Iimfihlo umntwana wakho omncinci azithethayo kuwe (Unxibelelwano lweemveku): Ngaba singayifunda le nto?

Uyakhumbula isandi sokuqala esasenziwa ngumntwana wakho xa wayezalwa? Kulapho ke umntwana wakho eqala ukuthetha nawe, ekuxelela okusengqondweni yakhe. Ekuqaleni, ezi inyembezi kunye nezinto ezincinci azenzayo zinokubonakala ngathi lulwimi olungaziwayo kuwe. Kodwa cinga ngako, kungekudala kunokuba ucinga, uza kufunda olu "lwimi" lomntwana wakho, uqonde kakuhle into ayidingayo, kwaye uqhele ukumnceda.

Iintsana zithetha njani nathi?

Iintsana ziyakwazi ukukhala ukususela ekuzalweni kwazo. Enyanisweni, kwiinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala zobomi bazo, ukulila yeyona ndlela iphambili "abathetha" ngayo nathi nokusazisa iimfuno zabo. Uninzi lwexesha, umntwana uyakhala ukukuxelela ukuba kukho into engalunganga, ukuba unengxaki.

Ngamafutshane, umntwana usenokukhala ngenxa yezi zizathu zilandelayo:

• Ukuba ulambile.
• Ukuba i-napkin iba manzi, kuya kufuneka uyitshintshe.
• Ukuba uziva ubanda.
• Ukuba udiniwe kakhulu kwaye ulele.
• Okanye, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ufuna ukumanga nokumthanda.

Cinga ngayo, ngamanye amaxesha ungayibona into engalunganga ngomntwana wakho ngesandi sokukhala kwakhe. Umzekelo, isikhalo esithi "Ndilambile" sinokuba sicotha kancinci, sifutshane, kwaye sinesingqisho. Kwaye isikhalo esithi "Ndivakalelwa kukuba kukho into engalunganga, andikhululekanga" sinokuba siphindaphinda, sibukhali, kwaye siphazamisa. Emva kwexesha elithile, xa unomntwana wakho, uya kukwazi ukubona umahluko phakathi kwezi zandi, uqonde ukuba yintoni engalunganga ngomntwana wakho, kwaye wenze okulungileyo kuye.

Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha iintsana ziyakhala kuba izinto ezintsha ezibangqongileyo, ingxolo, kunye nokukhanya zinzima kakhulu ukuba izivamvo zazo ezincinci zingakwazi ukuzilawula. Oku sikubiza ngokuba "kukukhuthaza kakhulu," oko kuthetha ukuba zixinezelekile zizinto ezibangqongileyo. Okanye, iintsana zinokukhala ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacileyo. Ngoko ke ukuba umntwana wakho uyakhala kwaye uzame konke okusemandleni akho ukumthomalalisa, ungoyiki. Khumbula, ziyakhala nangona zixinezelekile.

Ngaphandle kokulila, iintsana zisebenzisa ezinye iindlela zokukuxelela iimvakalelo zazo.

• Ezinye izandi: Ubisi luyahleka, ludumzela kancinci, kwaye lwenza ingxolo yolonwabo.
• Ubuso: Uncuma kakuhle, ufinge iintshiya, ujongeka emangalisiwe.
• Intshukumo yomzimba: ukugoba ngovuyo, ukujikajika, nokujikajika ngakuwe.

Ukuqonda ezi mpawu zincinci kuya kukuzisela uvuyo olukhulu, kwaye ulwalamano lothando phakathi kwakho nomntwana wakho luya komelela ngakumbi imihla ngemihla.

Enye into, qaphela indlela umntwana wakho asabela ngayo kwilizwi lakho. Xa eliva ilizwi lakho, uya kufuna ukutya, ukufudumala, kunye nokuchukunyiswa ngothando., intuthuzelo ifika engqondweni. Xa umntwana wakho ekhala, jonga indlela akhawuleza ngayo ukuzola xa uthetha naye. Jonga indlela aphulaphula ngayo xa uthetha kancinci nangothando. Nokuba umntwana wakho ujonge kude, usanikela ingqalelo kwinto oyithethayo. Akumangalisi na ukuba ngamanye amaxesha bayayishukumisa kancinci imizimba yabo, batshintshe ubuso babo, baze bashukumise neengalo nemilenze yabo ukuze ihambelane nesingqi sentetho yakho?

