Ungayiqeqesha njani indlu yangasese umntwana wakho? (Uqeqesho lwendlu yangasese) Masithethe ngale nto!

Njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula, kukho imingeni emininzi emitsha oza kujongana nayo njengomama okanye utata, akunjalo? Omnye wayo kukumqhelisela umntwana wakho ukuya kwindlu yangasese, oko kukuthi, ukumfundisa ukulawula umchamo wakhe kunye nendle . Abazali abaninzi baziva bexhalabile xa becinga ngale nto, kwaye nemibuzo emininzi efana nokuthi, 'Owu Thixo wam, kufuneka ndiqale nini?' kunye 'Ngaba umntwana wam ukulungele oku?' ifika engqondweni. Ke namhlanje, masithethe ngendlela le nto ibizwa ngokuba yi-'Toilet Training' eyenziwa ngayo, kufuneka siqale nini, kwaye yintoni ekufuneka siyilumkele.

Uyazi njani ukuba umntwana wakho ukulungele ukuya kwindlu yangasese?

Abazali abaninzi bacinga ukuba, 'Owu, umntwana womhlobo wam waqala ukusebenzisa indlu yangasese eneminyaka eli-18, ngoko ke owam kufuneka aqale eneminyaka efanayo.' Kodwa inyani yile, ayizizo zonke iintsana ezifanayo. Omnye umntwana ulungele ngexesha elahlukileyo kwelinye. Ngoko ke akulunganga ukusekela izigqibo kubudala bodwa. Okubaluleke ngakumbi kukujonga iimpawu zokuba umntwana wakho ukulungele ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwengqondo oku. Kufana nokufunda ukufunda oonobumba nokuqaphela imibala ngaphambi kokuba aye esikolweni.

Khawucinge nje, ngaba wakha wambona umntwana wakho eyeka ngequbuliso into ayenzayo ngelixa edlala, ekujonge okwethutyana, mhlawumbi echukumisa nenapkin yakhe? Kungezenzo ezincinci ezinjalo apho sinokuqonda ukuba 'Owu... ubonakala ngathi uphuma isisu ngoku, uyasiva'. Olu luphawu lokuqala nolubalulekileyo.

Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqaphela ezi mpawu kunobudala. Makhe sibone ukuba zeziphi ezinye iimpawu 'zokulungela komntwana'.

Kwakhona qaphela ezi mpawu zokuba umntwana wakho ukulungele:

Ukuba umntwana wakho wenza ezi zinto, kungaba luphawu lokuba ulungiselela ukuqalisa uqeqesho lokuya ngasese:

• Ubuchule bokuqonda imiyalelo elula: Xa unika umyalelo olula ofana nokuthi 'zisa ibhola' okanye 'ndinike izihlangu zakho', jonga ukuba uyayiqonda na aze ayenze ngokufanelekileyo. Olu buchule lukwafuneka ekuqeqesheni indlu yangasese ukuze uqonde izinto ezifana nokuthi 'masiye ebhodweni' kunye 'nokuhlala'.
• Ukuqonda nokusebenzisa amagama anxulumene nendlu yangasese: Ngaba uyawaqonda amagama anje ' umchamo ', 'imbiza', 'i-wet diaper'? Ngaba uzama nokuwathetha? Nokuba akanakuthi 'mama umchamo ', ngaba uzama ukukuxelela ngandlela thile (mhlawumbi ngokukhomba imbiza okanye ngokwenza ingxolo engaqhelekanga) xa eziva enesidingo?
• Ukuqonda unxibelelwano phakathi kokuchama /indle nokusebenzisa indlu yangasese: Ingcinga yokuba ' ndiyachama , ngoko ke kufuneka ndiye ebhodweni' kufuneka ingene kancinci kancinci entlokweni yakhe. Oku kusenokungenzeki ekuqaleni, kodwa emva kwexesha elithile uya kuyiqonda le nxu lumano.
• Ngaba inabukeni ibimanzi kangangeeyure ezimbini nangaphezulu? Oku kuthetha ukuba ulawulo lwakhe lwesinyi luphucukile kancinci, kwaye uchama umchamo omninzi ngexesha.Kukukwazi ukubamba ubunzima obuthile. Ukuba umntwana umanzi kangangesiqingatha seyure ngaphambi koko, akakakulungeli oku.
• Ukukwazi ukuya ebhodweni lodwa, uhlale phezu kwalo okwethutyana, uze uphinde uvuke: Ukuhlala ebhodweni lodwa kuyingxaki kubantwana abancinci. Kufuneka babe namandla omzimba kunye nomonde.
• Ukukwazi ukukhuhla iinapukeni , iibhulukhwe zoqeqesho, okanye iimpahla zangaphantsi: Ukuba unokukhuhla impahla wedwa, oko kunceda kakhulu. Ngaphandle koko, kuya kufuneka uncede ngalo lonke ixesha.
• Ukubonisa umdla wokusebenzisa i-potty okanye ukunxiba impahla yangaphantsi: Abanye abantwana baba nomdla wokusebenzisa i-potty okanye ukunxiba impahla yangaphantsi xa bebona abazali babo besiya kwindlu yangasese. Banokuthi, "Nam ndifuna ukuya," okanye "Ndifuna i-napkin efana naleyo." Ukuba kukho lo mdla, lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuqala.

