Mhlawumbi uqhelene noxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo oluza nokuzama ukukhulelwa umntwana. Kunzima ukuchaza intlungu kunye noxinzelelo oluza engqondweni xa ulinde iinyanga kwaye imizamo yakho ingaphumeleli. Okwangoku, xa umntu efika athi, "Hayi, musa ukucinga kakhulu, phumla nje," mhlawumbi uyacaphuka, akunjalo? Kodwa ngaba ikho inyaniso kweli bali? Ngaba uxinzelelo luchaphazela ngokwenene amandla okukhulelwa umntwana? Namhlanje, siza kuthetha ngokunzulu ngale nto.
Umzekelo omhle woku ngamava omfazi ogama linguYurit. Wayezama ukuba nomntwana kangangeminyaka emibini. Ngeli xesha, wayekhulelwe izihlandlo ezine, kodwa ngalo lonke ixesha, amathemba akhe ayephela phakathi kokukhulelwa. Wayezame zombini iindlela zendalo kunye ne-IVF. “Akukho nto icaphukisayo njengokungazi ukuba kutheni oku kusenzeka,” utshilo uYurit. “Ndandifuna kakhulu umntwana kangangokuba ukuba umntu ebendixelele ukuba ndingaba nomntwana ngokuma ngentloko okanye ngokusela iilitha zejusi eluhlaza, bendiya kukwenza oko.”
Ngenye imini, ngelixa wayefumana unyango, wabona ipowusta yenkqubo eyayiza kunceda abafazi ababezama ukukhulelwa, waza wabhalisela oko. Le nkqubo yathatha iiveki ezili-10, kwaye yayiquka i-yoga, ukucamngca, kunye neminye imithambo eyamfundisa indlela yokoyisa iingcinga ezimbi. Emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa le nkqubo iphelile, uYurit wakhulelwa kwakhona. Ngo-2018, waba ngumama wentombi esempilweni. “Ndandisoloko ndicaphuka xa umntu endixelela ukuba ndiphumle, kodwa kwimeko yam, kwandinceda kakhulu,” utshilo. “Ndayeka ukuziva ngathi umzimba wam lutshaba lwam.”
Yintoni inxibelelwano yesayensi phakathi koxinzelelo kunye nokuzala?
Zininzi izizathu zokuba abanye abantu babe nabantwana ngokukhawuleza kanti abanye benengxaki. Kodwa uphando olutsha lubonisa ukuba kukho unxibelelwano oluthe ngqo phakathi koxinzelelo lwemihla ngemihla lomfazi kunye nokuncipha kwamandla akhe okukhulelwa .
Ngamafutshane, xa siphantsi koxinzelelo oluphezulu, imizimba yethu icinga ukuba eli lixesha eliyingozi, elingakhuselekanga, nelixinezelekileyo.
Umzimba wakho ukrelekrele kakhulu. Uyazi ukuba ixesha loxinzelelo olukhulu asiloxesha lifanelekileyo lokuba nomntwana. Ngoko ke umzimba ngokwendalo utyhalela emva kancinci inkqubo yokuzala.
Kolunye uphando, iisampulu zamathe zabasetyhini zavavanywa kwaza kwafunyaniswa ukuba abafazi abanamanqanaba aphezulu e-enzyme ebizwa ngokuba yi-alpha-amylase, uphawu loxinzelelo , bathatha ixesha elide ngama-29% ukukhulelwa kunabo banamanqanaba aphantsi e-enzyme.
Ngokufanayo, xa sixinezelekile, sikhupha iihomoni zoxinzelelo ezifana ne-cortisol, eziphazamisa inkqubo yokubonisana phakathi kwengqondo yethu kunye nama-ovari. Oku kunokubangela ukuba i-ovulation, inkqubo yokukhupha iqanda, ingahambelani okanye ime ngokupheleleyo.
Ukongeza koku, kukho nezinye izizathu ezisebenzayo.
- Isibini esixinezelekileyo sisenokungabi naso isondo kakhulu.
- Abanye abantu bajika baye kwizinto ezifana nokutshaya, ukusela utywala kakhulu , okanye ukusela ikofu ngenxa yoxinzelelo. Le mikhwa ayilunganga kumntwana.
Kwimihla yokuqala, noogqirha babengayamkeli into yokuba ingqondo inokulawula umzimba. Kodwa namhlanje, uluntu lwezonyango luye lwamkela ngokubanzi ukuba kukho unxibelelwano phakathi koxinzelelo kunye nokuzala.
Ngoko ke, senza ntoni ngolu xinzelelo?
Sonke sifumana uxinzelelo ngaxa lithile ebomini bethu. Ukuba noxinzelelo lweeveki ezimbalwa ngenxa yengxaki yomsebenzi okanye uxinzelelo lokufuduka akuyi kuba nefuthe elikhulu kubuchule bakho bokufumana umntwana.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba olu xinzelelo luhlala ixesha elide , okanye ukuba ujongene nomothuko omkhulu, njengokulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi okanye ukufa kwelungu losapho, inkqubo yakho yokukhupha amaqanda inokuphazamiseka ngokupheleleyo.
