Kukho imihla apho sivakalelwa kukuba "akukho nto iza kuhamba kakuhle namhlanje." Iingqondo zethu zinzima kakhulu, asifuni ukuqala uviwo olukhulu, udliwanondlebe, okanye umsebenzi wemihla ngemihla. Ngamaxesha anje, namhlanje sithetha ngendlela entle yokuzikhuthaza nokuzikhuthaza. Oku sikubiza ngokuba yi- 'Pep Talk'. Ngamafutshane, yintetho yokukhuthaza oyenzayo.
Yintoni kanye kanye 'iPep Talk'?
'Intetho ehlekisayo' kuxa uthetha wedwa, ngamanye amaxesha ngokuvakalayo, entloko yakho. Ikwabizwa ngokuba yintetho eyakhayo . Kufana nokuba umhlobo wakho osenyongweni athethe nawe ngendlela ekhuthazayo. Kodwa ngeli xesha, loo mhlobo nguwe. Xa ujongene nomceli mngeni okanye umqobo, ungasebenzisa le ndlela ukukunceda ujongane nawo kwaye wakhe ukuzithemba kwakho.
Khawuthelekelele ukuba uza kwenza umsebenzi omkhulu. Ngelo xesha, iingcinga ezinje ngokuthi "Ngaba ndiza kukwazi ukwenza oku?" kunye nokuthi "Wow, oku kunzima" zinokufika engqondweni yakho. 'Intetho yokukhuthaza' ibandakanya ukubeka ezo ngcinga ecaleni uze uzixelele, "Kulungile, masenze oku," "Ndingakwenza oku," kunye nokuthi "Masiqale kancinci." Oku kunciphisa uloyiko lwakho kunye nokuthandabuza, kwaye kukunika amandla engqondo owadingayo ukuze wenze umsebenzi.
Amandla okuthetha ngendlela eyakhayo
Uphando lude lwabonisa nokuba ukuthetha kakuhle kunokutshintsha kangakanani iziphumo . Umzekelo, kuphando olwenziwe kubadlali betenisi, kufunyenwe ukuba abadlali abathetha kakuhle kubo, besebenzisa amabinzana anje ngokuthi "Yiza!", "Ewe!", kunye "Masihambe!", bafumana amanqaku amaninzi baza baphumelela umdlalo.
Oku akusebenzi kwimidlalo kuphela, kodwa nakwinto yonke ebomini bethu. Ungasebenzisa namagama alula anje ngala:
- "Ndingaphumelela oku."
- "Ungakhathazeki, nika ingqalelo nganye nganye."
- "Kulungile, ndingakwenza oku!"
- "Uyazi ukuba ungakwenza oku."
Tshintsha ezi zinto ukuze zihambelane nosukelo lwakho. Kwimviwo, cinga, "Ndifunde nzima, ndingayibhala kakuhle le nto." Kwingxaki emsebenzini, zixelele, "Ndizisombulule iingxaki ezinje ngaphambili, kwaye ndiza kufumana isisombululo sale."
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuthetha la mazwi kuwe ngokunyaniseka nangokuzithemba. Oko kuya kuthumela umyalezo omhle engqondweni yakho.
Wenza ntoni xa ufikelwa ziingcinga ezimbi?
Njengokuba sicinga ngendlela eyakhayo, ukuzigxeka nokuzigxeka kunokuba nefuthe elikhulu. Xa sicinga izinto ezinje, "Ulivila kakhulu!", "Andinakukwazi!", "Yintoni le!", kuyatshabalalisa ukuzithemba kwethu kunye nenkuthazo yethu yokwenza umsebenzi.
Kodwa nantsi into ebalulekileyo: Kuqhelekile ukuba sibe neengcinga ezimbi. Kwanabantu abakrelekrele nabaphumeleleyo emhlabeni banazo ezi ngcinga. Ngoko ke musa ukuzibeka ityala, uthi, "Owu, kutheni ndineengcinga ezimbi nje?" Oko kuya kukwenza uzive ungonwabanga ngakumbi.
