Xa uzijonga esipilini, uziva njani ngokwenene ngomzimba wakho? Ngaba wonwabile yindlela okhangeleka ngayo? Okanye ngaba wakha waziva ulusizi okanye uxhalabile ngezinto ezifana nobude bakho, ubunzima, umbala wolusu , okanye uhlobo lweenwele zakho? Sonke siyaziva ezi mvakalelo ukuya kwinqanaba elithile. Kodwa akufuneki uphile nezi mvakalelo. Ungahlakulela isimo sengqondo esihle ngomzimba wakho, 'uMfanekiso woMzimba Olungileyo'. Makhe sithethe ngale nto namhlanje.
Kutheni sivakalelwa ngolu hlobo ngemizimba yethu?
Nokuba siyayithanda okanye asiyithandi, uluntu kunye nenkcubeko esiphila kuyo zenze iingcamango ezithile kunye nemigangatho ethi "ubuhle" bufanele bubukeke ngolu hlobo. Ngoko ke, ngokungazi sithambekele ekuzithelekiseni naloo mgangatho.
Cinga ngabadlali kunye neemodeli esizibonayo kwiTV, kwiimuvi, kwiimagazini, nakwiindaba zoluntu . Imizimba yabo idla ngokuba nzima kumntu oqhelekileyo ukuyifikelela, ngamanye amaxesha ayilunganga, kwaye ayiyonyani. Kodwa xa siqhubeka sibona ezo zinto, sinokucinga, "Kukho into engalunganga ngomzimba wam."
Ayipheleli apho, kodwa nabantu abasingqongileyo nabo banefuthe koku. Izinto ezithethwa lusapho lwethu nabahlobo bethu zinokuba nefuthe elikhulu kwiimvakalelo zethu.
"Owu, ubhityile kakhulu, uyagula?"
"Shah... ubonakala ngathi umdala kancinci, akunjalo? Umhle ngoku."
" Ulusu lwakho lubonakala lumnyama kunangaphambili, akunjalo?"
Nokuba ezi zinto zithethwa ngeenjongo ezintle, ngamanye amaxesha ziyahlala engqondweni zethu zisenze sibe neemvakalelo ezimbi ngemizimba yethu. Ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba ugqirha usinika icebiso elikhathalela impilo, singalitolika gwenxa size sonakalise umfanekiso womzimba wethu.
Kutheni ibalulekile 'iMfanekiso yoMzimba'?
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyiqonde kukuba imizimba esempilweni iza ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba wonke umntu afane. Ukuphuhlisa nokugcina umfanekiso womzimba omhle kubalulekile kulonwabo lwakho nakwimpilo-ntle yakho iyonke.
Makhe sijonge le theyibhile ukuze sicacise oku ngakumbi.
| Umfanekiso womzimba olungileyo | Umfanekiso womzimba ongalunganga |
|---|---|
| Babona imizimba yabo njengoko injalo ngokwenene. Banokuqonda okunyanisekileyo ngobukhulu kunye nokuma kwayo. | Abayiboni imizimba yabo njengoko injalo ngokwenene. Banokucinga ukuba batyebile kwaye babi ngaphezu kokuba benjalo ngokwenene. |
| Bazive beneqhayiya kwaye bekhululekile ngemizimba yabo. | Ukuziva beneentloni, beneentloni, kwaye bexhalabile ngemizimba yabo. |
| Musa ukuthelekisa umzimba wakho nomzimba wabanye abantu. | Badla ngokuziva bebuhlungu xa bethelekisa imizimba yabo neyabanye abantu. |
| Ndixabisa izinto umzimba wam onokuthi uzenze (ukuhamba, ukusebenza, ukumanga umntu omthandayo) ngaphezu kwendlela obonakala ngayo. | Le meko ingakhokelela kwiimeko ezifana noxinzelelo, ukungabi nantlonipho, ukulawula ukutya rhoqo, ixhala elinzima, uxinezeleko, kunye neengxaki zokutya . |
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ukutshintsha umfanekiso womzimba wakho akuthethi ukuba kufuneka utshintshe umzimba wakho ngokwasemzimbeni. Yinto eqala ngaphakathi, engqondweni yakho.
Yintoni 'i-Body Positivity'? Ungayisebenzisa njani?
Ngamafutshane, 'Ukuziphatha Kakuhle Emzimbeni' kuthetha ukuphatha umzimba wakho kunye nemizimba yabanye ngothando nangobubele, endaweni yokubagxeka. Ukubamkela njengoko benjalo.
Ziqhelise ukubulela endaweni yokugxeka.
