Ukuba ungumama okhulelweyo, mhlawumbi uqhelene nezi zinto. Nokuba kusesitalatweni, ebhasini, okanye endlwini yesalamane, umntu ongamaziyo ngequbuliso uchukumisa isisu sakho aze akubuze, 'Ngaba umntwana uphilile?' Okanye eofisini, wonke umntu ubuza imibuzo efana nale, 'Kufuneka ukuba uya kwigumbi lokuhlambela ngalo lonke ixesha ngoku, akunjalo?' Xa usiva ezi zinto, uziva ungakhululekanga, uneentloni, kwaye unomsindo, akunjalo? Ezi zinto ziyacaphukisa kwaye zichaphazela ubumfihlo bakho. Kodwa oomama abaninzi abakhulelweyo bajongana nale nto.
Ngaba ukhathazwa yimibuzo engeyomfuneko?
Abafazi abaninzi abakhulelweyo bacinga ukuba ukuba umntu ubuza umbuzo, kufuneka awuphendule, nokuba ungowabo kangakanani na. Kodwa akunjalo. Awunyanzelekanga ukuba wabelane naye wonke umntu ngeenkcukacha malunga nokukhulelwa kwakho. Unelungelo lokuthetha kangangoko ufuna, ukuba ufuna.
Ngoko ke, uza kwenza ntoni ukuba umntu ukubuza umbuzo ongathandekiyo?
- Yitshintshe incoko: Ukuba umntu ubuza into efana nokuthi, "Ngaba umntwana uza kuzalwa ngotyando ?", ungayitshintsha incoko ngobubele ngokuncuma uthi, "Sobabini sonwabile kakhulu ngokuba nomntwana. Yintoni entsha kuwe?" Oku kuya kukunceda ukuba ungawubuzi lo mbuzo kwaye ubuyisele incoko kumntu obuzile umbuzo.
- Phendula ngombuzo: Eli licebo elihle kakhulu. Khawuthelekelele umntu ekubuza athi, "Ngaba wazala umntwana ngokwendalo?" Ungabuza nje uthi, " Lo ngumbuzo ongaqhelekanga, kutheni ufuna ukwazi? " Oku kuya kubenza baqonde ukungafaneleki kombuzo wabo. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba abasayi kuphinda bakubuze imibuzo enjalo yobuqu.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukukhumbula ukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba uthethe nantoni na ongafuni kuyithetha, nokuba uziva ungakhululekanga kangakanani na. Nokuba lilungu losapho, akufuneki unike iinkcukacha ukuba awufuni.
Amabali othusayo egumbi lokubeleka ongenakuyeka ukuwaphulaphula
Kwabanye abantu, imibuzo engeyomfuneko yeyona icaphukisayo. Kodwa kwabanye, iingcebiso ezingeyomfuneko, ingakumbi amabali othusayo malunga nokuzala , zezona zicaphukisayo. Wakuba nje ufumanise ukuba ukhulelwe, wonke umntu uqala ukukuxelela ibali lokuzala eloyikekayo abakhe baliva okanye balivayo, akunjalo?
Ngexesha elinje, kufuneka uqokelele isibindi uze uyiphelise ngentlonelo incoko.
Ungathi: ""Ndiyazi ukuba uyazi okuninzi, kwaye ukuba ndinombuzo, ndiza kukubuza ngokuqinisekileyo. Kodwa ukukhulelwa ngakunye, ukuzala ngakunye kwahlukile. Ngoko ke ndingathanda ukuzibonela ngokwam ukuba amava am aza kuba njani."
Okanye, ungatsho into ethile ngokuthe ngqo: " Enkosi kakhulu, kodwa andifuni ukuva la mabali othusayo ngoku. " Nangona oku kungabonakala kunzima kancinci, kubalulekile ukwenza izigqibo ezinzima ngolu hlobo xa ucinga ngempilo yakho yengqondo .
Wonke umntu angayeka njani ukuchukumisa izisu zakhe?
