Ngaba wakha wasebenza kwivenkile yezibonelelo, wajoyina intlangano yezibonelelo yasetempileni, okanye wanceda umntu osweleyo? Emva kokwenza oko, umele ukuba waziva uvuyo olukhulu kunye nokukhululeka. Loo mvakalelo yokuba "Owu, ndenze into elungileyo" yinto izazinzulu zezentlalo eziyibiza ngokuba " ukuphakama komncedisi ." Oku akupheleli nje ekubeni uzive uvuya, kodwa kukwalungile kakhulu kwimpilo yakho yomzimba.
Yintoni le mvakalelo imangalisayo ebizwa ngokuba yi "Helper's High"?
Ngamafutshane, yimvakalelo entle neyonwabisayo esiyifumanayo xa sinceda omnye umntu. Ifana kancinci nemvakalelo yokukhululeka oyifumanayo emva kokuzilolonga kakuhle. Ngokutsho kukaStephen G. Post, ingcali yophando ngale ngongoma, ukunceda abanye kuqalisa inkqubo yomzimba emizimbeni yethu. Oku akupheleli nje ekusenzeni sonwabe, kodwa kuphucula nempilo yethu iyonke.
Khawucinge ngovuyo oluvayo xa ubeka uncumo ebusweni bomnye umntu ngoncedo oluncinci oluvela kuwe... Kulapho kwaqala khona konke.
Ngokwesayensi, kwenzeka ntoni emzimbeni?
Oku akuyontsomi nje. Uphando lubonise ukuba xa sinceda, kukho izinto ezimangalisayo ezenzekayo engqondweni nasemizimbeni yethu. Makhe sijonge ukuba ziyintoni na.
Ukusebenza kwenkqubo yomvuzo yobuchopho
Kukho inxalenye ekhethekileyo yengqondo yethu elawula "ulonwabo nolwaneliseko". Oku kubizwa ngokuba yinkqubo yomvuzo we-mesolimbic. Ngokukodwa, le nxalenye iyasebenza xa siziva sonwabile, njengaxa sisitya isidlo esimnandi okanye sifumana isipho. Okumangalisayo kukuba, abaphandi bafumanise nge-'MRI' scans ukuba le "ndawo yolonwabo" yengqondo iyasebenza naxa sinceda umntu osweleyo okanye sinikela ngemali kwintlangano yokunceda abantu. Oku kukhupha iikhemikhali ezikhuthaza ukuziva kakuhle emizimbeni yethu.
Umlingo onciphisa uxinzelelo
Xa sihlala sicinga ngeengxaki zethu kunye namaxhala ethu, amanqanaba emizimba yethu e-cortisol ye-stress hormone ayanda. Oku kunokukhokelela kwizifo ezininzi, ezifana noxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu kunye nesifo sentliziyo.
Kodwa xa sibeka ecaleni iingxaki zethu size siqale ukucinga ngeemfuno zabanye size sibancede, la manqanaba e-cortisol ehla kakhulu. Kolunye uphando, iqela labantu abadala lalandelwa iminyaka emi-4. Bafumanise ukuba abo babezinikela ngokuzithandela iiyure ezingaphezu kwama-200 ngonyaka babenomngcipheko ophantsi ngama-40% wokufumana uxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu kunabo bangazange benze njalo.
Intuthuzelo ye-oxytocin kunye nee-endorphins
Xa sinceda umntu sijongene ubuso ngobuso, umzekelo, xa sityelela umntu ogulayo, okanye xa sithuthuzela umntu odakumbileyo, imizimba yethu ivelisa ezinye iihomoni ezimbini ezikhethekileyo.
- I-Oxytocin: Oku kukwabizwa ngokuba yi-"love hormone." Le hormone iveliswa xa umama encancisa umntwana wakhe. Idala umoya omnandi wokuzola nobudlelwane ezingqondweni zethu.
- Ii-Endorphins : Ezi zifana neepilisi zentlungu zendalo zomzimba wethu. Zinokunciphisa nentlungu yethu yomzimba.
Ngoko ke, xa sinceda, ukuveliswa kwezi hormone zombini kusinika intuthuzelo enkulu, engqondweni nasemzimbeni.
Ngoko ke, ndingayikhetha njani indawo efanelekileyo yokunceda?
Kulungile, ngoku unomdla wokunceda. Kodwa zininzi iindawo nemisebenzi ekhoyo, kwaye mhlawumbi uyazibuza ukuba uqale phi. Ezi ngcebiso ziya kukunceda ukhethe eyona ifanelekileyo kuwe.
| Cinga ngenyani | Kutheni kunjalo? / Imizekelo |
|---|---|
| Khetha into ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe. | Khetha intsimi enomdla kuwe kwaye unomdla kuyo. Umzekelo, ukuba uyazithanda izilwanyana, yiya kwindawo enceda izilwanyana. Ukuba uyayithanda indawo esingqongileyo, tyala imithi okanye ujoyine ekucoceni ulwandle. |
| Sebenzisa iziphiwo zakho. | Ngaba uyakwazi ukupheka kakuhle? Emva koko nceda kwivenkile yesisa. Ngaba ungutitshala? Emva koko nika iiklasi zesikolo zasimahla. Uya kuziva wanelisekile kakhulu xa unokufumana indawo yokusebenzisa izakhono zakho. |
| Nceda ngento oye wajongana nayo. | Le yinto enamandla kakhulu. Uphando lubonisa ukuba xa umntu ochachayo etywaleni enceda omnye umntu ukuba aphile, amathuba okuba abuyele kwimeko yakhe yasemva kotywala ayancipha. Ngokufanayo, xa umntu ohlushwa ziintlungu ezingapheliyo enceda omnye umntu, iintlungu zakhe ziyancipha. |
| Nceda ngokunyanisekileyo. | Umzimba wakho uza kufumana iziphumo ezilungileyo xa unceda ngokusuka entliziyweni yakho, endaweni yokuzibonisa nje kwihlabathi okanye ngenxa yenzuzo ethile. Inkuthazo yakho ibaluleke kakhulu. |
Kwakhona, cinga ngeshedyuli yakho. Ngaba ungaya yonke imihla okanye ngamaxesha athile kuphela? Ngaba ukhetha ukusebenza neqela elikhulu, okanye wenze imisebenzi emincinci wedwa? Cinga ngazo zonke ezi zinto uze ukhethe ezikulungeleyo. Khumbula, ukuba uziva uxinezelekile okanye uxhalabile ngokunceda, kuya kwenza umonakalo omkhulu kunokuba kube luncedo. Ke ngoko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhetha into oyithandayo ukuyenza. Ukuba unesifo sempilo esenza kube nzima kuwe ukuba ngokuzithandela, thetha nogqirha wakho ngaso kwaye ufumane ingcebiso.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukunceda abanye kulungile engqondweni nasemzimbeni wakho. Oku kubizwa ngokuba yi "Helper's High."
- Xa unceda, "iziko lolonwabo" engqondweni liyasebenza kwaye i- cortisol yehomoni yoxinzelelo iyancitshiswa.
- Oku kunokunciphisa umngcipheko wokufumana izifo ezifana noxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu.
- Ukuveliswa "kweehomoni zentuthuzelo" ezifana ne-oxytocin kunye nee-endorphins kunika isiqabu sengqondo kunye nokunciphisa iintlungu.
- Xa ukhetha umsebenzi wokuzithandela, cinga ngezinto ozithandayo, iziphiwo zakho, nexesha lakho, kwaye ukhethe into onokuyenza ngokusuka entliziyweni.
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