Kubalulekile: Ayizizo zonke iintsana ezibonisa zonke ezi mpawu ngendlela efanayo okanye ngaxeshanye. Kodwa ukuba umntwana wakho ubonakalisa uninzi lwazo, mhlawumbi lixesha lokuba uqale kancinci.

Uninzi lwabantwana luqala ukubonisa ezi mpawu phakathi kweenyanga ezili-18 nezingama-24 ubudala. Kodwa abanye abantwana banokubonisa ezi mpawu kamva, mhlawumbi beneminyaka emi-3 ubudala. Akukho nto imbi ngaloo nto. Abafana, ngakumbi, badla ngokuqala emva kwexesha kunamantombazana kwaye kuthatha ixesha elide ukuziqhelanisa. Ngoko ke musa ukulindela ukuba unyana wakho aqhelelane nomntwana womhlobo wakho eneminyaka efanayo. Mnike ixesha lakhe.

Zeziphi iindlela ezilungileyo ukuba ndiyalibazisa ukuqala uqeqesho lokuya ngasese?

Nokuba umntwana wakho ubonisa iimpawu zokuba ukulungele ukuya kwindlu yangasese, kukho amaxesha apho kungcono ukulibazisa ukuqala lo msebenzi. Kuba ngamaxesha anje, umntwana wakho usenokuba nengqalelo encinci kunye nomonde omncinci wokuqhelana nento entsha. Kwaye usenokuba nexesha elincinci kunye nomzamo wokuzinikela koku.

Khawucinge ukuba uqale uqeqesho lwendlu yangasese xa ulungiselela uhambo olukhulu, okanye xa unomntwana omtsha endlwini? Luxinzelelo olongezelelweyo kumntwana, nakuwe. Ngoko ke bubulumko ukulibazisa ukuqalisa uqeqesho lwendlu yangasese kwezi meko:

• Xa uhamba: Ukuba uhamba rhoqo okanye uhamba imigama emide, ukwazisa indlu yangasese entsha kunokuba yingxaki kuwe nakumntwana wakho. Kunokuba nzima ukuba kufuneka ujonge imbiza yonke indawo, okanye ukuba umntwana wakho akanakulawula iminqweno yakhe.
• Xa usana olutsha lujoyina intsapho okanye luza kujoyina: Xa kufika umnakwenu okanye udadewenu omtsha, umntwana omdala sele evakalelwa ngumahluko omkhulu. Ukugxila kwakhe kwahlulwe, kwaye usenokuvakalelwa kukuba nomona kancinci. Ngeli xesha, olunye utshintsho olukhulu, uqeqesho lokuya kwindlu yangasese, lunokuba nzima kuye ukuluphatha.
• Xa ususa umntwana ebhedini ukuya ebhedini:Ukusuka kwibhedi yosana ukuya ebhedini kukwayinto entsha kumntwana. Kungcono ukulinda de aqhele ngaphambi kokuba aqalise ukuqeqesha indlu yangasese. Kunzima kumntwana ukujongana notshintsho olukhulu oluphindwe kabini okanye kathathu ngaxeshanye.
• Xa ufudukela kwikhaya elitsha: Ukufudukela ekhaya yingxaki enkulu. Kuthatha ixesha ukuba umntwana aqhele imeko entsha. Musa ukuqala lo msebenzi ngexesha elinje.
• Xa umntwana wakho egula (ingakumbi ukuba unesifo sorhudo ): Musa ukuzama izinto ezintsha xa umntwana wakho egula ngumkhuhlane okanye umkhuhlane. Musa ukuqala ukuqeqesha indlu yangasese ukuba umntwana wakho unesifo sorhudo. Kunzima kuye ukulawula umchamo wakhe kunye nendle yakhe ngelo xesha, kwaye akakhululekanga.

Khumbula: Uqeqesho lwendlu yangasese asinto yokungxamiseka okanye yokunyanzeliswa. Iziphumo ezilungileyo ziza xa umntwana wakho onwabile kwaye uzolile. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, qhagamshelana nogqirha wosapho lwakho okanye ugqirha wezingane ngale nto.

Ezinye iingcebiso ezimbalwa zoqeqesho oluphumelelayo lwendlu yangasese

Kulungile, ngoku uyazi indlela yokujonga ukuba umntwana wakho ukulungele na kwaye xa engekaqali. Okulandelayo, makhe sijonge ezinye izinto ezincinci ezinokwenza lo msebenzi ube lula kwaye uphumelele ngakumbi.

