Ingabe nawe uzizwa ukwesaba izinto ezithile ngendlela emangalisayo? Ake sixoxe ngale nkinga yokwesaba!

Kuvamile ukuthi sizizwe sesaba izinto ngezinye izikhathi, akunjalo? Kufana nokwesaba ngaphambi kokuhlolwa okunzima esikoleni, ukwesaba kancane uma ubona inja enonya emgwaqweni, noma ngisho nokwesaba ukuduma okukhulu. Kodwa namuhla ngizokutshela ngokwesaba okuhlukile kancane, okujulile kunalokho ongase ukucabange. Lokho kubizwa ngokuthi i-phobia. Namuhla, sizokhuluma ngale phobia ngendlela elula kakhulu, ngendlela ongayiqonda.

Kuyini ngempela i-phobia?

Kalula nje, i-phobia ukwesaba okukhulu, okungalawuleki, nokungavamile ngento ethile noma isimo. Lokhu akuyona nje ukwesaba okuvamile esikutholayo ekuphileni kwethu kwansuku zonke. Cabanga ngakho, ukwesaba okuvamile kuyaphela ngemva kwesikhashana, noma lapho isizathu sokwesaba siphela. Kodwa kumuntu one-phobia, njalo lapho ebona noma ehlangabezana nokwesaba lokho, lokho kwesaba okukhulu kuyabuya. Akupheli kalula, kunamathele engqondweni yakhe.

Izingane nabantu abadala abanalolu hlobo lokwesaba bazama ukugwema into noma isimo abasesabisayo ngazo zonke izindlela . Cabanga ngakho ngale ndlela, abanye abantwana banokwesaba okukhulu kokungena ekheshini. Okusho ukuthi, besaba kakhulu izindawo ezivalekile nezindawo ezincane. Umuntu onjalo akakaze angene ekheshini, noma ngabe ukhathele, ufuna izitebhisi eziningi ngangokunokwenzeka, futhi akayi ngisho nasendaweni lapho kukhona khona ikheshi. Lokho kusho ukuthi lokho kwesaba kubalawula kangakanani.

Ngezinye izikhathi, uma kufanele kubhekanwe nale nto eyesabekayo, okungukuthi, uma kungekho ndlela yokuphunyuka kuyo, ingane ingaba nokucindezeleka okukhulu nokukhathazeka okungabekezeleleki, ngisho nokuhlaselwa uvalo.

Manje cishe uyazibuza, "Kuyini ukuhlaselwa uvalo?" Ake sibheke nalokho futhi.

Uzizwa kanjani uma uhlaselwa uvalo?

Kulungile, manje usuyaqonda ukuthi iyini i-phobia nokuthi ingaba nzima kangakanani. Futhi, njengoba ngishilo ekuqaleni, ngezinye izikhathi uma kufanele ubhekane nalokhu kwesaba, ungaba nokuhlaselwa uvalo. Ukuhlaselwa uvalo kuyinto eyesabekayo kakhulu futhi eqeda amandla . Ngaleso sikhathi, umzimba wakho wonke uqala ukuthuthumela ngaphandle kwesizathu, uyajuluka, futhi izinga lokuphefumula kwakho likhuphuka kakhulu ngokuzumayo.

Kwabanye ngalesi sikhathi:

• Ungase uzwe ubuhlungu obukhulu esifubeni sakho, njengokungathi inhliziyo yakho iyashaya.
• Ungase uzizwe unesiyezi futhi indawo okuyo ingase ifiphale.
• Inhliziyo yami ishaya ngokushesha okukhulu, kuzwakala sengathi izogxuma iphume esifubeni sami.
• Ungase uzizwe ucindezekile noma ube nobunzima bokuphefumula.
• Ungase ucabange , "Ingabe kukhona into enkulu ezokwenzeka kimi?" noma "Angazi ukuthi ngizokufa yini."

