Ngaba uhlala uloyiko, usizi, kwaye unesizungu ekhayeni lakho, indawo apho ufanele uzive ukhuselekile khona emhlabeni? Ngaba uhlala nomntu okuvisa ubuhlungu ngamazwi onke, ophosa izinto phantsi ngexesha lokulwa, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ophakamisa ingalo okanye umlenze? Le ayisiyongxaki ohlala wedwa kuyo. Ubundlobongela basekhaya yingxaki enkulu abantu abaninzi ababandezeleka kuyo buthule eSri Lanka nakwihlabathi liphela, kodwa bayoyika ukuthetha ngayo. Ngoko ke masithethe ngale nto ngokukhululekileyo nangendlela enobuhlobo namhlanje.
Yintoni kanye kanye iNdlovane yasekhaya?
Xa sicinga ngobundlobongela basekhaya, sihlala sicinga ngokuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni nokubetha. Kodwa kungaphezulu koko. Ngamafutshane, yiyo nayiphi na indlela umntu ayisebenzisayo ukoyikisa, ukulawula, okanye ukuxhaphaza iqabane lakhe (inkoliso yabafazi, kodwa kusenokwenzeka nasemadodeni). Yinto yamandla nolawulo.
Kukho iinkalo ezahlukeneyo koku. Masibone ukuba ziyintoni na.
| Uhlobo lobundlobongela | Kalula nje... |
|---|---|
| Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni | Izinto ezifana nokubetha, ukutyhala, ukukrwitshwa, ukutsala iinwele, kunye nokwenzakalisa ngezinto ezitshayo. |
| Ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo/ngokwengqondo | Ukulimaza umntu ngokuthi, "Uyaphambana," "Akukho mntu ukukhathaleleyo," "Awunakwenza nto ngaphandle kwam." Ukubashiya bodwa, ukungabavumeli ukuba babone abahlobo babo nezalamane zabo. Ukuboyikisa. |
| Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo | Ukunyanzela iqabane ukuba lilale ngesondo ngaphandle kwemvume yalo. Ukulinyanzela ukuba lenze izinto elingafuni ukuzenza. |
| Ukunyanzeliswa koQoqosho | Ukungabavumeli ukuba baye emsebenzini, bethatha yonke imali abayifumana ngenkani, baze babashiye bengenakuzenzela nto ngaphandle kokubanika imali yokuyisebenzisa. |
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba, akukho nanye kwezi zinto eqhelekileyo. Akukho ndawo yale nto kulwalamano olunothando.
Kutheni le meko inzima kangaka?
Inyaniso yale nto, njengoko kuboniswe luphando, ibuhlungu kakhulu. Khawuthelekelele, inani elikhulu labasetyhini abafika kwigumbi likaxakeka (ETU) kwizibhedlele beza kufuna unyango lokwenzakala okubangelwe lugonyamelo lwasekhaya. Kodwa bangaphi kubo abaxelela ugqirha isizathu sokwenyani? Amaxesha amaninzi, bathi izinto ezinje "batyibilika baza bawa phantsi kwezinyuko", "benzakele ngelixa bedlala nomntwana wabo".
Akuphelelanga apho, kuxelwa ukuba umfazi unamathuba amaninzi okwenzakaliswa liqabane lakhe langoku okanye langaphambili kunangumntu angamaziyo okanye umphangi esitalatweni. Le yinyaniso enzima ekufuneka siyiqonde.
Iingcamango eziphosakeleyo eziqhubeka nolu gonyamelo
Kutheni abantu bebandezeleka iminyaka emininzi bengaphumi kolu budlelwane? Esinye sezizathu kukuba kukho ezinye iingcamango eziphosakeleyo kuluntu. Ukususa ezi ngcamango ziphosakeleyo kubaluleke kakhulu ekusombululeni le ngxaki.
- "Le yimicimbi yosapho, akufuneki singenelele." - Le yeyona mpazamo inkulu. Ubundlobongela abuyonto yobuqu. Lulwaphulo-mthetho. Ukuba umntu uyaxhatshazwa, sinoxanduva njengoluntu lokungenelela.
