Ngaba ugqirha ukuxelele ukuba umntwana wakho unesifo sokungakwazi ukuqwalasela kakuhle (ADHD) kwaye kufuneka asele amayeza ayo yonke imihla? Eli lisenokuba liyeza lokuqala umntwana wakho aza kulisela. Ngoku usenokuba uzibuza, "Owu Thixo wam, ndiza kuthetha njani nomntwana wam ngale mayeza?" Ungakhathazeki. Akunzima njengoko ucinga. Masithethe nomntwana wakho ngayo ngokufanelekileyo.
Masincede umntwana wakho aqonde ukuba yintoni i-ADHD kunye nesizathu sokuba afune amayeza.
Xa uthetha nomntwana wakho ngale nto, kufuneka uthethe ngendlela efanelekileyo ngokweminyaka yakhe kunye nenqanaba lokuqonda kwakhe.
Kumntwana omncinci, sebenzisa amagama alula kakhulu. Cinga ngamagama umntwana wakho asele ewasebenzisa ukuchaza iimpawu zakhe. Banokuthi izinto ezifana nokuthi, "Andikwazi ukuhlala phantsi" okanye "Andikwazi ukumamela utitshala." Ungasebenzisa loo magama afanayo uthi, "Eli yeza lenzelwe ukunceda umntwana wakho ahlale ethe cwaka aze anike ingqalelo kwizifundo zakhe. Emva koko kuya kuba lula kuwe ukulawula ezo zinto."
Ukuba umntwana wakho mdala kancinci kwaye unomdla kwisayensi, ungamchazela kancinci ngendlela ingqondo esebenza ngayo, okwenzekayo kwi-ADHD, kunye nendlela amayeza anokunceda ngayo. Mhlawumbi umbonise umfanekiso kwincwadi, okanye umcele akuchazele oku kwixesha elizayo xa ebona ugqirha.
Thetha inyaniso kumntwana wakho, thetha inyaniso.
Abanye abazali, ingakumbi abantwana abancinci, banokuthi eli yeza "livithamini" okanye, okubi nangakumbi, "itofi." Abanye bangalixuba ngasese ekutyeni okanye kwiziselo ngaphandle kokuxelela mntu ngesimo se-ADHD okanye ukuba liyeza.
Oku akulunganga kakhulu . Kungcono ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo nomntwana wakho ngemeko yakhe kunye nonyango lwakhe. Kuba ngenye imini, umntwana uya kuyazi inyaniso. Emva koko usenokungakuthembi.
Kwakhona, ukuba umntwana uyayazi imeko yakhe, unokuzibona iimpawu zakhe, azame ukuzilawula, aze athathe inxaxheba ngokukhutheleyo kunyango. Oko kumnceda kakhulu.
Cacisa ngokucacileyo indlela yokusebenzisa iyeza.
Ngaphambi kokuba unike umntwana wakho amayeza, mcacisele ngokucacileyo indlela, ixesha, nendawo yokuwasela. Ngale ndlela, umntwana akayi kucaphuka.
Amayeza e-ADHD afumaneka ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Amanye afumaneka ngeepilisi, amanye afumaneka kulwelo, kwaye amanye afumaneka kwiipatches ozisebenzisa emzimbeni wakho. Amanye amayeza athatha ixesha elide ukusebenza emzimbeni.
Umntwana wakho usenokufuna ukuthatha amayeza kusasa nangokuhlwa. Oko kuthetha ukuba kuya kufuneka athathe amayeza esikolweni. Kwimeko enjalo, umongikazi wesikolo angamnika umntwana. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ugqirha umnike iyeza elisebenza ixesha elide elisebenza imini yonke, loo ngxaki ayizukuvela.
Ukuba ngumntwana omdala, mlumkise kakhulu ukuba angaze anike omnye umntu eli yeza, nokuba ngumhlobo .
Masithethe nangemiphumo emibi yamayeza.
Xelela umntwana wakho ukuba usenokuziva engaqhelekanga kwaye engaqhelananga xa eqala ukuthatha eli yeza. Kodwa gcina olu lwazi lufutshane . Musa ukumoyikisa umntwana wakho ngoluhlu olude lweziphumo ebezingalindelekanga.
Kunoko, xelela umntwana wakho, "Ukuba uziva into engaqhelekanga okanye eyahlukileyo emva kokusela iyeza, qiniseka ukuba undixelele/utata wakho."
Ukuba ukhankanya naluphi na utshintsho, mqinisekise ukuba kuza kulunga kwiintsuku okanye kwiiveki ezimbalwa ezizayo. Ukuba akunjalo, mxelele ukuba singathetha nogqirha size sitshintshe amayeza okanye idosi .
Masisuse uloyiko engqondweni yomntwana.
