Masifunde ngonxibelelwano lomntwana wakho oneminyaka emi-2 ukuya kwemi-3 ubudala.

Ukuthetha nabantwana bethu abancinci, ukusebenzisana nabo, yenye yezona zinto zivuyisayo esizifumanayo njengabazali, akunjalo? Amazwi awanakuchaza uvuyo esiluvayo xa sisiva loo mazwi mancinci, amagama amatsha, kunye namabali amancinci abawabalisayo. Abantwana abancinci bafunda kwiincoko esinazo nabo yonke imihla, kwizinto abazibonayo nabazivayo kwihlabathi elibangqongileyo. Ngoko ke, namhlanje siza kuthetha ngendlela intetho yomntwana wakho oneminyaka emibini ukuya kwemithathu ubudala, oko kukuthi, izakhono zolwimi, eziphuhla ngayo, kunye nendlela esinokunceda ngayo kuloo nto.

Uthetha njani nabantwana bakho kule mihla?

Phakathi kweminyaka emibini ukuya kwemithathu ubudala, izakhono zolwimi zabantwana, oko kukuthi, indlela abathetha nabaqonda ngayo amagama, zikhula ngendlela emangalisayo. Kufana nokunyuka izitebhisi! Ngeli xesha, isigama sabo siyakhula, baqala ukwenza izivakalisi, kwaye bayakwazi ukuqonda oko kuthethwa ngabanye.

Unjani xa uneminyaka emibini ubudala?

Xa umntwana wakho eneminyaka emibini ubudala, uza kuqala ukwenza izinto ezinje:

• Ukubiza amagama amabini kunye: Uninzi lwabantwana abancinci baqala ukubiza amagama amabini kunye ubuncinane. Cinga ngezivakalisi ezincinci ezifana nokuthi "Mama, irayisi," "Baby, baleka," kunye nokuthi "Ndifuna amanzi." Eli linyathelo elikhulu kwintetho yabo.
• Kwiinyanga ezingama-30 (iminyaka emi-2 ½):
• Ithi amagama angama-50 nangaphezulu: Okwangoku, bongeze amagama angama-50 kwisigama sabo. Abanye abantwana bayazi amagama angaphezulu nangakumbi.
• Abantu baqonda isiqingatha sento abayithethayo kuphela: Abantu baqonda isiqingatha sento abayithethayo ngokucacileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuna ingcinga encinci ukuze baqonde into abayithethayo, kwaye oko kuqhelekile. Musa ukukhathazeka ngayo.
• Basebenzisa amagama anje ngo "Mna", "mna", kunye no "thina": Baqala ukusebenzisa la magama ukuthetha ngabo kunye nezinto abazifunayo.
• Qonda kwaye ulandele imiyalelo enamanyathelo amabini: Uninzi lwabantwana abancinci banokuqonda kwaye balandele imiyalelo emibini elula abayinikiweyo ngokulandelelana. Umzekelo, ukuba sithi, "Thatha ibhola uyizise kuTata," baya kukwazi ukuyenza. Omnye umzekelo ngulo, "Nxiba izihlangu zakho uze ungene kwigumbi lokuhlala."

Kwenzeka ntoni xa ugqiba iminyaka emithathu?

Xa umntwana wakho eneminyaka emithathu ubudala, intetho yakhe kufuneka ibe iphuhlisiwe kakhulu. Nazi ezinye izinto ekufuneka uziqwalasele:

• Isigama samagama angaphezu kwama-200: Isigama somntwana omncinci sidla ngokudlula amagama angama-200. Khawuthelekelele ukuba mangaphi amagama lawo! Bayakuthanda ukufunda amagama amatsha kule minyaka.
• Bayakwazi ukwakha izivakalisi zamagama amabini okanye amathathu: "Usana lusela ubisi", "Utata uye emsebenzini", "Ndifuna ukudlala" baze bathethe.
• Bangancokola: Bangancokola nawe kancinci, bethetha kabini nangakumbi ubuncinane. Xa ubuza into, uyaphendula, nabo bathetha into, nawe uyaphendula.
• Abanye badla ngokuyiqonda: Uninzi lwexesha, oko kuthethwa ngumntwana wakho kuya kufikelela kwinqanaba apho abanye (kungekuphela nje amalungu osapho, kodwa nabantu angabaziyo) banokukuqonda.

Khumbula, ayizizo zonke iintsana ezifanayo. Ezinye iintsana ziqala ukuthetha kwangethuba, ezinye emva kwexesha. Ezi zizikhokelo nje eziqhelekileyo.

Singamnceda njani umntwana wethu ukuba aphuhlise intetho yakhe?

Zininzi izinto esinokuzenza ukuphucula izakhono zolwimi zabantwana bethu. Ngamafutshane, okukhona sithetha nabo kwaye sidlala nabo, kokukhona befunda izinto ezintsha. Kufana nokunkcenkceshela nokuchumisa isityalo size sikhule.

