene munandimvera tsiku limenelo...", "Zikomo kwambiri pondiphunzitsa izi...", "Zinali mphamvu kwambiri kwa ine kukhala nanu pafupi tsiku limenelo..." Muthanso kulemba kalata yoyamikira . Tangoganizirani, ngati amayi anu aphika chakudya chokoma, ngakhale mawu osavuta monga "Amayi, chakudyacho n'chokoma. Zikomo kwambiri !" angawasangalatse.
• Onetsani kuyamikira kwanu mwa kuchita zinthu zabwino: Nthawi zina, munthu akakuchitirani zabwino, mumadzimva ngati mukufuna kumuchitira zinazake. Kapena, mungachitire wina kanthu poganiza kuti, "Ndichita izi kwa wina." (Lipirani patsogolo) ndipo muwachitire zimenezo. Mukakhala pamzere, gwirani chitseko cha munthu amene ali kumbuyo kwanu. Chitani ntchito ya wina popanda wina kuzindikira. Yesani ndikuona momwe imakukhudzirani! Ngakhale mphatso yaying'ono ingakupangitseni kumva bwino.
• Uzani anthu m'moyo wanu momwe amakukhudzirani: Izi siziyenera kukhala nkhani yaikulu. Kungonena zomwe zili m'maganizo mwanu, moona mtima, panthawi yoyenera, m'njira yoyenera, kudzalimbitsa ubale wanu.

Mu kukoma mtima kwenikweni, palibe lingaliro lakuti "Ndili ndi ngongole kwa munthu uyu tsopano." Chifukwa mukachitira munthu wina kanthu, simuyembekezera kuti munthuyo akuchitireni kena kake. Zili ngati kuzungulira kwa zinthu zabwino. Tikachita chinthu chabwino, zinthu zabwino zambiri zimachitika.

N’chifukwa chiyani “chidziwitso cha khalidwe labwino” ichi chili chabwino kwa ife? Ngati titachiyang’ana kuchokera ku lingaliro la zachipatala...

Kuchita "chidziwitso cha makhalidwe abwino" sikuti kumangobweretsa chisangalalo m'maganizo, komanso kumathandiza kwambiri pa thanzi lathu la maganizo komanso la thupi.

• Amachepetsa kupsinjika maganizo : Tikapeza zinthu zoti tiziyamikira, timachotsa nkhawa ndi mavuto omwe ali m'maganizo mwathu. Kafukufuku wina wapezanso kuti kuchita zinthu zoyamikira kungachepetse kuchuluka kwa cortisol , mahomoni opsinjika maganizo, m'thupi lathu.
• Zimawonjezera mahomoni achimwemwe : Kodi mukudziwa kuti tikakhala oyamikira komanso osangalala, ubongo wathu umatulutsa ma neurotransmitters otchedwa "mahomoni achimwemwe" monga Serotonin ndi Dopamine. Izi zimatipangitsa kukhala osangalala komanso omasuka.
• Zimathandiza kuti munthu azigona bwino: Akuti kuganizira ndi kulemba zinthu zabwino zomwe zinachitika masana asanagone usiku kumachepetsa nkhawa ndipo kumakuthandizani kuti mugone bwino.
• Kumalimbitsa thanzi la thupi: Kafukufuku wina akusonyeza kuti anthu omwe amachita zinthu mosamala amatha kukhala ndi kuthamanga kwa magazi kochepa komanso chitetezo chamthupi champhamvu.
• Ubale pakati pa anthu umakula: Tikamayamikira ena, ubale wathu ndi iwo umalimba. Kudalirana kumawonjezeka.

Mwachidule, kusamala kuli ngati "mankhwala" amphamvu kwambiri omwe ndi othandiza pa maganizo ndi thupi lathu, kwaulere.

Ndiye, taphunzirapo chiyani kuchokera pa izi? (Uthenga Wopita Nawo Kunyumba)

Chabwino, ndikukhulupirira kuti tsopano mwamvetsa momwe mungaphatikizire chizolowezi ichi cha "kudziwa makhalidwe anu abwino" chomwe tidakambirana lero m'miyoyo yathu. Ichi si chinthu chomwe chingachitike mwadzidzidzi. Koma mukachita pang'onopang'ono, mudzazindikira momwe chimawonjezerera chimwemwe ndi mpumulo m'moyo wanu.

• Yamikirani zinthu zazing'ono: Ganizirani zinthu zazing'ono zabwino zomwe zikukuzungulirani tsiku lililonse ndipo sangalalani nazo.
• Sungani "buku la kuyamikira": Pamapeto pa tsiku, lembani zinthu zitatu zomwe mumayamikira. Izi zidzakuthandizani kwambiri pakumva kwanu.
• Zikomo kuchokera pansi pa mtima wanga:Uzani munthu amene wakuthandizani, anthu ofunikira pa moyo wanu, zomwe zili mumtima mwanu. Ngakhale kungonena kuti "zikomo" kungathandize kwambiri.
• Chitani zabwino: Thandizani ena nthawi iliyonse yomwe mungathe, khalani okoma mtima. Zidzakupangitsaninso kumva bwino.
• Khalani oleza mtima: Zidzatenga nthawi kuti mukhale ndi chizolowezichi. Koma musataye mtima. Pitirizani.

Ngati mutsatira njira zosavuta izi, mudzazindikira kuti moyo si nkhani yokhudza kuvutika kokha, koma zinthu zambiri zoti mukhale osangalala nazo. Choncho, yesani kuphatikiza chizolowezi chokongola ichi cha "kudziwa makhalidwe anu abwino" m'moyo wanu kuyambira lero! Mutha kuchitadi zimenezo!

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