Uma kwenzeka ukuhlaselwa uvalo, ingane noma umuntu omdala angase azizweIzinto ezinjengokuthi, "Angikwazi ukwenza lutho njengamanje, ngibambeke ndawana thize, angikwazi ukuzibamba." Abanye abantu abasha bathi ngaleso sikhathi, abakwazi ngisho nokucabanga kahle, futhi bathola umuzwa omubi njengokuthi, "Angazi ukuthi ngiyahlanya yini." Kubi kakhulu lokho.

Kodwa nansi into okudingeka uyikhumbule. Ukuhlaselwa uvalo kuvame ukuthatha imizuzu embalwa . Kodwa kumuntu obhekana nakho, kungazwakala sengathi isikhathi eside kakhulu, mhlawumbe amahora. Futhi, ngezinye izikhathi, yize bazi ukuthi ukwesaba kwabo akunangqondo futhi akujwayelekile, abakwazi ukuvimba ingqondo nomzimba wabo ukuthi usabele ngaleyo ndlela. Lokho kusho ukuthi kunzima kakhulu ukuvimbela ukuhlaselwa uvalo ukuthi kwenzeke ngaleso sikhathi.

Yiziphi izinhlobo ze-phobias?

Kulungile, manje ake sibone ukuthi zikhona yini izinhlobo ezahlukene zokwesaba. Yebo, kunezinhlobo eziningi zokwesaba. Phakathi kwazo, ezivame kakhulu ukwesaba abantu . Ukwesaba okukhulu umuntu onalokhu ukuthi uzohlazeka phambi kwabanye, ikakhulukazi abantu angabazi, ukuthi uzohlekwa usulu, nokuthi uzokwenza into ewubuwula.

Okunye okwengeziwe mayelana nokwesaba abantu

Ingane enokwesaba ukuba phakathi kwabantu ingase yesabe ukukhuluma nothisha noma umqeqeshi wezemidlalo esikoleni. Noma ingase yesabe ukusukuma phambi kwabo bonke ekilasini iye endlini yangasese. Yesaba ukuthi wonke umuntu uzoyibheka futhi acabange okuthile ngayo.

Ngenxa yalolu valo lokuxhumana nabantu, ngezinye izikhathi ingane encane izizwa yesaba kakhulu kangangokuthi ayikwazi ngisho nokuza ekilasini izonikeza isethulo ngencwadi, noma iye ephathini lokuzalwa lomngani wayo bese ijoyina ubumnandi. Eqinisweni, izingane eziningi ziyesaba kancane futhi zikhathazekile ngokukhuluma phambi kwekilasi. Lokho kuvamile. Kodwa kubantwana abanovalo lokuxhumana nabantu, lokhu kwesaba kukhulu kakhulu kangangokuthi abakwazi ukuphila impilo evamile futhi benze umsebenzi wabo wesikole ngempumelelo. Ukwenza abangane kuyiphupho kubo.

Abanye abantu bangase bacabange ukuthi ingane enokwesaba ukuba phakathi kwabantu inamahloni kakhulu, okungukuthi, imsulwa kakhulu, futhi ayikhulumi namuntu. Kodwa akunjalo. Ingane enokwesaba ukuba phakathi kwabantu ingase ifune ngempela ukuphuma, ithole abangane abaningi, futhi izwane nabo bonke abantu. Kodwa inkinga yayo enkulu ukungakwazi ukulawula lokho kwesaba okungabekezeleleki ekuzwayo lapho inabanye abantu nalapho ikhuluma.

Kuyini i-Agoraphobia?

Olunye uhlobo lokwesaba yi -Agoraphobia.Lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi kancane. Okwenzekayo kulokhu ukuthi bahlaselwa uvalo endaweni ethile, ikakhulukazi endaweni enabantu abaningi, evulekile, futhi uma beba njalo, baba novalo olukhulu nokukhathazeka kangangokuthi kuzoba nzima ukuphuma endaweni ngokushesha, ukuthi ngeke bathole usizo kunoma ubani, noma ukuthi bazoba namahloni phambi kwabanye. Ukwesaba lokho kwesaba kukhulu kangangokuthi bagwema izindawo lapho becabanga ukuthi bangase babe novalo. Isibonelo:

• Amabhasi nezitimela ezigcwele abantu
• Imigwaqo emikhulu
• Izitolo ezigcwele abantu, izitolo ezinkulu
• Amabhayisikobho, izinkundla zemidlalo

Izindawo ezinjengalezi ziyesabeka kakhulu kubo.