Zama ukuyeka ukugxeka nokugxeka umzimba wakho. Endaweni yoko, cinga kwaye ube nombulelo ngazo zonke izinto umzimba wakho ozenzela zona. Cinga ngemiphunga ekuncedayo ukuphefumla, intliziyo ehlala ibetha, ingqondo ekuncedayo ukujongana nemingeni yosuku, izandla ezenza isidlo esimnandi, ukukwazi ukubamba isandla somntu omthandayo... Zixabiseke kangakanani zonke ezi zinto?
Oku akuyi kwenzeka ngobusuku obunye.
Ukuba 'nomzimba olungileyo' kufuna umgudu nexesha. Xa unengcinga embi ngomzimba wakho, okanye ngomzimba womnye umntu, yivume loo nto. Yiqaphele loo ngcinga ngokuthi, "Owu... ndiziva ngolu hlobo ngoku." Kwakhona, qaphela iimvakalelo ezintle kakhulu onazo ngamanye amaxesha ngomzimba wakho. Jonga ukuba loo mvakalelo isekelwe kwingcinga yomzimba "ogqibeleleyo" owenziwe luluntu. Yeka ezo zigwebo kwaye ugxile ekwamkeleni umzimba wakho njengoko unjalo . Ngale ndlela, ukwamkela umzimba wakho njengoko unjalo, ngaphandle kokuwubiza ngokuba ulungile okanye umbi, yinto esiyibiza ngokuba yi- 'Body Neutrality ' .
Yiba ngumzekelo kwabanye.
Unokunceda abo bakungqongileyo ukuba babe nemizimba emihle. Cinga kabini ngaphambi kokuba umncome umhlobo wakho ngokunciphisa umzimba. Kuphephe ukuthetha ngesicwangciso sakho sokutya etafileni yesidlo sangokuhlwa nosapho. Endaweni yoko, thetha ngempilo nolonwabo lomntu.
Yahlulahlula into oyibukelayo.
Funda ukuxabisa imizimba yazo zonke iintlobo, iimilo, imibala, kunye nezakhono. Kwiingxelo ozilandelayo kwimidiya yoluntu, iinkqubo zeTV ozibukelayo, kunye neemagazini ozibukelayo, zama ukukhetha imidiya ebhiyozela kwaye ivumela zonke iintlobo zomzimba.
Lumka kakuhle umzimba wakho.
Enye indlela entle yokutshintsha indlela ovakalelwa ngayo ngomzimba wakho kukuwunyamekela kakuhle.
- Yiba ngumntu okhutheleyo : Ukuzilolonga yindlela entle yokuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho, umfanekiso womzimba wakho, kunye namandla akho. Ukuzilolonga akupheleli nje ekubeni "ubhitye," kodwa malunga nokuba "sempilweni nolonwabo."
- Ukutya okulungileyo: Ukutya ukutya okunesondlo nokunempilo kunokukunceda ube nolusu olusempilweni, iinwele, kunye nenkqubo yamathambo eqinileyo.
- Lala ngokwaneleyo: Ukulala ngokwaneleyo kubalulekile ekulawuleni uxinezeleko.
Konke oku kunokukwenza uzive kakuhle ngomzimba wakho.
Okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba ungumzali, indlela ojonga ngayo umzimba wakho kwaye uthetha ngayo yileyo abantwana bakho baya kuyixelisa . Ngoko ke luxanduva lwakho ukunceda abantwana bakho baphuhlise umfanekiso womzimba omhle besebancinci.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Kuphephe ukuthelekisa umzimba wakho nemizimba yabanye abantu. Wonke umntu wahlukile, kwaye wonke umzimba umhle.
- Qonda ukuba asikuko konke okubonayo kwimidiya yoluntu nakumabonwakude okuyinyani. Zihlala zihlelwa, ziyimifanekiso engeyonyani.
- Endaweni yokugxeka umzimba wakho, yiba nombulelo ngenkonzo oyenzela wena (ukuphefumla, ukuhamba, ukucinga).
- Lumka umzimba wakho. Ukutya okunempilo, ukuzilolonga, kunye nokulala ngokwaneleyo kubalulekile kwimpilo yakho yomzimba neyengqondo.
- Ukuba unengxaki yokulawula iimvakalelo ezimbi ngomzimba wakho, ungoyiki ukuthetha ngayo. Ukuthetha nomhlobo othembekileyo, ilungu losapho, okanye ugqirha wakho kunokukunceda uzive ukhululekile kwaye ukhokelwa ngakumbi.
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