Ngokungafaniyo nentetho nemibuzo engeyomfuneko, ukuchukumisa umzimba, ingakumbi isisu, akukhululeki kakhulu kwaye kukwaphula ubumfihlo. Nokuba ucinga ukuba kulungile ukuba umhlobo okanye ilungu losapho likwenze oko, kunzima ukunyamezela xa umntu ongamaziyo esitalatweni esenza oko.
Wenza ntoni ngale nto?
- Gcina umgama ophakathi komzimba: Ngamanye amaxesha isisu sakho sinokuba kufutshane nabanye kunokuba ucinga. Nokuba intloko yakho ikude, isisu sakho sikunika indawo engakumbi. Ngoko ke, zama ngabom ukugcina umgama omncinci xa unabanye abantu.
- Tshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo kunye nendlela oma ngayo: Indlela oma ngayo, indlela oziphatha ngayo , indlela ojonga ngayo... zonke ezi zinto zinokuthumela umyalezo othi ' hlonipha ubumfihlo bam '. Xa uzithembile kwaye unamandla ngomzimba wakho, abanye bayawuva loo myalezo. Emva koko umnqweno wokuchukumisa umzimba wakho ngaphandle kwesizathu awunakwenzeka kangako.
- Thetha ngqo: Ukuba, nangona konke oku, umntu uzama ukuchukumisa isisu sakho, ungatsho ngokuzolileyo kodwa ngokuqinileyo uthi, " Nceda ungayenzi loo nto, iyandicaphukisa. " Ungoyiki ukuthetha oku.
| Ixesha elinzima | Iimpendulo onokuzinika |
|---|---|
| Ukubuza imibuzo yobuqu engeyomfuneko | "Kutheni ufuna ukwazi ngaloo nto?" "Silinde umntwana ngovuyo. Zithini iinkcukacha zakho?" |
| Ukubalisa amabali othusayo okubeleka | "Enkosi kakhulu, kodwa andifuni kuva olo hlobo lwentetho." "Yonke into eyenzekayo yahlukile, ndithanda ukujongana namava am." |
| Ukuchukumisa isisu ngaphandle kokubuza | "Uxolo, nceda ungayenzi loo nto. Ayindiphathi kakuhle." |
Uzijongana njani nezi zinto eofisini?
Kunzima ukujongana nezinto ezinjalo nabantu odibana nabo eofisini yonke imihla kunanabantu ongabaziyo. Kuba awunakubenzakalisa, kodwa kufuneka ukhusele ubumfihlo babo.
Eyona nto ingcono onokuyenza apha kukugcina ubuchule bakho . Xa uziphethe kakuhle emsebenzini wakho nakwiincoko zakho, abanye baya kukubona njengomntu osebenza naye ofanelekileyo, kungekhona umntu osebenza naye okhulelweyo . Amahlaya neencoko ezingeyomfuneko ziya kuncipha kakhulu.
Kwakhona, ungoyiki ukucacisa imida yakho, nokuba ngumntu odibana naye yonke imihla. Ukuthetha into ethe ngqo kodwa enembeko, efana nokuthi " Nceda ungatsho/ukwenze oko, kundikhathaza, " yindlela entle yokugcina ubudlelwane kunye noxolo lwengqondo.
Ngalo lonke eli xesha, akufuneki ulahle amalungelo akhethekileyo owafumanayo ngexesha lokukhulelwa (umzekelo, ithuba lokuphumla kancinci, ithuba lokusebenza ekhaya). Unelungelo lokulinganisela zombini ezi zinto!
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Umzimba wakho ngowakho. Unelungelo elipheleleyo lokumisela imida yawo.
- Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uphendule yonke imibuzo yakho. Yiphephe incoko okanye uveze ukungavumelani kwakho ngokupheleleyo.
- Musa ukoyika ukugatya ngentlonelo kodwa ngokuqinileyo amabali othusayo okanye iingcebiso ongazifuniyo.
- Khusela indawo yakho yobuqu ngokusebenzisa indlela oma ngayo kunye nomgama ophakathi kwakho.
- Ukuthi "nceda ungakwenzi oko" kulungile kwaye kubalulekile kwimpilo-ntle yakho yengqondo.
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