I-Claustrophobia kanye nezinye izinhlobo zokwesaba

I-Claustrophobia yinto abantu abaningi abaye bezwa ngayo. Ukwesaba izindawo ezincane ezivalekile. Isibonelo, kuhlanganisa ukwesaba ukuba ngaphakathi kwe-lifti, ekamelweni elincane, emhubheni, noma endizeni. Besaba ukuthi kuzokwenzekani uma bevaleleke endaweni enjalo.

Eqinisweni, kungaba kuhle ukusho ukuthi kunezinhlobo eziningi zokwesaba njengoba kunezinto nezimo kuleli zwe. Nazi ezinye izibonelo ezimbalwa:

• I-Arachnophobia: Ukwesaba kakhulu izicabucabu.
• I-Ophidiophobia: Ukwesaba izinyoka.
• I-Acrophobia: Ukwesaba ukuphakama.
• Ukuzonda izinja: Ukwesaba izinja.
• Futhi, i-Ablutophobia ukwesaba ukugeza nokugeza. Ake ucabange ngakho, kunezinto ezinjalo!

Kungani izingane ezincane ziqala ukwesaba okunjalo?

Kulungile, manje ungase uzibuze ukuthi kungani laba bantwana abancane, noma ngisho nabantu abadala, beba novalo . Lona umbuzo obaluleke kakhulu. Eqinisweni, odokotela noma ososayensi abazange bakwazi ukukhomba isizathu esisodwa esiqondile sokuthi kungani abanye abantwana beba novalo. Kodwa-ke, kunezici eziningana okucatshangwa ukuthi zinegalelo kulokhu.

• Isixhumanisi sezakhi zofuzo: Ngezinye izikhathi ungase uzibuze ukuthi izakhi zofuzo zomuntu zinethonya yini kulokhu. Okusho ukuthi, uma othile emndenini, isibonelo, abazali, izingane zakubo, ene-phobia noma ukukhathazeka kwengqondo okufanayo, kunethuba elincane lokuthi ingane nayo izokhula into efana naleyo. Kodwa akusho ukuthi kufanele kube njalo.
• Izehlakalo ezibuhlungu: Ukwesaba kungabangelwa futhi yisenzakalo esibuhlungu kakhulu empilweni yengane. Isibonelo:
• Ukushona komzali ngokuzumayo.
• Isehlukaniso sabazali kanye nezinkinga zomndeni eziphakama ngenxa yalokho.
• Ukuthutha okukhulu kusho ukuthi kungazelelwe kufanele uthuthele endaweni entsha kanye nesikole esisha.
• Ingane esengozini enkulu noma ebona ingozi enkulu.
• Ukuziphatha okufundiwe:Ngezinye izikhathi, izingane zingafunda "ukwesaba" okuthile kubazali bazo noma kwabanye abantu abadala. Isibonelo, uma umama esaba kakhulu izicabucabu, ingane yakhe ingase yesabe nezicabucabu.

Ososayensi bathole izinto ezithile mayelana nokwesaba. Isibonelo, izibalo zibonisa (nakuba lokhu kuye kwenziwa kakhulu kwamanye amazwe, singaba nombono othile) ukuthi cishe abantu aba-5 kwabayi-100 bane-phobia eyodwa noma ngaphezulu. Kuthiwa futhi abesifazane banamathuba amancane okuthola ukwesaba kunabesilisa. Ngokuvamile, ukwesaba komphakathi kuqala lapho umuntu esemusha , okungukuthi, eneminyaka engaba ngu-13 noma 14. Kodwa lolu kanye nezinye izinhlobo zokwesaba zingaqala zisencane kakhulu, okungukuthi, ngisho nasenganeni eneminyaka eyisikhombisa noma eyisishiyagalombili ubudala.

Ziphathwa kanjani lezi zimo zokwesaba?