Ndingenza ntoni ke ngoko?

Ukususela ekuzalweni komntwana wakho, niqala "ukuthetha" omnye nomnye. Niyajongana emehlweni, nitshintshiselana izandi, kwaye nidibana ngokuchukumisa ngothando. Iintsana zifunda ngehlabathi ngokukhawuleza ngeengqondo zazo - amehlo, iindlebe, impumlo, ulwimi, ulusu. Ngoko ke, ungalibali ukwenza ezi zinto ukuze uqhagamshelane nomntwana wakho omncinci ngale ndlela:

• Thetha nomntwana wakho nanini na kunokwenzeka. Nokuba akaqondi amazwi owathethayo, ilizwi lakho elizolileyo, elinothando, nelinobubele liya kuba ngumthombo omkhulu wokhuseleko nentuthuzelo kuye. Liya kumxelela ukuba, "Ndilapha, akukho nto unokoyika."

• Iintsana zifunda ngobomi nothando ngayo yonke into eziyichukumisayo. Ngoko ke zibambe, uzishukumise, uze uzichukumise kancinci ngothando oluninzi. Emva koko umntwana wakho uya kuziva ngathi eli hlabathi liyindawo ethuthuzelayo nekhuselekileyo.

• Phendula umntwana wakho osandul’ ukuzalwa nanini na xa ekhala, oko kuthetha ukuba yiya kuye uze ufumanise ukuba uthini. Into enye abazali abaninzi abayicingayo kukuba, "Owu, ukuba ndihlala ndimthatha ndimgone, ngaba uza konakaliswa?" Kodwa inyani yile, awunakum "monakalisa" umntwana osandul’ ukuzalwa ngokumnika ingqalelo eninzi nokumgona. Ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza xa ekhala kumnika uluvo olunzulu lokhuseleko, lokuba ngumntu okhathalelayo nokhathalela iimfuno zakhe.

Ngamanye amaxesha, nangona umtyisile umntwana wakho, umtshintshele inabukeni yakhe, umgcine efudumele, umgobile, kwaye wahlangabezana nazo zonke iimfuno zakhe, usenokukhala. Musa ukukhathazeka ngaloo nto, okanye ucinge ukuba ungumzali osileleyo. Umntwana wakho usenokuba uchukunyiswe kakhulu zizinto ezimngqongileyo, okanye usenokuba udiniwe yimini, okanye usenokufuna nje ukukhala ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacileyo.

• Zama ukuthomalalisa umntwana wakho. Ayingabo bonke abantwana abazola ngendlela efanayo. Abanye abantwana bayazola xa beshukunyiswa kancinci, umzekelo, xa beshukunyiswa kancinci ngasemva nangaphambili, ngokungathi bakhwele iswingi, okanye xa uhambahamba egumbini. Abanye abantwana bathanda izandi eziqhubekayo, ezifana nengoma ecothayo, ingxolo emhlophe, okanye nesandi esithambileyo se-vacuum cleaner.Kuza kuthatha ixesha ukufumanisa ukuba yeyiphi indlela esebenza kakuhle kumntwana wakho kwezi zihlandlo zinzima. Yiba nomonde kwaye uzame.

Ingaba umntwana wam ukhala kakhulu?

Iintsana ezininzi zinokuba nexesha lokuxakeka nokulila rhoqo malunga nexesha elifanayo lemini, ingakumbi ngokuhlwa. Oku kuqhelekile kwiintsana ezininzi, kwaye sikubiza ngokuba " lixesha lokuxakeka."

Nangona kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba umntwana ngamnye osandul’ ukuzalwa akhale aze axakeke kancinci, ukuba umntwana osempilweni, ongenaso nasiphi na esinye isifo, ukhala kakhulu ngaphezu kweeyure ezi-3 ngosuku, ngaphezu kweentsuku ezi-3 ngeveki, ubuncinane iiveki ezi-3 zilandelelana, ngokwezonyango sibiza loo meko ngokuthi `(Colic)`. Iintsana ezine `(Colic)` zihlala zikhala kakhulu ngokuhlwa, kwaye kunzima ukuzithuthuzela.

