Ingabe kukhona izinqwaba zamaphepha edeskini lakho? Ingabe izingubo zisakazeke ekamelweni lakho? Ngezinye izikhathi, uma ubheka indawo engcolile, ungase uzibuze, “Ingabe nginenkinga yokuqongelela izinto?” Sicela ungakhathazeki. Ngokuvamile, lokhu akukubi njengoba sesaba. Kodwa-ke, kunomehluko omkhulu phakathi kokungahleleki kahle kwekhaya kanye nesimo sezokwelapha esaziwa ngokuthi “ukuqongelela izinto.” Ake sihlukanise amaqiniso namuhla.
Kuyini Ngempela Ukungakhululeki Kwezinto Ezibalulekile?
Kalula nje, i-Hoarding Disorder iyisimo sempilo yengqondo esiqashelwayo. Sihilela ubunzima obuqhubekayo bokulahla noma ukuhlukanisa nezinto, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi zibaluleke kangakanani, okuholela ekuqongeleleni izinto eziningi eziminyanisa futhi zigcwale izindawo zokuhlala. Ukuzama ukulahla lezi zinto kuvame ukubangela ukucindezeleka okukhulu noma ukukhathazeka.
Isibonelo, othile angase agcine izipuni ezingu-40 ezifanayo. Kubona, amaphephandaba amadala, izitsha zeyogathi ezingenalutho, noma ngisho nezikhwama zetiye ezisetshenzisiwe zibonakala ziwusizo. Lokhu kunamathelana ngokomzwelo kwenza kube nzima ngabo ukudedela.
Uma lesi simo siba sibi kakhulu, sibeka engcupheni indawo yokuhlala ngokuphelele:
- Indlu yokugezela ingasetshenziswa njengendawo yokugcina izinto esikhundleni senhlanzeko.
- Kungase kungabikho ndawo yokuhlala egumbini lokuphumula.
- Ikhishi lingase lingasetshenziswa ukupheka.
- Okuwukuphela kwendlela yokungena endlini iwukuhamba ngezindlela ezincane nezigobile ezivulekile phakathi kwezinqwaba ezinkulu zezinto.
Lokhu kuyingozi kakhulu. Izindlu ezinjalo ziyindawo enobungozi obukhulu bezingozi zomlilo , futhi ingozi yokukhubeka noma yokulimala ngenxa yezinqwaba ezingazinzile zemfucuza ibalulekile.
Lesi simo sithinta kakhulu impilo yomndeni. Uma umlingani oyedwa eletha izinto ezingadingekile ekhaya njalo, kungaholela ezingxabanweni ezinkulu kanye nokucindezeleka emndenini.
Kusukela ngo-2013, i-Hoarding Disorder ibilokhu iqashelwa ngokusemthethweni njengesimo esihlukile sempilo yengqondo. Ithinta cishe u-2% kuya ku-5% wabantu. Ezinye izifundo ziphakamisa ukuthi ingaba uhlobo lwe- Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) . Ingahlotshaniswa ne -ADHD (izinselele ezihlobene nokunaka) kanye ne-dementia .
Kuyini 'i-Clutter' Yasekhaya Ejwayelekile?
Kwabaningi bethu, ukuba nokungcola endlini kuyinto evamile. Kodwa-ke, kulezi zimo, usengakwazi ukuhamba ekhaya lakho ngokuphephile. Uma umngane noma ilungu lomndeni lifika ukuzovakashela, ungawahlanza kahle amakamelo. Amakamelo asetshenziselwa injongo yawo; isibonelo, indlu yokugezela ingeyokugeza, hhayi yokugcina amaphepha amaningi.
Abanye abantu bayakujabulela ukuqoqa izinto ezithile, njengezitembu, izinhlamvu zemali ezindala, noma imihlobiso yesizini. Lezi zinto zibalulekile noma zijabulisa umuntu, futhi ukuzibuka kuletha ukuziqhenya kunokuba kuletha ihlazo noma ukucindezeleka okuhlobene nokuqongelela.
Kalula nje, 'i-Clutter' iwukucabanga komuntu siqu. Lokho umuntu akubiza ngokuthi ukungcola, omunye angase akuthole kwamukeleka. Kodwa-ke, ukugcinwa kwempahla kuhlukile; kuyinkinga ecacile yempilo yengqondo edinga ukunakekelwa kwezokwelapha .