Manje ake sixoxe ngento ebaluleke kakhulu. Okusho ukuthi, uma une-phobia efana nale , ungayiphatha kanjani . Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngoba into ebaluleke kakhulu okudingeka uyazi ukuthi i-phobia yinto engelashwa futhi yelapheke, noma ilawulwe kahle. Ngakho-ke asikho isizathu sokwesaba noma sokuba namahloni.

Kungcono kakhulu ngengane enokwesaba ukuthi iqale ibone udokotela womndeni wayo. Ezimweni eziningi, udokotela uzoyihlola ingane futhi, uma kudingeka, ayithumele kothile onolwazi kulo mkhakha, njengodokotela wengqondo, udokotela wezifo zengqondo, noma uchwepheshe wezokwelapha.

Uma ingane isitholakale inokwesaba, laba ochwepheshe bangasiza. Kunezindlela eziningana zokwelapha:

• Imithi: Ezinye izingane zingase zinikezwe imithi ngudokotela wazo ukuze zizisize zilawule izimpawu zazo futhi zinciphise ukukhathazeka nokwesaba kwazo. Le mithi ingabasiza ukuba babhekane nokwesaba kwazo futhi bakulawule. Kodwa-ke, le mithi kumele ithathwe ngaphansi kwesiqondiso sikadokotela, ngesilinganiso esinqunyiwe, nangesikhathi esinqunyiwe.
• Ukwelashwa Kokuziphatha: Lokhu kuyindlela yokwelapha eyinhloko nephumelela kakhulu yokwesaba. Kuhilela ukufundisa ingane izindlela ezintsha zokubhekana nokwesaba kwayo nokushintsha leyo micabango nokuziphatha okwesabekayo. Inezingxenye ezimbili eziyinhloko:
• Ukuzivocavoca kokuphumula: Izinto ezifana nokuphefumula okujulile kanye namasu okuzindla asiza ingane yakho ukuthi igxilise ukunaka kwayo. Lokhu kungasiza ingane yakho izizwe ikwazi ukulawula kangcono. Lezi zindlela zingasiza ekuthuliseni ingqondo yayo lapho izizwa sengathi izohlaselwa uvalo.
• Ukwelashwa Kokuchayeka Kancane Kancane / Ukuqeda Ukwethuka Okuhlelekile:Lena yingxenye ebaluleke kakhulu yokwelapha i-phobia. Okwenzekayo lapha ukuthi ingane kancane kancane, ngokucophelela okukhulu, isendaweni ephephile, ngosizo lomelaphi, ibhekene nento eyesabayo. Cabanga, uma ingane yesaba izinja, okokuqala ubonisa isithombe senja, bese ukhuluma ngenja, bese ubonisa ividiyo, bese ubonisa inja yangempela ukude, bese ekugcineni uyisiza kancane kancane ukuba isondele endaweni lapho kukhona inja, mhlawumbe uyithinte ngisho nokuyithinta. Konke lokhu kwenziwa ngendlela ingane engayibekezelela, kancane kancane, ngaphansi kokuqondiswa komelaphi.

Kuye ngengane kanye nobunzima be-phobia, ukwelashwa kungathatha amasonto, izinyanga, noma ngisho nangaphezulu. Kodwa-ke, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuthi i-phobia ingelashwa nokuthi izingane zingafunda ukubhekana nayo futhi zilawule impilo yazo. Ukusekelwa kwabazali nomndeni nakho kubaluleke kakhulu lapha.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu okudingeka uyikhumbule ukuthi

Ngakho-ke, into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyikhumbule kukho konke lokhu ukuthi ukwesaba kuyisimo esingelapheka nesilawulekayo . Uma wena, ingane noma umuntu omdala omaziyo enaso, asikho isidingo sokuba namahloni, ukwesaba, noma ukukhathazeka ngokuthi nguwe wedwa. Kungenzeka kunoma ubani.

Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukufuna usizo olufanele . Ngeseluleko sezokwelapha esifanele kanye nokwelashwa, ungafunda ukuphila nalokhu kwesaba futhi ukulawule. Khona-ke ungaphila impilo yakho ngenjabulo, ngokukhululeka, nangaphandle kokwesaba futhi!

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