Kukho izinto ezixhaphakileyo umntwana anokuba nazo malunga ne-ADHD. Masiziphendule size simqinisekise.
| Uloyiko olusengqondweni yomntwana | Oko sikuthethayo kuloo nto |
|---|---|
| "Ndiyagula? Ingaba kukho into engalunganga ngam?" Abantwana baziva ngaloo ndlela xa bexelelwa ukuba basele amayeza. Kuba basela amayeza kuphela xa begula. | Thelekisa oku nayo nayiphi na enye imeko enokunyangeka. Umzekelo omhle kukubona kakubi. Yithi nje, "Njengokuba utata efaka iiglasi ukunceda amehlo akhe agxile ngcono, eli yeza linceda ingqondo yakho igxile ngcono." |
| "Ingaba 'ndahlukile' kwabanye?" Abantwana, ingakumbi xa besebancinci, abakuthandi ukwahluka kwabanye. | Yithi, "Asinguwe wedwa nyana/ntombi, abantwana abaninzi esikolweni banale meko ye-ADHD. Uninzi lwabo lusebenzisa amayeza. Ukuba uthatha amayeza esikolweni okanye xa usiya kwikhaya lomhlobo, akuyi kuba nguwe wedwa owenza loo nto." |
| "Andiyi kukwazi ukuphumelela esikolweni okanye ebomini." Umntwana angade asebenzise amagama anje ngokuthi "Ndisisidenge." | Yilahle ngoko nangoko le nto. Yithi, "Ayiyonyani leyo." Banike imizekelo yabantu abaphumeleleyo abane-ADHD ababaziyo (umz., umthambo womzimba uSimone Biles, umculi uJustin Bieber). |
| "Ngaba eli yeza liza konakalisa ubuchopho bam? Ngaba liza kundilawula?" | "Silapha ukukukhusela. Asisoze senze nantoni na eya kukwenzakalisa. Ugqirha unjalo. Le yinto eza kukunceda," mqinisekise. |
Qonda ukuba eli yeza aliyonto 'yomlingo'.
Xa uthetha ngamayeza e-ADHD, musa ukuvumela umntwana wakho abe nombono wokuba 'liqhinga elimangalisayo' eliza kwenza zonke iingxaki zakhe ziphele kwangoko nje ukuba alisebenzise.
Yenza ulindelo olunokwenzeka. Eli yeza lisixhobo nje esinokunceda ukunciphisa iimpawu. Nangona kunjalo, cacisa ukuba umntwana kuya kufuneka afunde nezinye iindlela zokulawula ukuziphatha kwakhe .
Qhubeka uthetha nomntwana wakho.
Le ngxoxo ayisiyonto inokwenziwa kube kanye, yinto ekufuneka iqhubeke.
Buza umntwana wakho ubuncinane kube kanye ngeveki, "Isebenza njani iyeza? Ngaba useneengxaki? Ngaba kukho naziphi na iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga?"
Ngokuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yomntwana wakho, mncede aqaphele ukuba ube nosuku oluhle okanye olubi na. Ungamcela ukuba azobe into efana nobuso obuncumileyo okanye ubuso obubuhlungu (ii-emoji) kwikhalenda okanye kwincwadi. Olu lwazi luya kuba luncedo kakhulu xa uthetha nomntwana wakho kunye nogqirha.
Wenza ntoni xa umntwana wakho esithi akanakusela amayeza?
Abanye abantwana basenokungafuni ukusela amayeza abo. Abantwana bayo nayiphi na iminyaka banokuba neenkani, ingakumbi besebancinci. Abanye abantwana basenokufihla amayeza ekoneni yomlomo wabo, benze ngathi bayawasela, baze bawalahle.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uqala ukwala ukusela amayeza akhe, zama ukufumanisa isizathu. Mhlawumbi sisiphumo esitsha nesoyikisayo. Okanye mhlawumbi kukho umntu oqhulayo.
Ukuba umntwana wakho uthi, "Andidingi mayeza okwangoku," thetha ngeempawu zakhe zangoku. "Usenengxaki yokwenza umsebenzi wesikolo, akunjalo? Isenokuba yi-ADHD, yiyo loo nto udinga amayeza," kwaye ubonise iinyani.
Ukuba ngumntwana omncinci, ungasebenzisa inkqubo encinci yemivuzo ukumkhuthaza. Into efana nokubanika isitika, okanye ukubanika ixesha elingakumbi lokudlala kwithebhulethi okanye ukubukela iTV.
Ukuba umntwana wakho umdala kancinci kwaye usavakalelwa kukuba akufanele asele amayeza, ungathetha nogqirha wakho nize nifikelele kwisivumelwano. Oko kukuthi, "Kulungile, masiyeke amayeza okwethutyana. Kodwa ukuba iingxaki zibuya, kufuneka siqale kwakhona amayeza." (Qiniseka ukuba udibane nogqirha wakho ngaphambi kokuba wenze oku.)
Ngokuthetha ngale nto ngokunyanisekileyo nangokuthe rhoqo nomntwana wakho, ungamnceda kakhulu ukuba aphumelele kwinkqubo yakhe yonyango aze azuze lukhulu kuyo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Thetha nge-ADHD kunye namayeza ngendlela elula, ehambelana neminyaka. Ungaze uxoke.
- Qonda uloyiko lomntwana ("Ndiyagula?", "Ngaba ndahlukile?") uze ulususe ngemizekelo elula efana nezipili.
- Baqonde ukuba eli yeza alilo 'umlingo', kodwa lisixhobo nje esinceda ukulawula iimpawu.
- Emva kokuqalisa iyeza, qhubeka uthetha nomntwana wakho. Qaphela indlela aziva ngayo.
- Mcebise kakhulu umntwana wakho ukuba angaze abelane ngamayeza nabanye abantu.
- Ukuba kukho nayiphi na ingxaki okanye amathandabuzo, soloko uthetha nogqirha wakho ngaphambi kokuba wenze izigqibo ngokwakho.
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