Iningi lethu linomkhuba wokuzigxeka, sizisole. Lokhu kuvame kakhulu uma sibhekene nesikhathi esinzima empilweni yethu nalapho silahlekelwa ukulawula izenzo namazwi ethu. Lokhu sekuyindlela evamile yokuzikhulumela. Ingabe lokhu kuzwakala kukujwayelekile kuwe? Ngakho ake sixoxe ngakho kancane.
Kuyini lokhu kucabanga okungekuhle?
Kalula nje, isimiso esiyisisekelo se-psychology ukuthi njengabantu, sonke sivame ukunikeza ingqalasizinda enkulu ezintweni ezingahambi kahle ezimpilweni zethu kunezinto ezinhle ezenzekayo. Cabanga ngakho, esikhundleni sezimpendulo ezinhle eziyisishiyagalolunye, uthola impendulo eyodwa embi ehlala engqondweni yakho. Ngenxa yalokhu, okuhlangenwe nakho okubi ezimpilweni zethu kungasithinta cishe ngokuphindwe kane kakhulu kunezinhle.
Kuyiqiniso ukuthi okuhlangenwe nakho okubi kuyadingeka ukuze uqhubekele phambili empilweni futhi ufunde emaphutheni. Kodwa-ke, ukuhlala ucabanga ngezinto ezimbi ezenzekile nokuhlala ucabanga ngaleyo mizwa kungalimaza kakhulu impilo yakho nenjabulo yakho. Yilokho esikubiza ngokuthi ukucabanga okungekuhle.
Ngakho-ke 'ukucabanga okuhle' kusho ukumamatheka nje?
Lutho neze. Ukucabanga okuhle akusho ukunganaki izinto ezimbi nezinzima empilweni. Kusho ukubhekana nalezo zinto ezimbi ngesimo sengqondo esingcono. Kusho ukuzama ukubona konke ngendlela enethemba esikhundleni sokubona konke ngendlela yokuphelelwa yithemba. Kufana nokucabanga ukuthi, "O, kusenengxenye yengilazi yamanzi lapho," esikhundleni sokucabanga ukuthi ingilazi ayinalutho.
Ukuze ufike kuleli qophelo, okokuqala udinga ukunaka kakhulu indlela okhuluma ngayo nawe, inkulumo yakho yangaphakathi. Ungakhuluma nawe ngendlela eyakhayo, noma ungakhuluma nawe ngendlela engemihle. Ngezinye izikhathi izinto ozishoyo zingabonakala zinengqondo kakhulu, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi zingase zibe ngokomzwelo futhi zibe zimbi ngokuphelele.
Uma izinto eziningi ozitshela zona zimbi, cishe ungumuntu ophelelwa yithemba. Ungase uqale ukuzitshela ukuthi, "O, ngifisa sengathi nginganezela injabulo eyengeziwe kanye nokukhanya empilweni yami."
Siwushintsha kanjani lo mkhuba?
Nakuba kungaba nzima ukuguqula lo mkhuba omubi wokuzisola ube ngomuhle, akuyona into engenakwenzeka. Kodwa khumbula ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi nokuzijwayeza . Ake sibheke ezinye izindlela zokukusiza wenze lolu shintsho.
| Okufanele ngikwenze | Kwenzekani kuyo? |
|---|---|
| Qaphela imicabango yakho emibi. | Zinike isikhathi sokuqaphela ukuthi nini futhi yimiphi imicabango emibi efika kuwe. Ingabe imayelana nomsebenzi wakho? Ubudlelwano? Okokuqala, khetha indawo eyodwa bese ugxila kuyo. |
| Zinakekele emini. | Zinike isikhathi emsebenzini wakho wosuku ukuze ume ubone ukuthi imicabango emihle noma emibi igeleza engqondweni yakho. Uma imicabango emibi igeleza engqondweni yakho, zama ukuzikhuthaza. |
| Mamatheka, zijabulise. | Ukuba nomuzwa wokuhleka kungakwandisa kakhulu isimo sakho sengqondo esihle. Uma uhleka, ukucindezeleka kuyancipha. Uma ukucindezeleka kuncipha, kulula ukubheka impilo ngendlela enhle. |
| Landela indlela yokuphila enempilo. | Zenze umkhuba wokuzivocavoca imizuzu engama-30 ngosuku, udle ukudla okunomsoco, futhi uzame izindlela zokunciphisa ukucindezeleka. Ukunikeza ingqondo nomzimba wakho izinto ezinhle kungathuthukisa kakhulu isimo sakho sengqondo. |
| Xhumana nalabo abakusekelayo. | Zizungezele nabantu abakukhuthazayo futhi abanezelela injongo enhle empilweni yakho. Kubalulekile ukuba nabantu empilweni yakho abangakunikeza iseluleko esihle nokusekelwa. Abantu abathi konke akulungile bazokwengeza kuphela ekucindezelekeni kwakho. |
| Khuluma ngomusa kuwe (Inkulumo enhle ngawe) | Yiba nomusa kuwe. Zikhuthaze ngisho noma kufika umcabango omubi engqondweni. Gxila ezimfanelweni zakho ezinhle, izinto ozithandayo ngawe. Umthetho wegolide uthi: Uma ungeke utshele umngane wakho omkhulu into ethile, akusizi ukuzitshela. |
Yiba nombono ongokoqobo, lokhu kuzothatha isikhathi.
Ukukhathazeka ngemicabango emibi kungaba yinto embi. Khumbula, uzama ukuthuthukisa isimo sengqondo esihle kanye nokuzwelana nawe . Yiba nombono ofanele ngokuthi kuzothatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuyeka lo mkhuba. Qonda ukuthi kuthatha isikhathi ukushintsha umkhuba onjengalona.
Ungase uthole ukuthi udinga ukwenza izinguquko ezithile empilweni yakho ukuze ube nombono omuhle. Isibonelo, ungase ubeke imingcele nabantu abathile noma uvale i-TV uma izindaba zikwenza uzizwe ucindezelekile kakhulu.
Futhi, cabanga ngokushintsha izinto eziza kuqala ozinika izinto ezithile empilweni yakho. Ukuzinika isikhathi sezinto ozithandayo kuzothuthukisa impilo yakho, kuthuthukise imizwa yakho , futhi kukhulise ukuzethemba kwakho.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukucabanga okungekuhle akusikho ubuthakathaka bakho, kuwumkhuba abantu abaningi abanawo.
- Kungenzeka ngokuphelele ukushintsha lo mkhuba ngokuzijwayeza kanye nomzamo.
- Okokuqala, qala ukuqaphela imicabango yakho ngaphandle kokwahlulela.
- Indlela yokuphila enempilo kanye neqembu labangane abasekelanayo kubaluleke kakhulu kulolu hambo.
- Ziphathe ngendlela efanayo naleyo obungaphatha ngayo umngane wakho omkhulu.
- Uma le micabango ikwenza ukhathazeke kakhulu kangangokuthi awukwazi ukuyilawula, ungalokothi unqikaze ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngakho.
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