Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha ukhe uzive ngathi ingqondo yakho ayikho ndaweni inye, yonke into ibhidile, awukwazi ukugqiba umsebenzi omnye ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye kusoloko kukho into engaphumliyo engqondweni yakho? Mhlawumbi ucinga, "Kukho into engalunganga kakhulu ngam, andazi ukuba ndiyaphambana na." Ukuba ubuphila nale mvakalelo iminyaka emininzi kwaye ngenye imini ugqirha ekuxelela ukuba une-ADHD ( Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder ), ubuya kuziva njani? Yiloo nto sithetha ngayo namhlanje.
Isivuthuvuthu seemvakalelo esiza nokuxilongwa
Njengomntu omdala, xa ufumanisa ukuba une-ADHD, kukho iimvakalelo ezininzi ezinokufika engqondweni. Kufana nokuhamba ngesantya esiphezulu seemvakalelo. Abanye abantu abakwazi ukuyamkela le nto. Bacinga ukuba, "Hayi, hayi... abantu abane-ADHD bangabantu abakhohlakeleyo, bayalwa, bangena enkingeni nomthetho. Andinjalo mna." Le yingcamango ephosakeleyo kuluntu.
Khawucinge ngomfazi oneminyaka engama-30 ubudala okwinqanaba eliphezulu lomsebenzi wakhe, onetalente, kwaye ohlala kakuhle nabantu bonke. Kodwa unengxaki enkulu ngaphakathi. Akakwazi ukugxila emsebenzini, uziva exhalabile xa engakwazi ukugqiba umsebenzi ngexesha, aze alibale izinto. Emva kokubandezeleka ngolu hlobo kangangeminyaka, uya kugqirha aze afumanise ukuba une-ADHD.
Ingcinga yokuqala efika engqondweni kukukhanyela. Ingcinga ethi, "Oku akunakwenzeka." Kunye noko kuza uloyiko lokuba ukuba uthetha ngesifo sengqondo, uza kugxothwa luluntu kwaye abantu baza kucinga ngendlela engafanelekanga. Uloyiko lokuva amabali anje, "Abantu abane -ADHD abenzi kakuhle imisebenzi yabo, abanakuthenjwa" yingcinga ebuhlungu.
Kodwa inyani yahlukile kakhulu. Ingqondo yomntu one-ADHD icubungula iimvakalelo ngendlela eyahlukileyo kancinci kuneyabanye abantu. Ngamafutshane, yonke imvakalelo ayivayo ivakala "inkulu".
- Ukuba ulusizi: Kungavakala ngathi lusizi olugqithisileyo.
- Ukuba ulonwabo luza: Lungavakala ngathi luvuyo olukhulu nochulumanco.
- Ukuba uziva ukhululekile: Naloo nto ingavakala ngathi yinkululeko engenakuthelekiswa nanto.
Ngoko ke, kuqhelekile ukuba neemvakalelo ezininzi ezingqubanayo ngaxeshanye xa ufumanisa ukuba une-ADHD.
Ukutshintshatshintsha phakathi kokukhululeka kunye nentlungu
Olu xilongo lufana nekrele. Lubuhlungu kwelinye icala, kodwa lukwazisa isiqabu esikhulu kwelinye. Abantu abaninzi baziva behlukene phakathi kwezi zimbini.
| Uvakalelo oluvayo | Usenokucinga... |
|---|---|
| Intlungu | "Owu, ukuba bendikwazile oku kwiminyaka eyadlulayo... Hayi indlela ebendiyahluke ngayo kwiintsuku zam zesikolo, ubudlelwane bam ngebutshintshe ngayo?" "Mangaphi amathuba ebendingawaphoswanga ngenxa yoku?" "Ngaba ndiphoswe bubomi obuhle ebendibucinga?" Ukuziva ndidakumbile. |
| Uncedo | "Huh... ke le yimbangela yengxaki endibe nayo ixesha elide. Asilotyala lam." "Ngoku kukho igama lesizathu sokuba ndingakwazi ukwenza izinto ngexesha, ndilibale izinto, kwaye ndingakwazi ukugcina ingqondo yam ikwindawo enye." Inkululeko yokuthi, "Ngoku kukho unyango loku, ndingaguqula ubomi bam bube ngcono." |
| Umsindo | "Kutheni abazali bam, ootitshala, okanye abahlobo bam bengakubonanga oku?" "Kutheni kungekho mntu undincedileyo?" "Ndingabandezeleka ixesha elide kangaka ngeze?" Ndiziva ndinomsindo kum nakwabanye. |
Intuthuzelo yokwazi inyaniso
Kwabanye, olu xilongo lufana netotshi efunyanwa ebumnyameni. Kumntu obesokola iminyaka emininzi engakwazi ukugqiba imisebenzi, ukugcina ubudlelwane, okanye ukuqhubekeka nemfundo yakhe, ukufunda ukuba i-ADHD yimbangela kunokuba luncedo olukhulu noxolo.
