Ese mama wawe cyangwa so wawe bafite ikibazo cyo gukoresha ibiyobyabwenge? Ntabwo uri wenyine, reka tuganire!

Ese wumva umubyeyi wawe ari umusinzi w'inzoga cyangwa ibindi biyobyabwenge? Kubana na byo bishobora gutuma wumva uri wenyine. Ariko ntabwo uri wenyine. Ibi bibazo biterwa no kunywa inzoga n'ibiyobyabwenge (nk'imiti igabanya ubukana bw'ibiyobyabwenge) mu buvuzi byitwa indwara zo gukoresha ibintu biyobyabwenge , cyangwa mu Cyongereza, indwara zo gukoresha ibintu biyobyabwenge .

Iyi ndwara yitwa `(Indwara yo Gukoresha Ibiyobyabwenge)` ntabwo igira ingaruka ku buzima bw'umuntu gusa, ahubwo inagira ingaruka ku buryo yitwara. Ni n'impamvu y'ibibazo mu rugo no ku kazi. Bityo rero, kubana n'umuntu ufite iki kibazo, cyane cyane niba ari umubyeyi wawe bwite, ntabwo byoroshye. Niba urimo unyura muri ubu bunararibonye, ​​ni ngombwa cyane kuganira n'umuntu ku byo wumva. Shaka ubufasha ukeneye kandi ukwiye.

Bimeze bite kubana n'umubyeyi ufite ikibazo cyo kunywa ibiyobyabwenge?

Kubana n'umubyeyi ukoresha ibiyobyabwenge bishobora kugorana cyane. Bishobora kugira ingaruka zikomeye ku buryo wumva umeze, uko witwara, ndetse no ku buzima bw'umuryango wawe. Ntabwo bimera kimwe kuri bose, biratandukanye kuri bose. Reba niba bimwe mu bintu biri hepfo bikureba.

Ushobora kumva umeze ute?

Hari abana bagira ibyiyumvo nk'ibi:

• Kumva ufite isoni, uburakari, cyangwa agahinda kenshi bitewe n'uko ababyeyi be bakoresha ibiyobyabwenge.
• Bahora bahangayikishijwe n'ubuzima n'umutekano bya ba nyina cyangwa ba se.
• Bahangayikishwa na bo ubwabo, na barumuna babo, cyangwa se n'abandi babyeyi babo.
• Iyo uri mu rugo, wumva ufite ubwoba, uri wenyine kandi udafite umutekano . Ni nk'aho hari ibibazo hirya no hino mu rugo.
• Birababaje kubona ababyeyi batareka iyi ngeso.
• Ariko, biraruhura cyane iyo ababyeyi bafashe ingamba zo kubikemura.
• Biragoye kwizera umuntu uwo ari we wese, kandi numva ntabasha kugumana umutima mwiza.
• Numva ngomba kuba umuntu mukuru mbere y'uko nkura bihagije. Ngomba gufata inshingano mu rugo.
• Hari igihe numva ibibazo byinshi cyane ku buryo ntashobora no kuzamura umutwe .
• Hari abana bashobora no kugira ibibazo nk'ihungabana cyangwa guhangayika .

Wakwitwara ute?

Mu bihe nk'ibi, abana bamwe bakunze kwitwara mu buryo bukurikira:

• Ngerageza uko nshoboye kose kudakariza umubyeyi unywa inzoga cyangwa ibiyobyabwenge.
• Ngerageza kwitandukanya n'abo babyeyi uko bishoboka kose.
• Ntibavuga ku byo bashaka cyangwa ngo babibasabe .
• Bahisha amarangamutima yabo .
• Ababyeyi bagerageza guhisha iki kibazo abandi .
• Bahisha uko ibintu bimeze mu rugo, abandi ntibabibone .
• Ndatinya gusaba inshuti zanjye gutaha kuko sinzi uko ababyeyi banjye bazabyakira .
• Ubwitabire bw'abanyeshuri mu ishuri buragabanuka, cyangwa akazi k'ishuri kakagorana kurangiza .
• Abantu bakuru ni bo bakora imirimo bagomba gukora . Urugero, kwita ku bavandimwe babo, guteka mu rugo, n'ibindi.
• Hari amakimbirane akunze kubaho hagati y’ababyeyi.
• Hari igihe bashukwa no kwigirira nabi .
• Nubwo bababara cyane imbere, basa n'aho ntacyo bitayeho inyuma.

Bishobora kugira ingaruka zite ku buzima bw'umuryango?

Mu miryango aho ibiyobyabwenge ari ikibazo, ibintu nk'ibi bishobora kubaho:

• Biragoye ko umubyeyi agumana akazi kandi akishyura fagitire mu rugo .
• Hashobora kuba nta biryo n'ibinyobwa bihagije mu rugo, kandi amafaranga ari mu ntoki .
• Bakuru mu muryango bagomba kwita kuri barumuna babo .
• Ababyeyi bashobora gufata nabi abana babo, kubakorera ihohoterwa cyangwa kubasuzugura .
• Umubyeyi ashobora gutwara imodoka yasinze. Iyo bibaye bityo , ashobora guhura n'ibibazo, agakomereka , ndetse akanakomeretsa abandi .
• Hari igihe, kugira ngo abana bagire umutekano cyangwa kubitaho, ushobora kwimukira ahandi hantu ho kuba .
• Ababyeyi bashobora gutandukana cyangwa gutandukana .
• Ariko, hari igihe abavandimwe cyangwa inshuti bitanga ubufasha .
• Hari ababyeyi babona ubufasha bagakira iki kibazo . Icyo ni cyo kintu cyiza cyane gishobora kubaho.