Oko kufuneka ukwenze endaweni yoko kukubona loo ngcinga imbi xa ifika, uze uphendule kuyo 'ngentetho yokukhuthaza' eyakhayo echaseneyo.
- Xa ucinga ukuba "Andinakukwazi," cinga endaweni yoko , "Ndiza kuzama."
- Xa ucinga, "Oku kunzima kakhulu," cinga , "Nangona kunzima, ndingakwazi ukudlula koku."
- Ngaphandle kokucinga kakhulu, yithi nje, "Kulungile, masiqale ngoku" size siqale umsebenzi.
Iintlobo 'zeeNtetho zoThuthuzelo' ezihambelana noNjongo lwakho
Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo esinokuzikhuthaza ngazo. Ngokuxhomekeke kwiimfuno zakho, ungakhetha enye yezi ndlela. Oku kungenza intetho yakho yokukhuthaza ibe yimpumelelo ngakumbi.
| Uhlobo 'lweNtetho eNgcono' | Ungayisebenzisa njani le nto? |
|---|---|
| Jikelele | Isetyenziselwa ukuphucula izakhono ngokubanzi, njengaxa uzilolonga okanye uzilolonga. Umzekelo: "Yiza, ixesha elide nje!", "Ndingavuya kakhulu!" |
| Izakhono ezithile | Isetyenziselwa injongo ecacileyo. Umzekelo, ukuba unika intetho, "Thetha ngokuzolileyo nangokucacileyo." |
| Malunga neziphumo | Xa umsebenzi ugqityiwe, iziphumo ziyakhunjuzwa kwaye zikhuthazwe. Umzekelo: "Ukuba ndiphumelele olu vavanyo, ndingaya ekhampasini." |
| Ukuvusa | Zikhuthaze, uzole, okanye ukhulule isithukuthezi. Umzekelo: "Kulungile, ngoku phumla, phefumla nzulu." |
| Malunga neenjongo | Xa uqala iprojekthi, zikhumbuze ngeenjongo zakho. Oku kuya kukunceda uhlale usendleleni. |
| Imiyalelo yomsebenzi | Uxelelwa inyathelo ngenyathelo into ekufuneka uyenze ukuze ufikelele usukelo lwakho. "Kulungile, kuqala kufuneka wenze oku. Okulandelayo kufuneka wenze okuya." |
| Ukuthi "Kutheni" (Kutheni) | Uzikhumbuza "isizathu" sokwenza oku. Le yeyona ndlela inamandla. Umzekelo: "Ndisebenza nzima ukubonelela ngekamva elingcono kusapho lwam." |
| Ubuchule | Ingakumbi ngamaxesha anzima kakhulu, kuyanceda ukuhlala ugxile, ukuzithemba, kwaye ujongane nemingeni. Umzekelo: "Ndingumntu olungileyo koku, ndiyakwazi ukulawula oku." |
Njengoko ubona, oku akusiyo nje into yokuzilolonga ngengqondo. Esi sisixhobo esisebenzayo esinokukunceda ufezekise impilo yakho yengqondo kunye neenjongo zakho. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ujongene noxinzelelo oluqhubekayo, uxinzelelo, okanye uxinezeleko , kubalulekile ukufuna ingcebiso kwingcali yezonyango efanelekileyo ngelixa uzama ezi ndlela.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- I-Pep Talk sisixhobo esinamandla kuwe: inokunyusa ukuzithemba kwakho, umdla wakho, kunye nezakhono zakho.
- Iingcinga ezimbi ziqhelekile:Wonke umntu uneengcinga ezimbi. Endaweni yokuba uzive kakubi ngazo, ziqhelise ukuphendula ngendlela eyakhayo kuzo.
- Qala ngokulula: Qala ngamagama alula nakhayo afana nokuthi "Ndingakwazi" kunye nokuthi "Masizame."
- Khumbula "isizathu sakho": Ukukhumbula isizathu sokwenza into ethile kuya kukunika amandla nangamaxesha anzima kakhulu.
- Yenza umkhwa: Ziqhelise le ndlela yonke imihla, ingakumbi ngaphambi kokuba kubekho iimeko ezinzima. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, iya kuba yinxalenye yendalo yengqondo yakho.
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