Ungakwazi Yini Ukuhlukanisa Phakathi Kwalezi Zibili Kalula?
| Isici | Imfuhlumfuhlu (Imfuhlumfuhlu Ejwayelekile) | Isifo Sokuqongelela Imali |
|---|---|---|
| Uhlobo Lwezinto | Izinto ezisetshenziswa njalo noma ezigcina inani langempela. | Ukuqongelela izinto ezingenanzuzo noma ezingenanzuzo (isb., udoti, izimpahla eziphukile). |
| Indawo Yokuhlala | Amakamelo ahlala esebenza ngendlela ahloselwe ukuyisebenzisa. | Amakamelo awasebenziseki ngenxa yokuxinana okukhulu. |
| Ukuphepha | Ikhaya liphephile ukulisebenzisa. | Ingozi enkulu yokuwa, umlilo, kanye nezinkinga zempilo (isikhunta, izinambuzane). |
| Ukulahla | Akukho bunzima obukhulu ekulahleni udoti. | Ukucindezeleka okukhulu kwengqondo nokukhathazeka lapho ulahla. |
| Impilo Yomphakathi | Ngiyajabula ukwamukela izivakashi. | Ugwema ukumema abanye ngenxa yamahloni; kuholela ekuzihlukaniseni. |
Indlela Yokubona Uma Lokhu Kuyinkinga
Uma imfuhlumfuhlu yakho ithinta impilo yakho yansuku zonke, kuyisibonakaliso esiyisixwayiso. Zibuze le mibuzo:
- Ingabe uvame ukuthenga kabusha izinto osunazo kakade ngoba ungazitholi ekhaya lakho?
- Unamahloni okumema izivakashi, noma ingabe ukuminyana kwakho kubangele ubunzima bezezimali?
- Ingabe uphuthelwa yizinkokhelo zebhili ngoba awukwazi ukuthola izitatimende?
- Ingabe ikhishi lakho ligcwele kakhulu kangangokuthi awukwazi ukulungisa ukudla?
- Ingabe umndeni wakho ukhononda njalo ngenkinga yakho, okuholela ezingxabanweni ezivame ukwenzeka?
- Ingabe kufanele uhambe ngezindlela ezincane phakathi kwezinqwaba zezinto ukuze uhambe ekhaya lakho?
- Uma ubheka izinto ezingafuneki, ingabe uzizwa uphelelwe yithemba noma ukhathazekile ngokungakwazi kwakho ukuzilawula?
Uma uphendule ngokuthi “yebo” kule mibuzo, lokho kusho ukuthi ukugcwala kwakho sekuba yinkinga enkulu kuwe nakubantu abakuzungezile.
Izinyathelo Zokuphatha Lesi Simo
1. Qaphela Imikhuba Yakho
Wenzani uma uletha iposi ngaphakathi? Ukuqonda izindlela zakho zokuziphatha kungasiza. Isibonelo, ungayilahla yini iposi eliyimfucumfucu ebhodleleni lokusebenzisa kabusha ngesikhathi nje ungena emnyango?
2. Qaphela Inkinga Eyinhloko
Abaningi bathi, “Ngihlanze ideski lami, kodwa lisanda kubuya.” Gwema ukucacisa inkinga. Ukungcola kubangelwa yimikhuba yakho. Yamukela ukuthi, “Imikhuba yami yiyo eholela ekutheni ideski lami libe nokungcola futhi.”
3. Beka Imingcele Ecacile
Esikhundleni somgomo ongacacile njengokuthi “Ngizothenga okuncane,” beka imigomo ecacile njengokuthi, “Ngizokhawulela ukungcola kula makamelo amabili kuphela.”
4. Yamukela Ukuthi Ukuhleleka Kuyinselele Yokuphila Konke
Ukugcina ukuhleleka kufana nokulawula isisindo. Uma usunciphile isisindo, kufanele usebenzele ukusigcina siphansi. Kuyinqubo eqhubekayo yokunakekela nomzamo.
5. Funa Usizo Lochwepheshe
Uma ukuthola kunzima ukubhekana nalesi simo wedwa, ungabi namahloni okucela usizo.
- Iseluleko Sezokwelapha: Uma usola ukuthi unesifo sokugodla, isinyathelo esingcono kakhulu ukuvakashela udokotela wakho. Udokotela angenza ukuhlolwa ukuze abone ukuthi lokhu kubangelwa yini yizimo ezingaphansi ezifana nokucindezeleka noma i-ADHD . Bangakudlulisela nasezindleleni zokwelapha eziphumelela kakhulu njenge -Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) .
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Imfucuza ejwayelekile yasekhaya kanye ne-Hoarding Disorder yizinto ezimbili ezihluke ngokuphelele.
- Isifo Sokubamba Imali Akuyona into okufanele ube namahloni ngayo; kuyisimo sempilo yengqondo esidinga ukwelashwa.
- Uma ukuqongelela kwakho izinto kuphazamisa ukuphepha kwakho, impilo yakho kanye nenjabulo yomndeni wakho, lokho kuyisibonakaliso esibomvu.
- Uma ukuphatha lokhu kuzwakala kungaphezu kwamandla, ungangabazi ukuxhumana nodokotela wakho ukuze uxoxe ngalezi zinkinga. Ngokwelashwa okufanele, lesi simo singaphathwa kahle.
Isifo Sokuqongelela Izinto, ukugcwala, impilo yengqondo, ukuqongelela izinto, ukuhlela ikhaya, i-OCD, ukugula ngengqondo, iNirogi Lanka
