He uaua ki te pupuri i ngā whanaungatanga pāpori i a koe e whawhai ana ki te mate pukupuku o te ū?

I a koe e noho tahi ana me te mate pukupuku ū, i ētahi wā ka tino taumaha te tūtaki ki ō hoa me tō whānau, tika? Ina koa ka kite koe i tētahi kua roa e kore e kitea e koe. Nā te ngenge katoa e pā ana ki a koe i te wā e rongoatia ana te mate pukupuku , me te manukanuka mō te haere o te maimoatanga, tērā pea kāore koe e rite ki ō mua. Kua rerekē pea te āhua o tō tinana. Ka mārama rānei ētahi atu ki ēnei mea? Ka taea e koe te hono atu ki a rātou pērā i mua? He mea noa te pātai pēnei.

He mea tino nui te noho pāpori mō tō oranga ngākau.

He mea noa te pāngia e te ahotea, te manukanuka, me te pouri i te wā e noho tahi ana me te mate pukupuku. I taua wā anō, ka pau pea te wā i ngā maimoatanga mate pukupuku, nō reira, kāore pea koe e hiahia ki te haere tahi me ō hoa, ki te haere rānei ki ngā huihuinga.

Engari whakaarohia, i kitea i roto i tētahi rangahau he nui ake te tūponotanga o ngā wāhine whai hononga pāpori kaha ki te ora ake i te mate pukupuku ū, ā, he iti ake te tūponotanga o te hokinga mai o te mate pukupuku. Ko te tikanga o tēnei, ko te noho tahi me te hunga e hari ana, e tautoko ana i a koe, he pānga tika ki tō hauora tinana. Nō reira, he āwhina nui te mahi i tētahi mea pai māu mā te whai wā ki te whakahoahoa.

Kōwhiria he ara e pai ana ki a koe hei hoki anō ki te hapori.

Ki te mea kua roa koe kāore i te whakawhanaunga, ka tino taumaha pea te haere ohorere atu ki tētahi wāhi kī tonu i te tangata. Kāore he aha. Me titiro tātou ki ētahi huarahi hei whakahaere i tēnei haerenga kia māmā ake.

Whakatauhia te nui o ngā taipitopito ka whakaratohia e koe.

Akene ka hiahia koe ki te kōrero ki ō hoa tino pono mō tō maimoatanga me ō kare ā-roto, engari kāore koe e hiahia ki te kōrero ki te katoa, tae atu ki te hunga kāore koe e mōhio ana.

Kaua e wehi ki te tono āwhina ki ō hoa tata. Me kī atu ki a rātou, "Kāore e taea e au te haere mai i ngā wā katoa, engari ki te mea he pāti, he haerenga rānei, waea mai ki ahau." Pērā ai, ka rite koe ki te mea kāore koe i te mokemoke.

Whakatakotoria tō whakamarie ki te tuatahi.

Ahakoa te āhua iti noa o te whakaaro ki ngā kākahu, ki te whakatauritea ki ngā wero kē atu e pā ana ki a koe, ka nui te pānga ki tō whakapono ki a koe anō. I te huringa o tō tinana nā te maimoatanga, ka piri pea ētahi kākahu tawhito, ka kore e pai.

• Kōwhiria ngā kākahu whakamarie:Kia mau ki ngā kākahu e pai ana mō tō tinana, ā, he mea hanga ki ngā papanga ngohengohe. Kōwhiria ngā kākahu kāore e piri, e whakawhāiti rānei i ngā wāhi pokanga, i ngā koha, me te "Chemo port" pea e whakanohoia ana ki te kaki. Ka taea hoki e koe te pātai ki tō tākuta mō ngā kākahu motuhake ka taea te whakamahi i muri i te pokanga "Mastectomy".
• Whakahou i tō kāhua: Waiho atu ngā kākahu kāore e tau ana ki a koe i tēnei wā, ka whakamahi i tēnei whai wāhitanga hei whakahou i tō āhua. Kakahuria ō whakapaipai tino pai, pania he mea whakapaipai ki tō āhua tino pai. Ko te mea nui kia pai tō whakaaro ki a koe anō.

Huihui mai ki tētahi mahi.

Ki te kore koe e hiahia kia arohia koe e te katoa, uru atu ki tētahi mahi. Pērā ai, ka taea e koe te noho tahi me te tangata, engari kāore koe e noho hei pokapū o te kōrero.

• He akomanga yoga: Kua kitea he tino pai te yoga mō te hauora hinengaro me te hauora tinana o ngā tūroro mate pukupuku.
• Ētahi atu akomanga: Ka taea hoki e koe te whakauru atu ki ngā rōpū pēnei i te tuhi, te tuitui, me te pānui.
• Ngā kaupapa whakapono: Mā te whai wāhi atu ki tētahi kaupapa i tētahi temepara, whare karakia, wāhi tapu rānei, ka whiwhi koe i te rangimārie o te hinengaro, ā, ka whai wāhi hoki koe ki te hono atu ki ētahi atu.

Ina tūtaki koe ki ētahi atu i ia wā, i ia wā, i te wāhi kotahi pēnei, ka noho haumaru koe, ā, ka hanga he wairua whakahoahoa.

Kia taunga koe ki ngā mea i tōu ake tere, i tōu ake ara.

He mea noa te māharahara me te āwangawanga ina haere koe ki tētahi huihuinga nui i muri i tētahi wā, ina tūtaki rānei koe ki ngā tāngata kāore anō kia kitea e koe i roto i tētahi wā. Kāore he aha. Tukua atu taua kare ā-roto. Ka taea e koe te noho pāpori i runga i ō ake tikanga, me te māia.

Kōrerohia te āhua kē o tō wairua.

Ki te taea e koe te kī atu ki a koe anō, "Āe, he ahua rerekē te noho pēnei i muri i tētahi wā," mā tēnā noa iho ka taea te tango i te haurua o te taumaha i tō hinengaro. Inaa, ka pāngia te katoa e ngā āwangawanga iti me ngā mataku i roto i te hapori. Ina kōrero pono koe mō ēnei kare ā-roto, ka taea e koe te hanga hononga hohonu ake ki ētahi atu.

Haere tonu, kaua e hohoro.

Āta whakamātauria te whakahoahoa. Kaua e whakarite i ngā mahere nui i te wā kotahi. Ki te ngenge koe, ki te pouri rānei, kei a koe te tika ki te kī 'kāo' ki tētahi tono. He wāhanga tēnei o te tiaki i a koe anō me te whakaaro ki tō oranga.

Waihoki, ki te hiahia koe, ka taea e koe te whakaae. Kāore pea koe e taea te noho mō te hui katoa, engari ki te taea e koe te haere mai, te haere atu mō te haora, e rua rānei, he mea pai tēnā. Whakanuia tō ahunga whakamua. I roto i te wā, ina karapotia koe e te hunga e mārama ana, e maioha ana ki a koe, ka memeha haere tō wehi ki te noho pāpori .