Kutheni abantwana bedinga ingcebiso ngempilo yengqondo (unyango)? Masithethe ngale nto!

Umntwana wakho usenokuba neengxaki ebomini bakhe bemihla ngemihla. Ngelo xesha, njengomama okanye utata, ungathetha nomntwana wakho umncede asombulule ezo ngxaki. Ixesha elininzi, ukuthetha ngolo hlobo kusombulula iingxaki. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, wena nomntwana wakho nisenokufuna uncedo olungakumbi. Kulapho ke kufuneka nicinge ngokuthatha umntwana wenu niye kubona umcebisi wezempilo yengqondo (ingcali yezonyango) .

Kutheni abantwana abancinci kufuneka babone ugqirha wengqondo?

Ngamafutshane, ingcali yezonyango ngumntu ofumene uqeqesho olukhethekileyo kwimpilo yengqondo. Bafana nogqirha, kodwa banceda ngokukodwa kwiingxaki zeemvakalelo kunye nobunzima bengqondo. Aba bagqirha bezonyango baqonda kakuhle iingxaki ezahlukeneyo abanazo abantwana abancinci kunye noko bakuvayo. Bayazi nendlela yokunceda kwezo ngxaki. Abafundisi nje kuphela umntwana, kodwa nendlela wena, njengomzali, onokumnceda ngayo umntwana wakho.

Cinga ngale ndlela. Umntwana wakho wahlukile kunangaphambili. Uhlala ebonakala elusizi, okanye ecaphuka lula. Uthi unengxaki yokugxila kumsebenzi wesikolo. Nokuba uthetha kangakanani na, uziva ngathi awunakumkhupha kuloo meko. Ngexesha elinje, ukufumana uncedo kumntu ongaphandle, umntu oyazi kakuhle loo nto, kunokuba luncedo olukhulu kumntwana wakho. Yiyo loo nto siza kubona ingcali yezonyango.

Zeziphi iintlobo zeengxaki ezinceda abagqirha bezonyango?

Iingcali zonyango zinceda abantwana neentsapho zabo ngeengxaki ezahlukeneyo. Makhe sijonge ukuba ziyintoni na:

• Iingxaki zokulala, uxinzelelo ngomsebenzi wesikolo, ubunzima bokuhlalisana kakuhle nabanye: Abanye abantwana banengxaki yokulala ebusuku kwaye baphupha kakubi. Xa umsebenzi wesikolo uqhubeka kwaye iimviwo zisondela, baziva bexinezelekile kakhulu. Basenokuba neengxaki nabahlobo, ootitshala kunye nosapho.
• Ubunzima bokunikel’ ingqalelo nokuhlala kwindawo enye: Iingxaki ezinjengokungakwazi ukugxila eklasini, ukuba nexesha elinzima lokuhlala ungashukumi, kunye nokusoloko ubaleka. Ezi ngamanye amaxesha zibizwa ngokuba yi-Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). Nangona kunjalo, ayizizo zonke iingxaki zokungakwazi ukunikel’ ingqalelo eziyi-ADHD, kwaye oko kufanele kumiselwe ngugqirha.
• Uhlala esilwa, ukhawuleza ukucaphuka, ukungabi namonde: ucaphuka ngezinto ezincinci, uhlala esilwa nabanye, kwaye wenza ngathi akukho nto inokunyanyezelwa.
• Ukuhlala uxhalabile ngokungeyomfuneko ngempilo nokhuseleko lwakho: Ukuhlala uxhalabile kwaye uxhalabile ngezinto ezinje 'Ngaba ndiza kugula?', 'Ngaba kuza kubakho ingozi?'
• Ukungakhululeki emzimbeni kunye nentlungu kwenzeka nokuba akukho kugula: Nokuba oogqirha bathi 'akukho kugula', ukuba uhlala ufumana ukungakhululeki emzimbeni okufana neentlungu zesisu kunye nentloko ebuhlungu, unobangela usenokuba yingqondo.
• Iingxaki zosapho, ukugula okukhulu, amaxesha anzima ebomini:Iingxaki ekhaya, iingxaki phakathi kwabazali, ukufelwa ngumntu osondeleyo kubo, okanye ukugula okunzulu emntwaneni okanye kusapho - ngamaxesha anzima kangaka, abantwana bafuna uncedo lokujongana nale meko.
• Uxinzelelo, ixhala, ixhala, umsindo, usizi, ukudakumba, okanye intlungu: Ezi mvakalelo ziqhelekile kwaye aziyongxaki. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba azilawuleki kwaye ziphazamisana nemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla yomntwana wakho kunye nolonwabo, kubalulekile ukuzijonga.