I-Colic inokuba yingxaki enkulu kuwe nakusapho lwakho. Usenokuzibuza, "Ndenza ntoni kakubi?" Kodwa iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba uninzi lweentsana lukhula luphele xa lufikelela kwiinyanga ezi-3 okanye ezi-4 ubudala. Ngoko ke, yiba nesibindi.

Ndifanele ndimbone nini ugqirha?

Ukuba unenkxalabo okanye uxhalabile ngokukhala komntwana wakho, kungcono ukuthetha nogqirha. Ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka ubone ugqirha, ingakumbi kwezi meko zilandelayo:

• Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhala ixesha elide, engayeki.
• Ukuba ukukhala komntwana kuvakala kungaqhelekanga kuwe, njengento ongazange uyive ngaphambili. (Umzekelo, ukukhala kancinci kakhulu, okanye kabukhali kakhulu.)
• Ukuba umntwana unezinye iimpawu kunye nokulila. Umzekelo:
• Ukuba umntwana ubonakala engasebenzi kakhulu kwaye edlala kancinci.
• Ukuba awuseli ubisi ngokwaneleyo okanye ungathandabuzi ukusela ubisi.
• Ukuba unomkhuhlane ( ubushushu obuphezulu kune-100.4°F okanye i-38°C).
• Ukuba unengxaki yokuphefumla (ukuphefumla ngokukhawuleza, ukuphefumla isifuba, imilebe ijika ibe luhlaza okwesibhakabhaka).
• Ukuba uyahlanza (ingakumbi eluhlaza okanye etyheli).
• Ukuba unesifo sorhudo okanye ukuqhinwa .
• Okanye ukuba ulila ngokungathi uvakalelwa ziintlungu ngokucacileyo.

Ukuba unezinye izinto ezikuxhalabisayo, ingakumbi ukuba ucinga ukuba usana lwakho lunokuba neengxaki zokuva okanye ukubona, thetha nogqirha. Iintsana ezisandul’ ukuzalwa zingavavanywa ezi zinto ukuba kuyimfuneko. Okukhona ingxaki ichongwa ngokukhawuleza, kokukhona iya kuba nempumelelo ekunyangeni. Khumbula, kukukhululeka okukhulu ukuthetha nogqirha kwaye ulungise naziphi na iintandabuzo onokuba nazo.

Okokugqibela, khumbula oku (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Kulungile, masiphinde sikukhumbuze ngezona ngongoma zibalulekileyo koko sithethe ngako.

• Ukukhala komntwana wakho, izandi zakhe, imbonakalo yobuso bakhe, iintshukumo zomzimba wakhe - zonke ezi ziindlela abanxibelelana ngazo nawe, bekuxelela iimfuno zakhe. Kungathatha ixesha ukuqonda olu "lwimi", kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ungakwenza oko. Emva kwexesha elithile, uya kuba "yingcali" kulo!

• Phendula ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana wakho ekhala. Oku akuyi kumlimaza, kodwa kuya kumnceda akuthembe aze azive ngathi ihlabathi liyindawo ekhuselekileyo.

• Ngamanye amaxesha iintsana zikhala ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacileyo. Ngelo xesha, zama iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuzithulisa ngaphandle kokucaphuka, ngomonde. Ukuchukumisa kwakho ngothando kunye nelizwi lakho elizolileyo zixabiseke kakhulu kubo.

• Ukuba unamathandabuzo okanye uxhalabile malunga nokulila komntwana wakho okanye impilo yakhe, ungaze unqikaze ukuthetha nogqirha. Musa ukuyithatha njengento engenamsebenzi loo nto ngokuthi "ayinamsebenzi." Kubalulekile nokukhulula ingqondo yakho.

Ekugqibeleni, uthando lwakho, ukufudumala, kunye nelizwi lakho zezona zinto zixabisekileyo kwihlabathi kumntwana wakho omncinci. Hlala ukhumbula loo nto! Uliqhawe/iqhawekazi lehlabathi lakhe!

Usana olusandul' ukuzalwa , Unxibelelwano losana, Izizathu zokuba iintsana zikhale, iColic, Iindlela zokuthomalalisa iintsana, Impilo yosana , Iingcebiso zokukhulisa abantwana