Malunga nomfazi omnye kwabalishumi abakwiminyaka yokuzala uya kuba nobunzima bokukhulelwa okanye ukukhulelwa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kubangelwa yimbangela ethile, efana nemibhobho ye-fallopian evalekileyo.
Kodwa xa uzama kangangeenyanga ungakhulelwa, kuba yinto ebangela uxinzelelo olukhulu.
Uphando lufumanise ukuba inqanaba loxinzelelo kunye nokudakumba okubonwa ngabasetyhini abanengxaki yokungazali lifana nelomfazi ofunyenwe enomhlaza okanye i-HIV.
Oku kufana nomjikelo onzima. Ukungabi nabantwana kudala uxinezeleko. Loo xinezeleko yenza ukuba nabantwana nasemva kwexesha.
Unyango lokuziphatha kwengqondo, i-yoga, kunye nokucamngca kunokunceda ukuphelisa lo mjikelo. Zikunceda uchonge, ucelomngeni, kwaye utshintshe iingcinga ezimbi ezifana nokuthi "Andisoze ndikwazi ukuba nomntwana," "Yimpazamo yam yonke," kwaye zikuncede uzitshintshe.
Yintoni enye onokuyenza?
Ukuba ubusoloko uzama ukuba nomntwana okwethutyana, okanye ufuna nje ukwandisa amathuba akho okufumana umntwana, uphando lubonisa ukuba ezi zinto zinokunceda. Masizijonge kwitheyibhile.
| Kwenziwe ntoni | Kutheni oko kubalulekile? |
|---|---|
| "Inani" lokuzivocavoca | Ukuzilolonga kunciphisa uxinzelelo kwaye kwandisa ukuzala. Kodwa kubalulekile ukukwenza "ngokulinganisela." Ukuzilolonga okuphakathi , njengokuhamba iyure eyi-1-5 ngeveki, kunokunyusa amathuba akho okukhulelwa. Kodwa ukuzilolonga okugqithisileyo nokunzima ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nemiphumo emibi nangakumbi. |
| Lawula ubunzima bomzimba wakho | Xa amanqanaba oxinzelelo enyuka, abanye abantu baphendukela ekutyeni ukuze bazithuthuzele. Kodwa ukutyeba kakhulu ngumqobo omkhulu ekukhulelweni nasekugcineni ukukhulelwa okunempilo. Ngokutsho kophando oluthile, abafazi abatyebileyo banamathuba aphindwe kathathu okuba nobunzima bokukhulelwa kunabanye. |
| Yitya ukutya okunempilo. | Kuqhelekile ukunqwenela ukutya okunencasa, okucutshungulwayo xa uziva udakumbile. Kodwa uphando lubonisa ukuba abafazi abatya ukutya okufana nokweMeditera, okuquka ukutya okuziinkozo ezipheleleyo, iintlanzi ezityebileyo kwi-omega-3 fatty acids, kunye nesoya, banamathuba amaninzi okukhulelwa kunabo batya ukutya okucociweyo nokunamafutha amaninzi. |
| Thetha neqabane lakho kunye nogqirha. | Le ayingongxaki ojongene nayo wedwa. Iqabane lakho nalo liyinxalenye yolu hambo. Ukumamelana nokwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho kunokunceda ukunciphisa uxinzelelo. Kwakhona, thetha ngokukhululekileyo nogqirha wakho ngale nto. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, ungathandabuzi ukufuna ingcebiso. |
Ekugqibeleni, ukulindela umntwana luhambo olunzima nolunzima. Kubalulekile ukunyamekela umzimba nengqondo yakho kakuhle ngeli xesha lohambo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Uxinzelelo yinto echaphazela kakhulu ukuzala. Lunokuphazamisa ukusebenza kwamahomoni kunye nokukhutshwa kweqanda.
- Kubalulekile ukuba ungabanjwa kumjikelo onzima woxinzelelo ngenxa yokungabi nabantwana, kunye noxinzelelo olukhokelela ekulibazisekeni kokufumana abantwana.
- Ukulawula uxinzelelo ngeendlela ezifana neyoga, ukucamngca, kunye ne-psychotherapy kunokunyusa amathuba akho okukhulelwa umntwana.
- Ukuzilolonga okulinganiselweyo, ukugcina ubunzima obusempilweni, nokutya ukutya okunesondlo kuya kukugcina unamandla emzimbeni nasengqondweni.
- Awuwedwa kolu hambo. Thetha ngokukhululekileyo ngale nto neqabane lakho, usapho lwakho, ingakumbi ugqirha wakho.
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