• Hlala unesimo sengqondo esihle: Le yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Ukuba uyacaphuka okanye uthethisa umntwana wakho, uya koyika ngakumbi aze angafuni ukwenza lo msebenzi. Thetha ngendlela ekhuthazayo, njengokuthi, "Kulungile, nyana/ntombi, masizame," okanye "Kulungile ukuba asinakukwenza namhlanje, siza kubona ngomso."
• Khetha imbiza: Khetha imbiza elula ukuyisebenzisa kumntwana wakho, kwaye aza kuyithanda. Ezinye iimbiza zinengoma kunye nezibane. Xa umntwana wakho eyithanda, uya kuba nomdla ngakumbi wokuyisebenzisa. Imbiza kufuneka ibekwe apho umntwana wakho anokuya khona ngokulula, kwindawo apho ahlala ehleli khona. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe segumbini lokuhlambela kwiintsuku zokuqala.
• Yisa umntwana wakho ebhodweni rhoqo: Yisa umntwana wakho ebhodweni ingakumbi xa evuka kusasa, emva kokutya, emva kokulala, nangaphambi kokuba alale ebusuku. Kulapho kunokwenzeka khona ukuba achame /achithe indle.
• Yamkela 'iingozi' njengesiqhelo: Kwinqanaba lokuqala, umntwana usenokungakwazi ukuya ebhodweni ngokufanelekileyo aze achame /achithe impahla yakhe. Ezi zibizwa ngokuba 'ziingozi'. Musa ukumthethisa okanye ukumjezisa umntwana ngamaxesha anjalo. Endaweni yoko, yithi ngokuzolileyo, 'Hee, usanda kuchama kancinci, akunjalo? Kulungile, siza kuya ebhodweni kwixesha elizayo,' uze uyicoce.
• Mncome kwaye umnike izipho ezincinci: Xa umntwana wakho esebenzisa imbiza ngokufanelekileyo, mncome ngamazwi anje, 'Wow... intombi/unyana wam ukrelekrele kakhulu!', 'Mfana/ntombazana entle!' Ungamnika nento efana nestikha esincinci okanye ithoyizi elincinci alithandayo. Kodwa musa ukwenza oku kube ngumkhwa. Eyona nto iphambili kukumbona evuya.
• Ziqhelanise nempahla yangaphantsi:Emva kwexesha elithile, xa umntwana wakho eqhela ukuya ebhodweni, mkhulule inabukeni umfake ibhulukhwe yangaphantsi entle. Ngale ndlela, uya kuziva ngathi ungumntwana omkhulu ngoku. Kwakhona, ukungakhululeki kokumanzisa ibhulukhwe yakhe yangaphantsi kunokunyusa umdla wakhe wokuya ebhodweni.
• Yiba nomonde: Oku akuyonto inokwenziwa ngosuku olunye okanye ezimbini. Abanye abantwana banokuthatha iiveki, okanye iinyanga, ukuqhelana ngokupheleleyo noku. Ngoko ke yenza oku ngomonde nangothando.

Ungalibali: umntwana ngamnye wahlukile. Ukuba nje umntwana womhlobo wakho ufunde ukusebenzisa imbiza kwiintsuku ezintathu akuthethi ukuba nomntwana wakho uya kwenjenjalo. Nceda umntwana wakho ahambe ngesantya sakhe.

Izinto ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzikhumbule (Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya)

Kulungile, masiphinde sikukhumbuze ngezona ngongoma zibalulekileyo koko sithethe ngako namhlanje.

• Akukho budala buthile bokuqalisa ukufundisa umntwana wakho ukuya kwindlu yangasese. Kubalulekile ukujonga iimpawu zokuba umntwana wakho ukulungele.
• Ukuba umntwana uyayiqonda imiyalelo, uthetha amazwi ngomchamo /indle, uhlala womile kangangeeyure ezingaphezu kwezimbini, kwaye unomdla kwimbiza, ezo ziimpawu ezilungileyo.
• Abafana badla ngokuthatha ixesha elide ukuqhela oku.
• Musa ukuqala uqeqesho lwendlu yangasese xa kukho utshintsho olukhulu endlwini (usana olutsha, indlu yokufuduka), okanye xa umntwana egula.
• Umonde, isimo sengqondo esihle, kunye nenkuthazo ngabahlobo bakho abasenyongweni kolu hambo.
• Iingozi ziyinxalenye eqhelekileyo yale nkqubo. Musa ukukhathazeka ngazo.
• Ukuba unamathandabuzo, ungoyiki ukucela ingcebiso kugqirha wosapho lwakho okanye kugqirha wabantwana .

Ndikunqwenelela okuhle wena nomntwana wakho ekoyiseni olu celomngeni lutsha!

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