Igikuru ni ukumenya ko uko byagenda kose, atari ikosa ryawe.

Nakora iki?

Niba ubana n'umubyeyi nk'uyu, ushobora kuba urimo uhura n'ibihe bigoye cyane. Ariko hari abantu bashobora kugufasha, kukurinda no kugushyigikira. Dore bimwe mu bintu ushobora gukora:

Vugana n'umuntu ku mugaragaro.

Vugana n'inshuti yawe magara cyangwa umuntu mukuru wizeye. Uyu ashobora kuba umujyanama wawe w'ishuri, umwarimu, umuganga, umuvuzi w'indwara z'umutima, cyangwa se umuvandimwe wawe.Babwire ibyo urimo kunyuramo. Kubabwira uko umerewe bizagufasha kumva umerewe neza, kandi bashobora kugufasha mu bundi buryo.

Sobanukirwa ko iyi atari ikosa ryawe.

Hari abana bumva ko ari bo bashinzwe ikoreshwa ry'ibiyobyabwenge n'ababyeyi babo. Wenda bagushinja iyo ababyeyi babo barakaye. "Ese ni njye mama arimo kunywa inzoga?" cyangwa "Ese ni njye nakoze ikintu gituma papa afata ibiyobyabwenge?" Ushobora kwibaza. Ariko reka tuvuge neza ko umwana adashobora guteza ikibazo cy'ibiyobyabwenge ku mubyeyi we. Icyo ni ikibazo cyabo.

Menya ibyiyumvo byawe kandi ubihe izina.

Ntugapfuke ibyiyumvo byawe ngo wibwire ko byose bimeze neza. Sobanukirwa uko wumva ikibazo cy'ibiyobyabwenge cy'umubyeyi wawe. Ni ibisanzwe kumva ubabaye, urakaye, kandi ufite ubwoba. Reka wiyumve uko wumva. Koresha amagambo agaragaza ibyo byiyumvo, ntabwo ari ibikorwa bibi. Itoze kuvuga uti: "Ndumva ntyo kubera ibi."

Shaka itsinda ry'abagufasha

Hari amatsinda yo gufasha abantu bahura n'ibi. Urugero, hari imiryango nka Al-Anon/Alateen ku isi yose. Ushobora gushaka itsinda nk'iryo, cyangwa ugashaka ubufasha kuri interineti. Kuvugana n'abandi bahuye n'ibintu nk'ibyo nawe bishobora kugufasha guhangana nabyo. Ushobora kubaza umujyanama wawe w'ishuri cyangwa muganga wawe ibijyanye n'ibi bice.

Shaka ahantu hatekanye.

Ese wirinda kuba uri mu rugo uko bishoboka kose? Cyangwa ufite ibitekerezo byo guhunga? Niba wumva utekanye uri mu rugo, cyangwa niba utekereza ko wowe cyangwa umuntu wo mu muryango wawe ashobora kuba ari mu kaga, hamagara nimero yihutirwa nka 119 ako kanya. Cyangwa hari inzego nka Ikigo cy'Igihugu Gishinzwe Kurengera Abana (NCPA) (nimero yabo ya terefone ni 1929), ushobora no kubimenyesha. Ni ngombwa kandi kubwira umuntu mukuru wizeye ibi.

Huza ingeso nziza zo mu mutwe

Hari abana biga guceceka no kutagaragaza amarangamutima yabo bitewe n'ibibazo biba mu rugo. Batekereza ko babikoze, bashobora kubuza ababyeyi babo gukoresha ibiyobyabwenge. Nubwo izi ngeso zishobora kugufasha kuguma mu mutekano mu rugo, zishobora guteza ibibazo mu bindi bice by'ubuzima bwawe, mu nshuti zawe, no mu mibanire yawe y'ejo hazaza. Kwiga kuvuga ku biri mu mutima wawe, kugaragaza amarangamutima yawe, no kugaragaza amarangamutima yawe ni ingenzi cyane mu kubaka imibanire myiza. Hari igihe, ubuvuzi bwo mu mutwe bushobora kugufasha kubaka imico myiza nk'iyi.

Hagarika iyi ngendo mbi.

Ikibabaje ni uko abana b'ababyeyi bafite ibibazo byo gukoresha ibiyobyabwenge baba bafite ibyago byinshi byo kuzagira ibibazo nk'ibyo mu gihe kizaza. Ariko iki si ikintu kidashobora kwirindwa.Ushobora kwiga uburyo bwo kwirinda iyi ngaruka ugana itsinda ry’abaterankunga cyangwa ukabona inama .

Icyo tugomba kwigira kuri ibi

Niba uhuye n'ingorane nk'iyi, hari ibintu bike by'ingenzi ugomba kwibuka:

• Ntabwo uri wenyine. Hari abantu bafite ubunararibonye nk'ubwawe kandi biteguye kugufasha.
• Ibi ntabwo ari ikosa ryawe. Ntabwo uri inshingano ku byemezo by'ababyeyi bawe.
• Hari ubufasha buhari. Hariho uburyo bwo kuvugana nawe, kugushyigikira no kukurinda.
• Vugana n'umuntu wizeye. Gusangira imitwaro yawe bishobora kugufasha cyane.
• Tekereza nawe ubwawe. Ni ingenzi cyane kwita ku buzima bwawe bwo mu mutwe no ku mubiri.
• Ntugacike intege. Abantu bashobora guhinduka no gukira.

Wibuke ko nyuma ya buri gihuhusi, ikirere kiba ari ubururu. Urakomeye. Urashobora kurenga kuri ibi.

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