Ngaba umntwana wakho uyakuthiya ukutya? Ngaba ixesha lokutya liyimfazwe? Nantsi indlela yokunceda ngeengxaki zokutya ekhaya!

Ngaba umntwana wakho uyathandabuza xa esitya? Ngaba ujonga kude xa ebona ukutya? Okanye uyacaphuka nokuba uthetha ngokutya? Kusenokuba yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ezi zinto zenzeke kube kanye okanye kabini. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba le meko iyaqhubeka, ubudlelwane nokutya bunokuba luxinzelelo olukhulu kumntwana nakusapho lonke. Namhlanje siza kuthetha ngezi ntlobo zeengxaki zokutya, okanye (Iingxaki Zokutya) , kunye nendlela esinokunceda ngayo njengentsapho ngamaxesha anje.

Zithini kanye kanye ezi ngxaki zokutya?

Ngamafutshane, ii-Eating Disorders ziimeko zempilo yengqondo ezinzulu ezibandakanya okungaphezulu nje kobudlelwane nokutya, kodwa nendlela umntu ajonga ngayo umzimba wakhe kunye nendlela azijonga ngayo. Oku akusiyo nje into yokungatyi okanye ukungatyi ngenxa yokukruquka. Ezi meko zinokubangela umntu ukuba abe neengcinga ezingapheliyo, ezingafunwayo, nezibangela uxinezeleko malunga nokutya, ubunzima, kunye nokuma komzimba.

Khawucinge nje, engqondweni yomntu, ukutya kunokubonakala ngathi lutshaba. Okanye, banokuziva benetyala kakhulu nangaloo nto incinci yokutya abayityayo. Ezi meko ziqala ukulawula iingcinga zomntu, iimvakalelo zakhe, kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe. Ngoko ke, xa oko kusenzeka, kuba nzima kakhulu kuye ukukhetha ukutya okunempilo aze onwabele ukutya. Kukho iintlobo eziphambili zeengxaki zokutya , umzekelo:

• (I-Anorexia Nervosa): Kule meko, umntu uzama ukunciphisa umzimba ngokugqithisileyo, utya kancinci kakhulu, kwaye uyoyika kakhulu ukutyeba.
• (Bulimia Nervosa): Apha, umntu utya ukutya okuninzi ngaxeshanye aze azame ukukususa ngokwenza izinto ezahlukeneyo (ezifana nokuhlanza, ukusela amayeza okuhambisa isisu) ukuze akhuphe ukutya.
• ( Ingxaki Yokutya Okugqithisileyo ): Aba bantu batya ukutya okuninzi rhoqo ngaphandle kokulawula, kodwa emva koko bazive bebuhlungu kakhulu kwaye beneentloni ngaloo nto.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuqonda ukuba oku akulotyala lomntwana, kwaye akuyonto ayenzile ngabom . Le yimeko enzima ukuba ayilawule kwaye ifuna uncedo lwezonyango.

Ngaba ixesha lokutya liye laba yingxaki enkulu kusapho lonke?

Xa umntwana enengxaki yokutya , itafile yesidlo sangokuhlwa ingaba yindawo yemfazwe. Usenokuziva ulusizi kakhulu xa ukutya okupheke ngothando kulahlwa, ucaphukile, okanye ulila. Abanye abantwana banokwenza izizathu ezahlukeneyo zokungadli ngexesha lokutya, okanye banokufihla okanye balahle ukutya. Ngenxa yoku, njengomzali, uhlala ucaphukile, kwaye usenokulwa nomntwana wakho ngaphandle kokuqaphela. Konke oku kunokubangela ukulahleka koxolo ekhaya, kwaye wonke umntu unokuba phantsi koxinzelelo.

Ngoko ke, thina njengabazali, singayisingatha njani le nto size sincede?

Uthando lwakho, inkxaso yakho, kunye nomonde wakho zibaluleke kakhulu kumntwana wakho ngexesha elinje. Nangona kunjalo, le asinto sinokuyenza sodwa. Inkxaso yobungcali ibalulekile.