Khumbula, ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba umntwana wakho unento efana nale, akukho nto inokuba neentloni ngayo okanye uyifihle. Kufana nokubona ugqirha ngenxa yesifo somzimba.

Kwenzeka ntoni xa uqala ukudibana nogqirha wengqondo?

Xa uqala ukuya kubona ingcali yezonyango nomntwana wakho, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuziva usoyika kwaye unomdla. Kodwa ingcali yezonyango zinobuhlobo kakhulu. Ziya kukwenza wena nomntwana wakho nizive nimkelekile.

Okokuqala, ingcali yezonyango iza kuthetha nawe nomntwana wakho. Baza kudala indawo apho umntwana wakho anokuthetha khona ngokulula. Emva koko, baza kuqala ukubuza imibuzo. Le mibuzo ayikokugweba, kodwa kukufumana ukuqonda okungcono ngomntwana wakho, ingxaki ajongene nayo, kunye nemvelaphi yosapho. Baza kumamela ngononophelo into oyithethayo.

Okulandelayo, ungabuza eminye imibuzo ukuze uqonde kakuhle into eyenzeka kumntwana , efana nokuxhalaba , ukudakumba , uxinzelelo , okanye iingxaki zokuqwalasela . Ngamanye amaxesha ungabacela ukuba bazalise imibuzo emifutshane. Konke oku kwenzelwa ukuchonga ingxaki echanekileyo.

Nje ukuba baqonde ukuba yintoni ingxaki, ingcali yezonyango iza kukuxelela indlela abanokukunceda ngayo. Oko kuthetha ukuba baza kuchaza uhlobo lwendlela yonyango abaza kuyisebenzisa, ixesha eliza kuthatha, njalo njalo.

Amaxesha amaninzi, iingcali zonyango ziya kucela abantwana ukuba beze kwiiseshoni ezimbalwa ezongezelelweyo. Ezi zizinto esizibiza ngokuba ziiseshoni zonyango . Ezi seshoni zihlala zibakho kanye ngeveki, kodwa zinokuhluka ngokuxhomekeke kwiimfuno zomntwana. Oku kungathatha iinyanga ezininzi.

Banjani abantwana abancinci?

Kubantwana abancinci kakhulu, oko kukuthi, abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emi-5-6 ubudala, ingcali yezonyango inokukwazi ukuqokelela ulwazi ngokujonga indlela umntwana adlala ngayo kunye nokusebenzisana kwakhe nabazali endaweni yokuthetha ngqo nomntwana. Kwakhona, uninzi lolwazi lufunyanwa kubazali. Kukho iindlela zonyango, ezifana nePlay Therapy , esebenzisa amathoyizi kunye nomzobo ukuzama ukuqonda oko kusengqondweni yomntwana.

Kwenzeka ntoni xa usiya kwiiseshoni zonyango?

Kulungile, kwenzeka ntoni xa uqhubeka usiya kwezi seshoni zonyango? Kufana nomntwana oya eklasini ukuze afunde into entsha. Kodwa apha, into ayifundayo yindlela yokujongana neengxaki zakhe, indlela yokuqonda iimvakalelo zakhe, kunye neendlela ezintsha zokusombulula iingxaki.

Kwiseshoni nganye, umntwana uthetha nogqirha wengqondo. Ugqirha wengqondo ubuza imibuzo, amamele ngononophelo oko umntwana akutshoyo, aze amncede umntwana athethe ngokukhululekileyo ngezinto ezisengqondweni yakhe, ezinje ngoloyiko kunye namaxhala. Emva koko, bathetha ngezo ngxaki kunye nendlela yokujongana nazo.

Ngamanye amaxesha iingcali zonyango zinika abantwana imisebenzi emincinci abanokuyenza. Umzekelo, banokubacela ukuba bazobe umfanekiso weemvakalelo zabo, okanye bangabafundisa imithambo emincinci ngendlela yokulawula umsindo wabo. Oku kufana 'nemithambo yengqondo' .

Oko kufundiswa ziingcali zonyango

Iingcali zonyango zifundisa abantwana izinto ezininzi ezibalulekileyo. Umzekelo:

• Indlela yokuchonga nokulawula iimvakalelo: Zikufundisa indlela yokuqonda nokuphendula ngokufanelekileyo kwiimvakalelo ezifana nokudakumba, umsindo, kunye noloyiko xa zivela.
• Izakhono zokusombulula iingxaki: Zikunceda ucinge ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokusombulula ingxaki, endaweni yokuxhalaba xa ivela.
• Ukutshintsha iindlela zokucinga ezingalunganga: Ngamanye amaxesha siqhele ukucinga ngendlela engalunganga ngalo lonke ixesha. Zisinceda ukuba sicinge ngendlela echanekileyo neyakhayo endaweni yokucinga njengokuthi 'Andikwazi' okanye 'Ndimbi'. Oku ngamanye amaxesha kwenziwa kusetyenziswa iindlela ezifana ne-'(Cognitive Behavioral Therapy - CBT)'.
• Izakhono zentlalo: Izinto ezifana nokuthetha kakuhle nabanye abantu, ukwenza abahlobo, nokuveza izimvo zakho ngendlela efanelekileyo.
• Iindlela zokuphumla: Izinto ezifana nokuzilolonga ukuphefumla zinokukunceda uzole xa uziva uxinezelekile okanye uxhalabile.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba iingcali zonyango zikwafundisa abazali indlela yokunceda umntwana wabo. Ziyakukhokela kwindlela yokuthetha nomntwana wakho ekhaya, indlela yokuxhasa umntwana wakho, kunye nendlela yokunceda umntwana wakho aqhubeke noko akufundileyo. Kuba inkxaso yabazali ikwabalulekile ekwakheni impilo-ntle yengqondo yomntwana.

Ukuya kunyango ngale ndlela kunika abantwana amandla amaninzi okujongana neengxaki, ukuphumla, nokwenza imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla, umsebenzi wesikolo, kunye nobudlelwane nabahlobo.

Singenza ntoni njengabazali?

Ndiyazi ukuba ukusa umntwana wakho kugqirha wengqondo akusosigqibo silula. Kunokubakho imibuzo emininzi efika engqondweni. Izinto ezinje, 'Baza kucinga ntoni abanye abantu?', 'Ngaba oku kuya kumnceda umntwana wakho ngenene?' Kodwa khumbula,Oko ukwenzayo yenye yezona zinto zibalaseleyo onokuzenzela umntwana wakho.

Ngoko ke, kukho izinto ezimbalwa onokuzenza njengomzali:

1. Vula: Thetha nomntwana wakho ngokuya kubona ugqirha wengqondo. Mcacisele ukuba akusosohlwayo okanye yinto umntwana ayenzayo kuba 'embi.' Yithi nje, 'Siza kufumana uncedo kwingxaki encinci onayo, njengokuba ubuya kuya kugqirha xa unomkhuhlane.'

2. Yiba negalelo: Landela imiyalelo yogqirha wengqondo. Nceda umntwana wakho ngemisebenzi emincinci ekhaya. Mamela oko kuthethwa ngumntwana wakho uze uzame ukumqonda.

3. Yiba nomonde: Kungathatha ixesha ukubona iziphumo. Ayizizo zonke izinto eziza kutshintsha ngobusuku obunye. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba nomonde nokuqhubeka nokuxhasa umntwana wakho.

4. Hlala unxibelelana rhoqo nogqirha wengqondo: Thetha nogqirha wengqondo ngemeko yomntwana wakho kunye nazo naziphi na iingxaki onokuba nazo. Kulapho kuphela apho ungafumana khona iziphumo ezilungileyo.

5. Khuthaza umntwana wakho: Mncome umntwana wakho ngokuthatha inxaxheba kunyango nangemizamo yakhe. Ukuthi, "Unesibindi kakhulu ngokujongana noku" kunokuba luncedo kakhulu kumntwana wakho.

Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukukhumbula ukuba awuwedwa. Kukho abaqeqeshi bezonyango abanokukunceda, kwaye kukho nabanye abazali abaye baba namava afanayo.

Umyalezo oza kuwuthatha uwuyise ekhaya.

Kulungile, ke, nazi ezona zinto zibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzikhumbule koko sithethe ngako namhlanje:

• Kuqhelekile ukuba umntwana abe nengxaki yempilo yengqondo okanye uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo. Oku kunokwenzeka nakubani na.
• Ngamaxesha anjalo , akukho nto inokuba neentloni ngayo, ukufuna uncedo kwingcali efana nengcali yezonyango. Luncedo olukhulu kumntwana.
• Iingcali zonyango ngabantu abafumene uqeqesho olukhethekileyo lokuqonda nokunceda abantwana ngeengxaki zabo zempilo yengqondo.
• Unyango yinkqubo efundisa umntwana ukujongana neemvakalelo zakhe neengxaki zakhe ngendlela ephilileyo.
• Inkxaso yabazali nokuqonda kubaluleke kakhulu kumntwana kolu hambo.

Ngoko ke, ukuba ucinga ukuba umntwana wakho udinga olu hlobo loncedo, ungoyiki ukulijonga ngakumbi, kwaye ukuba kuyimfuneko, thabatha inyathelo lokubona ingcali yezonyango eqeqeshiweyo. Impilo-ntle yengqondo yomntwana ibaluleke njengempilo-ntle yakhe yomzimba. Kubalulekile ukuyibeka phambili loo nto. Ndikunqwenelela ithamsanqa!

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