Nazi izinto ezimbalwa ezincinci onokuzenza:

• Thetha ngayo yonke into: Thetha nomntwana wakho omncinci ngento ayenzileyo ngaloo mini kunye nento ekufuneka ayenze ngomso. Buza izinto ezinje, "Akunamvula na namhlanje? Senza ntoni ngaphakathi endlwini?" Okanye thetha ngento eyenzekileyo ngosuku olungaphambi kokulala. "Siye endlwini kamakhulu namhlanje, akunjalo? Ubone ntoni apho?" Olu hlobo lwamabali lubanceda bafunde amagama amatsha kwaye babalise izinto ezifana nokulandelelana kweziganeko.
• Dlala imidlalo yokuzenzisa: Dlala imidlalo yokuzenzisa efana nogqirha, utitshala, umnini-venkile. Oku kuya kubanceda baphuhlise izakhono zabo zokucinga, bafunde amagama amatsha, kunye nezakhono zokusombulula iingxaki. Dlala nabo kwaye baya kufunda okungakumbi.
• Fundani iincwadi kunye: Fundani iincwadi abazithandayo kunye. Khethani iincwadi ezinemifanekiso emihle. Khomba imifanekiso ekwincwadi uze ubuze imibuzo efana nale, "Yintoni le?", "Yenza ntoni ikati?", "Ngumbala onjani lo?" Bakhuthaze ukuba baphendule ngamagama. Okanye bavumele "bakufundele" ibali. Amabali abawabhalayo aya kuba nomdla kakhulu! Ukufunda iincwadi akuphuhlisi nje kuphela isigama sabo kunye nezakhono zabo zokuphulaphula, kodwa kunye nokucinga kwabo.
• Cula iingoma uze uthethe amazwi ahambelana nesingqisho: Abantwana abancinci bathanda ukumamela iingoma nokuva izinto ezithethwa kwisingqisho. Cula iingoma ezilula nabo. Baya konwaba ngakumbi ukuba ucula iingoma ngelixa ushukumisa iingalo nemilenze yakho.
• Buza imibuzo, uphendule imibuzo yabo: Phendula imibuzo yabo ngomonde efana nokuthi "Kutheni?" kunye "Yintoni?" Babuze nemibuzo elula. Njengokuthi "Utye ntoni namhlanje?" kunye nokuthi "Yintoni oyithandayo?"
• Nika ingqalelo kwizinto abazithethayo: Xa umntwana wakho ezama ukukuxelela into ethile, mjonge kwaye umamele kakuhle oko akutshoyo. Oku kuya kumbonisa ukuba uyamxabisa kwaye uya kuba nomdla ngakumbi wokuthetha.
• Kulungile, kodwa ngobunono: Ukuba umntwana wakho uthetha igama ngendlela engafanelekanga, endaweni yokumkhalimela ngokuthi "Hayi, hayi, oko akuyonyani," mbonise ukuba uthetha igama ngendlela echanekileyo. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho uthi "Tata," ncuma uze uthi, "Ewe, utata ulapha."

Ndifanele ndimbone nini ugqirha?

Uninzi lwexesha, uphuhliso lwentetho kubantwana abancinci luqhelekile. Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nokulibaziseka okuncinci. Ukuba unamathandabuzo okanye uxhalabile malunga nendlela umntwana wakho athetha ngayo okanye asebenzisa ngayo amagama, kungcono ukuthetha nogqirha ngayo loo nto.

Nazi ezinye izinto ekufuneka uzazi, ingakumbi ukuba umntwana wakho akakwazi ukuzibona xa eneminyaka emithathu ubudala:

• Ukuba umntwana wakho akathethi amagama angama-50 ubuncinane xa egqiba iinyanga ezingama-30 (iminyaka emi-2 ½).
• Nokuba sele uneenyanga ezingama-30, ukuba ukhomba into ethile encwadini uze ubuze, "Yintoni le?" uze ungakwazi ukuyibiza ngegama (umzekelo, ukuba ukhomba ibhola uze ubuze, "Bole" uze ungakwazi ukuyithetha)
• Nokuba uneminyaka emi-3 ubudala, ukuba awukwazi ukuchaza isenzo kumfanekiso, umzekelo, "ukubaleka", "ukutya", okanye "ukulala".
• Ukuba ababuzi imibuzo efana nokuthi “Ngubani?”, “Yintoni?”, “Phi?”, “Kutheni?” (Banomdla kakhulu wokubuza imibuzo kule minyaka)
• Ukuba awukwazi ukubiza igama lakho lokuqala xa ubuzwa.
• Kwanamalungu osapho lwabo akaqondi kakuhle into abayithethayo, kwaye uninzi lwexesha, amazwi abo akacaci.
• Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho akeva kakuhle (ukuba akajongi ngasemva xa uthetha, ukuba akaphenduli kakuhle kwizandi)

Ukuba ubona into efana nale, nceda ungoyiki okanye ungoyiki kwaye ubone ugqirha wosapho lwakho okanye ugqirha wabantwana . Ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba yinto elula. Okanye, ungadinga uncedo oluncinci, mhlawumbi ingcali yentetho . Okukhona uziqonda ngokukhawuleza ezi zinto, kokukhona umntwana wakho eya kukwazi ukufumana uncedo aludingayo kwaye amncede aphucule izakhono zakhe zokuthetha. Ngamanye amaxesha, ugqirha unokukuthumela kuvavanyo lokuva ukuze ahlole ukuva komntwana wakho.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Ngoko ke, Mama noTata, eli lixesha elimnandi xa intetho yomntwana wenu ikhula.

• Ingqalelo yakho, intetho yakho, umdlalo wakho zezona zititshala zabo zibalaseleyo. Thetha nabo, dlala nabo, funda iincwadi kangangoko unako.
• Usana ngalunye lwahlukile. Lukhula ngesantya salo. Musa ukuluthelekisa nolunye usana.
• Ukuba unamathandabuzo, funa uncedo. Ukubonisana nogqirha kuya kunceda ekunciphiseni umthwalo wakho kwaye kunike umntwana wakho inkxaso ayidingayo.

Uza kuba nexesha elimnandi xa ilizwi lomntwana wakho lizalisa indlu yonke kwaye intliziyo yakho izaliswe luvuyo ngamabali abo amancinci!

Intetho yabantwana, abantwana abancinci, uphuhliso lolwimi , iingcebiso zobuzali , ukufunda amagama, ukulibaziseka kwentetho,Iingcebiso zikagqirha , unxibelelwano lwabantwana abancinci IsiSinhala , uphuhliso lolwimi lwabantwana eSri Lanka