- "Akakwazi ukulawula xa enomsindo, yiyo loo nto ebetha." - Oku kukwayinto engafanelekanga. Iingcali zithi ubundlobongela abukokulahlekelwa kukulawula , kodwa kukuzama ukulawula omnye umntu . Umntu onobundlobongela uyazi kakuhle into ayenzayo. Yenziwa ngabom.
- "Ukuba umfazi ebevale umlomo wakhe, oku bekungayi kwenzeka." - Ubundlobongela abuyonto imbi kumntu oxhatshazwayo. Ukutyhola ixhoba ngale ndlela kumenza azive eyedwa kwaye engenakuncedakala. Akukho mntu unelungelo lokuxhaphaza nabani na nangasiphi na isizathu.
Ungazinceda njani wena okanye umntu omaziyo?
Ukunceda umntu okwimeko enjalo yingxaki enzulu kakhulu.
Ukuba ulixhoba lobundlobongela...
1. Okokuqala, qonda ukuba oku akulona ityala lakho. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube neentloni ngale nto. Awuwedwa.
2. Thetha nomntu omthembayo.Isenokuba ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni, isalamane, okanye umcebisi. Kungaba luncedo kakhulu ukwabelana ngemithwalo yakho.
3. Yenza iSicwangciso soKhuseleko . Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukuba kufuneka uphume ekhaya ngexesha likaxakeka, gcina izinto ozifunayo (izatifikethi zokuzalwa, amakhadi e-ID, amakhadi ebhanki, amaxwebhu abantwana, iimpahla ezibalulekileyo, imali ethile) kwindawo ekulula ukuyifikelela. Cinga ngendawo ekhuselekileyo onokuya kuyo.
4. Bhala phantsi okwenzekayo. Gcina irekhodi yeentsuku, amaxesha, kunye neziganeko zokuxhatshazwa. Ukuba kukho ukwenzakala, thatha iifoto ukuba kunokwenzeka. Ezi zinokuba zibaluleke kakhulu kwiinkqubo zomthetho.
5. Cela uncedo. Kukho amaziko eSri Lanka anokunceda ngale nto. Ungafaka isikhalazo kwi-Women and Children's Bureau yamapolisa . Kukwakho nee-NGO ezibonelela ngeenkonzo zomthetho nezengcebiso. Ukuba wenzakele, bona ugqirha ngokukhawuleza uze ufumane unyango.
Ungamnceda njani umntu ongamaziyo?
- Ukuba ubona okanye uve ubundlobongela busenzeka, xela amapolisa ngoko nangoko (119). Ngumsebenzi wakho.
- Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umhlobo okanye isalamane sakho sinengxaki enjalo, musa ukumphoxa ngoko nangoko ngokumbuza ngayo. Endaweni yoko, thetha kancinci. Thetha into efana nale, "Ndikhathazekile ngawe. Ndiyaqonda ukuba kukho into engalunganga. Ukuba ufuna ukuthetha, ndilapha."
- Xa begqiba ekubeni bathethe, baphulaphule ngaphandle kokugweba. Musa ukubuza imibuzo efana nokuthi, "Kutheni usekunye naye?" Endaweni yoko, buza, "Ulufuna njani uncedo lwam?"
- Inkxaso emva kokuba ubudlelwane buphelile. Uphando lubonisa ukuba abasindileyo basengozini enkulu emva kokushiya ubudlelwane obuxhatshazwayo. Ngoko ke hlala unxibelelana nabo ngelo xesha kwaye ujonge ukhuseleko lwabo.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube namava anjalo ukuze uncede umntu osweleyo. Ukuba unemvakalelo yovelwano kunye nenkxalabo ngaye, kwanele oko.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Udushe lwasekhaya alukokuxhatshazwa ngokwasemzimbeni kuphela, lukwabandakanya nolawulo lwengqondo, lweemvakalelo, lwesondo nolwezoqoqosho.
- Ubundlobongela abunakuba yinto ethethelelekayo nangasiphi na isizathu. Ukuxhatshazwa akulona ityala lakho.
- Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo ujongene nale meko, musa ukuthula. Cela uncedo. Kukho abantu kunye nemibutho enokukunceda.
- Ukuba iqabane lakho liyakuxhaphaza, asilulo uthando. Lulawulo.
- Ukuba ubona okanye uve ngogonyamelo, musa ukuthula kwaye wenze ngendlela efanelekileyo. Ukungenelela kwakho kungasindisa ubomi.
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