Okokuqala nokubalulekileyo: funa uncedo lwezonyango

Ukuba ubona naluphi na utshintsho kwindlela umntwana wakho atya ngayo okanye aziphethe ngayo, nceda ungalithathi lula. Bona ugqirha ofanelekileyo ngoko nangoko. Oku kuthetha ukuba:

• Umsebenzi jikelele
• Ugqirha wabantwana
• Ingcali yezengqondo
• Ingcali yeZondlo
• Ingcali yezengqondo/ingcali yokunyanga

Xa bebonke, aba bantu bakha isicwangciso sonyango esifanelekileyo kumntwana. Inkxaso esiyinikayo ekhaya kufuneka yongeze kolu nyango lobuchwephesha kwaye ibe namandla kubo. Asingoogqirha, kodwa singenza izinto ezininzi ukwenza imeko-bume yasekhaya ibe sempilweni kwaye sinike umntwana uthando.

Masenze itafile yokutyela ibe yindawo ethandekayo: Sifanele senze ntoni ngexesha lesidlo?

Ixesha lokutya asikokuhlwaya, lixesha lokuba lonke usapho lube kunye kwaye lonwabe. Kufuneka sisebenze nzima ngakumbi kule nto.

• Masenze indawo ezolileyo nengenaxinzelelo:
• Gcina izinto ezifana neTV, iifowuni, kunye nee-tabs kude ngelixa usitya. Ezi zinto ziyamphazamisa umntwana ekutyeni.
• Kuphephe ukukhwaza, ukulwa, okanye ukuthethisa umntwana wakho etafileni. Imeko ezolileyo neyoxolo ibalulekile.

• Ngexesha elimiselweyo, cela lonke usapho ukuba lutye kunye:
• Nanini na xa kunokwenzeka, qheliselani ukutya kunye njengentsapho. Ukubona nisitya ngendlela enempilo ngumzekelo omhle kumntwana wakho.
• Mnike ukutya rhoqo (isidlo sakusasa, sasemini, isidlo sangokuhlwa) kunye nezimuncumuncu. Oku kuya kunceda umzimba womntwana uqhele indlela yokutya eqhelekileyo.

• Musa ukuthetha ngokutya kuphela, thetha nangezinye izinto:
• Musa ukwenza itafile yokutyela ibe yindawo apho ugxeka ukutya khona uze ubuze imibuzo efana nokuthi, "Kutheni ungatyi?"
• Thetha ngezinto ezenzekayo zemihla ngemihla zomntwana wakho, izinto anomdla kuzo, abahlobo bakhe besikolo , nezinto azithandayo. Yenza amaxesha okutya abe lithuba lencoko elula neyobuhlobo.

• Musa ukubiza amagama athi "ukutya okulungileyo" kunye "nokutya okubi" ngokuthi "ukutya okubi":
• Abanye abazali bathi izinto ezinje, "Ukuba utya oku, uza kutyeba," kwaye "Oku akulunganga emzimbeni wakho." Olu hlobo lwezimvo longeza uxinzelelo olungakumbi kumntwana onengxaki yokutya .
• Nika ingcamango yokuba konke ukutya kulungile emzimbeni xa kutyiwa ngokulinganayo. Musa ukubiza ukutya ngokuthi "kubi."

• Musa ukumnyanzela umntwana, kodwa mkhuthaze ngothando:
• Ukusongela nokunyanzelisa umntwana, esithi "Ukuba awuyityi le nto...", kuya kumenza umntwana angafuni ukutya aze akucaphukele.
• Kunoko, bakhuthaze ngothando, njengokuthi, "Nyana/ntombi, zama oku, uza kukuthanda. "
• Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabo nokuthetha nabo, njengokuthi, "Ndiyazi ukuba oku kunzima kancinci kuwe, kodwa masizame kancinci?"

• Landela icebiso likagqirha wakho okanye lengcali yokutya malunga nokutya okutyayo:
• Iingcali ziza kubonelela ngesicwangciso sokutya esifanelekileyo kumntwana. Lumka malunga nobungakanani kunye neentlobo zokutya okukuso.
• Musa ukubeka isitya esikhulu sokutya phambi komntwana wakho ngoko nangoko. Oko kunokumenza oyike ngakumbi. Mnike ukutya okuncinci kangangoko anako.

Umonde, umonde, umonde! Le asiyonto eza kuphola ngobusuku obunye. Kuza kubakho imihla emihle, kuza kubakho imihla emibi. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukwazisa umntwana wakho ukuba unaye.

Ngaba kufuneka silumke nasemva kokutya?

Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka silumke ngakumbi emva kokutya. Ingakumbi ukuba umntwana unesimo esifana neBulimia Nervosa , usenokuhlanza emva kokutya okanye azame ukulahla ukutya ngezinye iindlela.

• Ngokwengcebiso kagqirha, chitha iyure okanye ezimbini nomntwana wakho emva kokutya uze wenze umsebenzi wokuzola (umz. ukufunda incwadi, ukuzoba, okanye incoko elula).
• Musa ukubuza imibuzo efana nokuthi "Kutheni utye kakhulu kangaka?" okanye "Kutheni utye kancinci kangaka?" kwangoko nje wakugqiba ukutya.

Ungaze uzenze ezi zinto!

Xa sisiya kunceda umntwana wethu, sinokwenza iimpazamo ngempazamo. Lumka kakhulu kwezi zinto:

• Ukugxeka umzimba womntwana, ubunzima bakhe, okanye indlela abonakala ngayo: Ukuthi izinto ezinje ngokuthi "Ubhityile kakhulu," "Ukhulu kakhulu" kuyamlimaza ngakumbi.
• Ukuzithelekisa nabanye abantwana: Izinto ezinje, "Khangela indlela umntwana osecaleni atya ngayo" zinokwenza umntwana azive edandathekile nangakumbi.
• Ukohlwaya abantu ngokungatyi: Oku kwenza ingxaki ibe mandundu ngakumbi.
• Ukulwa rhoqo nokuxabana ngokutya.
• "Hayi, andinakukwazi ukuyilungisa le," utsho, unikezela. Ithemba lakho lilo elinamandla amakhulu omntwana.
• Ukutyhola umntwana okanye wena ngokwakho: Asikuko ukuba kukho umntu onetyala. Esi sisifo sempilo.

Khumbula, awuwedwa kule mfazwe!

Olu hambo lunzima, kodwa awuwedwa.

• Iqela Lokhathalelo: Oogqirha bakho, iingcali zesondlo, kunye nabacebisi bahlala bekunye nawe. Musa ukoyika ukubabuza imibuzo kunye nokwabelana ngeengxaki zakho.
• Amaqela enkxaso: Kukho amaqela enkxaso kubazali babantwana abaneengxaki zokutya . Kwindawo enjalo, ungafunda kumava abanye abantu kwaye wabelane ngentlungu yakho.
• Zikhathalele: Xa unyamekela umntwana wakho, cinga ngempilo yakho yengqondo neyomzimba. Kuphela xa uphilile apho ungamnceda umntwana wakho.

Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba uphume kule meko? Ngaba kukho ithemba?

Ewe ngokwenene! Iingxaki zokutya ziyanyangeka ngokupheleleyo ngonyango olufanelekileyo kunye nenkxaso efanelekileyo evela kusapho. Oku kuya kuthatha ixesha kunye nomonde omkhulu. Kodwa, ungaze ulahle ithemba. Ngokuqinisekileyo kuza kufika imini apho umntwana eya kuphila ubomi obonwabisayo nobunempilo kwakhona. Injongo yethu mayibe kukuqinisekisa kungekuphela nje ubunzima bomntwana, kodwa kunye nempilo yakhe iyonke, ulonwabo kunye nokuphila kakuhle kwengqondo .

Ngoko ke, masikhumbule oku (Umyalezo Wokubuyela Ekhaya)

Ngamafutshane, ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki yokutya, nazi izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu onokuzenza:

• Funa uncedo lweengcali ngokukhawuleza. Landela iingcebiso zoogqirha kunye nezinye iingcali.
• Yiba nomonde nothando. Yazisa umntwana ukuba ukulungele ukumxhasa.
• Yenza ixesha lokutya libe ngamava azolileyo nanobuhlobo. Kuphephe ukunyanzela okanye ukugxeka.
• Zama ukuqonda iimvakalelo zomntwana wakho. Thetha naye, mamela oko akuthethayo.
• Soloko ukhuthaza, kodwa ungamcinezeli.
• Hlala uqinile nawe. Fumana inkxaso ukuba uyayidinga.
• Ungaze ulahle ithemba! Ukuchacha kunokwenzeka.

Uthando lwakho, umonde, kunye nolwalathiso olufanelekileyo kuya kuba ngamandla amakhulu kumntwana wakho ukuze oyise olu celomngeni.

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