"Nangona izinto zilungile engqondweni yam, xa ndizibeka ngamazwi ndize ndizixelele omnye umntu, uyadideka. Kunzima kakhulu kum ukuhlala ndigxile ndize ndigqibe umsebenzi." Usenokuba ukhe wahlangabezana nento efana nale. Wakuba usiqondile isizathu sayo yonke le nto, ungaqala ukuyamkela uze ucinge, "Kulungile, ndinale meko. Ngoku ndingayilawula njani?"
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuqonda ukuba oku akubobuthathaka kubuntu bakho, kodwa kukutshintsha kwendlela osebenza ngayo ingqondo.
Uhlala njani nale mvakalelo inkulu?
Kulungile, ngoku uyazi ukuba unale meko. Ulwa neemvakalelo ezihambisana nayo. Wenza ntoni ngoku? Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba zininzi iindlela zokukunceda ulawule le meko kwaye uphile ubomi obuphumelelayo.
1. Unyango lwezonyango: Thetha nogqirha wakho ukuze ubone ukuba loluphi unyango olukufaneleyo. Abanye abantu bafumana isiqabu esikhulu kumayeza avuselelayo . La mayeza anokunceda ekugxileni nasekulawuleni ukungazinzi.
2. Unyango Lokuziphatha Olusebenzisa Ingqondo (CBT): Oku kufana nokuqeqesha ingqondo. Olu nyango lukunceda ukuchonga nokutshintsha iipatheni zengcinga ezimbi ezibangelwa yi-ADHD, kwaye lukuncede uzilawule ngendlela esebenzayo.
3. Ukuphucula Imisebenzi Yolawulo: Oku kunokuvakala njengegama lobuchwephesha, kodwa ngokulula, kubhekisa kubuchule bengqondo yethu bokucwangcisa, ukuhlela, ukugcina ingqalelo, ukukhumbula, nokulawula iimvakalelo. Ezi zakhono ziphazamiseka kancinci kubantu abane-ADHD. Kukho imithambo ekhethekileyo yoqeqesho lobuchopho (`uqeqesho lokuqonda` okanye 'uqeqesho lobuchopho`) ukuphucula ezi mvakalelo.
4. Amaqela eNkxaso : Ukudibana nabanye abantu abane-ADHD kunokuba ngumthombo omkhulu wamandla. Kuyandithuthuzela ukwazi ukuba andingom ndedwa onengxaki yoku. Le yindawo entle yokwabelana ngamava akho nokufunda kwabanye.
5. Iingcebiso eziluncedo:
- Yenza uluhlu lwezinto ekufuneka zenziwe . Seta izikhumbuzi kwifowuni yakho.
- Khetha indawo ezolileyo negxile kuyo yokusebenzela. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, xoxa ngale nto nomphathi wakho.
- Xelela usapho lwakho kunye nabahlobo bakho abasondeleyo ngale nto. Xa beyiqonda isizathu sokuziphatha kwakho, baya kufumana inkxaso engakumbi kunye nokuqonda kubo.
I-ADHD ayisosiphelo sobomi. Sisiqalo sokuziqonda ngcono. Endaweni yokucinga ngezinto oziphosileyo ebomini bakho, sebenzisa ithuba lokucamngca ngendlela onokuzakhela ngayo ubomi obungcono nobunempumelelo kwixesha elizayo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Njengomntu omdala, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba neemvakalelo ezingqubanayo nezinamandla ezifana nokudakumba, umsindo, kunye nokukhululeka xa ufumanisa ukuba une-ADHD.
- Olu xilongo alukho siphako kuwe. Sisixhobo esichaza izizathu zeengxaki oye wajongana nazo ixesha elide kwaye sikomeleze.
- Izinto ezinje ngamayeza kunye nonyango lokuziphatha zinokuba luncedo olukhulu ekulawuleni ubomi bakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho.
- Umntu ofanelekileyo ukuthetha naye ngale nto ngugqirha wakho. Thetha naye uze nesicwangciso sonyango esilungele wena.
- Inkxaso oyifumana kusapho, kubahlobo, nakumaqela enkxaso abantu abane-ADHD njengawe ibaluleke kakhulu. Khumbula ukuba awuwedwa.
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